Its bothering me that my g/f shows more interest in my friend than me
Q. Something is really bugging me. My gf has been really stressed over last few days over little things and it can lead to argument. This isn’t serious because we both know it’s no ones fault. For example if we are going out she is throwing clothes, ...
A. 13 October 2017: Honestly OP are you sure this guy is a real friend? If he is always looking for a way to put you down then he does not care about you, and if that is the case you might be much happier away from him completely.
As for your girlfriend are you sure... (read in full...)
I don't know where I stand and I'm not sure if I should ask?
Q. Why would he vacation a week with me separate rooms Send flirting texts apologize when he is busy due to work military and then contact again repeated pattern... I don’t know where I stand and I’m unsure if I should ask?!! We haven had face to ...
A. 13 October 2017: Why have you not spoke to him and asked him where you stand? He is the only one with the answer to that question. ... (read in full...)
Why does this guy flirt with me when he asks about dates I've been on?
Q. There's this guy I've known for a little over a year. I used to have a huge crush on him for a long time. I eventually got over him emotionally, but I am still attracted to him. We have been friends but there has been times where I get mixed ...
A. 10 October 2017: First question is was it obvious to him that you had a crush on him? If it was then he might just be annoyed that your attention is on other guys now and not him. Be straight with him and ask him why he doesn't want to date anyone any time soon, see ... (read in full...)
I have been helplessley in love with someone for too long, what do I do?
Q. I am in love with someone. I have known him for years now. When I fell in love with im, it was slow, and so pure. He was my first love. I love him with all of my heart. Around the time I fell for him he had a girlfriend. And that hurt my heart, b...
A. 10 October 2017: Sweetie if you loved each other then you would both make the effort to be together. If he is single now then talk to him tell him how you feel and say it is all or nothing. That is the only way things will be solved if you talk to him and see if he ... (read in full...)
Why am I having thought about having passionate sex with my friend?
Q. I think somethings wrong. I am in college, and one of my classmates, I have known since high school turns me on. Every time we talk and see each other (which is all the time, because we have the same major and minor) I have thoughts and fantasies ...
A. 10 October 2017: Nothing is wrong at all. You are still a Virgin and you are going to dream and think about sex, all off that is completely normal as your body now belongs to a woman, and women have needs. Don't worry it doesn't mean that you are in love with your ... (read in full...)
I'm pressured to get married how can I cope?
Q. Is it too late to have kids in your 40"s . I am 31 and single and not dating - I have chased men for the last decade and have only LAnded on abusive men. I don't know why family puts pressure on me to get married and do things by the book but they ...
A. 10 October 2017: Are you still living at home with your parents? If you are then I suggest that you move in to your own place and have your own freedom, nobody needs that negativity around them all the time. As for wanting to get married, you still have plenty off ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is sad after his ex girlfriend's revelation!
Q. Hello, I have a story to tell. This summer my bf and I got together. He had a girlfriend but he cheated on her to be with me. At first we were friends and I knew he had a girlfriend but I was so in love with him and I was trying to resist for so ...
A. 10 October 2017: OP you and your boyfriend both should feel bad for what you both done. You know he is a cheat so how can you trust him not to do the same to you? There really is no excuse for taken away someone else's man. If she was pregnant then the poor girl ... (read in full...)
I want to build better relationships with my family
Q. I have an unusual issue that I've not really heard of many people discussing on this site before, I've asked questions in the past and received good advice but never on this topic. Basically, I feel like I don't really have a great relationsh...
A. 10 October 2017: My guess is that you feel self conscious around your family because they can see the real you and it makes you feel awkward. It is nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed about, a lot of people are socially awkward around there own family. Take baby ... (read in full...)
I am exhausted and my boyfriend is no help.
Q. I know I'm right but someone please knock some sense into me. I'm in a relationship, we don't live together but I spend a lot of time at his house. Work everyday and come home to him sitting on the couch everyday watching tv and has done nothing ...
A. 9 October 2017: I guess you feel rotten because you lost your temper and you probably wanted to do it calmly and explain it to him properly. You also probably feel rotten because he was horrible and nasty to you. I am glad you have stayed strong and am sorry to ... (read in full...)
