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anonymous
writes:im not sure how to go about this and would rather see it from other peoples views. A year ago i joined a dating site i met up with a guy i had already had 1 date with previously couple of years earlier. we drifted apart and lost contact. Anyway last year we decided to have a 2nd date . I was having the worst year going in every aspect but wasnt telling him that, he was also going through a bad health time which he told me about as well as not being able to work due to it . Anyway the date was cut short and we both didnt really text each other until a couple of weeks later i messaged him on the dating site and he said he wasnt interested . A couple of days later he left. I dont know if it was due to his health ( stage 3 cancer ) or if he met someone else but a distant friend of mine said he was still single a couple of months after our date. I have just rejoined this dating site and he has come back on it. I looked at his profile to see if it was him and it was , he also looked at my profile ,my picture is totally different to last time i do look much different, We dont have our names on display . It would be nice to meet up with him again but i dread the 'get lost' response even tho im just saying hi . do i bother or not and if i do should i mention i had a hard couple of years but everything is better now
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2018): Update, Im the OP. He messaged me and we are arranging to meet up tomorrow. He said he only rejected me before because he didnt want to burden me with his health problems and didnt want me hurt if it came to worst case . He wishes hed kept in touch .So lucky me
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (31 January 2018):
 He told you he wasn't interested so personally I wouldn't contact him again and feel rejected all over again.
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reader, mystiquek  + ♥, writes (29 January 2018):
 There is no reason to contact him again OP unless you want to be rejected. Who needs that? He told you the first time he wasn't interested. Leave it at that. No need to put yourself out there to possibly be hurt. Too many other men in the sea my dear! Start fishing!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2018): to be fair shes only asking should she say hi to the man she hasnt said she wants a relationship with him .
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reader, 02DuszJ +, writes (29 January 2018):
 Why chase after someone who's told you no, when there are a million guys out there who would say yes?
Let go of him
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2018): did you not read the part he had stage 3 cancer and left the site . some people will say theyre not interested because they are concentrating on their health and not thinking about a date so maybe he was just letting her down they way he does with anyone
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reader, N91 +, writes (29 January 2018):
 He told you he's not interested. It doesn't get clearer than that.
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