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I had brief intercourse with a stripper during a lap dance... should I tell my wife?
Q. I’m felling real guilty about what happened to me at a strip bar. I’m a happily married man, ten years married with two kids. I go to strip bars, my wife lets me and its never been an issue. She goes out with her friends too, and admittedly been ...
A. 29 February 2008: I accept your apology. I was raped at 15. It takes a big person to apologize.
Can we end this now?... (read in full...)
Is there a way I can ease my loneliness without hurting my wife?
Q. I am caught between not wanting to hurt me wife and trying to easy my lonelyness. What do I do now? Is there a way to not hurt her and ease my loneliness? We are not and have never been soul mates. I respect her enough after 19 years, that I do...
A. 14 January 2008: Is there any way you can move your wife to an apartment where she doesn't need to drive but can take a bus or walk to work and for groceries? I think you are doing a good thing working with her to make her independent. It seems like she's been ... (read in full...)
Is there a way I can ease my loneliness without hurting my wife?
Q. I am caught between not wanting to hurt me wife and trying to easy my lonelyness. What do I do now? Is there a way to not hurt her and ease my loneliness? We are not and have never been soul mates. I respect her enough after 19 years, that I do...
A. 13 January 2008: Well, this is a bad turn for you. Your wife needs some help. Does she have any friends or family that can care for her or help her get through this lonliness? I think you need to settle this down before you proceed. Don't back down on your ... (read in full...)
Is there a way I can ease my loneliness without hurting my wife?
Q. I am caught between not wanting to hurt me wife and trying to easy my lonelyness. What do I do now? Is there a way to not hurt her and ease my loneliness? We are not and have never been soul mates. I respect her enough after 19 years, that I do...
A. 30 December 2007: to quote from a poem I wrote many years ago
"my heart is in hiding from all damage done"
Yes, it is normal. Your head has taken over as it is not possible for your heart to get through this alone. So put your head into it, take your heart al... (read in full...)
Instead of waiting for my doubts to be confirmed I blurted out, now she is super defensive and I am paranoid. Ideas?
Q. recently- 6 months i have thought my wife has being playing away i have 9 pages of doubts what finnaly confirmed it for me was receiving some weird almost abusive, scary jokey texts from my so called friend then having their communication verifi...
A. 26 December 2007: You have a lot of evidence for sure. Though when you get a feeling about something your mind has a way of twisting all the facts to fit into your perception.
I can't tell you what is going on with your wife, only she can. I think that you have... (read in full...)
Am I right to question his integrity??
Q. I am seeing a guy who I go to university with. He is home for the holidays (Diff. Province entirely). We have been using web cam to stay in touch. I was taken by surprise when I saw that he was 'shaven'. My question pertains to why might he shave ...
A. 24 December 2007: I don't think he went to a movie with a male friend. I'd say he has some "splaining to do". I wouldn't try to do this over the phone or email or web cam. I'd wait until he gets back.
I'd say it is possible that he is spending time with his... (read in full...)
Is there a way I can ease my loneliness without hurting my wife?
Q. I am caught between not wanting to hurt me wife and trying to easy my lonelyness. What do I do now? Is there a way to not hurt her and ease my loneliness? We are not and have never been soul mates. I respect her enough after 19 years, that I do...
A. 24 December 2007: If you've made this decision know that you have a tough road ahead of you. Don't waste another moment looking in the rear view mirror because you are likely to drive right past your future.
I truly believe there is a reason for everythi... (read in full...)
Am I right to question his integrity??
Q. I am seeing a guy who I go to university with. He is home for the holidays (Diff. Province entirely). We have been using web cam to stay in touch. I was taken by surprise when I saw that he was 'shaven'. My question pertains to why might he shave ...
A. 23 December 2007: LOL...sorry. Guess he didn't do it for Mom!!! Well then. I guess I don't know what to say. I still say though that if he is cheating or planning to there really isn't anything you could do to prevent it. The best thing to do is to give him your ... (read in full...)
We're just friends. She wants us to be more, but I don't. She's coming to a dinner party tomorrow, what can I do to show her I'm just a friend?
Q. Hi everybody, it's Andy. I'm in a slightly uncomfortable situation. I know in the past I have posted questions regarding my ex-girlfriend, and how I feel like love will not come my way for a long time, but it's questions like this one that will pr...
