I slept with my ex. I still love him, but I don't know why he is denying his feelings.
Q. I did something very wrong on tuesday night. Slept with my ex! He asked me to come around as friends and see him. then he asked for a cuddle. feelings between us were strong and one thing let to another. It was fantastic though. Felt just the sa...
A. 9 October 2008: Sorry to be blunt but people have helped you try to make sence of it before, but you didn't listen hunni. Everything everyone has said has been proved right. He is reeling you in, then when you show you care, he flings you back out again.
He's a hu... (read in full...)
Getting very mixed signals from him, I wonder if I should just ignore him all together?
Q. I had been out on a couple of dates with a guy I have known for a very long time. The third date involved him coming to my place for the weekend (he lived 60 miles away). We had a really nice weekend, went to the zoo, romantic dinners etc. As he ...
A. 26 September 2008: Maybe a gentle nudge, just so you get more feedback on the situation. Make a bit of effort to see if he will meet up again. Atleast you will know one way or the other.
C xxxx... (read in full...)
How do I break it to friends and family that I'm back with an ex they hate?!
Q. Hi I used to go out with this guy, who i really liked but he broke up with me a few weeks after me losing my virginity to him. I was angry at the time but got over it quite quickly!.....But my parents, family and close friends did not and still sp...
A. 25 August 2008: Well its your job to make them believe that. If you are sure he's a reformed character, tell them you're not daft, you wouldn't even think of getting back with him if he hadn't turned over a new leaf! Then keep your fingers crossed he doesn't let ... (read in full...)
How do I break it to friends and family that I'm back with an ex they hate?!
Q. Hi I used to go out with this guy, who i really liked but he broke up with me a few weeks after me losing my virginity to him. I was angry at the time but got over it quite quickly!.....But my parents, family and close friends did not and still sp...
A. 25 August 2008: You dont say why they hate him? Is it just because he finished with you and broke your heart? I guess thats understandable and they would be worried he would do it again. But it could of been worse and he cheated on you or was rough with you etc?
P... (read in full...)
I think my partner is an alcoholic....
Q. I apologise for the length of this. I think my partner has a drinking problem. We have been together for 3 years, we are both 23. My partner is very shy, she is on medication for anxiety problems and has consistently refused to seek cou...
A. 25 August 2008: Shes got a major alcohol dependancy problem, probably due to the fact she has low self asteem and it gives her the confidence to talk to people. But this old guy that drinks White lightening all day and swipes your smokes and beers isn't a friend. ... (read in full...)
Does anyone have advice on 'kitchen sex'?
Q. My lover and I have been exploring different places to have sex. He wants to try the kitchen. What info/advice do you have for kitchen sex? What are some fun things that can be done as part of kitchen sex? What positions work well? {Moderator not...
A. 25 August 2008: Just make sure the worktops are fixed to the cupboards properly!
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Is it because of a midlife crisis that my ex is with her?
Q. I posted a previous question on 8/19/2008 about me going out with a 40 yr old guy I am 29yrs old...we went out for 1.5 years and then we broke up he went back to his ex. He actually said he was confused about what he wanted and that he did not want ...
A. 25 August 2008: Sounds like as painful as it might be, you ae well out of it! Lots of drama, and the guy is 40? Alarm bells always right with me when blokes of 40+ end up dating 20 something girls. Not saying you're immature, just makes me wonder what someone of 40 ... (read in full...)
I'm in a 5 years long relationship and cheated on my girlfriend. I can't get this other girl out of my head. She has a boyfriend too. Any advice?
Q. Hi I'm 22 and in a 5year long relationaship, but recently a girl I used to have the hots for arrived back in town, so we met up and went for a drink, I walked her home and one thing led to another... anyway she text me the next day saying how g...
A. 25 August 2008: How exciting! And what a buz! But wait....you each are with other people!
What she wants is her cake and eat it. Girls can be like it too!
Yes its thrilling, but someone that likes the risky thrills like this in life, are a dangerous gamble t... (read in full...)
My girlfriend, who I truly love cheated on me and it really hurt, we broke up, got back together, but I can't trust her now, I am thinking of marrying her, but the cheating thing is worrying me to death, what to do??
Q. Hey everyone. I'm knew to this sight, but i need help. But I've known the love of my life for 4 years, and we've been dating on-off the entire time. I grew up being the popular/cool kid of the school and i dated a lot of girls before her, so she ...
