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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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We really lash out at each other when we argue...but the table always gets turned on me!! How do I deal with this??
Q. Hey all, I'm hoping to get a lil advice cuz I've run out of ideas. I've been dating this wonderful woman for 6 months now. We get along great, talk everyday, understand each other, see a future together. I truly do love her and I know she loves...
A. 7 August 2008: Oh yay! I love happy endings! I also love updates, especially when things sound so positive. I'm happy the odd rules helped, and thank you for updating; I was actually looking for this answer the other day when I was answering a similar question. I ... (read in full...)
Is there any chance of getting pregnant on your period?
Q. Hello, I have been wondering lately, if there would be any possiblity of geting pregnant on your period. Because last weekend my boyfriend came inside me. But he told me not to worry because i cant get pregnant on my period. He said theres like a o...
A. 3 July 2008: I would recommend that you be in control of your own health and do some more research, both here and at sites like webmd.com and plannedparenthood.org
From what I've learned at plannedparenthood.org, it's not likely, but it can happen. If your men... (read in full...)
I love her but I don't think I'm in love with her. Any advice would be appreciated.
Q. Hi. Im currently in a relationship with a girl who I started living with about 2 months after we started going out. Its now 6 months into it and although I do love her I dont think im in love with her. Were from different backgrounds and ...
A. 2 July 2008: Look, I think you've done a very brave thing, so please don't take this as a bash. She may be so hurt right now that sarcasm and being flip are defense mechanisms. So give her some time to process, work through this major shift of plans.
She m... (read in full...)
I love her but I don't think I'm in love with her. Any advice would be appreciated.
Q. Hi. Im currently in a relationship with a girl who I started living with about 2 months after we started going out. Its now 6 months into it and although I do love her I dont think im in love with her. Were from different backgrounds and ...
A. 2 July 2008: I wish you the best of luck with this very difficult conversation. You may be surprised that she knows you're not 100% on board with her...... (read in full...)
My chest is not strong like other men, it's big like girls' breasts, what can I do about this?
Q. hi friends i am 28. 1.65cm and 70 kg. my question is my chest is big like girls breast, means not strong like any other boys. does anyone help me why this happens to and the solution. thank you ...
A. 2 July 2008: Take a look at this definition of gynecomastia, which may be what you are referring to in your question.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gynecomastia
You should speak to a doctor about looking at your hormone levels, do the exercise that is... (read in full...)
What should I do at the party Friday night, as I want my ex boyfriend back!
Q. What should i do? People whohave been following my relationship dilemma from previous posts know what i am refering to. I broke up with my bf a month ago and been very confused by signals hes giving me. loves me but cant have a gf etc etc. well.....
A. 2 July 2008: Hi, Jackie, I think I posted an answer on one of these earlier questions you asked.
I think that if he really wanted to be with you, he'd be with you. It sounds like he's a confused child with no real handle on what he wants, the way you've p... (read in full...)
I love her but I don't think I'm in love with her. Any advice would be appreciated.
Q. Hi. Im currently in a relationship with a girl who I started living with about 2 months after we started going out. Its now 6 months into it and although I do love her I dont think im in love with her. Were from different backgrounds and ...
A. 2 July 2008: Hi, it does sound like you moved in together very early in the relationship. The trouble with that is often that you find you are not as compatible as that first intense feeling of love makes you think you are, and you're finding this out the hard ... (read in full...)
Anyone have any idea how we can arrange an underage marriage?
Q. Ok so I am under 18 and I have this boyfriend who is 38. He and I want to get married but I know my parents won't allow it. No body even knows about him. So my question is, what can I do to be with him? Legally I mean. We have been ...
A. 2 July 2008: Can you tell me why you know your parents won't allow it? In some states, girls can get married at a younger age if their parents give their consent to the union. So maybe the best thing to ask them for that consent. I'm surprised you haven't told ... (read in full...)
He's suffocating me and calls me names when he's upset! He always apologizes but it happens again, what should I do?
Q. I'm 16 and my boyfriend is almost 20. I completely adore him but he smothers me so much, it's suffocating. He won't let me have friends unless he knows everything about them. He questions me every time I meet a male (friend or stranger) as to ...
A. 2 July 2008: His idea of a 'normal' relationship and your idea of normal are obviously not in sync. He sounds like a control-freak to me, and I sincerely doubt he's going to change his behavior. As he has verbally abused you by calling you names, then apologized ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Over 600,000 visitors last month!
