Is he taking advantage of me?!
Q. Is this taking advantage? I have lent someone money, they are my best friend and he needed help, and the deal was to pay back once a month but this month he couldn't afford it so I said it was ok to miss this month and he was very grateful but now...
A. 11 August 2008: No you weren't! Hopefully he will learn to treat people with a bit more respect. Depending on what sort of person he is. No one has the right to be out on the piss when they owe someone money. End of. And you need to ask yourself how his mate owes ... (read in full...)
Did I fall in love with a slut without knowing it?
Q. Alright, My girlfriend and I sort of met one night while we were both out drinking, we ended up having sex that night, either of us knew anything about each other really more than our names. Yes, a one night stand. We both were extremely dr...
A. 10 August 2008: Hey dont sweat about it. I am 37 and have partied like there's no tomorrow in the last 7 yrs. It doesnt mean i am not ready now to settle down and put all that meaningless crap behind me and want to find Mr Right. I cant think of anything worse now ... (read in full...)
Has anyone stayed friends with an ex?
Q. Hi I would like to know of any success stories of keeping friends with an ex. Me and my ex wouldn't work and split a while ago. Its about as civilised as needs to be now i think, and we are both pretty much sorted as singletons and moving onto gett...
A. 9 August 2008: Hmmm well i think we fall somewhere in the middle of what you have said. I think we have some kind of connection still, but its very limited and are both aware that we just wouldnt work. We have been through the rough times after, slagging each oter ... (read in full...)
His ended his marriage - but won't move out?
Q. i am madly in love with a married man who has young children, his marriage was on the rocks long before i came along we were friends to begin with and we had alot in common as well as mutual friends,. when i realised he had feeling for me i backed ...
A. 9 August 2008: Yes i would agree with smiles there. He wont like you dating other people. But try not to use it as a battering ram because yes, it might hurry him along, but unless he is ready to be hurried along, it wont help in the long run. If someone isn't ... (read in full...)
He knows I don't want a friend with benefits, and if he doesn't want a relationship, why all the mixed signals?
Q. About two months ago, I made out with a friend of mine, whom I have known for more than 20 years, while we were abroad on holiday together. Before this happened, I had never thought of him as more than a friend. When we talked about it, he told me ...
A. 9 August 2008: Hard as its going to be, i think you need to stop him physically touching you in any way, tell him once and for all that you dont want a casual relationship, dont tell him anything about love, and make sure you just stay friends, and hope that you ... (read in full...)
Why are horrible people happier?!
Q. at school there is this one girl who is centre of attention. shes pretty and popular. however, she is downright mean. the other day she thought it would be funny to spill a cup of hot chocolate into my desk that had some of my belongings. i knwo she ...
A. 9 August 2008: I have an 11 yr old daughter that says exactly the same things as you. The one girl in class that has all the other girls worshipping her. Jade asks me why its not like that for her. All i can think is its confidence. But at the end of the day you ... (read in full...)
I'm confused about the relationship status with my ex. He seems so cold...
Q. I don't know what my ex really wants anymore. I've never been so caught up with anyone before and it's a terrible first time. My ex is attached to this girl for about 10 months now and he is still in constant contact with me(We broke up in 2006...
A. 9 August 2008: I think bendygirl is spot on personally. I would sever all ties. Beacuse it sounds like in the last 2 yrs you have adted other people, but never moved on from him. All the time you are in contact, you wont be happy if you meet someone or stay ... (read in full...)
His ended his marriage - but won't move out?
Q. i am madly in love with a married man who has young children, his marriage was on the rocks long before i came along we were friends to begin with and we had alot in common as well as mutual friends,. when i realised he had feeling for me i backed ...
A. 9 August 2008: You have some very wise friends.
What a nightmare situation. I'm sure his marriage has been over for some time by the sounds of it. Its just a shame it wasn't resolved before you two got together. Ive been in a similar situation myself when i met ... (read in full...)
Does he hate me? Am I kidding myself?
Q. I was dating a guy for 9 months. He has just come out of an on off 2 year relationship with a girl who tried every trick in the book to get him back. He ended up sleeping with her a number of times when we were seeing each other, but each time, told ...
A. 9 August 2008: This was a non starter from the off. The guy didn't know what he wanted, sleeping with her, going on mini breaks, its all tosh. You dont need to take an ex on a mini break to say goodbye. Because you loved him, he played you like a fiddle. He has ... (read in full...)
