My lover is seeing someone else. Should I be worried? Am I being silly giving him grief over this?
Q. My husband has alzheimers. I love him deeply, and I love and care for him. The illness has changed my life forever. I am a young 55 so in the end I met another man and we are lovers. I know it is wrong but I have some happiness here this way. I ...
A. 28 September 2009: It just seems such a shame that over a year later, you're still stumbling along in a life thats not good enough for you. I suppose people do it all the time though. I can just imagine feeling extremely drained and exausted ive gotta admit. I think I ... (read in full...)
How do I get my friend back? He doesn't want much to do with me because of his girlfriend.
Q. My best friend(male) of 2 years(Whom I dated for the first year and half) is now dating a woman whom seems to be threatend by me. Without telling much more of the story, we have not had communication for 3 months. I gave him space to develop ...
A. 24 July 2008: No lying does not work with me either, thats enough reason to not establish a friendship to me.
You 2 dated, it didn't work out, end of. He probably lied, because he's a liar, compulsive, pathalogically, whatever. But he's capeable of it, and poss... (read in full...)
Before we met, my BF was not working for 5 years, do I leave him until he finds a stable job?
Q. hi all my boyfriend and i have been dating for a year now and before we wasnt dating he wasnt working for 5years , the thing is im worried i mean 5 years is long time to be out of work . hes 23 and im 27 ok not in a stable job but im working m...
A. 24 July 2008: If i met someone and they said they had been out of work for 4 yrs, unless there were health reasons, alarm bells would be ringing.
But no, its one of my golden rules not to date someone that doesnt work. But only you know what you want for the futu... (read in full...)
My lover is seeing someone else. Should I be worried? Am I being silly giving him grief over this?
Q. My husband has alzheimers. I love him deeply, and I love and care for him. The illness has changed my life forever. I am a young 55 so in the end I met another man and we are lovers. I know it is wrong but I have some happiness here this way. I ...
A. 23 July 2008: You obviously take your vows into consideration. Its hard when some sides of the marriage are ok, but not all. Heart goes out to you. We are only human! Hope you get some response from males.
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I'm worried that when he picks up his child from his ex, he will be tempted by her!
Q. dear cupid about seven months me and my boyfriend decied to sort of move in together in my place.bu befor that i have forgave him for hideing the fact he had a daughter i found out about three months into the relationship, yes i forgave him caus he ...
A. 23 July 2008: Hi
Give the guy a break! He's trying to do whats right by all of you, and getting torn in all kinds of directions! Why should you be able to go with him when he visits his child, if i was the childs mother, i wouldnt be happy with that til it had ... (read in full...)
Is there any way of terminating my child support payments?
Q. I was wondering if there is any way of terminating a child support payment. My ex no longer allows me to see my daughter and I don't believe I should be paying for her when I can't even see her let alone talk to her. I could use that money for ...
A. 23 July 2008: Hi
Not too sre how it works in the States, but here, regardless of if you see the child or not, you are still liable to pay for the upkeep. My 26 yr old brother is paying for 2 children he doesn't actually see through our Child support system (Csa... (read in full...)
My gran and granddad have organized a meal for my granddad's birthday, but they won't let my girlfriend come. What would you do?
Q. I am 27 years old. My gran and granddad have organized a meal out for my granddad’s birthday that is happening this weekend. They have invited the family plus a couple of their friends. My mum, dad and myself noticed that my girlfriend has not been ...
A. 23 July 2008: Just go on your own, cousins partners aren't going, so its nothing personal, just a family thing.
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His wife's lawyer has a picture of us kissing. I don't know what to do.
Q. just for a month i am having a relationship with a married man, but he is separated but still have to go the lawyer etc. i am really happy with him and even he is really happy with me he forgets his problems and we really have fun together. this...
A. 23 July 2008: Hi
Eeeeek, not good. Not a lot you can do about it now. But its not your fault! The guy is estranged from her anyway, so thinking about it, whats the big deal? Not too sure of the laws where you are though.
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Is it too late? All I see is this man who left his family and came back only when it didn't work out.
Q. Together for 15 years, married for 14. We have two children 11 and 7. Husband lost his mind when his mom passed away three years ago, and step-dad passed away six months after his mom. First, he sided w/ his step-bros. instead of his wife. Sh...