Q. Just a quickie We broke the 600,000 unique users/month (i.e. people!) last month. According to google analytics we had 638,310 visitors from June 1st to June 30th. Doesn't seem that long ago we passed the half a million mark. Thanks to all t...
A. 2 July 2008: Andrew, that's great news. Thanks to everyone for making this such a helpful site. I've started the shopping list for the BBQ, and watermelon is at the top, Birdy. ;)
Can't wait to see what the future holds for DearCupid.
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I'm dating an older guy online, could he be using me?
Q. Hello. I have a question to ask.... I am a 15 year old girl...and i'm dating a soon to be 22year old male over the internet. My friends think it's wrong and my parents don't know about my relationship with this guy.. I want to move o...
A. 1 July 2008: One more thought for you, when I wasn't sure if a guy was really into me, I would suggest that he meet my parents. The ones that really cared about me would agree to meet them. The ones that were just users would find some creative way of getting ... (read in full...)
I'm dating an older guy online, could he be using me?
Q. Hello. I have a question to ask.... I am a 15 year old girl...and i'm dating a soon to be 22year old male over the internet. My friends think it's wrong and my parents don't know about my relationship with this guy.. I want to move o...
A. 1 July 2008: Hi, I think that your friends have your very best interests at heart; they care about you and they want to be safe and happy.
I'm not saying that this applies to this online boyfriend, but generally a 22 year old man would find a 15 year old girl... (read in full...)
What's the best contraceptive?
Q. i need help. i'm getting married next month and i want to find the best way to avoid getting pregnant. i heard that the pills sometimes has some side effects is it true? what r they? thanks....
A. 30 June 2008: Here's a couple of websites that might help you in your discussion with your doctor.
http://www.webmd.com/sex/birth-control/which-birth-control-method-should-i-use
http://www.pl... (read in full...)
Has moving to another country destroyed my relationship?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together 4 years now. I moved to Europe so that we can stay together. But since moving here our relationship has been falling apart. We have spent a lot more time together since moving (Since neither one of us friends ...
A. 30 June 2008: We do need more details to help you. We could say, 'yes it can be fixed' or 'no it can't be fixed' but that would just be guessing on our part.
Moving is stressful, living together for the first time is stressful, living in a new country is stres... (read in full...)
What's the best contraceptive?
Q. i need help. i'm getting married next month and i want to find the best way to avoid getting pregnant. i heard that the pills sometimes has some side effects is it true? what r they? thanks....
A. 30 June 2008: The best thing you can do is go see your gynecologist and discuss all the options available to you. Your individual health and risk factors need to be discussed with her (or him) so that you can decide what will work best for you. There are many ... (read in full...)
I want to stay with him him so much. Heart or head?
Q. I'm considering ending my relationship of 8 months because I have become so paranoid about my boyfriend cheating. Four months ago he suggested going on a break for a few weeks, and later admitted it was to see another girl who he took on dates and ...
A. 30 June 2008: Take a break from him yourself. You need to regain your objectivity and think through what you know about him and what you know about yourself. This is a very new relationship and the fact that he's already stopped it to date another girl suggests ... (read in full...)
I'm sleeping 12-16 hours a day, and I have other unpleasant symptoms. Can anyone suggest what's wrong with me?
Q. i need help plz.recently have been sleeping more than usual.i sleep like 12-16hours a day and even at that,i get someone to wake me up not me waking up willingly. i get tired easily and all i wona do is lie down and rest.whenever i stand up to go ge...
A. 30 June 2008: To the doctor, as soon as possible. If you can't afford one, go to an emergency room. We are not medical experts and cannot diagnose your symptoms. Sorry, but you really need to be seen by a doctor.... (read in full...)
I've been supporting us and my boyfriend feels like I'm "attacking" him when I mention him getting a job!
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend unofficially for over a year. Our official 1 year anniversary is coming up on July 6th. I'm very happy with him. He is very affectionate, treats me very well, spends lots of time with me and is just all around a ...
A. 30 June 2008: The thing that bugs me about your situation is that you two are both still in college, right? So you need to earn some money to pay for things in school, like textbooks and food and clothes and all the incidental expenses college seems to bring ... (read in full...)
He took a day off to spend with friends, but wouldn't do the same to celebrate my birthday - does he care?
Q. Please help me. I have this boyfriend and I love him very much but he doesn't seem to care that much about me. Its my birthday coming up and he said that I shouldn't be surprised if he forgets - which upset me because I made a real fuss over h...
