Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 20 August 2009: Only just got back on here after a few months away, whats happened since?... (read in full...)
His arguing and rudeness since our wedding is causing my love for him to disappear...I have no idea what to do.
Q. My husband of one year (although we have known each other for nearly three years) is becoming more and more insulting towards me. Prior to our marriage he was fantastic for 18 months, full of fun, loving caring and gentle. The day we got married he ...
A. 25 March 2008: Hi
You will need to go to a solicitor on this one. It all depends if his name is on any utility bills, how much he has contributed towards mortgage etc etc, oh bum, ive just realised you're in Canada. I'm in the Uk. You will definately need to see ... (read in full...)
Is seeing someone else while split up cheating?
Q. Do you think he seeing someone else while we were split up is 'cheating' on me?...
A. 25 March 2008: Hi
No i dont think it is. Although i always question the speed in which people 'move on' when they have split with someone. I think that usually speaks volumes. But if you have split, even if they go out that night and sleep with someone else, they... (read in full...)
Do flings for sex and fun and friendship work? I have no experience in them.
Q. Hi my long term partner walked out on me in a temper a couple of months ago - we have seen each other on-off since then and although i love him dearly i don't hold out much hopes of a proper sustainable reconciliation ad he is having some sort of ...
A. 25 March 2008: HI I would say its a suck it n see thing really! I was always only in long term relationships, and when i split from someone last yr, i decided to just go down the friends with benefits route. Just to give it a go, as i wasn't interested in ge... (read in full...)
She got back together with her ex and I'm still not over it! How long will it take?
Q. Hi, I was in a serious relationship which unfortunately lasted just 4 months because of an argument that we had which ended in her breaking up with me. I was devestated by the break up but thought i'd recover with time. We broke up 7 months ago but ...
A. 25 March 2008: Hi Longer tha 7 months if you truly loved her. Took me well over a year in the past. But it does happen, even though you cant imagine it yet! I adored him, there was no third party involved and it was mainly because there was a big age gap. But i r... (read in full...)
She's cheating with me but now she is ignorning me...what can I do??
Q. I have a girlfriend who's cheating on her boyfriend with me, first I thought it would work out but now problems are coming up, she's ignoring me and not calling. What do I do?...
A. 24 March 2008: Hi
She isn't your girlfriend, she's someone elses. And its the nature of the beast unfortunately. All the while she is with someone else, and your the other guy, things will be very unpredictable. The bit on the side has to accept that, or quit it. ... (read in full...)
I feel like he is cheating and we are always arguing?? What can I do??
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly 4 months, he tells me he loves me all the time, but im still paranoid hes going to cheat on me. Recently hes been more argumentative, and when we have sex the pleasure is all on his side and when i ...
A. 24 March 2008: Hi
Some guys and girls for that matter are only out for themselves in that way. Sometimes they need 'educating' in a nice way. Its how we get experience in the bedroom afterall!
He's being selfish basically. Its nothing to do with how you look and... (read in full...)
I had a one night stand while drunk and now I'm pregnant! Do I tell him?
Q. I joined this site as I'm so confused of what to do!! I've been going off the rails lately, drinking waay too much, going to pubs every night and clubs every weekend, having a fair few one night stands.... the truth is, I seem to associate se...
A. 24 March 2008: Tricky one. For a start you could contact somewhere called Life. Number will be in the phone book. They will be good to give you advice.
The guy should be told really, and ultimately what you decide to do in the long run, still is your choice. Does... (read in full...)
I have been single for three years as I am very anti-men. Is anybody else going through the same??
Q. hi, Hope you can help because i havent got a clue. I've been sinlge for the last three years and its all down to me. I get asked out on dates a lot but im just not interested; it feels like i hate men when i was speaking to my mom about she sa...
A. 24 March 2008: Hi
I know what you mean. Im not dissimilar. And i havent been cheated on or physically hurt. It makes no sense does it. My folks divorced when i was 4, i dont remember my dad ever living with us, but we saw him every weekend, and he's on his way ... (read in full...)
Why do guys break up with their girlfriends once they are comfortable?
Q. hello guys. I have always wondered why men always break up with their girlfriends once they get settled into a relationship. I'd like guys view on this....