A. 23 July 2008: Hi
You're brave! Could try counselling, but that requires honesty, and it doesn't sound much like your guy has the ability to muster up any?
I reakon you should trust your instincts. Some of us have good ones. We just dont always trust them.
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My ex just got out of jail, and my mom gave him my number. Should I go see him?
Q. ive been with my new man for about 10 months, well my ex just got out of jail and my mom gave him my number. i talked to him and now i want to see him what should i do?...
A. 23 July 2008: Depends what he was in he big house for really!?
If things are going good with the new guy, why rock the boat with the ex thats been banged up? Not enough details to give any advice really. I certainly wouldnt give someone who's been in prison my d... (read in full...)
Is meeting people from Internet dates a bad thing?
Q. Dating people off the internet and going to meet them is a bad thing? I dunno why but feel tense if I tell my parents where my new partner came from if i did find someone of internet......
A. 23 July 2008: Hi
Nah not these days. Much of the stigma attached comes from people that have never had or dont use the net much. I think a fair few of the guys that dont use the net think girls online are easy, my 25 yr old brother being on of them! And even thou... (read in full...)
My lover is seeing someone else. Should I be worried? Am I being silly giving him grief over this?
Q. My husband has alzheimers. I love him deeply, and I love and care for him. The illness has changed my life forever. I am a young 55 so in the end I met another man and we are lovers. I know it is wrong but I have some happiness here this way. I ...
A. 23 July 2008: I expect that last bit, is a good indicator of why you got involved with this guy in the first place. If you're not in a good place in life and are vulnerable, then its more likely we make bad judgements.
Ive been in the same situation as your guy ... (read in full...)
How can you beat a "player" at his own game?
Q. if you know a guy who claims is and honest but is a player when it comes to women how can the woman beat him at his own game and him not even know he is being played back?...
A. 23 July 2008: Hi
I bet it would be hard. After all, they know every trick in the book. I'm always warey of a guy or anyone that actually says they are nice, honest etc a lot. If someone is naturally honest and nice, they dont need to shout about it. And the expe... (read in full...)
I broke up with him because he wouldn't commit but now he says he's ready. Is he just after physical "stuff"?
Q. hey peoplle just need some help pllzzz someone.... well basically about 6 months ago i started getting to know this guy... everything was great when we were together only problem was he wouldnt commit to me as he wasnt ready as he had only rece...
A. 23 July 2008: Hi
If he's not getting the full sex, then he could well be genuine. Like he said, he could go find it somewhere else.
It may well be true that after you ended things, it made him realise how much he likes you. Its common for people to give someone ... (read in full...)
How do I get my friend back? He doesn't want much to do with me because of his girlfriend.
Q. My best friend(male) of 2 years(Whom I dated for the first year and half) is now dating a woman whom seems to be threatend by me. Without telling much more of the story, we have not had communication for 3 months. I gave him space to develop ...
A. 23 July 2008: Hi
I am with him on this one. For them as a couple, if there is nothing between you two, then he has nothing to hide. If i had a bloke that didn't want me involved when it came to a female friend, then i would be wondering why. He's basically sayi... (read in full...)
How can I get over my ex when he seems to be over me?
Q. Recently my boyfriend and i of two years broke up suddenly when he had a "breakdown" and had to move out of state where he grew up all his life.... i took him to the airport and he called me when he had a layover but i missed his calls and he never ...
A. 22 July 2008: Nasty. The bad boys can get a grip on a girl like that. Manipulation is terrible, they are very clever people usually. And you know they are because you know you would never of put up with being treated those ways before and probably never will ... (read in full...)
Struggling to know what to do about this girl who's in love with her ex...
Q. Hi Doc Love My name is andrew - I'm 36 years of age - divorced and have been single now for 4 years. In that time I have one 18 month relationship and have dated quite a lot of woman ( when I mean dated - what I mean is that I have taken a lot...
A. 22 July 2008: No, no other suggestions apart from move on, she's not interested. You started off accepting she was a bit mixed up, and said you wouldnt keep in touch, then you contact her.
Sounds like you like to be in complete control.
