Should we go on break because she doesn't trust me?
Q. My girlfriend and I have known each other many years, as friends for the most part. I recently decided to be open with her, about something I kept from her 3 years ago, when we were just friends. Naturally, this made her lose trust in me, as if I ...
A. 31 July 2008: Yes i was meaning this guy featured a couple of months ago, and you're back to the stage where you're being asked for a break.
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Should we go on break because she doesn't trust me?
Q. My girlfriend and I have known each other many years, as friends for the most part. I recently decided to be open with her, about something I kept from her 3 years ago, when we were just friends. Naturally, this made her lose trust in me, as if I ...
A. 31 July 2008: Hi again
And this has taken 2 months to happen? Doesn't sound like she's too happy with the relationship does it. Not a lot you can do about the fact she wants a break, but if someone else is involved i would be careful. She might well want back... (read in full...)
Pregnancy problems.
Q. im trying to get pregnant now for quite some time. i ovulated from 5/4 to 5/7/2008 and i had sex on 5/2 and 5/5 and 5/7 im experience light stomache cramps and dark nipples are these signs of pregnancy? i did both blood and urine tests on 5/13/200...
A. 22 June 2008: Yay!!! congrats! thats brilliant news.
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How do I avoid getting sucked back into the snake-pit?!
Q. Dear Cupid, Just yesterday I broke up with my ex. It seems to have been a long time coming. We always (Me ending it) broke up.. over stupid little fights. All the time! But then he would not leave me alone for a few days and i would cave. He was t...
A. 30 May 2008: Hi
Just keep telling yourself, you have a choice. Its not all about him. What he does is, he manipulates you because he knows he can. Then you're back in his web.
Usually it will be low self asteem that leaves us open to abuse. You can change t... (read in full...)
On again, off again with my online girlfriend, tomorrow night we decide what our status is... I need some advice to help me!
Q. hi, umm.. i have a gf, well, i donno if its a "real gf", we met through a website called bebo, its similar to facebook and myspace.. i live in new zealand, she does in australia, i'm 18 in college shes 17 in her senior year. we've known eac...
A. 30 May 2008: Er well sorry, i could dress it up in a pretty parcel and say what i think YOU want to hear, or i could say what I think, which is what i thought you posted the question for? Others opinions? Online relationships are chat friends, they cant even be ... (read in full...)
HOW can I finally get over my EX??????????????
Q. 9 yrs after divorce and I have been remarried for most of it. However,I still battle with being in love with my ex. I left him and he was devistated but I was young and went through something pyschologically where I just didn't like to be around ...
A. 29 May 2008: Probably because he is happy with his wife now? He was probably devestated all those years ago, but has got over you now. My ex, was devestated and i also saught counselling, then left him. we split about 8 yrs ago, he was on his own, apart from a ... (read in full...)
On again, off again with my online girlfriend, tomorrow night we decide what our status is... I need some advice to help me!
Q. hi, umm.. i have a gf, well, i donno if its a "real gf", we met through a website called bebo, its similar to facebook and myspace.. i live in new zealand, she does in australia, i'm 18 in college shes 17 in her senior year. we've known eac...
A. 29 May 2008: Just be chat friends with her. How can you seriously be anything else with someone that doesn't even live in the same country?
Thats crazy. Serious commitment issues going on here, either that or fear of proper real life relationships.
Real ... (read in full...)
Read this break up email from my bf, and tell me what it means, please!
Q. I got this break up email from my bf. What do you think it means? I know obviously it means he wants to break up, but do you think I have a chance to patch it back together with him? I still love him and I know we've had some problems typical ...
A. 29 May 2008: He doesn't want to date you again. I guess if you back off and be a friend to him and dont mention dating for a while, you might end up back together?
Sounds like you have scared him off. And are your mates just jealous or have they got valid reas... (read in full...)
Why does she treat me like dirt?
Q. I have been seeing a woman for 6 months, there have been good times and bad times, but overall there has been progress...and that is what keeps me in this relationship. However, I am burnt out and my heart is dying, and on the two occassions I pla...
A. 27 May 2008: Hi
6 months or 6 yrs? I cant imagine being with someone only 6 months and putting up with being treated like that. You should still be in the honeymoon period! Thats ludicrous. I am assuming you have low self asteem, because thats just unreal. You ... (read in full...)
A girl keeps messaging my husband - should I be suspicious?