A. 23 December 2007: I've been on the other side of this. What I wish the guy had done is not led me on in any way or sent me mixed signals. I wish he had just been honest. I'm sure it's hard to go up to someone and say "well I know you're in love with me but you ... (read in full...)
Is there a way I can ease my loneliness without hurting my wife?
Q. I am caught between not wanting to hurt me wife and trying to easy my lonelyness. What do I do now? Is there a way to not hurt her and ease my loneliness? We are not and have never been soul mates. I respect her enough after 19 years, that I do...
A. 23 December 2007: Well, I hit that wall and didn't want to hurt my husband either. But the fact is that staying with him was hurting him anyway and it was hurting me. I asked for and got a divorce. He was hurt beyond my imagination. But it is a temporary hurt and ... (read in full...)
Am I right to question his integrity??
Q. I am seeing a guy who I go to university with. He is home for the holidays (Diff. Province entirely). We have been using web cam to stay in touch. I was taken by surprise when I saw that he was 'shaven'. My question pertains to why might he shave ...
A. 23 December 2007: There are a lot of reasons men shave. He could have done so to appease his mom, to take a family photo or because hsi scruff got to him. It isn't good in a relationship when you don't trust your partner.
And to be honest the man I like loo... (read in full...)
Why did he hurt me like that?
Q. Why did he hurt me like that? I was in a relationship for 1.5 years with a man who i thought was the love of my life. We met at work, and tried to keep the relationship secret, it didnt last very long. There was a girl at work that i didnt get...
A. 23 December 2007: I do not think he got over you so quickly and that is why he asked that girl out. The fact that he was bad mouthing you with the girl tells me that he is angry with you because you finally found your voice and said enough is enough. He thought he ... (read in full...)
Happy Xmas from DearCupid
Q. Happy Xmas everyone :-) The aunts who share their wisdom, the people who share their questions and the team of moderators who keep everything flowing onto the site! Plus the 350,000 people who visit each month Have a great Xmas! Feel free t...
A. 23 December 2007: Merry Christmas to all and to all a Happy and Shiny New Year.
My Christmas plans are to spend time with my family. Lots of driving, lots of food and lots of unconditional love.
Thanks Andy for this website. I found this when I was at my... (read in full...)
I cheated and everytime we are apart I think about how horrible I have been to him.
Q. I cheated on my boyfriend when we first started going out 9 months ago. I told him though and he's forgiven me. Everythings perfect and i couldnt ask for anything more. But i often get upset and wonder why he's still going out with me. He assures me ...
A. 23 December 2007: You need to forgive yourself. In your lifetime you will make many more mistakes so learning to forgive yourself is important. If you boyfriend (who by the way appears to be mature beyond his years) can forgive you why can't you forgive yourself.
... (read in full...)
She's under the impression it's her idea to take things slow, when in fact it's mine! I noticed strange reactions, should I be worried?
Q. Is this girl crazy or what? So I met another girl online, but this one seems to be a little loopy. She doesnt really make sense to me. The first night we talked she was already to come over or the night. I wasnt sure If I really wanted a strang...
A. 23 December 2007: I think your gut reaction is right on. I would not meet up with this woman. She is telling you what she thinks you want to hear. The communications you've had are not really her so if you thought you were getting to know her, guess again. As far ... (read in full...)
My boss told me to do something and now I feel like I'm going to get fired
Q. For the past few days, I have a feeling I may get fired for something my boss told us to do, knew about and therefore, continued on doing. We had a meeting this past Wednesday and denied 90 percent of it. His boss believed him. He made me look...
A. 22 December 2007: You need to find out who will support you in telling the truth. Document everything including dates, who was there and exactally what was said. Even document the instance where your boss denied and blamed you. ... (read in full...)
He's newly divorced and has already found a new gf. Would I sound clingy if I write him a Christmas card? - in symbol I'm there for him/as friends?
Q. It turns out that the guy I really like has a new girlfriend (sure it's a rebound thing, she doesn't seem his type at all, and he's just divorced). He knows I like him, but now I feel self concious about sending him a Christmas card - I would l...
A. 22 December 2007: Since when is it a crime to wish somebody a Merry Christmas? If he is your friend, then do what is in your heart to do. As for the girlfriend, you have to respect her. Who knows it may last longer and be stronger than you give it credit.... (read in full...)
Instead of waiting for my doubts to be confirmed I blurted out, now she is super defensive and I am paranoid. Ideas?