A. 22 March 2008: Hi
Sorry not a guy but usually those that do that, simply prefer the thrill of the chase, not the actual settled relationship. They are the type that get bored easily.
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
What steps do I take now to be with him again later if his current relationship ends?
Q. have you ever rekindled a relationship with an ex boyfriend? He ended the relationship to be with someone else but I still love him and know that my feelings will be the same in the future. what steps i take now to be with him later if his current ...
A. 21 March 2008: Hi
Um i wouldn't. I would have more self respect. Sorry but thats a crazy idea. He left you for someone else. Wheres your pride.
There wont be any way i could think of to make sure he comes running back after it goes tits with her. Although... (read in full...)
Is it possible for us to give each other a STD while having unprotected sex even though we both have gotten tested and they came back clean??
Q. Me and my girlfriend just got tested for HIV and any STD's and we both came out clean. We got tested because she is very very paranoid about getting a STD. My question is: is it possible for us to give each other a STD while having unprotect...
A. 19 March 2008: Hi
If you both got tested and are clean, and havent been with anyone else since then, then you will be fine.
C xxxx... (read in full...)
Ex-girlfriend won't give me an anwer, so what do I do?
Q. dear cupid i was going with this girl for 18 months and she broke up with me there about 2weeks ago she said she broke up with me cause i was being a asshole and i was cause i was going throw a bit if money probs and i was taking it out on her but ...
A. 12 March 2008: Hey
She has been through a crap time with you, and wants out of the tied in shit basically. Been there, done that, bought the t shirt recently. Even wondered if you was him in disguise for a minute there!
She doesn't wanna hurt you, nor lose you... (read in full...)
We got through the tough times and rebuilt trust...until last week.
Q. I am hoping someone can give me some advice as I am so confused and don't know what to do. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years. We got off to a pretty rocky start as he still had connections with his ex and I found out about 4 months ...
A. 12 March 2008: Hi
So lets get this straight, he met up with a girl off the net, but she wasn't as hot as he thought origionally. So told you it was because he came to his senses. So he thought second time lucky, the next one might be alright, tried again, but got ... (read in full...)
In a serious relationship, but should I go back to an abusive ex?
Q. Ok....so I have been in a serious relationship for 2 1/2 years with a good guy I met when I was a sophomore in highschool (about6 years ago)...but I cannot stop thinking about my ex-boyfriend. He is a little over a year younger than me but pretty ...
A. 12 March 2008: Hi
Tempting! The title doesn't match the question, and i'm assuming the ex isn't the abusive 1? The current guy has been abusive? If the ex hasn't, and you get on with the family. It sounds very appealijng. But it depends how much you love the curr... (read in full...)
Why am I feeling so confused, I'm falling for my new bf but my ex messes with my head.
Q. My ex and I broke up the end of December 2007, after being together 9 months. Basically, he broke up with me due to insecurity, he was more into me than I was into him, and it was obviously a big problem to him. I began dating someone else the end ...
A. 12 March 2008: Hi
Letting the ex know in some way, that you have met someone else, might give him the gentle hint you both need badly!
The chemistry wasn't there with the ex, but is with the new guy. In time you will have a connection with the new guy AND the ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend feel the need to lie or cover up the fact that he looks at porn when I know he does?
Q. Why does my boyfriend feel the need to lie or cover up the fact that he looks at porn? I was gone for 4 hours one day and when I came home he was gone and I know that I shouldn't do this and it's wrong of me to look at his computer but under hi...
A. 12 March 2008: Hi
Because you might react if you know?
Guys have liked porn since the year dot. Thats why top shelf grot mags are aimed mainly at guys. They are visual people. Let him know its fine and he wont keep it from you.
Hoards of guys like lesbian porn... (read in full...)
Signs of a narcissist?
Q. What exactly is Narcissitic Personality Disorder? What are the signs? ...
A. 12 March 2008: That about sums it up, and seeks out relationships where that person can 'do' the most for them.
That was the icing on the cake where one of my exes were concerned. The give away.
Didn't matter what i said to him after we split, even about hi... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 12 March 2008: Because he's a manipulative jerk that knows you better than you know him, and has just been binned off by the new squeeze that sussed him out quick smart :o(
Didn't wanna be friends up til now huh.
