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writes:Hey im 12 and i live where there is alot of mexicans. But i dated a 15 year old that lives by me. But i broke up with him so there is this boy hes 20 and he gave me a letter and he wants to go out with me should i say yes and i known him 4 a 1 year now and i love him so much but parents dont know him. should i go out with him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2007): Look, I know there's gonna be a lot of people who say "no way! Don't see him! That's so sick!" I agree with them, but I'd also like to try to give you some real honest reasons and explanations so you have a better understanding of what's happening here.I don't think you are "too young" to have strong feelings for this man. But I do feel VERY STRONGLY that you're too young to act on them. Being interested and attracted to a boy (or man) does not always justify acting on those feelings. I really hope you do not get into this guy for the "naughty thrill" of it. Adults tell 12-year-olds not to do a lot of things, but the truth is that some of them are more important to avoid than others. This is one of the important ones. Seeing this man will put you in a very unbalanced position in the relationship. And honestly, I think there's a 99% chance that you will look back on this when you're older and think "oh god, that was messed-up! Why was he attracted to someone so much younger than himself?" There's noting wrong or undesirable about being a 12-year-old girl, but there IS something wrong with a 20-year-old being truly romantically interested in a 12-year-old. It's a lot more likely that he's just chasing younger girls because it's easier than girls closer to his own age. And some older men just want to have sex with virgins, too. The girls virtually ALWAYS regret doing that later on and they realize that they were being taken advantage of in retrospect. He's old enough to know a few more things about the world (and also about manipulating girls) than the other guys closer to your own age.Please don't see this guy. I don't wanna ruin your fun, but this is probably something that YOU YOURSELF will REALLY regret doing later on.
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reader, saziz  +, writes (26 August 2007):
Stay away from him, darling. You still have a long way to go and you will meet some really nice guys. You are probably, just infatuated with him... I think you are still too young. Does he know you are only 12? Tell him and tell him to keep away! You don't want to hurt yourself!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2007): Sorry im 15 and personally i wouldnt even date a 20 year old. I personally think that you should (like everyone else has said) go for people your own age and maybe people who are 13,14 or 15. And be careful most older guys only want one thing.. Sex. so dont be stupid and take care of yourself by avoiding him and tell your parents. Love is sometimes used to widely. Its a powerful thing.. im only 15 and im not sure wat it is
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2007): Are you insane? Don't call him, call the police!!! Any 20 year old that wants to 'date' a 12 year old is a pervert. Sorry mate but this guy is not what he seems. Do not be taken in by him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2007): any twenty year old man who wants to date a little girl is a creep! and yes, i'm sorry, you ARE a little girl. you may feel grown up but you have not come close to reaching maturity. this man WILL take advantage of you and NO GOOD will come of it. be smart, take my advice, STAY AWAY FROM HIM!
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reader, Myrah  +, writes (7 August 2007):
 RUN FOR YOUR LIFE GIRL... you are 12 and you have a whole life ahead of you. you are too precious I dare you to have this conversation with you Father and just get his point of view to see how he would feel about his Precious Princess hooking up with a 20 year old
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reader, Skeez  +, writes (7 August 2007):
 you should not go out with him sweety.deffinetly not. you are way to young to be going out witha 20 year old. When a 20 year old likes a 12 year old, theres obvioslysomething wronge with this.a 20 year old wouldnt normally have an interest in a girl so much younger unless he was a pedo.stay away from him chicky.If you want to go out with someone. stick to your own age for now love.Take care please
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reader, Uncle Trev +, writes (7 August 2007):
Sounds like paedophilia to me.
Stay away from this guy - trouble will entail if you don't.
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reader, no_one_should_feel_that +, writes (7 August 2007):
ok i do agree with alot of these guys but i have to say love can happen to all ages but what you think is love is not .. he is tryng to play you out .. he says he like you and blah blah blah i dc really bout what he says i am a male of 15 and you at that age should worry less about dates but worry more about friends at that age you are suppose to be goofy and hang out with friends .. maybe have your 1st kiss but with some one your own age........what you think is love is lust of a relationship from the sounds of it you are just looking to get away from your parents or hopusehold and you think that falling in love with some one is going to change that and if the do stuff it will get you away from whatever you are trying to escape but trust me you dont want to do this.....look one of my best friends ever ruined her life by doing something like this and she just wanted to get away from her parents ... sos he had sex with some one older ... they had a baby and she is away from the house ... but she cant go to school cause her parents wont pay for the baby and so she has to work for her baby ... the farther left her to live on her own ... she is sad now and wishes she never did this with that boy ... just dont do it .. trust me you will find love with some one your own age ... and it can be anyone in your classes... just stay away from the 20 year old....
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reader, queenS  +, writes (7 August 2007):
hell no.......... first of all your mindset is very different and you may end up doing things that you dont want to do and may regret them later. you should start with guys the same age as you maybe 13,14 or even 15. 20 is too much for a 12 year old
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2007): I agree with those two! Even though you might love him and he says he loves you the age difference is too much. Listen to your parents girl, as annoying as they may be sometimes they know whats best for you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2007): No, No, NO!! This man is TWENTY years old, YOU are twelve. No guy who is a decent sort and in his right mind would have ANY interest in dating a girl so much younger than him.
You need to tell your parents - they won't approve - but they are looking out for your well-being and best interests - AS THEY SHOULD, and is right and proper.
I entirely agree with Jamer70 that this man is trouble with a capital T. He could be very dangerous to you, and he knows very well that what he is about is wrong as well as illegal.
Stay away from him!!!
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (7 August 2007):
 NO!!!
Anyway 20 year old that wants to date a 12 year old is alot of trouble and should be in jail.
Tell your parents as this man could be dangerous and considering your age i would advoid him as he is trouble since he wants to date a 12 year old.
Which is wrong and very illegal and he should be in jail.
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