Q. recently- 6 months i have thought my wife has being playing away i have 9 pages of doubts what finnaly confirmed it for me was receiving some weird almost abusive, scary jokey texts from my so called friend then having their communication verifi...
A. 22 December 2007: There was no computer error on the phone. She does know how it got there. It could be several things. Are they planning a surprize party for you?
I guess I can't say what is going on because I don't know what the text said and if it was to y... (read in full...)
Once hurt very badly by a man I loved, now I run a mile everytime I'm in a relationship getting serious because I'm terrified I'll hurt again. This way I'm hurting others as well. Advice?
Q. It's 3 A.M. and I have just got back out bed. There's something I can't get off my mind so I felt the need to ask my friends on 'dearcupid' for advice. It all started two years ago when I met a guy called Jay* we were seeing each other for ar...
A. 22 December 2007: It seems as if you maybe need some closure with Jay. If you can get your mind around not being wtih him again but having a conversation with him to find out what went wrong that may be a good idea. If this is not possible then you'll just have to ... (read in full...)
I had brief intercourse with a stripper during a lap dance... should I tell my wife?
Q. I’m felling real guilty about what happened to me at a strip bar. I’m a happily married man, ten years married with two kids. I go to strip bars, my wife lets me and its never been an issue. She goes out with her friends too, and admittedly been ...
A. 21 December 2007: I don't think you should compare yourself to a rape victim. Yes, you should have stopped her the minute she started unzipping your pants. What you had was a consensual act, not rape.
Should you tell your wife? Yes. Will she understa... (read in full...)
Can he behave in the manner he did towards me and not be emotionally involved?
Q. I broke up with a man I have been seeing for 10 months on Sunday because he said he wanted to firmly define our relationship as physical only. He says he is not emotionally involved. I love him. So, I broke up with him. I don't believe that he ...
A. 21 December 2007: I think 10 months is a lot of time to give a relationship and if at the end of those months he is telling you that he only wants a physical relationship, you have to respect those words.
I do believe his actions say otherwise but his words we... (read in full...)
Are we officially a couple or not??
Q. hes 32 me 22 we both kno we both like each another cuz we hav told 1 another but neither 1 of us hav cleared the air weather or not were bf/gf but the last time we chilled he asked me if i would go out wit him sumtime and i said yea well 3 days ago ...
A. 20 December 2007: I think he has a fear of committment. I think he likes you but he is holding back a bit. Just don't rush things, give it time.... (read in full...)
I have never been cheated on and I had imagined we'd be together forever. Should I excuse his infidelity?
Q. So here is my problem, plain and clear: My boyfriend makes no god damn sense. I am 22 years old. I am in University for engineering with a 4.0 GPA. I work out 5-6 days a week and I weigh 125 pounds, I am in top notch shape. I keep every part of ...
A. 19 December 2007: By the way you talk about all you have to offer this guy and how dare he I think he dared because your relationship wasn't fulfilling. I imagine if you could tell all of us you are much better looking than anyone he could ever get then he must have ... (read in full...)
Does he really like me or is it just when his mates aren't there??
Q. Does he really like me or is it just when his mates aren't there?? My boyfriend is 16 and i am 15 and we have been together for about a 6 weeks now. At first he was amazing and we were always together then he was always with his mates somewhere ...
A. 19 December 2007: Boys of this age are difficult to read because they aren't completely real. They are about half show for their friends. My read on this guy is that he does like you but that he is concerned about being "cool" around his friends.
But there is... (read in full...)
I'd like to make myself clearer . .
Q. hi everybody,i have posted aquestion last week.the answers were good ,but i think i wasn't clear .the question was that my bf never says my name...ever,well let me make this clear.he haven't say it yet, not even ones,never...crazy ist it..so if ...
A. 17 December 2007: I think I read somewhere that if a man doesn't call you by your name or if he doesn't use your name often enough that he has some kind of detachment to you. I have heard that if a man says your name often that it is an indication of affection.
... (read in full...)
I don't want to be with him anymore, what do I do?
Q. How do I tell my partner that I no longer want us to be together? My partner and I had been seeing each other for just over 4 years when we split up in February. He then kept texting me and desperately wanted to give our relationship another go. ...
