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Penis size insecurities......

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Article - (28 April 2011) 12 Comments - (Newest, 25 May 2011)
A age 51-59, anonymous writes:

OK, so we've seen the barrage of penis size questions. Got me so curious I decided to actually measure mine. What I encountered was that it may be impossible to get an accurate measurement because there are probably 13 ways to measure it. I know you're supposed to measure on top, with it erect and parallel to the floor (don't remember where I read that), but here's the thing...I am a few pounds overweight and have a bit of pubic fat. So if I push a ruler into the pubic area LIGHTLY, like they tell you to, and measure to the tip, I come up with about 6 inches. If I measure from the skin surface without pressing at all, I get 5.5 or even closer to 5 if I don't "swell".

As for girth...same problems. If I measure the head around the rim with a fabric tape measure, I get about 6 inches. Shaft just below head is 5.7, base is about 5.5. All are less if I don't "swell".

The point of all this being, having a bit of fat (which many of us do), or not being fully engorged (as most of us won't if we're holding a ruler against our willy) results in lower readings than may actually be, shall we say, scientifically accurate.

So many guys may be worrying because they are measuring on the small side. Of course, worrying about 1/2 an inch here or there is pathetic, and I can't understand why any guy would, but some might. And it is probably the average guys who worry most, because there are so many average guys. Guys with 8 inches or larger know they are big and guys with 4 inches or less know they are small. It's the guys in the middle who are clueless....and I admit, so am I.

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A female reader, Gabrielle Stoker United States +, writes (25 May 2011):

Gabrielle Stoker agony auntI remember once being with a guy who called himself Longjohn. 11 inches, but no thicker than a couple of straws. Still fun, but just shows there's more aspects to it than are immediately obvious...

Fat makes a difference too. My enormously fat friend has the biggest dick I've ever seen...as much as 12 inches, but thanks to the fat layers, only about 9 inches or so is actually in 'play' as it were. Still impressive, of course, but there you have it.

Finally, four-five inches is about as much as can normally be taken in anyway, anything more and you're treating sex as an endurance sport.

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (13 May 2011):

eyeswideopen agony auntEven tho' this was posted last month, can it count as today's penis size question? Please?

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A male reader, Sparta United States +, writes (13 May 2011):

Sparta agony auntForgot something in my last post lol. A womens vagina is only 3 to 4 inches deep and can only stretch to around 5 inches. I say average guys have the best luck there being as they get the full penetration and don't have any penis left hanging in the wind when in use. Pardon the phrase "balls deep" just doesnt happen for men with above average penis size.

As for your point; I agree. It is subjective; and many a times it depends on blood flow through the penis. Depending on how turned on a man is; and thats aside from the various ways of measureing. God help us all when they do find the universal way of measuring and every man who has insecurities raids their boxes with the rulers in it or are driven by curiousity. lol

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A male reader, Sparta United States +, writes (13 May 2011):

Sparta agony auntTo your point about the fat aroumd the pubic area. I seen something on the news about that. Every 30 pounds a man loses if he is overweight; will gain about an inch to the penis. This is not making the penis bigger; all it does is reveal more of what is hidden from the chunk there. Like they say penis size is a life sentence; you arent going to get any bigger....deal with it. Though there are techniques to stretch; well really excersise. Excersising the PC muscles which are the muscles you use when you have to urinate will make a mans penis firmer; have more girth which women will appreciate most often more than length; and also will make a man have more control over his ejaculation in the bedroom. All you do is tighten those muscles for 3 seconds at a time in sets of 10 a few times a day and you are well on your way. I am measured around 7 1/2 (Girlfriend was curious; dont ask lol) and I still do these excersises. So there you go lol. My 2 cents :)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2011):

Size does matter, at least it does to me. Same as guys preferring small or big breasts! Too big is just too uncomfortable and too small, well, too small is like rattling a stick up an alleyway. Regardless of whether the guy is a good lover or not, sometimes it's nice to be fu**ed with a reasonable sized penis. Girth is important too. I knew a guy years ago who had the teeniest willy I've ever seen. Years later and I've never forgotten it, poor sod. Hopefully he will have found a lovely lady who doesn't mind about size!!

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy +, writes (2 May 2011):

CindyCares agony aunt Well, actually there is one standard method that researchers use in their measuring. The 13 different ways come from Internet sites or friends suggestions, but in a scientific setting they use one way.

Which, I purposely skip detailing- because all the gentlemen here are absolutely right : what's the point of knowing your exact size ? The world would be a better place if all the people who wastes time measuring their genitalia would use said time doing something intelligent instead !

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A male reader, dirtball United States +, writes (2 May 2011):

dirtball agony auntFWIW, Pirate (sorry, I know you're anon, but on the landing page it says who wrote this article so you might as well stop being anon in any further follow ups), I didn't misinterpret what you wrote. I just think it's silly to break out the ruler (or any other measurement device) and measure. The reason is that it doesn't really matter that much. What does knowing you're 5 and a half inches long really do for you anyway? "Great I'm average length." Does that really take away any of the insecurities? Not that I've seen. If anything, I think it helps fuel them.

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A male reader, Odds United States +, writes (2 May 2011):

Odds agony auntHmmm. As an engineer, I'll have to say I am fully in favor of developing a universal measurement standard here. All the anthropometrics data seems to be missing this information.

In practical terms, measurement should be in average and maximum depth of penetration. That's the only way length matters, after all. Girth is easy enough with the right tools, just take a measurement every half-inch, get the average and the maximum. Only accurate way to do all that is to get a cooperative girl, a ruler, a caliper, a marker...

On second thought, I'll just settle for the satisfied noises the girl makes. Most guys don't own a caliper, anyway, so it's not a good universal system.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2011):

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You are all misunderstanding...I am not insecure over my size. The point I was tryig to make here is that measuring the penis is subjective, and I think a lot of guys probably do it wrong and unerestimate their actual size.

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A male reader, Myau New Zealand +, writes (30 April 2011):

Myau agony auntI noticed that the only (one) gf who criticised my size was cheating on me with three other guys.

Women want to be with you, sex is a bonus. Stop worrying about it.

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A male reader, DoubleM United States +, writes (29 April 2011):

DoubleM agony auntYou are at least normal or better, so stop worrying about that, lose weight and learn how to really please a woman including providing her plenty of oral satisfaction (cunnilingus).

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A male reader, dirtball United States +, writes (28 April 2011):

dirtball agony auntArgh matey, it ain't the size of the mast on the boat, but how it handles the swells that matters.

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