Q. Dear Cupids, my hubby was on facebook when a chat popped up from 1 of his friends saying 'can u chat?'. He quickly got rid of the message and acted like he didnt care. A few mins later his messenger rang as it was this girl again but he just ...
A. 26 May 2008: Well its possible thats tosh. Like i said before, i am not totally up with facebook, but if someone popped up on my pc, asking if i wanted to chat, i would wanna know who it was and would ask them! Human nature surely. Unless you dont want someone ... (read in full...)
Are attractive women expected to be more aggressive with men than normal?
Q. Are attractive women expected to be more aggressive with men than normal? Most women love to be chased, so are we intimidating to men, or what's the deal?...
A. 26 May 2008: Not too sure what you mean, but the word on the street with guys i know, is that women who are possibly guaged as more attractive, tend to be a bit more arrogant, fussy, stuck up?
I happen to feel similar where good looking men are concerned. And ... (read in full...)
How do people feel about flirting with someone who already has a partner?
Q. How do people feel about flirting with someone who already has a partner? We are both in relationships but have not talked about our partners to each other before. I really like him a lot and can tell he likes me too. We only smile, stare, wink and ...
A. 25 May 2008: I think unless people actually want a complicated life and that knotty screwed up in the belly feeling, they are playing a dangerous game.
Very selfish to the unknowing partner too.
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How could my ex come home to me after being with other women? Could he have loved or cared for me at all?
Q. This is a question I suspect I already know the answer to but would like to ask anyway. My ex bf and I were together close to three years. He cheated on me in the beginning of the relationship. I forgave him and we moved on. I now found out th...
A. 24 May 2008: Nightmare. Well i guess there are guys out there, and ive had one of them myself, that had a use for everyone in their life. But it sounds like he possibly liked the stable home life, but wanted the thrills of something new too. Cake and eat it ... (read in full...)
I don't feel I can move on as I keep wondering if he just panicked and will come back! I'm lost and lonely!
Q. My boyfriend recently broke up with me and now i feel completely lost. We were together for just over 6 years since college and before we got together we were good friends. I have no idea what went wrong as we hadn't been arguing. It was only when ...
A. 24 May 2008: How horrible :o(
I bet its a blow to the system. Possibly he got engaged because he thought it might make everything ok, but obviously it wont.
He probably just needs to experience new people if you got together young. Doesn't help you though, ... (read in full...)
Is it normal after being in a relationship for a while for it not to feel so 'loved up'....?
Q. I'll keep this short and sweet. Is it natural to feel this way? I've been with my bf almost 2 years now, but our relationship isnt as wonderful as when it started out. we used to absolutely adore the time we spent together, but now we fight a little...
A. 24 May 2008: Nothing wrong at all. But maybe, just maybe, you both need to experience being with other people. You might be getting on each others nerves a little, which is why you are having the niggly arguments?
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I'm married, so how do I supress the feelings for another man? Is becoming friends an option?
Q. I am happily married for nearly a year with my partner of almost 12 years and I love him lots. I am worried about the feelings I started to get for a guy at work. I am almost certain that this is just an infatuation but I feel so bad about this, ...
A. 24 May 2008: You already know the answer to that i reakon. Its a dangerous game trying to be mates. You know you dont want it to stay at that. Its good that you are worried about hurting your hubby. Surely thats an indication that you still love him? Maybe ... (read in full...)
I'm 28 and dating a 20, why do people call me nasty names? I am not all that old am I?
Q. Hi, I am a 28 year old male (soon to be 29) from the UK. I know that it sounds shocking, but I am still a sexual virgin and have never had any sexual experience or girlfriends. Up until now, that is. Well, we haven't had sex yet...I have met this...
A. 24 May 2008: No you're not all that old, and she is not all that young either! Ignore them. Its not illegal, its not even like she's a teen!
Its none of their business and i would ignore them. Idiots.
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How could my ex come home to me after being with other women? Could he have loved or cared for me at all?
Q. This is a question I suspect I already know the answer to but would like to ask anyway. My ex bf and I were together close to three years. He cheated on me in the beginning of the relationship. I forgave him and we moved on. I now found out th...
A. 24 May 2008: Hi
I have no idea, it certainly doesn't make any sense does it. Did you really have no inklings anything strange was going on? And little clues? Not even instincts? Usually us women have good instincts.