A. 16 December 2007: It is hard to tell someone you care about something that will hurt them. You will hurt him more if you aren't honest with him. He will continue to believe things will work out but if you're feelings are gone, they are gone. And you owe it to ... (read in full...)
She leads me on and then says no. Why bother in the first place?
Q. This year I became friends with a girl who attended the same school as me. She one day asked me for my MSN and we furthered out conversations on MSN. As time passed by she seemed to keep talking to me almost every second of the day. Then one night ...
A. 15 December 2007: This girl is playing with you at this point. Why, could be because you 1) told her you needed time 2) deleted her from myspace. However, if she is not capable of having a mature conversation about what happened and more importantly, where things ... (read in full...)
I've just found out my partner of 4 years is cheating, I don't want to leave him and give the mistress the satisfaction
Q. I have just been told that my partner of 4 years has been having an affair with someone from his work for over a year. I have had my suspicions and have asked him but he has always denied anything has been going on. He is always very loving towards ...
A. 15 December 2007: You should know that even if the mistress wins your man over that in the end it will be her he will cheat on in the future. Not much of a prize really.
I do think you should have a heart to heart with your man. A year is a long time for an affai... (read in full...)
My ex says he wants to be friends but ignores me...Should I just forget him and move on?
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up but we still talk and go out together. He moved into a new apartment and had a party. He didn't want me to go. Then on his birthday he made plans to do things and I wasn't included. He asked me to understand but I can't. ...
A. 15 December 2007: I think your ex is asking you for the impossible. It's either friends or not friends. It seems he's choosen not friends so yes, move on. He can't ask you to be around for him and then ask you to understand why he can't have you around when you ... (read in full...)
Where do I find decent girls with morals? Do they still exist?
Q. Hi all, I have been a little troubled lately. Yesterday I was chatting with a guy 4 years older than me online and I found out that he is a rich sex hound. Sex-crazed, no morals, rich, conceited and he doesn't give a damn about screwing around....
A. 15 December 2007: We decent women are sitting at home being depressed because we have been hurt by cads like this man you've seem to run into. Our hearts want to find a decent man like you but we are afraid. You'll bump into us in the grocery store, in the book ... (read in full...)
I'm broken hearted (unemployed) and dreading Xmas...
Q. i'm 35 yrs old and just recently split up with an ex, whom i had worked with for a couple of years before anything happened between us. last year she took a suddn interest in me after she had recently split up with her boyfriend . i was a little ...
A. 15 December 2007: The reason you can't move forward is because you don't understand what happened. I agree with Rockelle, the woman was not ready for a relationship and she handled things with you very poorly. But the truth is that it is her issue and you will ... (read in full...)
We're both married, but havent had sex, are we just friends for friendship sake?
Q. I have been friendly with a man for the past 4 years. We met through work we both did at the time. We have got closer and closer over the years. In the past year, we spend at least one day, (if not both days) of the weekend or every other ...
A. 13 December 2007: Then your options are 1) be his friend and nothing more or 2) continue along your path of parting ways. My feeling is that you should part for at least awhile. The relationship he has with you he should be having with his wife. But since he is ... (read in full...)
Saw my ex but didn't talk to him. Should I make the effort,next time I see him?
Q. Hi i saw my ex boyfriend for the first time since we split last night down the pub and i really wanted to talk to him but was to scared,he was the one who wanted to split he said he did not feel the same and that we should stay mates. but the thing ...
A. 13 December 2007: Next time you see him out and about go up to him in your most cheerful fashion and say "hello, how are you?" You will of course be nothing short of fantastic. Slap that smile on and sound exciting. Don't say anything about dating or other guys or ... (read in full...)
Flirting gone way, way too far... should my husband's co-worker be told?
Q. My husband is in love with a co-worker. She started working at his company in August 2006. He shared with me that he was in love with her in May 2007. He has always been an incessant flirt, and she probably doesn't realize how much he "gets off" ...
A. 13 December 2007: I don't think you should contact the other woman. Your issue is with your husband and he is the only one you should be dealing with. If he wants to leave you for this woman, you contacting the other woman will only make things worse for all of you ... (read in full...)
Two women, one big choice!
Q. Hi there, It's the old story: two women, who to choose? Just want some perspective. I met a girl Rachel (28) in June this year online. She is a pretty girl. We talked on MSN for a month or so and on the phone. She said that she wasn't ready fo...
