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writes: My ex is crazy! When we were together he posted a video of us on youtube. Now, one of his comments said I am his ex fiance and I had some emotional and mental problems. Yeah right! I broke up with him because he was emotionally abusive and he just can't accept that! Just because one doctor I saw after I got sexually assaulted by my ex (before this one) said I might be bipolar he now thinks that I am. In all honesty, I just wasn't coping with the rape very well. But, really, I'm not bipolar (and no one around me thinks I am) and I don't need medicine, and getting away from him (my current ex) was the best thing I could have done for myself! How can I get over the fact that he is now going to act like I was just bipolar and I was the one with the problems?
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reader, jm81690  +, writes (9 December 2007):
 You broke up with him, if he tells people "Hhe was crazy man, she had mental issues, I couldn't deal with that."It makes it sound better than "I was a shitty boyfriend so she dumped me." It's as simple as that, he's trying to make himself look better, and in his eyes calling you crazy makes him look better.Lots of guys will change the story after breaking up with a girl so it plays in their favor, I've stooped to that low a time or two, but usually guys will just bend the truth rather than accuse their ex of having serious mental issues.
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (9 December 2007):
 You are wasting a whole lot of mental energy on your ex. There is absolutely nothing to be gained by getting into a mud-slinging match with your ex. If he had an ounce of common-decency, he would not be discussing your health or past-relationship, let alone post it on youTube. What a cad. Anyone viewing it will think that he is a creep. Don't worry about the idiot. Feel sorry for his girlfriend instead. As a matter of fact, make sure to make friends with her after they break up! The best revenge is living well, totally ingnoring him AND making friends out of all of his ex-girlfriends.
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (9 December 2007):
 People can say anything they want to about another person but unless it constitutes slander there really isn't anything you can do about what other people say. Your friends who know you know the truth. People who go around "trashing" other people aren't perceived well by people either. When I hear that kind of talk I typically think there is something amiss with the person.
So, you've really done all that you can do, you left him already. Now you just need to develop thick skin. If this continues or what he has said costs you a job or any kind of legal issue then that would be grounds for slander.
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reader, Somethingeasy +, writes (9 December 2007):
 He's your ex. You don't even need to care what he say's. Just ditch him. The fact that you are still concerned what your ex thinks of you still shows you care. Move on and find someone who wont be emotianlly abusive.
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