Blimey that was a long scroll down to post!
C ... (read in full...)
I've lied to a man I really love, and now I feel bad. What can I do?
Q. I've just divorced my husband. We have been married for 20 years. My husband is selfish and unkind. I stay for the security. He made me feel unattractive so I started to cheat on him. It didnt make me feel better but just feel guilty and cheap. ...
A. 11 March 2008: Hey remember some things are best left unsaid! I can see why you have said that, and lets face it, its a white lie, not a whopper! It gives him a little reassurance, and you wont do it again anyway will you? Win win situation!
Chill. I think you'... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is messing about on the internet. Has he cheated?
Q. I have been going out with my bf for nearly 2 yrs and he is 19 yrs old. In Feb 2007 he made an Faceparty account up on the internet and I didn't know about it. However, in Nov I found out about it just browsing through looking for my friends on the ...
A. 11 March 2008: Alarm bells would be ringing big time for me.
The guy probably does love you, but he's bored. Thats my guess anyway. Its been 2 yrs and he's young. He wants to get attention from others. The net is common for younger guys to come onto older wome... (read in full...)
If you really cared about a girl, would you understand if the sex is not alway mind blowing?
Q. Okay, this is going to sound silly to some. I have been with my boyfriend about 6 months. Due to issues in my past, it is taking me a long time to be able to be myself during sex. He is being patient with me. Anyway, we didn't have sex for about ...
A. 10 March 2008: Hi
It depends how much emphasis he pins on sex basically. Generally loving someone would mean you work on your sex life and have some give and take. 6 months isn't an amazingly long time to be with someone anyway, and it will take a lot longer than... (read in full...)
Can holding onto gifts from an ex be a hindrance to future relationships?
Q. I have this promise ring and necklace that my ex boyfriend gave me and I was wondering if me not giving it back to him had something to do with why I'm not with a certain guy?? I know this sounds silly but can holding onto something like this from ...
A. 10 March 2008: Noooooooooo dont give them back! A gift is a gift! Blimey if we had to give back gifts when we split with someone, i would of handed back a ring, a necklace, a garden, a tiled bathroom, need i go on lol
Only you know if you want to keep them for ... (read in full...)
Can holding onto gifts from an ex be a hindrance to future relationships?
Q. I have this promise ring and necklace that my ex boyfriend gave me and I was wondering if me not giving it back to him had something to do with why I'm not with a certain guy?? I know this sounds silly but can holding onto something like this from ...
A. 10 March 2008: Hi
My ex from years ago bought me a 9ct gold necklace on holiday. Ive worn it everyday since and dated numerous men since then (hark at me, sound like a right harlot!) haha. Well, 3 or 4 since then, it was 7 years ago!
So no, i wouldn't say it h... (read in full...)
My gf won't admit she cheated on me, but proof is on it's way. What now?
Q. ok so I have been dating this girl for a while. (9 months). I love her very much. I worked away from home last summer and I returned to find a letter from a guy that said that my gf had cheated on me with him and that he thought I should know. He ...
A. 10 March 2008: Hi
Hold fire til the guy DOES send proof. Sometimes people stir things because of all sorts of reasons. I wouldn't completely trust him over your girlfriend. Theres some seriously dodgy people out there honestly!
But if it was me, if he does ema... (read in full...)
Was he not over his ex? Is that why we split?
Q. My boyfriend and I split up a few months ago. We'd been together just short of a year. With hindsight, I was just wondering if the demise of our relationship had something to do with him not being over his ex, and him not knowing it. He was wi...
A. 9 March 2008: Hi
Possibly was to do with the ex. If he has slept with her since, or been out with her, then the connection was obviously still there, otherwise why would he have been round there again.
4 months is a fair amount of time, and if you hadnt said he'... (read in full...)
I bled after the "fingerplay," is this normal?
Q. Hey. I'm really embarrised about this but i kinda need advice... My boyfriend fingered me and then when i went to the toilet i was bleeding a bit. It wasn't the first time i've been fingered but this has never happened before. Is this normal? Please ...
A. 9 March 2008: Hi
Its a very long time ago for me! But it rings a bell yes!