A. 25 August 2008: Who knows if once a cheater always a cheater. Everyone is different. My uncle had an affair and split from my aunt for 3 years before they got back together and years later are still together again. I dont think he will cheat again, even though in ... (read in full...)
Do men really like large breasts, I am endowed and I am embarrassed about my chest, do men like them better than small breasts??
Q. one more question... do guys like girls with big boobs? i mean honestly because i have a set and sometimes i get slmost self concious about them....
A. 25 August 2008: Guy friends i know aren't bothered about boob size. As you get older you will realise men that are obsessed with boob size are pretty shallow and not worth your time anyway.
I'm small chested and always liked the fact that if someone got with me, ... (read in full...)
Could you explain to me about calories?
Q. Hey. Can anyone please tell me how calories work? Ive been going to the gym for a wile nou. 300 calories a day, is it engough, i dont see calories on any food packets? How many calories is one kg? Or is it totaly differant? I know nothing of calo...
A. 25 August 2008: Here in the Uk, everything seems to have calories listed on the packet now. And you can google fow many calories are in things.
But 300 calories isn't enough. Depends on all sorts of things like your height, what weight you want to lose etc, but ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my boyfriend who leaves me stranded at work and is meeting other women on dating sites?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend now for 2 years. He goes out when i am at work and leaves me there stranded ( we only have one vehicle). He is on many dating sites and always changes his password, when he figures i know to much to who (the other w...
A. 25 August 2008: Well thats what i would do....kick him out!
He isn't a great catch is he. You could do a lot better than an unreliable guy thats trying to cheat all the time.
If he's not happy with your sex life, he should communicate, not look elsewher... (read in full...)
We had unprotected sex today, what to do now?
Q. So..me and My Girlfriend Had Sex Today..It was good and all..Problem is..we did it Six Times...Nother Problem..they were all unprotected..and I know there's a possibility that she might be pregnant..I'm not scared or anything just worried..cuz my ...
A. 23 August 2008: levonorgestrel apparently its called in the States.
C xxxx... (read in full...)
We had unprotected sex today, what to do now?
Q. So..me and My Girlfriend Had Sex Today..It was good and all..Problem is..we did it Six Times...Nother Problem..they were all unprotected..and I know there's a possibility that she might be pregnant..I'm not scared or anything just worried..cuz my ...
A. 23 August 2008: Stops the egg and sperm fertilising in the first place as far as i know.
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Why are people so stressed and miserable?
Q. Why is everybody I see always so stressed and miserable? You only get one life,and its way too short to be anything but happy.why dont people realize this?...
A. 23 August 2008: You will be able to answer that question in a few yrs when you have to pay the mortgage, run a car, feed the kids, get them through school, clothe the kids, keep them safe, bath the kids, juggle work and parenting, learn from inevitable past ... (read in full...)
I think I want to leave my wife!
Q. I have been married for the past 14 years. We were both 19, pregnant, and pressured into this marriage. Not an excuse, just a back story. Now I am having several thoughts of leaving my wife. I have had a couple of little flings in the past three ...
A. 23 August 2008: Sounds like its pretty done and dusted from your side doesn't it. Wonder if your misses feels similar? She doesn't sound too happy just from what you say.
Lifes a bit short to not make the most of it, and if you only love her like a sister, that... (read in full...)
We had unprotected sex today, what to do now?
Q. So..me and My Girlfriend Had Sex Today..It was good and all..Problem is..we did it Six Times...Nother Problem..they were all unprotected..and I know there's a possibility that she might be pregnant..I'm not scared or anything just worried..cuz my ...
A. 23 August 2008: No one will be able to tell you that! Not even you yet. Get the morning after pill. Levonel. Available free at gp's or 25/30 quid in chemist. Job done. Can be used up to 3 days after. No side effects these days, 1 pill. The quicker its taken, the ... (read in full...)
I tell my fiancee I may move away and she breaks up with me. Do I assume she is not in love?
Q. I am a young man (22) whos' life's path may lead to moving across country. I tell my finance of two and a half years and she breaks the engagement up. How do I take this? Do I assume she isn't in love with me (which she constantly tells me she does) ...
A. 23 August 2008: It sounds like she is having a temper tantrum.
But if you are moving away, whats she suppose to do but finish it? Maybe she doesn't want a long distance relationship?
C xxxx... (read in full...)