Its bothering me that my g/f shows more interest in my friend than me
Q. Something is really bugging me. My gf has been really stressed over last few days over little things and it can lead to argument. This isn’t serious because we both know it’s no ones fault. For example if we are going out she is throwing clothes, ...
A. 9 October 2017: Don't put yourself down and call yourself a wimp. He doesn't sound like a very good friend calling you names, and well if your girlfriend repeated it then she is just as bad. Surely she cannot play dumb after calling you names? What was her excuse ... (read in full...)
I don't know where I stand and I'm not sure if I should ask?
Q. Why would he vacation a week with me separate rooms Send flirting texts apologize when he is busy due to work military and then contact again repeated pattern... I don’t know where I stand and I’m unsure if I should ask?!! We haven had face to ...
A. 9 October 2017: Surely if he was interested enough then he would make the time and effort to see you. Are you both dating or in a relationship? I think you need to give us more information on the history between you both so we can advice you better.... (read in full...)
A years long troubled friendship has turned into a family obligatory relationship. What should I do?
Q. Hi! I'd very much appreciate some perspective on a friendship I've had since childhood. Is it really a friendship, or an inherited relationship? Am I overreacting after 30 years, or have I been to patient and accommodating? Our parents were bes...
A. 9 October 2017: Honestly you shouldn't feel like you have to be her friend just because your parents are best friends. I knew someone like this growing up as well, only everything that she said was lies, she was later diagnosed as a compulsive liar. I get how tired ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend & I are not seeing eye to eye on the future. Do I hang in there or say goodbye and good luck?
Q. My partner and I have been together for almost 3 years. We love each other, but have always fought in our relationship. I put it down to the fact that we don't see eye to eye with a lot of things. He is a city boy...his work + home are there. ...
A. 9 October 2017: If you loved him and wanted to be with him, you would compromise, but it sounds like you are not willing to uproot yourself for a couple off years. I can see why he is leaving it up to you, he has said he will move to the coast in a couple of years, ... (read in full...)
Should I kick him out of my house and my life?
Q. Hi All!! First thank you for taking the time out to help me... Ive been dating the same guy for 5 yrs now. And for the past couple yrs he has changed into an unpredictable screaming heartless prick towards me. Im always caught off guard when he gets ...
A. 9 October 2017: Why would you allow a guy to repeatedly cheat on you and forgive him? He treats you like this because he has no respect for you, he knows he gets away with cheating and treating you bad so that is why he does it. You need to gain confidence stand up ... (read in full...)
Is he into me, I like him a lot!
Q. Is he into me or not ? I really like a guy but I’m not sure about his actions. We have never had a conversation and I don’t even know his name. I wanted to initiate but he rarely shows up at the class so I stopped thinking about it but one of my...
A. 9 October 2017: How can you like someone who you have never spoken to and don't know their name?
Honestly you either pluck up the courage to talk to him or else you leave it be and learn if you want to get to know someone then don't do it through there friend but ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend only likes sex if I am on top
Q. My boyfriend seems to like all sexual activities with the exception of (vaginal) sex, which he does not seem to care for. He only seems to like it (a little) if the woman is on top doing all of the work. Do any men out there feel the same way, and ...
A. 9 October 2017: Everyone is different and likes different things, if you are happy with your sex life then great, but if you are not and you want to try different positions then talk to him about it, it should be what works for you both not just him. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is blaming herself for an early miscarriage.
Q. Dear Cupid, The other day my girlfriend had a few drinks and on the way home started going on about how she thinks she's pregnant. She hadn't done a test and was purely going off her breasts being tender and feeling "weird" plus she rambles when she...
A. 9 October 2017: Don't feel bad because you don't feel upset, as you said it was unexpected. However your girlfriend is feeling down at the moment, there is hormones travelling around her body and she is blaming herself for the miscarriage. I know you didn't plan on ... (read in full...)
Should I suggest to my ex she seek professional help?