A. 12 December 2007: First off, it doesn't seem that you are that interested in Samantha so do both of you a favor and eliminate her from the either or. Regarding Rachel, I'm not sure she's there yet for a relationship so you could continue to pursue her while you date ... (read in full...)
What to do over my drunken text messaging?
Q. I'm getting divorced, and felt low at the weekend. I drank too much at home alone so texted a guy that I fancy, and asked him to come over for a drink.... I didn't hear back, and am now very embarrassed about it. What should I do now? I bu...
A. 10 December 2007: Being the sender of an unresponded to text message and also going through a divorce and of the same age as you, I'll share with you what I've learned.
I hate text messaging as you don't know if the person you texted got your message or how they... (read in full...)
Bird brain
Q. Hi, Well it is Waterloo Sunset again and this story is not as good as the mouse story but it always makes me laugh when i think of it. I was with my ex at the time, the same bloke as the mouse story, so that tells you a lot! It was a warm s...
A. 10 December 2007: Just found this and read it. I am laughing out loud. I was really down and just looking for something to cheer me up when I came upon this story.... (read in full...)
Where is a good place to meet good guys?
Q. Hi I hope you can help. I am really sick of being single, but I'm not desperate. It would just be nice to have someone new to get to know have fun and love. Where is a good place to meet good guys? I love sports and I'm pretty girly. I'm i...
A. 10 December 2007: If you are in high school that is a great place to meet guys. Try joining some extra-curicular activites. Go to some basketball, hockey or football games. They have co-rec sports as well. I go to see my daughter play in the band at football ... (read in full...)
I get mixed messages from the guy I'm seeing and I'm thinking of going with another, more stable guy instead but whom I don't feel as much for. Need objective advice!
Q. I have been hanging out with this guy for about three months, we met through a mutual friend at a party and sparks flew in a way i've never experienced before. He asked for my number and actually called me the next day, we began to hang out fairly ...
A. 9 December 2007: I have to agree with the male responder. You're the one who put the brakes on the relationship and I understand completely why you did. It is possible that when he went home he met up with an old girlfriend or saw her or had thoughts about her. ... (read in full...)
It's bugging me, but should I forget the whole thing?
Q. I'm in a predicament here, met a guy on a dating site we spoke for a few weeks and I was really taken with him. Anyway he suggested we meet up at some point and he seemed so nice that I panicked a bit and cooled off. I was really bowled over, si...
A. 9 December 2007: I think you should forget him. His response that he wasn't going to come over for sex should clue you in that he is not a good person. Wires crossed or not this was not a conclusion any decent person would have.... (read in full...)
We're both married, but havent had sex, are we just friends for friendship sake?
Q. I have been friendly with a man for the past 4 years. We met through work we both did at the time. We have got closer and closer over the years. In the past year, we spend at least one day, (if not both days) of the weekend or every other ...
A. 9 December 2007: By him saying you can not have a relationship I think you are going to have trouble getting over your feelings of being more than a friend. He has spoken and I believe what he is saying is that he is holding on to his marriage for whatever reason. ... (read in full...)
What can I do to show him I've moved on?
Q. Do men like to see their ex girlfriends in pain after dumping them. I found out he cheated when I was pregnant he dumped me and stayed with the girl then broke up with her and tried to win me back. When unsuccesful he went back to her and she took ...
A. 9 December 2007: I think he is treating you this way because you rejected him. Remember that you had the upper hand as it was you he wanted to be with. I think you made the correct decision to NOT be with him.
So, now you need to take good care of yourself... (read in full...)
My ex husband cheated on me and I was laden with guilt for seeing a married man - so I ended up confronting his wife. Opinions?
Q. I am a recently divorced 57 year old woman. I met a man the same age as me through work. We started a friendship which ended up being very passionate. After about three months he told me he was actually married. He said his wife lived in another ...
A. 9 December 2007: I agree with all the others. You did not have the right to contact your lover's wife. He was wrong to have lied to you and he misled you. Even after that you choose to continue the affair which was your decision. I don't know what the huge fight ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my ex saying I'm bi-polar??
Q. My ex is crazy! When we were together he posted a video of us on youtube. Now, one of his comments said I am his ex fiance and I had some emotional and mental problems. Yeah right! I broke up with him because he was emotionally abusive and he just ...
A. 9 December 2007: People can say anything they want to about another person but unless it constitutes slander there really isn't anything you can do about what other people say. Your friends who know you know the truth. People who go around "trashing" other people ... (read in full...)