Have I miscarried?
Q. Hi Im 6 weeks pregant. That is confurmed And last night i had a little blood show, bright pink colour My man look it up on the net and it is comon for pregant women to bleed a bit I asking now cause it now the next night it 4;30am right now and i ...
A. 22 August 2008: Its possible hun. Although i miscarried many moons ago, at about 6 weeks and to be honest, it was agony, like an extremely painful period, and then lots of blood & an obvious lump of jelly with ...well thats probably a bit graffic sorry, but it ... (read in full...)
Should I stay with my (online) boyfriend or be with my friend who lives by me?
Q. Alright, well I am in a relationship right now with this guy I met online a while ago... There's this one guy who I am friends with, and I just found out today that he likes me, and I like him as well... I don't know what to do. I can't decide if...
A. 22 August 2008: I would go for the real life guy!
4 yrs? Thats crazy. And its not like you have ever met, imagine if you waited 4 yrs to meet him and it turns out you dont get along.
This is a no brainer.
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Is it normal to be friends with an ex, to send her messages, etc?
Q. Should I be worried or is it nothing, but is it normal to be friends with your ex and when I say friends I don't mean when you see them in the street you just say hi I mean like emailing via msn or texting each other? My boyfriend said he was frie...
A. 22 August 2008: Yes i think it happens. But usually when one moves on, the txt etc slow down a fair bit. Thats life.
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My cheating ex compares me to his other women. Should I walk away from him?
Q. It's been four months since finding out that my partner had been cheating on me with numerous different women. At the point of finding out I was relieved I wasn't going crazy because I had suspected he had been up to no good for sometime but ...
A. 22 August 2008: He is worried now you turn right round and will cheat on him back! So he will put you down enough to make your confidence very low, thus securing you thinking you wont do better and stick with him.
Just a guess mind you.
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Both my new guy and I like to be sexually dominant.
Q. When I have sex I like to dominate. This used to make my ex go crazy (in a good way), but it doesnt turn my new guy on at all, he prefers me to be the submissive one. What do I do? He is perfect in every way apart from this, but the sex just isn't ...
A. 22 August 2008: Take it in turns!
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My boyfriend doesn't want me to have contact with my ex, or with guys on line.
Q. I've been dating this guy for 5 months, he doesn't like me to have any contact with my ex, even texting because his ex cheated on him with her ex. I don't talk to my ex very often, he text me once in a while to see how I'm doing and that's the end ...
A. 22 August 2008: I would say your guy is in the wrong here. If you and your ex only say hi now n then and ask how each other are, there is nothing wrong with that and your boyfriend cant expect to bring his ex baggage into this relationship. Its a dangerous thing to ... (read in full...)
My man is a people pleaser. How do I approach solving this?
Q. My partner is a wonderful man however I have realised he is a people pleaser. In saying this he will go out of his way to do things for me or buy me things however I feel his resentment when we have a discussion and he throws all this back in my ...
A. 22 August 2008: So he's probably co dependant? Might be a good idea to see a counsellor together to try and sort it out. There is a reason he is that way and usually they are complex reasons that he probably wont even know himself yet.
But i know how hard it can ... (read in full...)
Is her new relationship a mistake? She doesn't know he is a lying cheater!
Q. I need opinions on a new relationship a friend has gotten into! She is starting to date this guy from work since the very end of July, however, she doesnt know that he is a lying cheating type, but I do. He has had at least 5 other women in t...
A. 22 August 2008: You cant tell people who to see. They never listen, and why would they i guess. She obviously really likes this guy. All you can do is mention that he's a bit of a womaniser and you dont think he will be the type she can rely on. The rest ultimately ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend likes watching S&M but not doing it. Where's the thrill?
Q. My question is bout my boyfriend. We are both the same age. On the surface he looks just like any other guy, has a job and generally gets on with things. Very outgoing and great with people. Grew up in a normal family that likes each other and still ...
A. 21 August 2008: I used to like the thought of my boyfriend pleasuring another woman, there was definate conditions to it, like we didn't know the girl in question. Would i of liked it in actual practise? No.
Fantasies are just that, fantasies. It doesn't mean we w... (read in full...)
He says he wants to be my boyfriend, but he also seems like a bit of a womaniser and treats us more like friends with benefits. What kind of relationship is this?