When I am without him I am sick over him and when I am with him I hate him - why can't I LEAVE him?
Q. I am 23 years old and have gone out with this guy since I was 18. Like most relationships we started out really happy and so in love. But as time went on I discovered he is bipolar and has a drug problem. He's been in rehabs and stuff and sees a ...
A. 9 August 2008: Just read Counry womans answer. Very good advice.
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
What's your view? I don't want to believe I got played...
Q. Kinda long..sorry..I met this really cute guy at a night club. We danced last few songs. Got his number. A few days later I go to his place. We kiss and hug (didn't hit 3rd base), but after we talked and laughed for a few hours. I then saw him again ...
A. 9 August 2008: Doesnt sound totally like a player to me, you have said anything specific to say anyway.
Could just be one of those guys that likes you to txt first, atleast at the start, when you get to know each other a bit more, that might well change. He coul... (read in full...)
When I am without him I am sick over him and when I am with him I hate him - why can't I LEAVE him?
Q. I am 23 years old and have gone out with this guy since I was 18. Like most relationships we started out really happy and so in love. But as time went on I discovered he is bipolar and has a drug problem. He's been in rehabs and stuff and sees a ...
A. 9 August 2008: Because your addicted. Look up addictive relationships. Its not just drugs, gambling, booze that people are addicted to.
One day he will dump you, and you will feel even worse. Why wait til then? Do it now, do the cold turkey, and atleast have the ... (read in full...)
Should I ask my doctor if he's married or let him keep flirting?
Q. To make a long story short. My doctor and I are attracted to one another. I notice everytime he examies me he takes his strong hands and rub up and down my arm four to five times and it feels so damn good. Another thing I notice was the strong ...
A. 9 August 2008: Over here in the Uk there is a code of ethics for doc/patient r.ships. Not sure what the deal is there. But we all fancy our doc dont we???? Thats where it should stay though. The guy could lose his job, and i doubt he will want that, they earn shed ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about my ex. What should I do?
Q. I've been split up with my ex for about 2 months now and she has started seeing someone else but whereas when we split up we talked all the time, now i'm lucky if i get a text replied to. The person she with now has told her not to have any contact ...
A. 9 August 2008: You're not worried about her, you are feeling rejected. It sucks but its over between you and eventually one of you was going to move on with someone else.
Stay strong and find someone new.
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
I'm afraid that this girl is going to ruin my life, and there doesn't seem anything I can do to stop it! Please help.
Q. Hey all! Me and my girlfriend were going out for three months when i found out she was cheating on me. We talked it over and decided to stay together. We continued going out for another three months and then she dumped me for a different guy (not ...
A. 9 August 2008: Get the restraining order. There is nothing worse when you start dating a guy and his ex keeps being a pain in the but txting at stupid oclock in the night. Get the order and atleast then any girls you meet will see that you have done your bit to ... (read in full...)
Do you have or know any husband who can reform or change his unfaithful ways after 20 years of marriage?
Q. Do you have or know any husband who can reform or change his unfaithful ways after 20 years of marriage? My husband and I are very intimate even though he has to have his short outside affairs for years. He likes to play his little games of conq...
A. 9 August 2008: Guys giving you attention doesn't faze your hubby cuz he knows you wont leave him. Boy oh boy what a lucky man to have that security. We all want that dont we. If you know you wont leave him, there isn't anything to say really. Its a shame your self ... (read in full...)
My ex got together with a good friend of mine but now he sends me a message saying he misses me!?
Q. my ex boyfriend recently got together with a good friend of mine but now sends me an email saying he misses me. what should i say? ...
A. 9 August 2008: Zip, Zilch, Nothing.
Shame its not working out with the friend ey.
C xxxx... (read in full...)
My ex is dating a younger man. I still have feelings for her and I'm concerned about our children. Thoughts?
Q. I have just found out my Ex who is 31 is dating a man 21 years old. We have 2 children that were intruduced to him weeks after we separated. He stays a night over there and I am sure he watches them when she needs free time. I do have concerns since ...
A. 9 August 2008: Yes i know what you mean. Luckily the young guy i dated only got loud when he had been drinking and that would be when my kids were with their dad and not present, MAJORITY OF THE TIME. Even thats not good, and looking back i wish i had been more ... (read in full...)
Is he taking advantage of me?!