To boys: are you afraid of being turned down by a very pretty girl, therefore prefer someone "in your league" ?
Q. Guys please help me. Is it true that some guys are scared of being knocked down by a very pretty girl and that you go for someone who is slightly more in your 'league' ?? I have friends who are told they are pretty the whole time and are not s...
A. 8 December 2007: I just had a conversation with a single man at work the other day. We were teasing him about a single woman at work and he said..."men don't want to marry princesses, they want the regular girl. We can please the regular girl and she will ... (read in full...)
Am I staying with him because I'm afraid to move on.
Q. hi everyone, please can you give me some much needed advice im 32 years old married with 3 young children. i met my husband 14 years ago weve been married for 10 years. i fell for my husband because he was a good looking guy and played hard to get ...
A. 8 December 2007: While I can appreciate RCN's sentiments I am going to weigh in a little differently. I agree that if the relationship had a spark at one point that you can find it again. However, if the relationship wasn't solid to begin with-you mention games ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with someone who just wants to be friends. What can I do?
Q. At first I was reluctant to speak to her as her ex boyfriend and i were close friends. he cheated on her and she phoned me the night they split up to see if he had spken to me as she couldn't get hold of him. i saw her the next day and we started ...
A. 8 December 2007: Hello,
Given what she has told you, yes, I do tend to believe her. It is possible to know somebody too well and be uncomfortable in a relationship with them. If she has shared all of her emotional baggage with you then she may not want the clos... (read in full...)
Could this be a rejection?
Q. On Tuesday my crush sent me a text message.. so we were chatting.. then somehow he finds out that I like him.. it didn't freak him out he just wanted to know why.. so I told him that he is a pretty cool guy.. then he sent me a message saying that he ...
A. 8 December 2007: Are you asking if you rejected him? I think he would interpret that as yes, you rejected him when you did not respond to his text. If you want this relationship to go anywhere you will need to text him back with an apology as to why it took you so ... (read in full...)
We're both married, but havent had sex, are we just friends for friendship sake?
Q. I have been friendly with a man for the past 4 years. We met through work we both did at the time. We have got closer and closer over the years. In the past year, we spend at least one day, (if not both days) of the weekend or every other ...
A. 7 December 2007: Then I think if you want to go for him and he is still with his wife that you should ask him "what is up with us and where do you see this heading?" Otherwise you will be left with not knowing which will drive you crazy and perhaps make you do ... (read in full...)
We're both married, but havent had sex, are we just friends for friendship sake?
Q. I have been friendly with a man for the past 4 years. We met through work we both did at the time. We have got closer and closer over the years. In the past year, we spend at least one day, (if not both days) of the weekend or every other ...
A. 7 December 2007: What have you done with your marriage? Did you sort out all of your issues and are proceeding with a divorce? In my opinion, if this man is flirty with you and you are still married then he probably enjoys the flirt without committment as you are ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with someone who just wants to be friends. What can I do?
Q. At first I was reluctant to speak to her as her ex boyfriend and i were close friends. he cheated on her and she phoned me the night they split up to see if he had spken to me as she couldn't get hold of him. i saw her the next day and we started ...
A. 26 November 2007: I can understand why you caved in, she needed you. But you need to be sure you are not going to be "used" in the process. Both of you need to define what you want from the relationship but for now both of you need to be just friends as she has ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with someone who just wants to be friends. What can I do?
Q. At first I was reluctant to speak to her as her ex boyfriend and i were close friends. he cheated on her and she phoned me the night they split up to see if he had spken to me as she couldn't get hold of him. i saw her the next day and we started ...
A. 21 November 2007: You were honest with her and I think you handled things wonderfully. You waited until the time was right for you. You did not push things too fast. You did not push yourself on her. She is doing what she thinks is right and in a way, the ... (read in full...)
We're both married, but havent had sex, are we just friends for friendship sake?
Q. I have been friendly with a man for the past 4 years. We met through work we both did at the time. We have got closer and closer over the years. In the past year, we spend at least one day, (if not both days) of the weekend or every other ...
A. 8 November 2007: OK..You might not be having sex but this relationship is definatly an affair. You are emotionally tied to this man who in my opinion wants more than you are giving. But please do not do it until you resolve your marriage and he resolves his. If ... (read in full...)
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