Q. Im seeing this guy for a month. He is crazy about me, well he sounds like a player, you know those people that fear commitment. I am also not looking for anything serious at the moment as im slowly moving out of a relationship. Well, i never pushed ...
A. 21 August 2008: So he is basically not up for anything but a bit of fun.
All the signs of a playa, just trust your instincts and expect nothing more.
He doesn't sound like he is mature enough for a grown up relationship yet. Getting his confidence boost from gir... (read in full...)
Questions on squirting
Q. Hi Guys! I've been learning to squirt. When i play with toy on my g spot i do feel like pee and just before orgasm i feel like i have to push, i push with my mussels. But no liquid coming out. I do have an orgasm, but no ejaculation. Why is that? ...
A. 21 August 2008: Not everyone is a gusher. Dont beat yourself up about it! Accept it. Its a lot tidier!
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I came home and found my husband in bed with our doctor! What now?
Q. My name is Christina and I am a 30-year-old woman, my husband is 32, and we've been together for 10 years, married for the last 5 out of those 10 years together. I came home from work one night about a week ago to find him in bed with our GP/doct...
A. 21 August 2008: Why haven't you told your mum why???? You go to your practice and speak to the practice manager and report your gp! Major breach of the code of ethics going on here! You owe them nothing in keeping this secret.
Then you make sure your husband stay... (read in full...)
I am in love with this guy and have been dying to have him back ever since we split. I'm not sure how he feels based on the conversation we had. And insight? I don't know what to do next?
Q. Hello, I am 27 yrs old and my BF of 2.5 years broke up with me in June. I decided that if he were really giviing up on our realtiohsip that it would be best that he not contact me ever. We had been having some trouble since the start of the yea...
A. 21 August 2008: First off you both are playing games. All this crap about still caring enough to want to see you happy. Tosh. But i tell you what, all the while you are playing each other, there is a chance either of you will meet someone else and move on like ... (read in full...)
I want to have a baby to my boyfriend but I'm scared of how my dad will react
Q. Hi im 18 and i really want a baby. The problem is i live in my dads house. My boyfriend of 5 years who is turning 21 in oct wants a baby to me too but is afraid my dad will shoot him and im afraid my dad will hate me. I have even been thinkin of ...
A. 21 August 2008: Really you need to sort living together first? But ultimately you are 18 and can do what you like. I remember when i told dad i was pregnant with my first. He said how did that happen! It must of been eating those new potatoes! Dont ask me why he c... (read in full...)
Getting very mixed signals from him, I wonder if I should just ignore him all together?
Q. I had been out on a couple of dates with a guy I have known for a very long time. The third date involved him coming to my place for the weekend (he lived 60 miles away). We had a really nice weekend, went to the zoo, romantic dinners etc. As he ...
A. 21 August 2008: Why not just stay mates then? It doesn't sound to me like he is the user type, having said what he said the next day. When we are drunk we do some daft things dont we. Why think he was testing you? If he isn't ready for a relationship and he knows... (read in full...)
I had encounters, with a man I met on the internet, only for sex, I saw him, in the area where I live, my boyfriend does not know I did this, should I tell him before the internet guy, or someone else does?
Q. two years ago I met up with someone off the internet for sex. He said he was a virgin and so I agreed to be his first. We met up 4 or 5 times just for sex. I thought nothing more of it until now... My boyfriend and I have recently moved to a small ...
A. 21 August 2008: You dont say if you was with your guy 2 yrs ago when it happened or not? I'm assuming you were. If so, is there a real danger that your guy will find out? If there isn't, and you know you would never cheat again, then i'm of the belief that if confe... (read in full...)
We approached our daughter-in-law, about her children being distressed, over their father's verbal abuse, she distorted the situation, which resulted in a rift with our son, does anyone have any advice to help repair the situation?
Q. Almost a year ago, on a visit to our son and his family, his 2 children aged 12 and 13 asked us for help in dealing with their dad. The boy in particular was having a difficult time, being snapped at and criticised relentlessly (we had already seen ...
A. 21 August 2008: How awful. You sound like such brilliant grandparents! I'm not too sure how the law stands where grandparents are concerned myself, but i would see if you can get some sort of order in place to see them. I'm sure they were talking about getting more ... (read in full...)
I have become very troubled by my husband actions, he has lied and cheated, I don't love him anymore and want him to leave, he refuses, even threatens to burn the house down with me and the kids inside, what do I do, I am frightened?