Q. Is this taking advantage? I have lent someone money, they are my best friend and he needed help, and the deal was to pay back once a month but this month he couldn't afford it so I said it was ok to miss this month and he was very grateful but now...
A. 8 August 2008: How much money are we talking here?
There is such a thing as small claims court, for amounts under 5k, and you dont have to have the loan in writing. You both go along and the judge decides if he owes you money based on the facts. If he doesn't go, ... (read in full...)
My ex is dating a younger man. I still have feelings for her and I'm concerned about our children. Thoughts?
Q. I have just found out my Ex who is 31 is dating a man 21 years old. We have 2 children that were intruduced to him weeks after we separated. He stays a night over there and I am sure he watches them when she needs free time. I do have concerns since ...
A. 8 August 2008: I would be concerned too. In fact i will go as far as to say i was in your exes shoes back 4 yrs ago. Not the violence though i hasten to add. But i met a guy 10 yrs younger than me, he was 22. My kids dad is actually 10 yrs older than me and ... (read in full...)
We broke up and he's changed for the better but has someone new. What's going on?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend of 6 1/2 years 2 months ago because I was tired of him not having any goals (no GED, dead-end job) and he was never affectionate towards me. Once we broke up we still talked about he was affectionate but it felt so ...
A. 8 August 2008: Rebound relationships are never moving on in my opinion. They're just co dependant people that need someone, anyone in there life even if its just for sex. Unless of course the relationship has been dead to the one moving on for quite some time ... (read in full...)
I'm having a hard time getting over my ex, what can I do?
Q. Its been a solid 6 months since the last time I wrote here, and unfortunately, I still have the same problem. and yes, I see it as a problem. I am still not over my first love. I admit that its not as bad as it used to be anymore, yes. I find myse...
A. 8 August 2008: You sound really wise. Its amazing how many people stare into the bottom of a pint glass and think that will make it all better. It wont. Sounds like you are doing all the right things, working, socialising, sports. The only thing i would think you ... (read in full...)
I had a great husband of thirty years who passed away, now I just left an eight month relationship, where my boyfriend lied, cheated and watched porn, others have been just as bad, what has happened to men, I am losing faith in them, can anyone expla
Q. i just came out of a relationship of 8 months, I have found the man i liked , likes porn, also cheats, and lies,I couldn't trust him at all. I have also found this in lots of other men, What is my problem, or what is their problem i am turning ...
A. 8 August 2008: Hey you're not alone in that thinking, i recently started thinking like you, i was with a wonderful man for 9 yrs i met through work, and had 2 children with him. Im 8 yrs on from that and only meet messers. But i came to the conclusion i am hanging ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend stole money from my parents' house. I'm not sure what to do.
Q. I have found out my b/f has stole a lot of money from my parents house and lied to me about it. My parents know and wont let him in the house ever and are debating to call the police! I love him but I cant trust him....not sure what to do. Can ...
A. 7 August 2008: Honey we've all loved someone that turned out to be a right little shite and our instincts told us to get out but we didn't. Its no better when the end comes later on, which it inveriably will. But you do need to get your head round this one ... (read in full...)
We're both married and both completely and utterly besotted by each other.
Q. I have fallen in love with someone and don't know if I should ruin everyone's lives by going off with him. We're both married and both completely and utterly besotted by each other. We are not having an affair but he wants to leave his wife for us ...
A. 7 August 2008: Grass could be greener on the other side kind of thing? Sometimes is, not for everyone. I think its possible to love the same person for many many yrs yes. I think it just changes and you need to accept those changes and still work at it. But it ... (read in full...)
Whenever he's single and we meet up, we always end up sleeping together... then we go back to being friends. It hurts a lot!
Q. Last September I started seeing someone that I really liked. Because we didn't see each other enough, we decided to end it. Since this he has been in a relationship with another girl, and been seeing another girl, obviously not at the same tim...
A. 7 August 2008: This is a no brainer really. You're his fall back. Confidence boost when the relationships he's tried have failed. And a break up always leaves us feeling a tad uneasy whoevers doing the ending.
Your his convenience. His confidence boost to remi... (read in full...)
My boyfriend stole money from my parents' house. I'm not sure what to do.
Q. I have found out my b/f has stole a lot of money from my parents house and lied to me about it. My parents know and wont let him in the house ever and are debating to call the police! I love him but I cant trust him....not sure what to do. Can ...
