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If a guy says he's been really busy, has he?

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Question - (17 December 2009) 6 Answers - (Newest, 3 January 2010)
A female United States age 30-35, *hisisrightnow writes:

I met a guy from a dating site. We talked a lot over the span of two weeks. Then I went to go stay with him for the weekend. I even met his friends and family and he bought every meal for me over the weekend. He even told me, before I left, to let him know the next time I'd be in town (since I live 3 hrs away and I'm trying to move back to the area, but not for him) and I told him I'd be home for Christmas. Then I noticed after I left, we weren't talking as much. He wasn't calling every night like he was and wasn't texting me as much, but I don't know if thats due to the fact he's met me and doesn't want to try and hold up a relationship just yet since I do live 3 hrs away. So I texted him yesterday. I sent him a casual "Hey, how are you doing? Haven't really heard from you much lately.." sorta text. He replies pretty quickly and is like, "Hey! Sorry I've been really busy but hopefully this weekend will lighten up :-\ How are you?" I told him I had an interview a while ago, and he asked me how it went. Does that sound like a genuine "I'm busy" or just doesn't want to talk to me?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2010):

who knows and you shouldnt even care if he isnt your boyfriend. Make it official and then worry about it

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A female reader, shania United Kingdom +, writes (26 December 2009):

shania agony auntBig deal, so he sent you a message on facebook...woopee! This guy is not interested in you, he has no desire to continue with the relationship but he's softening the blow by sending you an email....No guy is too busy if he wants someone so badly, it takes seconds to call you and less to text you...he hasn't made anymore dates either.The guy isn't interested....look elsewhere.

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A female reader, thisisrightnow United States +, writes (17 December 2009):

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He im'ed me on facebook earlier. Said he just wanted to say hi before he had to go to his freemason meeting. We chatted for a few minutes. I told him not to be a stranger. He said he would talk to me later. So maybe he has just been so busy? I mean, I don't expect him to talk to me every day. And I guess technically we're not even dating. I guess if I hear from him every couple days then it won't be so bad.

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A female reader, shania United Kingdom +, writes (17 December 2009):

shania agony auntI agree with Ask oldersister, if he really was keen on you then he would still make regular contact.No one is too busy to text or email...it doesn't take weeks to do....and even if he did talk about you to his mother, that doesn't mean anything, actions speak louder then words and i feel that he's not that into you....Go and look elsewhere, your worth more then what he's offering you, which is sweet FA.

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A female reader, thisisrightnow United States +, writes (17 December 2009):

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I did not have sex with him. In fact, when I visited him, he offered to sleep on the couch downstairs, but I told him he didn't have to. I would also like to add that I met his family as well. He seems really close to his mom and I know he had been telling her about me cause she mentioned some stuff about me. I'm supposed to be back in that area next week, so I'll see if he bothers to text/call me once he knows I am there.

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A male reader, RAINORFIRE United States +, writes (17 December 2009):

RAINORFIRE agony aunthmm thats a hard question i say that even when im not busy it basically meant for some reason didnt talk to her some times i just dont feel like talking to anyone and ill say that but its possible that he really was busy i dont think you should worry about it the truth will reveal its self hes the guy he should stay in contact with you if you if he wants a relation ship but i think you need to just ask him if he wants to be your bf and stop playing HS games

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