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A cyber-affair and lies. How can I ever trust him after that?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for 3 years, we have lived together for 2 and up until last week, he was (minus a few stupid arguments)"Mr Perfect". last weekend, for whatever reason... i had a little look on his mobile phone. i saw a message from a...
A. 24 May 2008: Ive no idea, because i never could. To swear on your life? The bloke is an immature prat that doesn't deserve you anymore. He's obviously needing female attention and doesn't sound like he is anyone you will be able ro rely on again.
Ultimately the ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a pathological liar. The twist is that he is obsessed with me. Please help...
Q. This is long, but please, I need help. To put it simply, I found out yesterday that my boyfriend of 3 years is a pathological liar. He lied to me by telling me he had a tumor on the roof of his mouth and it was cancer, then he got surgery and it was ...
A. 24 May 2008: Just be there as ba mate. You cant change him, only he can. You could be storing a whole lot of trouble up for yourself getting involved with someone that is a pathalogical liar. Then, when he shows he's healed, see where it goes. Best of all worlds ... (read in full...)
When a new relationship falters, is it helpful or harmful to express our doubts?
Q. I met a lovely girl three weeks ago and we've been dating. We have slept together a number of times too. At first it was exciting and full of possibilities. After a week I even felt like telling her I loved her, but didn't. I'm increasingly ...
A. 23 May 2008: I think its a good idea to speak to her about it, and i also think its normal to think all those things, 3 weeks isn't long enough to know what could possibly happen between you 2. Thats why i had the best relationship ever with someone i had dated ... (read in full...)
He's still in love with his ex!
Q. Hi. just needing a little bit of advice. I've been getting close to this guy who is two years younger than me. We get on brilliantly and we've both told each other we like each other loads etc. we've had sex a few times. which i am fine with. ...
A. 21 May 2008: Hi
I think Lexilou got it spot on really. Well said.
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He's pretty possessive or controlling, I'm just wondering if I should worry about this?
Q. I'm almost 18 years old and my boyfriend is almost 19. My boyfriend and I started dating online about a year ago, and we finally met this month and it was great. He's an amazing person and we're very very much alike, and very very much in love. ...
A. 21 May 2008: Hi
Um, its not healthy. You dont talk to people of the oposite sex? How is that going to work then. Thats going to be near on impossible to pull off as time goes on. And why do you need to? If you trust each other, you can talk to who you like, you ... (read in full...)
Should we go on break because she doesn't trust me?
Q. My girlfriend and I have known each other many years, as friends for the most part. I recently decided to be open with her, about something I kept from her 3 years ago, when we were just friends. Naturally, this made her lose trust in me, as if I ...
A. 21 May 2008: Hi
Ive never known M.E to cause that so i dont know, but if someone i was dating was crushing on someone else, had been to the cinema with them and kissed them, i would say good bye. Maybe i'm missing something here though?
If she wants a break, b... (read in full...)
I made some mistakes which made him break up with me, and now he's been mean and very hurtful
Q. How can I hate someone who clearly doesn't love me anymore? I made some mistakes which made him break up with me, and now he's been mean and very hurtful, often disregarding my hurt when he says ulgy things or calls me names. It all was beca...
A. 21 May 2008: Some really good answers so far in here.
At the end of the day, you lied to him, and he cant get his head round that and may never do, which he knows deep down. I was in a similar relationship, although i was one that had been lied to. We did the ... (read in full...)
My son is on drugs...does love and patience really work or do I let him hit rock bottom???
Q. I am heartsick. My teen son has always been a gentle, quiet, bright yet strong and determined young man, with high marks and good goals, for his future. We had him in sports--soccer, snowboarding and golf. He always love electronics with a a ...
A. 20 May 2008: Terrible nightmare isn't it, and worse for you as your son is quite young. My brother is 25 and we have been through a nightmare trying to 'save' him, but its hard work! He was about 16 when it started. She had a lodger at the time, and the idiot ... (read in full...)
Her ex-boyfriend still has some hold. How do I break that hold?
Q. My girlfriend's ex-boyfriend seems to still have some hold over her, even after over a year now. He calls her about once a week and while she says she "hates when he calls", she does return his calls. She will text reply to him when we're sitting in ...
A. 20 May 2008: Hmmm tricky one. On the one hand, there is nothing wrong with having male friends if you are female, and the same for men to have female friends. Although its a tad more strange when you have had a physical relationship with said friend previously. ... (read in full...)