But moving on looks th... (read in full...)
How come all my dates from online turn out to be LUNATICS?
Q. I have been internet dating on RSVP for 12 weeks now and have been on 6 dates. Each of these people i have gotten to know with several IM sessions, phonecalls, emails and sms chats. The thing is every single one of these people have been an absol...
A. 22 July 2008: Because net guys are raggy dolls (made imperfectly) hehe only kidding, some are, but so are some you meet in every day life, my ex was a raggy doll, and he didn't even know how to switch a pc on.
Sounds like you have just been unluky really. Chil... (read in full...)
Is it rude to now ignore my ex?
Q. Hello My ex ended our relationship 4 months ago and we kept in contact via phone and email. I asked for reconciliation a few weeks later but she said no! Then she met a new guy and the contact dwindled. To be honest the contact only hurts me. T...
A. 21 July 2008: Its not rude if you are happier with no contact. At the end of the day we all do what we have to, to move on. If you dont want to trigger off contact again (which i gather you dont) its prob best to not reply. Everyone moves on at some point after a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend split up with me and sends me confusing texts. I feel awful, please help!
Q. Hi can anyone give me any advice or help , my boyf split up with me 2 weeks ago we had been togehter yr and half , he moved in i lent him alot of money.. after 1 moths we started rowing so he left 2 weeks ago. since he has text saying loves me , so ...
A. 21 July 2008: Hi
Time is the only thing thats going to help here. That stomach churning knot you have will pass. He is playing mind games with you because he doesn't actually know what he wants by the sounds of it. But its cruel for you.
Might be best to ignor... (read in full...)
Does my ex love me and want me back?
Q. My ex broke up with me two months ago after being together for 5 years. He asked me to remain friends and I have but its been really hard. He comes round mine and we watch films or go to the park about everything but 'US'. I used to suffer from ...
A. 21 July 2008: Hi
Pmt is a nightmare. Glad you got that sorted. There are loads of things to take from the docs. I suffer terribly with it, and am on meds 2 weeks every month. Ive ruined 2 relationships in the past, not just because of pmt, but it played a majo... (read in full...)
Only dating for a week and he's moving WAY too fast... should I be worried?
Q. Ive been dating this guy for 1 week only and I feel like things are moving WAY to fast. He texts and calls me non stop and always wants to see me. He keeps saying he likes me sooo much and is complimenting me saying I'm beautiful, goregous and ...
A. 21 July 2008: Hi
Was just going to say about the abuser bit, then saw your last sentance. Sometimes, and obviously by no means all the time, it can be a symptom displayed by the bad boy/girl. Ive experienced it once myself. Within 5 weeks he 'loved' me and rang... (read in full...)
She keeps helping her ex. Things can't go on like this forever.
Q. uhm... hey to all! need some advice again.. im with this girl. we are now together say for 2 months now. i took her virginaty.. we are really close. because when had sex it was the first for both of us!anyway her ex... he keeps on texting her and ...
A. 21 July 2008: Hi
Sounds like she still likes him as a friend and probably nothing more? She might be a caring type of girl. Which could possibly of attracted you to her in the first instance? He might well see more in her, which would be pretty annoying to you,... (read in full...)
By cutting contact with him am I ruining my chances with him?
Q. I started dating a guy about 9 months ago. I had actually met him years before at a work event and we had chatted but he had a girlfriend so that was that. I then met the same guy years later at a party and we instantly recognized each other, ...
A. 20 July 2008: So at best, he is confused and cant make his mind up. I repeat, why would you want him?
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My marriage is in a rut and my 'friend' is now back in the picture! How do I get a commitment from him?
Q. I have been married for almost 12 years. For the past 6 years or so, my marriage has slowly deminished. The care for each other is not there any more. Both are not attracted to each other as well as no intimacy now for 3 years. Approximately 4 ...
A. 19 July 2008: Hi
How can you get it to being just you and him? you cant, he is attached to someone else. Like it or lump it. Why does he not follow through when he says he will call? Because he is attaced. Like it or lump it. He is attached. You are atta... (read in full...)
Does Skinny Water really work?