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
What do you think about this??
Q. This is my situation. I have already made up my mind of divorcing my husband right after you see what I am going through. My husband came out the 1st week of January 2008 and told me that he loves me to death as the mother of his kids but not ...
A. 9 March 2008: Hi
I think he wants out, and thats his right, but he's made his choice, i wouldn't be letting him shower before he goes to work. He's moved out, he needs to stand on his own 2 feet now, the whole kit and kaboodle as the saying goes!
C xxxxxxxx... (read in full...)
I stayed but we didn't have sex, but haven't heard from him since, is it because I didn't sleep with him?
Q. Hi. Im 17. Still A virgin (through choice) i dont have a boyfriend and dont really want one...i go out alot and end up snogging guys and getting their numbers etc... inparticular two guys recently... one guy i knew from school that i met up with ...
A. 9 March 2008: Hi
First off, good for you not instigating sex with him or having sex if you're not into being that type. And secondly, if he hasn't contacted again because you didnt have sex, that speaks volumes! Its a win win situation for you really.
Altho... (read in full...)
This relation bores me to tears but I'm terrified of moving on and being on my own again!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for four years now and feel that I'm stuck in huge rut and am finding it difficult to leave him. I've reached the stage that having sex with him is a chore and I don't really want to spend time with him. We are toge...
A. 9 March 2008: Real tricky one. Ive been in a similar situation myself when i was 29. But had been with him 9 yrs. We had a 5 and 3 yr old. I even went to counselling because he was so lovely and i wanted to get the love back for him, but all the counselling did ... (read in full...)
He says their just friends and I need to trust him, but can I?
Q. split with my ex of 15 years 18 months ago.last summer he wanted to be back with me,i said i needed a couple of weeks to think about it,by that time he turns round and says to late he had found someone else. things didnt workout with this women an...
A. 7 March 2008: No i wouldnt be happy with this at all. And bless her, your daughter would say its ok, she wants you both to stay together.
Its not normal and i wouldn't be happy about it.
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
We were doing great...then her ex called and wanted her back! Help!
Q. I've been dating this girl the past four months and things were going great. Everytime we were together we had and amzing time and laughed a lot. We talked about the future and had met each others families. Both of our families like the two of us ...
A. 7 March 2008: Hi
If he broke her heart, 3 months wasn't long enough to 'greive' to be honest.
She certainly doesn't sound like she used you to get over him, but obviously she has realised now, she wasn't over him when she met you.
Its a shame, because if y... (read in full...)
Exactly what kind of relationship DO we have???
Q. I need help understanding my relationship I'm having with this guy. I'm 22 he's 32. We've been seeing each another since September but known each another for 3 years. We kiss and make out and are now talking about having sex and we both have agreed ...
A. 7 March 2008: Hi
He wants a sexual relationship with you without strings, but wants to make sure you're not having sex with anyone else too.
Completely selfish by the sounds of it, but i guess atleast he's been honest.
Balls in your court if thats all you want... (read in full...)
He tells me he "Can't fall in love again". Is there anything I can do?
Q. My boyfriend has told me he "can't fall in love again" because he has convinced himself that if he does he will get hurt. He found his fiances dead 2 weeks before the marriage and then 2 years later he married a girl 10 years younger (18). After 12 ...
A. 6 March 2008: Hi
Only get him to see a counsellor. I dont see anything else you could do. He's been dealt some crap cards in the past! And the most level headed of persons would struggle with that. He's convinced anyone he loves, will leave him.
It would be... (read in full...)
He cheated on me a long time ago... Now, I'm considering doing the same. Is that wrong?
Q. I am engaged but i just found out that my fiance cheated on me a long time ago. So i'm really feeling down. I ran into this guy i used to be in love with but we broke it off because of the distance. This old flame wants to meet up and go out but i ...
A. 6 March 2008: Revenge is a dish best served cold?
Maybe, just maybe, you have lost respect for this guy that has cheated on you. I would too! The better person in me says dont meet the ex, the vengeful person in me, says do!
I would meet up with him, see what... (read in full...)
Would I get over her if she had left me alone after I broke up with her, or is she using psychology to keep me in her life by not letting go?
