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writes:I am currently seperated from my husband. We met when I was 17 years old, I got married to him at the age of twenty. I thought that I was mature enough to handle something like marriage. However three years later I am realizing that we are completely different. I have cheated on him several times. I was attempting to file for a divorce. We have been seperated for almost a year. However recently I have been having feelings for him again, wanting to see him, wanting to have him in my life again. However I feel guilty and I want him to find someone who is worthy of his love. In the mean time I started a new relationship with another person, and I feel madly in love with this new guy. We are really understanding each other well. But I can't stop thinking about my husband. I can't stop feeling like I am being unfaithful, and that beginning a new relationship is wrong. My Husband still wants to be with me, still wants me in his life. But I am torn... If I go back I know I wont be happy, many times I felt trapped in the marriage. At the same time I feel like it might be to early for this new relationship because I am not 100% over my husband. Yet I really like this new person, I just dont want to feel tempted to cheat or feel like i am cheating. So what do I do?
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reader, huneygyrl +, writes (4 January 2009):
 Marriage is such a strong, meaningful word. Obviously, you don't know what that means when you decided to step out of your marriage.
Separation should give you time to improve yourself. How you can better yourself to make your marriage work. Communication with your husband is one of the keys to your marriage. From what it seems like, your marriage is lacking it.
For you to think about cheating again?....you already have by having thoughts about it. Not only that, you're in another relationship.
You are better of by yourself.
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reader, shania  +, writes (31 December 2008):
 I think you miss your husband because your not there with him, he probably seems more attractive now your not living as man and wife, i dare say you would probably feel jealous if he was to sleep with another woman? But you say you are in love with another man, but are you? You know you cant really have both, and it is having your cake and eating it. If you were truly happy with your husband, you wouldn't of cheated on him, i personally dont think you want your husband, you just think you do. You crave excitement and your husband must of bored you rigid like dishwater....I think your marriage is doomed....let him go and move on.
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reader, a_decent_1  +, writes (31 December 2008):
 Once a Cheat, Always a Cheat.. !!
Prove me WRONG honey.. ;-)
G'day
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