Q. Does Skinny Water really work?...
A. 19 July 2008: Hi
I bought it when Tesco had it on buy one get one free, its supopose to suppress the appetite i think. Much like Adios i expect. It might well do that, but nothings better than eating sensibly at the end of the day. Tap water is just as good... (read in full...)
What can I do to make this break up easier on all of us?
Q. Not sure where to begin been with him 14 years and 3weeks ago out of the blue he tells me he doesnt love me the next day its you would be happier without me than its something else. i know there is no one else yet. He has asked for time to think ...
A. 19 July 2008: Hi
Its very rare for guys to come out with something like that if there ISNT someone else. Not slating men, but they are statistically far more likely to cross over their relationships than us females. Its just fact. Its preferrable for them to find... (read in full...)
Should I use his sweater as an excuse to contact him?
Q. hello everyone, i'm really in need for some help here. i made out with this guy at a party. it was great... and when we said goodbye he said "see you soon". i got his sweater and wanna use that as an excuse but don't know how tbh... any advice? ...
A. 19 July 2008: Hi
I think Frank B kermit has the right plan there.
And use the sweater as an excuse, then test the water.
C xxxx... (read in full...)
By cutting contact with him am I ruining my chances with him?
Q. I started dating a guy about 9 months ago. I had actually met him years before at a work event and we had chatted but he had a girlfriend so that was that. I then met the same guy years later at a party and we instantly recognized each other, ...
A. 19 July 2008: I am amazed you would want a chance with him? Why? You shouldn't want him to have a chance with YOU!
I think now you have moved, go cold turkey and you will meet someone thats nice and wouldn't mess 2 women about like he is capable of doing.
C xxx... (read in full...)
Why can't I meet a guy who is not a liar, not into porn, not an addict or not into the bleached blonde, blow-up doll type, which I am not, am I just unlucky in love, or do I need a change of venue from southern California?
Q. Hi there. I am a 27 year old healthy, fun, athletic, sincere, hard working, (like to think of myself as) pretty attractive female. I live in Southern California and it seems like every man I meet is a liar, is an addict, is into porn (which I ...
A. 15 July 2008: LOL i love the way lazyguy put that. Very true though.
BUT having said that i will just add, if you have standards you are looking for in a guy, hang on in there! Too many women 'settle' for just anyone beacuse they have low self asteems and are ... (read in full...)
Are all of my positive qualities "outweighed" by the way I look?
Q. I am 6 foot 18 years old dark haired. Unfortunately I am very overweight. My looks aren't bad for my weight, and I have good posture and can generally hold in my stomach. But it doesn't hide my weight. I have been told that I am a really sweet guy...
A. 13 July 2008: All ways about us will be a stumbling block to different people. Your size might put someone off, much like my curly hair might put someone off me. Thats what makes the world go round, we all like different things.
Just continue being you.
C xxx... (read in full...)
Why would he marry someone else 3 months after we broke up?
Q. i am 31 and was dating a man 37 for almost 3 months we had been talking about getting married discussing our roles identifying our compatibility. we both thought we were very compatible we were in love just before our breakup he began to have money ...
A. 13 July 2008: Possibly was with her all along? Highly odd if he met someone and married them within 3 months. Although to meet someone and be talking about love and marriage by 3 months, is a bit excessive too. So maybe he is one of those fast movers! But the ... (read in full...)
Why am I so moody, and how do I stop it? I'm scared of losing my boyfriend!
Q. I seem to get upset about every little thing, especially when it comes to my boyfriend of 6 months. I'm super sensitive to everything! I don't know what to do, because my bf is getting quite sick of me being upset/moody all the time. I never us...
A. 13 July 2008: moody girl you need to explore the idea that you are suffering from pmt at times, before you ruin your relationship for good.
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My gf found porn on my computer. Is she over reacting?
Q. Hi there, I could do with some advice on my girlfriend’s reaction to finding porn on my computer! I know it's understandable my girlfriend of 4 mths should not be happy with this, but she was completely devastated when she found out as if I had ...
A. 12 July 2008: Hi Keith
Well prsonally i think she has over reacted a tad. You dont say how old/young she is. Sounds crazy but it can sometimes have some bearing. I used to hate anything to do with porn as a teen, even when i was a 20 something. Not now, i am 37. ... (read in full...)