I've been having no strings sex with the ex, who I did not seem to be able to let go... until now?
Q. I've been separated almost a year and i have been having sex with the ex on and off. However, it has been almost 3 months no sex. I have met someone 3 weeks ago that i really like. My ex wanted to have sex last night and i had no desire too. Is ...
A. 20 May 2008: Hi
Certainly sounds like it. And if i was you, i wouldn't try analysing it, i would just quit the going nowhere sex with the ex and give the new guy a proper chance. I bet he would be gutted if at some point he found out the ex was still on the scen... (read in full...)
In it for the kids, how do I choose a life of my choice instead of a life for others??
Q. THIS IS WHERE I'M AT RIGHT NOW IN MY LIFE... QUOTES I FOUND ON LINE.. HOW DO I CHOICE A LIFE OF MY CHOICE INSTEAD OF A LIFE FOR MY CHILDREN? I can choose to stay married until the pain of staying married becomes greater than the pain of...
A. 20 May 2008: Not teaching my 2 how to love is a big worry actually. I had a good relationship with their father, but they were only 5 and 3 when we split, so too long ago to learn from it. similar to what you said, i chose a good father, and he wasn't a bad ... (read in full...)
In it for the kids, how do I choose a life of my choice instead of a life for others??
Q. THIS IS WHERE I'M AT RIGHT NOW IN MY LIFE... QUOTES I FOUND ON LINE.. HOW DO I CHOICE A LIFE OF MY CHOICE INSTEAD OF A LIFE FOR MY CHILDREN? I can choose to stay married until the pain of staying married becomes greater than the pain of...
A. 19 May 2008: I wish i knew the answer to this, because ive just spent the last couple of years avoiding getting out of something for the sake of mine! And it doesn't end pleasantly in the end i can tell you.
I will be interested to hear what other people say ... (read in full...)
Is this site legal?
Q. hi i no this isnt a relationship question but ive heard some other aunts talking about it before, is ******.com illegal in the UK? thanks xx [moderator comment: site name removed. No it's not illegal. Just inappropriate]...
A. 19 May 2008: Innapropriate question?
Site question?
Incomplete question?
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My match is 10 years younger, which worries me. Share your experience please, if you've lived a similar situation.
Q. Has any woman had a long-term relationship with a man at least 10 yrs younger than her, how did it go? i have met a very mature man that is 10 yrs younger than me and it is getting serious but i have some concerns about the age, i look very young ...
A. 19 May 2008: Hi
Yes i have dated a guy 10 yrs younger than myself. I was 31 when i met him. I'm sure if i didn't have children, it could of gone a long way, but even though at first it seemed to be great, we had allsorts of probelms and it only last a yr and ... (read in full...)
My ex and I were perfect, he wants me but can't guarantee a relationship, why?
Q. My ex and I split up 5 months ago. We were great together, we were totally comfortable with each other, in a way that I never have before, we had fun, made each other laugh, the sex was good. But for some reason, we made each other insec...
A. 19 May 2008: Because he gets on well with you, but just wants the sex. It sounds like you have a very good basis for a friendship, but nothing more. You say it was 'perfect'. It wasn't perfect was it, beacause you had insecurities?
If the guy is suggesting frie... (read in full...)
Our arguements are getting out of control is this a sign that the end is near?
Q. I have been with my partner for two years. We love each other very much. Throughout our relationship we always seem to get into arguments that sometimes just get out of control, it always seems to start because of something he says and the fact that ...
A. 19 May 2008: Hi
You are not compatible. Weather you go for counselling and maybe sort it out, it could work, who knows. Could be worth a try. But a lot of us have been in a similar situation, and it ends up nasty and you inevitably split. I guess it looks like... (read in full...)
Would pregancy via a second cousin risk a deformed child?
Q. I need to know if I fall pregnant by my second cousin would the baby be ok or could the baby have health problems...
A. 19 May 2008: The baby would be fine. Its not even illegal in the Uk. To the best of my knowledge anyway.
Google will let you know for sure.
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He cheats and he lies why cant he tell the truth?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for almost 3yrs. I know he has cheated on several occasion but he wont admit it he constantly lying to me and when i ask him things he cant even remember what he had told me before its just one story after the ...
A. 19 May 2008: I hate to say this but you are fighting a losing battle! He wont stop lying because he isn't mature enough for what you want yet. He's a compulsive liar to boot i expect!