Q. I recently went through a bad breakup with a woman I thought was the one. Even though she did it in a cold hearted way I still care deeply for her and have been told that she loves me just not like I love her. The relationship is in the past so I'm ...
A. 9 October 2017: You are better off without her in your life. She needs help but she has to be the one to seek the help, I am eager to know what age her daughter is, as she should not be growing up in such a bad environment. ... (read in full...)
Other people have forgiven him, so why cant our children?
Q. One year ago my husband of 23 years was arrested, he had been looking at underage pornography. 45 counts of category a amongst other. Myself and our family were totally shocked as he had always been a very good person who helped all the family and ...
A. 9 October 2017: Off course your children are not going to forgive him, OP your husband is a pedophile, he should not be near any children. He might have been impotent because it is not you he is attracted to but children. Honestly I really do not know how you can ... (read in full...)
He was looking at provocative image!
Q. Hi I'm looking for some advice I've never had to do this before. My question is how am I supposed to feel about my partner of 15 years was working on his laptop and stepped outside for a smoke I was unpacking shopping and on his screen was a picture ...
A. 9 October 2017: I am sorry to hear that OP. Even though he has not physically cheated, he has emotionally which is still quite as hurtful. I hope you find the strength to tell him to leave. ... (read in full...)
He was looking at provocative image!
Q. Hi I'm looking for some advice I've never had to do this before. My question is how am I supposed to feel about my partner of 15 years was working on his laptop and stepped outside for a smoke I was unpacking shopping and on his screen was a picture ...
A. 6 October 2017: The thing is men will look. It doesn't mean that he is not attracted to you or that you are not enough it is simple that the female body will be appreciated by men.
If you are uncomfortable then talk to him and ask him not to do this again. But ... (read in full...)
Is my Supervisor in the wrong for telling us about a colleague's mistake?
Q. The other day my supervisor told me and a colleague during a meeting a mistake a co-worker made. This mistake is something that did not affect me or my other colleague whatsoever. Was this appropriate? I just feel if he was attempting to tell us the ...
A. 6 October 2017: Part off a supervisors job is confidentiality. If you feel he is breaching this then go to his boss and tell them how you feel.... (read in full...)
Engaged to be married and have a crush on another woman
Q. So to start off I have been with my fiancé for 11 years since we were both 18. In that time we have both been through a lot, however I have never in the last 11 years had a crush on another woman. She has always been the only women who i had any ...
A. 6 October 2017: It is okay to see someone who you think is beautiful and appreciate that. My guess is that you are thinking about her because you are getting close to the wedding and you are not sure if you are doing the right thing. Remember she is a professional ... (read in full...)
It seems like our relationship was a big lie!
Q. First, let me start by saying the past week with my boyfriend has been great. He's been affectionate and talking about marriage, which itself isn't new, and spending all his time with me at my house aside from work. We'll call him D Then out of n...
A. 6 October 2017: Off course he is not just going along with it. He has been caught out and he is now trying to blame you. Don't allow him to throw the blame on to you. Honestly you are much better off without him, who knows what he is doing when you are at work. ... (read in full...)
My wife is another man's slave
Q. My wife is deeply into S and M and I am not. I discovered that she has become the slave of another man, but still professes she loves me. I have allowed her to spend 2 or 3 nights a week with her dom. I don't think I can find any way to give her...
A. 6 October 2017: I honestly don't know how you could love this woman and allow her to spend two or three nights a week with another man. I couldn't be in a marriage like this. How did you find out she likes S&M? Surely this came up before you both got married? If ... (read in full...)
Is this just a slump in the relationship or should we part ways?
Q. So I desperately need some relationship advice please! Me and my boyfriend have been together about 2 and a half years now, we're both 22 and we live together. We both have very good jobs and we stay at his family house (all his family live away...
A. 6 October 2017: You know deep down he is not the one for you, yet it seems you are staying with him as you have no where else to go. Do the kindest thing and end things, it is not fair on you or him to keep this relationship going. He doesn't understand your ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend stole money from my purse, I broke it off but am feeling sad.