When will I get my boobs?!
Q. im 12, nearly 13, im a girl and i have pubes and armpit hair and all of that, but what i wanted to know is when will i start getting boobs? and how will i know im developing? and what age did you have them at? thanks :)...
A. 12 July 2008: I was about 14 if i remember rightly. Yes i would of been, beause i went to Florida then and had only just started my periods too when i went there.
My son is 13 and has little bumps and they have been tender. Have you had that? My daughter is 11 a... (read in full...)
We've fallen out of love. Should I keep trying?
Q. I've been with my husband since I was 18 and have fallen out of love with him. We still get on really well as friends but really nothing more. My husband knows how I feel and is trying really hard to rebuild our marriage but it just isn't working. ...
A. 10 July 2008: I agree that counselling might well be the way to go.
I was about your age when i fell out of love with a great guy that i too ended up seeing as a great mate, not a partner. I went to counselling wanting to get the love back. But it only help... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't get a job!
Q. Ok...I have been dating this guy for 7 months and he won't get a job. It's driving me nuts. We are both 23 and I have helped him so much, as far as looking for jobs online while he is at home. I don't give him money, but on the weekends I do ...
A. 9 July 2008: Hi
You're onto a loser here unless he wises up. Loafers i call them. Cuz they just loaf about town all day. Thats if they actually get up and out the house that is. My ex hubby was like that. I actually was stoopid enought o marry him when i was ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with a husband I think is too good for me?
Q. Hallo I am quite average looking. Plain really. Never dated. Tried a few times, but not very successful. Never thought I would get a very attractive partner in life, but that was ok, as long as he was a good friend. Then I met this guy a...
A. 9 July 2008: I know where you are coming from here, been there done it, bought the t shirt. Trouble is, the longer it goes on, the worse your self asteem will be. I dated a traditionally good looking guy, and got all the same problems you've had. Women that ... (read in full...)
How do I get over a friend who I can't contact or get any closure from?
Q. I am happily married to my best friend. There is nothing wrong between us. However, I had a good friend I met almost 5 years ago at college. Almost the whole time I knew "college guy" I was dating my current husband. I did have a crush on "college...
A. 9 July 2008: Hi
Just accept that he has moved on and sometimes people dont say goodbye when they do that.
We have all had friends that just dissappear. Usually thats just the way life goes and we dont give it much thought, because you had feelings for this guy... (read in full...)
How do you get rid of the memories?
Q. Hi, I would just like to ask if anyone knows how to forget about someone, and get rid of memories of someone they onced cared about? About a year and a half ago I very nearly got with the most fantastic girl i ever met - asked her out and she...
A. 8 July 2008: Time.
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
My husband caught me cheating for the third time. I can't help it. Would I be better "swinging" or with an open relationship?
Q. my husband has caught me cheating for the third time. i really love my husband but i cheat regularly. often an attractive man hits on me and i just can't resist and i am in bed with him. i explained this to my husband and i told him that i ...
A. 8 July 2008: The whole of your post sounds very selfish. Your poor husband. Have you honestly ever given much thought to how you would feel if he cheated on you? And what about the risks to all your sexual healths???
You say your husband will always be ther... (read in full...)
My Ex is Ruining Things Between Us
Q. dear cupid, my story starts in 2002 i met what i thought would be my future wife, within six months we had moved in together and was happy when we planned a pregnancy and she gave birth to my little boy!! i was so happy but soon after sh...
A. 7 July 2008: What a nightmare! Know where you are coming from, as 14 yrs ago, me and my kids dad (who i am no longer with) had a similar problem to you and your new girlfriend.
I was actually pregnant with our first child back then. His ex who had treated him ... (read in full...)
Why am I so moody, and how do I stop it? I'm scared of losing my boyfriend!
Q. I seem to get upset about every little thing, especially when it comes to my boyfriend of 6 months. I'm super sensitive to everything! I don't know what to do, because my bf is getting quite sick of me being upset/moody all the time. I never us...
A. 27 July 2007: First off have you started any new contraception recently, the hormone types? Because i cant take any of those, they give me horrendous mood swings.
Secondly are you feeling insecure about something but dont know why?
I was a nightmare for a year w... (read in full...)
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