A. 30 June 2008: If it were me in your shoes, I would organize the birthday myself, and not include him in the plans, as he's clearly made others and your birthday is not a priority for him.
I would call up all my girlfriends, and go out and paint the town, be... (read in full...)
He's ignoring me and I don't even know if we are together or not...
Q. Hi, I've been with my partner for 5 years. When we argue he goes into silent mode and just wont talk. We were in a really great place in our relationship two nights ago and then it all fell apart. We were invited to my sisters and he said he wasn'...
A. 30 June 2008: Thanks for the update from caveman land! I was hoping that things would go well for you this weekend; he did realize that he needed to do the right thing, and that's great. It was my pleasure to be your cyber-girl friend, the one who tries to help ... (read in full...)
Wife had affair I cant get over it and move on, I want to though...
Q. How do you put your wifes affair in the past and move forward in the relationship. She has told me everything and I know I neglected her infact I had two affairs on her and she knew about one. We have both cut off all ties to the affair poeple and ...
A. 27 June 2008: So you haven't been fully honest with your wife? You told her about one of the affairs, but not both of them. And you wonder why you doubt her? It's because you ascribe to her your own drive, morality, motivation. You can't trust her because I think ... (read in full...)
I don't know what to do? I am not ready to be a father, I need your guidance.
Q. Need advice, I recieved an email from a girl I slept with about 6 weeks ago, saying she is now pregant, wants to keep the baby and wants nothing from me and is willing to cut off all commuication. I don't know what to do? I am not ready to be a fa...
A. 27 June 2008: "A male reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008):
"Before everyone jumps on this guy, remember that he didn't say what the original understanding was between hium and the woman at the time they had sex.
"We don't know, this woman may have l... (read in full...)
I have a huge jealousy issue, how do I overcome this? Please help.
Q. I've been having sex with one of my best friends, but he doesn't want a relationship. We see each other every few days, and pretty much act like a couple. My concern is, I have a huge jealousy issue, and it's always in the back of my mind that he c...
A. 27 June 2008: Reading this question, I realized that you two do have a relationship. It's just not the one you really want. If you were fine with just leaving it at sex, then there would be no problem. But the thing is, you want more. And he's not willing to give ... (read in full...)
Will my 'bad looking' intimate area be a turn off for a guy??
Q. I have a physical problem with my intimate area,, I have a bit of an excess of skin. Not a skin disease or anything, just skin. But it does look ugly (as in not pinkish and rather dark). It was caused by me, masturbating as a kid, not knowing what I ...
A. 27 June 2008: Thank you, LazyGuy, for posting that website. I was trying to remember the url and just could not find it....
You're normal, I would lay odds on that. Women and men come in all shapes, sizes, skin colors, etc. And I'm really sure that masturba... (read in full...)
Her 7 year old daughter asks for money from me! Is this normal?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles! i have known my friend for almost 8 years now and am godmother to her eldest daughter who is 7.Her daughter is very spoilt.My friend is quite soft with her -she tells her off but its not convincing. My godaughter when thr...
A. 27 June 2008: You could go the route of being disappointed by her behavior. Instead of saying, 'no, I don't have any,' say instead 'that is not a question a well-brought up young lady would ask. I am very disappointed by this demand.' Or, 'sweetie, this is a very ... (read in full...)
We are both in relationships but I like him. Does he really care about me?
Q. just wanted some advice. I have been working with J for two years. I love him. We both have partners but have said we are unhappy. We have always been there for each other etc.... I am leaving soon ( in three months) and i love him so much I ...
A. 27 June 2008: I think you need to separate the two things, one is your current relationship with your partner and the other is J.
If you are unhappy and are thinking about leaving, what are you waiting for? This is unfair to your partner, as he could be out l... (read in full...)
I''m in menopause and lost interest in sex but I'm upset my partner is resorting to porn!
Q. i am 50 years old going through menopause have gone completly off sex my partner for 2 years has informed me during a heated discussion that he is paying for porn channels of sky every month and is masturbating to it i feel sick and disgusted with ...
A. 27 June 2008: Hi, I expect you both are feeling unloved by the other partner right now. It must be tough starting menopause and having your hormones fluctuating and changing your life. I'm sure that is very upsetting for you. He must be upset too, to learn that ... (read in full...)
We really lash out at each other when we argue...but the table always gets turned on me!! How do I deal with this??
