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lovexgurl19
writes:My boyfriend is my cousin, what do you think about that? We are in love, and I know people critize us, because its impossible, but when I am with him, I feel so good, so perfect. I mean I could date other guys and he could date other girls. But theres no guy like him, I love everything about him. And he feels the same way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): its nt lyk hes ur brother k?its legal k?wel wher i live newyz..so its totali fyn..chill k?thers nuthn to b ashamd abt..as fo da ppl hu r agenst u two..totali ignore dem k?coz dey jst wana find a fault in u..u shud b so proud dat ur standin up fo wt u believe n and for the person u love.. i'm realy happy for u and i thnk u shud b so grateful for findin the special person in ur life k?
I realy wish u two the best for the future..and i seriously dnt thnk u shud hv second thoughts k?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2008): I do not think that there is anything wrong with dating your cousin. Me and my my cousin have not talked or seen each other for ten years. It a death in the family to bring us together. We exchanged numbers and have talked ever since. I love him so much. Noone can change that. It may not be anything but its special.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2008): I honestly have nothing against having a relationship with a cousin but i do feel a certain boundary is required and where to draw the line.
my sister recently was dating my third cousin and they ended up just fine, although a certain distance is needed in the
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2008): if you are first cousins i will advice you to break up because you might have problems having 'normal' kids. I am married to my second cousin and my mum hates the idea. Her mum really suppports us and this has created a problem between me and my mum.I will advice you to discuss it with your parents and make sure your cousin is not just after sex.Make sure your feelings are real because a brake up affects the whole family. RICK ROSS
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): i think it is fine i like my 3rd cuz and my parents dont know but at the same time they say i flirt with him i am 14 he is 14 and he is a triplet he is so cute and sweet and i talk to him sometimes i just wish i could tell him we do not consider ourselves family as much as friends i am adopted so we are only related by last name i want to date him so bad what do i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): i am close to same situation, and trying to fight the fall...i know it will be quite a complicated arrangement, though i see nothing wrong with loving a person, cousin or not...
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): I can relate. I met a man at a wedding reception and we flirted and found out that he was my cousin. But I love him not matter what. He makes me laugh and I feel happy being around him. It's the greatest feeling in the world. If something would happen to him, I would be pretty much hurt.Love who you love. I see him as my best friend. He wants to take the relationship further, but I am playing it by ear. If it's meant to be, then whatever. But I love him for who he is and not because he is my cousin.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2007): don't mind anyones comment to you. you go ahead, love him, and do this and that. who cares what others think. my friend dates her own brother. to me, you love who you fall in love with. like the saying goes: love is international and has no boundaries.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2007): it's cool to date your cosuin as long as you both love each other very much. iam dating my cousin and it feels weird like i love him a lot and all bu there are moments when i am like he;'s my cousin. but al im gona say is that if you care about him a lot then go for it don't care bout what people think
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2007): I dont think it is wrong to date your cousin. True love is something really special and is hard to come by and nobody can say that a positive emotions is a negative thing. Before we knew about genetics people were doing it, so why just because we have more knowledge about them should people stop. Feelings cant be turned off and will come back stronger when you try.
i didnt see my cousin for 8 years and when we met back up we just clicked. i dont know if it is love that we feel but whatever it is, its special and nobody can take that away.
xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2007): i do not see anything wrong with it though that might be a little 2 close. but i fell in love with 1 of my relatives but idont know how were related shes like my 20th cousin. the only problem is that she just thinks of me as a friend and that im "nice" i wish she thought more of me but if u think about it somehow u r related 2 probably everyone on the earth if u trace ur history
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2007): I understand where you are coming from. I met a man and fell in love with him. Never knew him before and he turned out to be my cousin. We never knew each other growing up so it did not feel like we was related. You can not help who you fall in love with. It is hard to find someone who will love you in return the way you love them. I say if you find love then take it cause true love does not come along very often. It is no ones business who you fall in love with. You and the special guy knows how you feel about one another and that is all that matters. Most people have alot of negative things in their life so they have to share that with others because they do not want others to be happy. I tell people you are not me and you are not him so mind your own business.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2007): im ? and i found out that my girlfriend is my distant cousin but nobody thinks we should see eachother,wat shuld i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2007): I love my cousin with all my heart. She means everything to me. i dont pay any attention to negative comments about loving her. You cannot tell your heart who to fall in love with. When you're in love, it dont matter if the person you love is a blood relative. All that matters is the love you both feel for eavh other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2007): Well, I don't really have an opinion on this but....My parents are first cousins with 7 kids and we all came out healthy. No defects, no disorders, no nothing. Just a regular looking family. Sure sometimes we poke fun at it but it's all fun and game and we're all alright so there's nothing really bad about it. Andd...Just a couple days ago, at a family gathering, I fell head over heel in love with my verrry attractive cousin whom I haven't seen in 10 years. Well, maybe that could be my disorder. I don't know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2007): If you love him, then you love him. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being with your cousin, a hundred years ago lots of girls married their cousins, have a trawl through history.
You're not a freak, there's nothing wrong with it and the chances of your children, should you have them, having anything wrong with them is only SLIGHTLY raised, but only if there was something in the family gene pool to begin with, and you can talk about this with a doctor.
Ignore people who have a problem with it - they aren't worth your time.
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reader, rhythmandblues2 + ♥, writes (20 August 2007):
 In about half of the US states there is no law against it, however in the rest there are either restrictions or laws against it.
If you are a Christian, it is morally wrong to marry a first cousin. Any genetic abnormalities or diseases carried in your families will be likely passed on to children born to first cousins...it is really kind of uncool to be dating a first cousin, this is your blood relative, there are supposed to be boundaries in place and being a family first comes to mind....with all of the other fish in the sea, why on earth are you limiting yourself to someone who shares 1/4 of your DNA?
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reader, somewhat_anonymous +, writes (20 August 2007):
If you like ending up on the Jerry Springer show and possibly have greater odds for having a retarded child, then by all means, go ahead. Although, some researchers are trying to disporove that with a little success. Some states also have laws prohibiting the marriage of cousins.
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reader, Jamer70  +, writes (19 August 2007):
 Well its kinda hard to say.
You can date her but society will frown upon this relationship as its not the norm to date a blood relative. Also if you have a child with her the chance this child will have some sort of defect will be much higher and shold best be advoided.
Overall i reckon if you really really wanted to you can but people will look down on it, but an intimate relations should be advoided.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2007): Whether he's your cousin or not, it doesn't really matter aslong as you're both in love.Ignore peoples negative remarks, because at the end of the day, it's not them who's going out with him is it?It's you.Love is a very stong bond, and it's a wonderful feeling.Nobody can help who they fall in love with.It just happpens.So keep your chin up, be happy, and live life however you want to live it.x
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reader, loveableprincess +, writes (19 August 2007):
 if you are in love with him, then relations don't matter.
you can't help who you fall in love with so everone who critises you just needs to get a life basically, people shouldn't deney true love. don't date other people because people tell you to, just ignore everyone, because if you two are ment to be don't let anyone get in the way.
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