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writes:How do I tell my partner that I no longer want us to be together? My partner and I had been seeing each other for just over 4 years when we split up in February. He then kept texting me and desperately wanted to give our relationship another go. In the end we started seeing each other again in September but things just aren't how they once were between us and I'm no longer 'in love' with him or feel that chemistry between us.I've told him how I feel and he thinks we just need time but I really don't think that will help. We get on as friends but for me, now there is nothing else there. I really don't know what to do for the best - I feel too young to be 'settling' for something that is ok but not that great. Any advice? Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2008): i think you need to just tell him that youve both given it a last try and you are sorry but your feelings arent as strong as his,tell him that no amount of words can MAKE someone change their gut feelings.maybe tell him that you want to go now so that you can preserve the fact that you dont want to end up arguing and turning against him.the longer it goes on the worse it will get.
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reader, elliebellie +, writes (16 December 2007):
hiya!
first of all ill give you one of these
*virtual hug* :)
you need to get across to him, in a kind, caring way how you really feel. just tell him you just dont feel any romantic feelings for him like you did before. if he says ooo you need time, then just say we have had time, and i still dont feel anything. you'll have to be honest with him and dont agree with him just to please him or because you feel sorry for him. just tell him your true feelings.
hope this helps
please feel free to mail me about anything else you wanna tlak about.
lol
ellie
xxx
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (16 December 2007):
 It is hard to tell someone you care about something that will hurt them. You will hurt him more if you aren't honest with him. He will continue to believe things will work out but if you're feelings are gone, they are gone. And you owe it to yourself to find "the one." He will end up being hurt more later if you continue as you are.
The only way to tell him is to be respectful, honest and caring. Be strong and firm because he wont be.
It will be best for both of you to end this now and have a clean break. You wont be able to be friends right away and if you are he will only think he can win you back. Get some distance between you and make a new life with someone you're over the moon for.
Good luck.
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