Q. Hey all, I'm hoping to get a lil advice cuz I've run out of ideas. I've been dating this wonderful woman for 6 months now. We get along great, talk everyday, understand each other, see a future together. I truly do love her and I know she loves...
A. 27 June 2008: Forgot the most important rule.
Keep your sense of humor. Very very important.... (read in full...)
We really lash out at each other when we argue...but the table always gets turned on me!! How do I deal with this??
Q. Hey all, I'm hoping to get a lil advice cuz I've run out of ideas. I've been dating this wonderful woman for 6 months now. We get along great, talk everyday, understand each other, see a future together. I truly do love her and I know she loves...
A. 27 June 2008: You both need to learn the rules of fair fighting. Sounds idiotic, I know, but if you adopt some set guidelines when you're both calm, when things escalate into a fight, you have a framework that will keep things in bounds.
Some rules I suggest ... (read in full...)
When I walk away from my friends when I'm upset, not a single one comes to talk to me, why?
Q. I recently found out that I'm bipolar and depressed. It explains a lot but what I don't understand is when i walk away from my friends because I'm upset, not a single one comes over to talk to me. Some of them know about the disorder, but they seem ...
A. 27 June 2008: When someone walks away, looking upset, most people will tend to give them space. Walking away signals to most people 'leave me alone, I don't want to talk right now.' If you stayed put, looking upset, then your friends should be giving you the ... (read in full...)
Is having cyber sex with a married man...make me the other woman?
Q. Does having cyber sex with a married man make me the "other woman"?...
A. 26 June 2008: In the new age of the internet, I think that you are the other woman if you do it routinely. But at least you don't run the risk of STDs.... (read in full...)
I was drunk and had sex with my neighbor, I am not sure if it was rape. What should I do?
Q. ok, not too long ago, i was home alone and my family was out on vacation. well one night, i got drunk by myself and then i heard the doorbell, i opened it thinkin it was one of my friends came to visit me. but it was my neighbor, my 58 year old ...
A. 26 June 2008: PSSSTTT!!! Hey, fellow aunts, this is a really old thread... dates back to September 07....... (read in full...)
Bill Kaulitz amazing but difficult hair-how can I get mine like that?
Q. Does anybody know how to get my hair like Bill Kaulitz? i dont have money to go to a hair dresses, and i need this for a rock star project. i have to do it by myself...any tips?...
A. 26 June 2008: Looks like you need a comb and some hairspray or gel. Here's a tutorial video:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pIXXP5oA91U&feature=related
Just cut/paste that link and you should be able to see how to get the hairdo.... (read in full...)
He's ignoring me and I don't even know if we are together or not...
Q. Hi, I've been with my partner for 5 years. When we argue he goes into silent mode and just wont talk. We were in a really great place in our relationship two nights ago and then it all fell apart. We were invited to my sisters and he said he wasn'...
A. 26 June 2008: Okay, now he's got me angry at him too. This is now getting ridiculous on his part. What sprang to mind today for me was the term 'passive-aggressive.' He's trying to control the situation by being so passive that you wind up having no choice but to ... (read in full...)
He's ignoring me and I don't even know if we are together or not...
Q. Hi, I've been with my partner for 5 years. When we argue he goes into silent mode and just wont talk. We were in a really great place in our relationship two nights ago and then it all fell apart. We were invited to my sisters and he said he wasn'...
A. 26 June 2008: How goes it with the caveman? I don't have any new advice, just wondering how things were going with you.... (read in full...)
I was raped by my father's boss, what do I do?
Q. Please someone has to help me. I can't live with this anymore. when i was 10 I was raped by my Fathers Boss. His boss is also one of his good friends. My Dad and his co-workers had a party to celebrate their works aniversary. All my Dads fr...
A. 26 June 2008: Smiles has given you the very best advice possible. I can only add that you can also contact this organization too; they will help you and guide you as needed.
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Australia's Kids Help Line which provides free counselling for all young people a... (read in full...)
Is it an orgasm I'm experiencing or not?
Q. Hi, I am a girl and I am 21, I have only had an orgasm once and it was when I first met my current boyfriend and he was eating me out, I had had a few drinks so don't remember. Anyway, I can't seem to have an orgasm, not even when he touches me or ...
A. 26 June 2008: Forgot to post the link! Sorry.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/teens/guide-teens-families-4318.htm... (read in full...)
Am I an odd girl for not trying girl on girl sex at least once?