Q. I am 48 years old and in a telation with a man my age ,we r engaged but since i knew him i felt that there is something missing in the relation and i wasn't sure that i love him and kept postponing marriage.he is so kind with me and generous in ...
A. 5 October 2017: Block him from contacting you. Off course he is only using excuses. He is doing that only because he has been caught. If he loved you he would not be trying to test you, neither would he be stealing from you. Off course you are sad, but stay strong ... (read in full...)
Thankyou Cupids, for being there when I needed you.
Q. Several years I wrote for help on this page about stupidly losing my virginity to a one night stand and how I was not sure how emotionally to deal with that fact in the aftermath of being so, for want of a better word, dumb. I wanted to say to...
A. 5 October 2017: It is nice to hear some feedback and well done for accepting the past :-)... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to be turned on by a thong?
Q. I'm a 26 year old male and I have a question regarding a fetish that I have had since I was probably like 11 years old. Basically my fetish revolves around women's thong panties specifically. When I was just entering puberty I found thongs to be...
A. 5 October 2017: Honestly I don't think you should be ashamed at all. As you know yourself it is quite common. Do women turn you on in general? I really don't think a woman is going to get jealous off you being turned on by a thong especially not if she is wearing ... (read in full...)
Uncertain if he lied for the right reason
Q. Hi, I have been married for 4 years to a guy who seems devoted to me. I've had a lot of problems in the past. Before I got with my husband I had been through a rough time, I had had cancer and was just finishing chemotherapy and my youngest daughter ...
A. 5 October 2017: No off course you are not over reacting. Your friends aren't the most supportive are they? I would be horrified if my husband lied to me about something like that, it really is messed up. White lies fine but that is not something to have in common ... (read in full...)
Should I attend my Son's wedding?
Q. I am a dad who doesn't get along well with his only son. He is getting married in a couple days and have chosen a non cleric, non blood related family member to officiate the ceremony, a man I totally despise and have never gotten along with. I like ...
A. 5 October 2017: Honestly it is your son and his wife to be's day not yours. You should be the bigger person here, you are the parent after all so you and your wife should show a united front and be there to support the new couple. He is your son, never forget that.... (read in full...)
Is this a positive sign or is she just being nice?
Q. My ex broke up with me a couple of weeks ago. I had been working on the things she didnt like about me and I sent her an email updating her on how I have been changing i.e getting better and that I love her and hopefully in future we might cross ...
A. 5 October 2017: Don't work on yourself for her, do it for you. It sounds like she is being supportive but I don't think by looking at that she wants to get back together in the future.... (read in full...)
I think guys just want me for sex
Q. It feels like guys only want me for sex. Every guy to ever show interest in me has somehow indicated that he wants something mainly if not entirely physical. It's made me really conscious and insecure because when a guy asks for my number or flirts ...
A. 5 October 2017: Believe me you are right when you say that they all want sex. It is completely normal. It is up to you what you want to do, if you want casual then go for it, if you want a relationship then be honest with the guy and tell them that. They can make ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want marriage. Is there anything I can do?
Q. My problem is this, I love my Bf. I'm sure He loves me too. We have lots of things in common. But the saying is also true. No relationship is perfect. Thing is, he have this thing that we are totally opposite about. I am a kind of woman who ...
A. 5 October 2017: Both off you have been married before and have been left by your other halves so why is it so important to you to get married again? Surely one failed marriage is enough to put you off? You say he doesn't want to commit to you, but you both realize ... (read in full...)
I don't trust my husband and he thinks I am cheating!
Q. Are I met my husband 5 years ago back when I was in high school it's been tough throught out these years... I have 2 kids of my own and he has 2 of his own ever since we got engaged and moved in we've been working a lot his baby mommas call him all ...
A. 5 October 2017: To be honest I think you where to young when you got married. You have a lot off responsibility for a 20 year old. I understand that you love him, but you also have your two children to think about, and marriage should very much be about trust. If ... (read in full...)
How do I handle his awful younger sister who assumes she's one of my bridesmaids?!?
Q. Hello everyone, I am not sure how to ask this question. My boyfriend and I are getting married (yay!!) but have one small problem. I hate, and I mean *hate* his younger sister. She has been an absolute mess to deal with our entire relationshi...