This story sounds amazingly similar to a friend of mine. She only ever love... (read in full...)
I don't trust my children's father to be with them
Q. I have a boy, 7 and a girl, 9. I moved in September to another state so that I could take a teaching job. At the same time, I left the father of my children. This is the source of my problem. I have left the father of my children many times. ...
A. 18 May 2008: What a nightmare. If the guy is a drinker, then having the children shouldn't be an option. There is no chance of him going for that long without alcohol if he is dependant on it.
Thats a good enough reason in itself.
If he isn't working and you ... (read in full...)
Pregnancy problems.
Q. im trying to get pregnant now for quite some time. i ovulated from 5/4 to 5/7/2008 and i had sex on 5/2 and 5/5 and 5/7 im experience light stomache cramps and dark nipples are these signs of pregnancy? i did both blood and urine tests on 5/13/200...
A. 18 May 2008: Hi
You're certainly trying at the right times, so fingers crossed is all you can do! Might be a bit soon to test yet, so sit tight and wait longer. Atleast til the day you are due.
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I hate my boyfriend's smoking habit!
Q. bit of an awkward one this. has anyone got any ideas how to make someone sort out there appearance? for me its my fellas teeth. its embarassing but he has smoked since he was 14,hes now 41. his teeth are going brown and i cant bear the thought of ...
A. 15 May 2008: Difficult one, because i bet he's not interested in giving up smoking. I gave up, i do an ironing job, and my ex bloke, who is still a mate, thinks nothing of lighting up in MY car, which is risking my work as i pick up and deliver work in that car! ... (read in full...)
His ex-wife is now expecting his child-should I be happy for him?
Q. Hi, I am dating my boyfriend for about 6 months now. We are so much in love with each other... it was love at first sight and we both feel we are right together. He was married (divorced in the meantime) and already has a 2yo boy. His ex-wife got...
A. 13 May 2008: Tricky one :o(
I know what you mean about the feeling guilty bit. And wondering if he would be there if you weren't on the scene. But you really do need to remember that they were over before you came along, and if he tells you that, then trust him.... (read in full...)
What does love mean to you?
Q. This has more than likely been asked many times before but I don't feel like going through thousands of questions. Anyway I wanted to know what each of you thought love means to you....
A. 11 May 2008: Love is sharing. Not even thinking about it, just sharing everything. Soul mates. Someone that you click with on lots of levels. Share the the same morals. A person that 'wants' the same things in life that you do. If you put it like that. You could ... (read in full...)
I honestly never touched a woman's body while I was away working, and my g/f doesn't believe me.
Q. I've been dating this girl for 3 months, then on the 4th month we decided to live together. On the 5th month i went to Hawaii to work for 4 months (with continous communications, sending gifts and stuff to her). 2 weeks before i finished my 4 ...
A. 10 May 2008: Hi
Sounds like this girl was ready for the full commitment before you were and you met some girls while you were away. Which is cool! But it doesnt sound like you're quite ready to offer her what she is looking for now. It happens. Let her find mr r... (read in full...)
Is it possible I could be pregnant even though I've had my periods?
Q. I've had my periods over the past few months although they've been a bit irregular, however recently i'm not sure if i may be pregnant as it feels as though i am, and i'm sure i can feel it move. Could i be pregnant although i've had my peri...
A. 10 May 2008: Its possible to be pregnant and still have your periods. Only way to be sure is to do a pregnancy test.
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When will I know she's ready to have sex?
Q. Hi everyone. I've been dating this girl for nearly a year, we get along very well, finish each other's sentences and all that, lovey-dovey kind of couple.I swore I would not be like that in another relationship, but.. here we are, lol. Anyway here's ...
A. 10 May 2008: thats lovely to hear.so refreshing carry on like you are sex isnt that important.get wed and see wot happens.or you could have a normal life choice is yours... (read in full...)
A girl keeps messaging my husband - should I be suspicious?
Q. Dear Cupids, my hubby was on facebook when a chat popped up from 1 of his friends saying 'can u chat?'. He quickly got rid of the message and acted like he didnt care. A few mins later his messenger rang as it was this girl again but he just ...
A. 24 April 2008: Hi
Should you be suspicious? Yes, and no. Could be a stranger? Im not totally clued up on how facebook works even though i'm on it, albeit rarely!
But it could just be someone he chats to ocasionally, but didnt want to at the time.
If it concerns ... (read in full...)
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