Q. Can any one help me! I have been married for 3 yrs and have 4 children from another relationship. when me and my husband first meet everything was great and he was fine about my children, but since we got married he has changed. he is always pic...
A. 21 August 2008: Please get in touch with SHELTER! For your childrens sakes you need to get outside help for this. You cant go to the police and tell them all this i dont think, because he hasn't actually carried out any threat from what you have said so far. But... (read in full...)
Two year relationship with a man I care for very much, but who lies and confuses me constanly, what should I do, move on or wait for him to fulfill his many promises, broken many times?
Q. Two years ago I started a relationship with a man a worked with who I thought I knew. I really, really admired this guy professionally and when he asked me on a date I was over the moon. Within a couple of months he moved in to live with me. I dont ...
A. 21 August 2008: There is no 'future' with him. And he displays all the signs of a married guy! But thats just going on what you have put there in your question. You know deep down you are heading for heartbreak dont you anyway. And its soul destroying when someone ... (read in full...)
If I show interest, guys don't. If I back off, they come on strong. Why?
Q. I seem to have a re-occuring problem with all the guys i have dated. 19 years old and so far, all the guys ive dated seem to be so keen in the beguining when im not so sure about them as i am geting to knwo them. Therefore, i am not all over them ...
A. 21 August 2008: Not all guys are like it, just playas. Thats a sign of a playa or a messer. They like the chase, but once they have the girl, they lose interest. I have a mate like it, i told him thats a bit worrying really and he's like is it?? Der.
You have just... (read in full...)
Why do girls "settle" in relationships?
Q. I've never quite understood why some people seem to settle for certain relationships....case in point: one of my best friends is in a relationship in which her bf was caught almost going across the country to meet up with his ex...he didn't t...
A. 21 August 2008: Usually because they cant be on their own and anyone is better than no one. Open to being taken advantage of in that case.
Your mates guy sounds like an ex of mine, nice guy, but slippery as hell. Deception, secretive and lots of edges to them whic... (read in full...)
I think I'm in love with my wife!
Q. Dear all, This is in response to the many posts I have read about people who are in love/lust with a forbidden fruit such as sister in law. I think Im in love with my wife, we have known each other for 3 years and been married for one but I st...
A. 21 August 2008: I agree with mcbirdie.
This is ultimately a site people post on when they have problems.
If its all good in the hood for you, DONT go reading posts on here man! Hehe
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I slept with my ex. I still love him, but I don't know why he is denying his feelings.
Q. I did something very wrong on tuesday night. Slept with my ex! He asked me to come around as friends and see him. then he asked for a cuddle. feelings between us were strong and one thing let to another. It was fantastic though. Felt just the sa...
A. 21 August 2008: He's a user, but not sure about a barsteward.
He's said he doesn't want anything more than friendship (with the occasional shag thrown in by the looks of it) and only you can control if that happens or not. Dont let yourself be used if he's said... (read in full...)
As a man I just can't resist all these beautiful ladies! Which one do I choose?
Q. I started dating a co-teacher at my school 3 months ago, I seduced her the first time we went out and started making trips back to my house with her even during working hours. The thing is that I already had a girl friend working in a nearby city ...
A. 21 August 2008: You cant have what you want this time so its made you angry?
Haha ok this thread is a hoax. No one can be so dysfunctional in real life i'm sure
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I have a lot of trauma from my last abusive relationship even though I've tried my best to recover. Any suggestions?
Q. Hi, I came on here before and got some good balanced advice which was really helpful so I've come back again to ask about a problem. I feel really stuck ... in February my partner of 5 years walked out on me whilst I was unwell (it since transp...
A. 21 August 2008: Its horrible isn't it when we feel like we have lost our personality. And in a way we have. But it will be found again. I spent 2 yrs with someone i adored and when we split, and it was my choice for various reasons, i was a lost soul. I missed him ... (read in full...)
As a man I just can't resist all these beautiful ladies! Which one do I choose?
Q. I started dating a co-teacher at my school 3 months ago, I seduced her the first time we went out and started making trips back to my house with her even during working hours. The thing is that I already had a girl friend working in a nearby city ...
A. 21 August 2008: You're a playa basically then. And as soon as they decide they dont want you, it turns you on so you are off chasing them again.
I feel for you, its going to take a lot to work through that personality trait.
But its a shame you haven't got the ... (read in full...)
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