A. 7 August 2008: I'm sorry but ive got 2 kids and even had the change pot empty at times, but never even thought of stealing. Adults need to of learnt to a certain extent how to plan ahead and budget. If he isn't working, he should be. If he's got into debt, there ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend just quit smoking, will he gain weight?
Q. My boyfriend just quit smoking a week ago. He is really skinny right now, will he start gaining weight? I want him to because he is so skinny and I'm not attracted to him that much anymore....
A. 7 August 2008: Smoking speeds the matabolism up. Weight gain when stopping smoking is rarely to do with eating more, unless you are daft and pig out in place of every cigarette you used to have. Its because the matabolism slows down. Hopefully he will kick the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend stole money from my parents' house. I'm not sure what to do.
Q. I have found out my b/f has stole a lot of money from my parents house and lied to me about it. My parents know and wont let him in the house ever and are debating to call the police! I love him but I cant trust him....not sure what to do. Can ...
A. 7 August 2008: I am a bit amazed you're even asking. Your rents are probably wondeing what they did so wrong to have you grow up to fall for bad boys. Do you really want to be with someone capable of that?
C xxxxxx... (read in full...)
Did I fall in love with a slut without knowing it?
Q. Alright, My girlfriend and I sort of met one night while we were both out drinking, we ended up having sex that night, either of us knew anything about each other really more than our names. Yes, a one night stand. We both were extremely dr...
A. 6 August 2008: Thats why people say its better to get to know someone before getting into a relationship. Although i dont think how many previous partners she had makes any odds.
Past is past. Shame to ruin something you say is so good over something like this... (read in full...)
We broke up as he still had feelings for his ex and also depression problems, is he now acting TOO friendly or is it an impression?
Q. Seeing a guy a few months ago for around 1 month, he still had feelings for ex so we finished, he always said he did really like me but did not want to hurt me as he also has depression problems and did not want to let me down. Anyway, we wor...
A. 6 August 2008: Personally i think you are playing a dangerous game. Its a gamble that might pay off, but quite likely he still has feelings for his ex and it would be very unlikely he would fall in love with anyone else til his issues there are resolved. And in ... (read in full...)
Did I ruin my chances by sleeping with him too soon?
Q. I met this guy who's 24, im 21. he is such good fun and we get on so well, the only problem is i slept with him second time i met him. I have seen him twice after this just to meet for drinks. He texts me most days or calls. But he hasnt asked me ...
A. 6 August 2008: Some guys dont like girls making themselves too available to them. Or throwing themselves at them. Works the other way round too. Some women dont like guys that are too easy either.
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
I need help to move on from my ex!
Q. i been stressing over my exboyfriend that i was with for 6years we broke up around 6months ago but now im with some other guy we been 2gether for about 5months yes i care about him but deep inside me i still have feeling about my ex whatshould i do ...
A. 6 August 2008: Sounds like you got into a rebound relationship. A month isn't long enough to stop loving someone and rediscover you, before getting into something with someone else.
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
I'm heartbroken and a doormat when it comes to my ex. What can I do?
Q. I dont really know where to start, im just heartbroken and I need to talk to someone...so here goes Me and my ex have been on and off for about 10 years (im 28 hes 31), we have had about 4 breakups in that time, mainly because he wants to be sing...
A. 6 August 2008: As little contact as possible is always the best way forward, as long as you stick with it. Letting him know its only your son thats keeping you 2 in contact is the best way forward
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
We went out. We made out. He ran out. Weird or what?
Q. Easy Question Hard Answer? What to do! I met this guy he called me and we went out, had a great time. Then he never calls again? Saying he has to go out of town in a couple weeks and will be gone for 3 weeks an maybe we will hang out when he gets ...
A. 5 August 2008: No doesn't sound weird, sounds quite a familiar story, like a jerk that wanted his leg over. Nothing more.
Sorry.
C xxxx... (read in full...)
I was going to meet an online guy for sex and I think my boyfriend is controlling!
Q. hi,i need help. my bf is jealous and controling. For over one year he is constantly finding my dating profiles and complains. He has given me an ultimatum,which i find petty. All i do is have sexy chats and send each other pics. I was going to meet ...
A. 5 August 2008: If this wasn't a wind up, i would say leave him and move on for his sake.
c xxxxxx... (read in full...)
I'm heartbroken and a doormat when it comes to my ex. What can I do?