Q. Am I odd? I`m a 28 year old girl and never experimented with girls. 80% of the straight girls I grew up with and girls in school and even married girls I know tried this at least once. I mean more than just kissing. Is this common for girls to try ...
A. 26 June 2008: I think you're normal. And why do you feel so pressured about this?
I respectfully disagree with bebe; since the beginning of human nature, it's been mostly a man and a woman, but a certain minority have been same-sex. I do not believe that it ... (read in full...)
Is it an orgasm I'm experiencing or not?
Q. Hi, I am a girl and I am 21, I have only had an orgasm once and it was when I first met my current boyfriend and he was eating me out, I had had a few drinks so don't remember. Anyway, I can't seem to have an orgasm, not even when he touches me or ...
A. 26 June 2008: I just read this thread, and realized that you posted that you don't know where your clitoris is. Wow. I think that maybe this site might give you some help in basic anatomy. I realize that it was written for teens but it might be helpful for you.
... (read in full...)
Someone who works at our school wrote 'u r sexy' in my friend's facebook account! How should I handle this?
Q. please help!!!!! yesterday i was on facebook looking at my frinds account and i saw someone who works at our school commenting her "u r sexy" i was shocked when i read this. and told my close freinds one of my freinds messaged him calling him a pe...
A. 26 June 2008: Have you asked your parents what they think? That might not be a bad idea, as they can help work through some of the worries you have.
Another option is to contact this website or freephone for some advice:
Childline-
”You can talk to Chil... (read in full...)
I really don't know if we're still together or not! And I fancy someone else!
Q. Hi There, I have a bit of boyfriend bother... Here's the story; I know this boy at my fencing club, he is in Yr 9 and I'm in yr7. I look old for my age, he is quite normal. So, last week he asked me out to the cinema, but he didn't show up, or I ...
A. 25 June 2008: Sorry your first date turned out to be a no-show. So technically, you can still say that you're waiting for your first date. Don't give him that honor.
Anyway, I think that because he has not actually explained things in any way, and because ... (read in full...)
I'm 6 mths pregnant and I hate what's inside of me, what do I do?
Q. im 17 and 6 month pregnant i dont feel i love this child i hate whats inside of me what do i do ...
A. 25 June 2008: Sorry to hear that you're so unhappy. I think Diovan's idea about telling your doctor is a good one; they can help refer you to someone so you can talk about it. Another option is to contact Childline.
Childline-a very child-friendly website.... (read in full...)
He's ignoring me and I don't even know if we are together or not...
Q. Hi, I've been with my partner for 5 years. When we argue he goes into silent mode and just wont talk. We were in a really great place in our relationship two nights ago and then it all fell apart. We were invited to my sisters and he said he wasn'...
A. 24 June 2008: You're very welcome. I appreciate your very kind words!
Look, I've been there too. I've received the silent treatment and the unspoken resentment. But that was years ago, waaaayyyy back when I was your age or younger. :)
I'm really happy to ... (read in full...)
He's ignoring me and I don't even know if we are together or not...
Q. Hi, I've been with my partner for 5 years. When we argue he goes into silent mode and just wont talk. We were in a really great place in our relationship two nights ago and then it all fell apart. We were invited to my sisters and he said he wasn'...
A. 24 June 2008: Thanks again for your latest update. I'm happy to give my time and thoughts to you if you find the advice useful.
This answer might seem a bit disjointed because I jotted down notes of things I wanted to cover and they might not be in a really c... (read in full...)
He's ignoring me and I don't even know if we are together or not...
Q. Hi, I've been with my partner for 5 years. When we argue he goes into silent mode and just wont talk. We were in a really great place in our relationship two nights ago and then it all fell apart. We were invited to my sisters and he said he wasn'...
A. 24 June 2008: Thanks for your update! Sometimes it takes a little time for questions to get reviewed, so don't worry.
I did think there was more to the situation, so it was helpful to hear this and I'll do my best to offer suggestions for you. I'm glad that he ... (read in full...)
He's ignoring me and I don't even know if we are together or not...
Q. Hi, I've been with my partner for 5 years. When we argue he goes into silent mode and just wont talk. We were in a really great place in our relationship two nights ago and then it all fell apart. We were invited to my sisters and he said he wasn'...
A. 23 June 2008: So what has happened in the past when he finally does start communicating with you again? Does he just start as if nothing has happened? Or do you have a rip-roaring, air-clearing fight, and then work things out? Or do you have a calm discussion ... (read in full...)
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