A. 5 October 2017: No do not cave in, weddings are stressful enough without having a bridesmaid forced on you. Just be straight with her and tell her you have already picked your bridesmaids and find something in the wedding for her to do to feel included. As for her ... (read in full...)
Help me fix this situation with my sister
Q. I have a serious issue with my younger sister. I recently left a violent and abusive relationship and rented a flat I really wanted after three months of hell going through turmoil and alcohol. Anyway, as the flat has 2 bedrooms, I asked my siste...
A. 5 October 2017: Why did you ask her to move in with you if you knew she was with a drug addict? Surely you knew how this would end when you say your mother always takes her side. The only way I can see a way forward is to hand in your notice and look for a smaller ... (read in full...)
I badly want children but my partner does not
Q. I hope there are some people on this site who can tell me what does male broodiness feel like? Recently my fiancée and i had an abortion (i know mixed feelings and all that). Also my mother had a new baby. The combination of these two things...
A. 5 October 2017: My guess is that with the abortion and also the fact you have just become a brother to a baby that is probably why you are feeling the way that you are. It is normal to feel warm and fuzzy when you are wanting children, and it must be hard when you ... (read in full...)
How do I address my poor self-image problem?
Q. Hey guys, Sorry for being such a drag with this post, but I'm really down these last 2-3 days and tomorrow is my birthday. Thank you for reading this. To get to the point... I don't think I'm really beautiful, especially to my bf and eternal lov...
A. 4 October 2017: It is not up to your boyfriend to make you feel beautiful, if you are lacking confidence you are always going to see the negative. You need to build it up yourself, you need to learn to find yourself beautiful. Just because your boyfriend doesn't ... (read in full...)
Any tips for choosing Mr Right?
Q. I've never had a relationship longer then two years and those were pretty rocky for a good portion. I've been known to pick the wrong guys and so I'm trying to do things different lately. Marriage is a big goal in life for me and I would like t...
A. 3 October 2017: Why is it important to you that someone leave there phone with you? Are you insecure? Really a relationship progresses to marriage. But that takes time and patience. It should not be about marriage the moment you meet someone, and there is no signs ... (read in full...)
I am not a masturbatory toy!
Q. My fiancé has suffered from delayed ejaculation ever since we met. For over a year he could never reach orgasm with me unless he uses his hand, closed his eyes and tuned me out. Literally I could not speak. I confronted him and it turned out he was ...
A. 3 October 2017: My guess is that he developed an addiction to porn and got used to the feeling off his hand, therefore it now makes sex difficult for him to finish because he has grown accustomed to the feel off a hand finishing the job. This could be physiological ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps asking to meet my former best friend
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 16 months. We met through a social group in which we both joined around the same time, and that group is my main circle of friends. I do not keep in touch regularly with anyone else. I have friends whom I call ...
A. 3 October 2017: I don't think he is being immature, my guess is that he is curious about why you have no friends and maybe he wants to meet her so he can get to hear old stories about you and make more off a connection with you, I am sure his intentions are good. ... (read in full...)
I constantly feel jealous about his exes!
Q. Any advice on how to get past jealousy. My boyfriend has clearly had other girlfriends as we have been together only a few months. Yesterday he said about going to Italy and when I asked who with and he said his ex girlfriend from 8 years ago I feel ...
A. 3 October 2017: OP you are going to loose him. Believe me you will loose him, and not to another woman, and not because he does not love you, but because you will keep going until you push him away.
I honestly feel that you need professional help here. There are ... (read in full...)
I am exhausted and my boyfriend is no help.
Q. I know I'm right but someone please knock some sense into me. I'm in a relationship, we don't live together but I spend a lot of time at his house. Work everyday and come home to him sitting on the couch everyday watching tv and has done nothing ...
A. 2 October 2017: I really hope you do take your own advice and end things with him. You deserve much better than this. He sounds selfish. He should be supporting you through the hard time you are having helping your mother and daughter. You sound like the type off ... (read in full...)
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