Q. I dont really know where to start, im just heartbroken and I need to talk to someone...so here goes Me and my ex have been on and off for about 10 years (im 28 hes 31), we have had about 4 breakups in that time, mainly because he wants to be sing...
A. 5 August 2008: I know you are talking sense, im in such a state, im scared my poor little boy will suffer coz all I do is cry, I try to stay busy but I just break down all the time..
Its best to try and keep it under wraps most the time in front of kids, bu... (read in full...)
We have been breaking up and making up for four years but I have had enough..help!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been dating my boyfriend for four years. We have had a lot of trust issues in the past. The other day i hung out with an old guy friend of mine, i got really drunk. Apparently while intoxicated i spoke to my boyfriend on the...
A. 5 August 2008: Dysfunctional relationship alert ey. How exausting being on that rollercoaster for 4 yrs! Emily has said whats best to do. I agree. Stay very strong, life is a lot better out there, you'll see!
C xxxxxx... (read in full...)
Nice guys always finish last?
Q. Hi all, This question has been tearing me apart time and time again. Please bear with me, as this will be a long post. Is it true that, no women will ever want to be with a nice guy? I don't consider myself 100% nice, I am not overly r...
A. 5 August 2008: My mum saw her dad do that to her mum a lot when she was a child, and my mum is one of the best people in the world, and was and is the best mum too. So yes, that can actually make you a better person yourself.
You sound alright to me. Where you ... (read in full...)
Nice guys always finish last?
Q. Hi all, This question has been tearing me apart time and time again. Please bear with me, as this will be a long post. Is it true that, no women will ever want to be with a nice guy? I don't consider myself 100% nice, I am not overly r...
A. 4 August 2008: I think you are partly right. Lots of girls do like a bad guy. I know a guy that preaches to everyone how nice he is, yet lies once he's actually dating them, likes his booze and mates, basically is a jack the lad and is definately a womanizer, even ... (read in full...)
When will I find a true love?
Q. When will I find a true love?...
A. 4 August 2008: When you love you, and are happy in your own skin, and are self sufficiant. (of course you're then at risk of never wanting to settle down lol) Otherwise you will make bad judgements, settle for just anyone and never have true fullfilling love.
C... (read in full...)
My main issue is that I'm rude and brutally honest... But I want to work someone else into my life. Any advice?
Q. Lets see where to begin here. This is more like a feeler question. Im really looking for a good shot of advice here on this issue. I havent posted since last winterish, and still havent really been dating much at all. Havent really cared to....
A. 4 August 2008: The brutelly honest i wouldn't have a problem with, thats essential in my world! But rude? nah, wouldn't like that. Its on par with arrogance a lot of the time, and i cant take to that trait. Its probably a case of staying honest, but think before ... (read in full...)
I stopped to ask my soon to be ex-husband, about divorce papers, he was with a woman and was verbally abusive to me, I think he feels I care, I don't, and I feel stupid, how do I feel better about this?
Q. i feel so stupid now because yesterday i saw my soon to be ex husband, he was verbally abusive, cruel and sometimes physically abusive towards me and the children (all 3 dislike him and dont see him, they are all teenagers) i had not seen him since ...
A. 4 August 2008: Emilys right, the guy is a jerk, but jerks never think they're wrong so you are going to have to get over that and just feel glad its not you taking the hard time from him now.
Ive got a similar ex (doesn't sound quite as bad) good looking guy so h... (read in full...)
I'm heartbroken and a doormat when it comes to my ex. What can I do?
Q. I dont really know where to start, im just heartbroken and I need to talk to someone...so here goes Me and my ex have been on and off for about 10 years (im 28 hes 31), we have had about 4 breakups in that time, mainly because he wants to be sing...
A. 4 August 2008: You feel like an awful mum because you have had all your self asteem and confidence zapped out of you over 10 long years! You are not pathetic. You have simply been in an addictive relationship. A fair few of us have, and its not actually any ... (read in full...)
I'm heartbroken and a doormat when it comes to my ex. What can I do?
Q. I dont really know where to start, im just heartbroken and I need to talk to someone...so here goes Me and my ex have been on and off for about 10 years (im 28 hes 31), we have had about 4 breakups in that time, mainly because he wants to be sing...
A. 3 August 2008: How awful. The night he knew you went out and came back home with you was so you didn't get the chance to meet someone else. Had that happen myself. They dont want you, but they dont want anyone else to have you. And yes he is stringing you along so ... (read in full...)
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