Q. It's been over a year since we started going out. Within that time, I broke up and made up with her, 3 or 4 times. She could never stop calling me or wanting to be with me and I would give in, and return. We knew each other for 10 years prior to ...
A. 6 March 2008: Hi
Could be the length of time she has had you in her life that makes her not want to let go.
We have all at some point, well, usually all, been in relationships that we let ourselves be manipulated back into after we call a halt.
That usua... (read in full...)
My wife is beautiful and we have kids but I can't stop thinking about the women at work.
Q. I'm a married man with a beautiful wife, a gorgeous 3 year old son and a baby on the way, I've got a great job and a lovely house, but I'm desperately in love with a woman at work. We've always been very friendly and flirty, and after 5 years I ...
A. 6 March 2008: Hey maybe you just needed people that are detached from your life, reminding you what you have. Because your original question included some nice things about your wife and family. Kinda got the feeling you just needed that confirming.
Glad you'... (read in full...)
My letter to him was opened by the WIFE he "forgot" to mention!!!!!
Q. I'm in a pickle. I'm married, but have been texting and seeing this bloke for 20 months, the relationship was slowing down, so I sent him a letter, unfortunately it was opened by the wife he had "forgotten" to mention, and all hell broke loose! Wife ...
A. 6 March 2008: How do you move on?
By forgetting about the married guy and concentrating on your hubby.
Nothing majorly rocket science there.
What you feel about being let down by the married guy, is nothing different, to what your hubby will feel when it come... (read in full...)
Why do I feel like I'm going to lose my girl?
Q. Tell me why I feel like cheating on my girl all the time and why do I feel like I'm gonna lose my girl to my mates or her exes and I keep pushing her away, I haven't cheated up to this date but I keep feeling like I should. Tell me why I keep ...
A. 6 March 2008: Im with 'love him' here. That answer sounds right on the button!
Get a grip before you actually do lose her and wish you hadn't!
Good luck.
C xxxxxxx... (read in full...)
I can't help but think all men are the same...
Q. My boyfriend received a text from a girl last night, she is his best friends girlfriend. He said she's neva txt him before and it was a harmless txt, which i did read. I was in a relationship for 5 years with a guy who i thought i'd be with forever, ...
A. 6 March 2008: Hi
'but i can't help but think all men are the same. What should i do?'
We all think like that at some point in time, and dont think guys dont think it about women! But all men aren't the same. Ive never dated a guy that was even similar to t... (read in full...)
He's told me not to worry but I worry that he's 10 years younger than me...
Q. I'm a seperated woman of 34, with 2 daughters 8 and 5. I met this lovely guy and am dating him now for only a matter of weeks, the thing is he is 10 years younger, neither of us are bothered about the age gap, he has not met my girls and won't till ...
A. 6 March 2008: Hi
Snap. Well, almost. When i was 32 i met a 22 yr old. To be honest, it was a fun 2 years, but it was never going to go the distance. A guy in his early 20's needs to live yet. Even though he always assured me he wanted to be with me forever, and ... (read in full...)
My wife is beautiful and we have kids but I can't stop thinking about the women at work.
Q. I'm a married man with a beautiful wife, a gorgeous 3 year old son and a baby on the way, I've got a great job and a lovely house, but I'm desperately in love with a woman at work. We've always been very friendly and flirty, and after 5 years I ...
A. 6 March 2008: Hi
Because your a kid in a toy shop! Seriously though, the woman at work leaving her job will be the best thing to happen! Pleeeeeeeeeeeeeease for that babies sake, dont manipulate the girl to get into anything with you. She isnt interested and know... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 6 March 2008: And you dont know me or my brothers situation, yet you judge that we should be getting him help. Hahaha! You think we havent? You answered the help statement on your own, if they dont want help, they wont take help.
Sorry if you saw it as insu... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 3 March 2008: You're addicted to drama. I would go see the doc and see about some counselling, to find out why. I dont think anything will change until you figure out why you need all this melodrama in your life. Its very self destructive. And could be very ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 19 February 2008: Hey thats great! 40 a day and even after all this crap going on, you still didnt start again???!!!! Now THATS something good!
And as for the manipulation, i know what you mean. I cant remember if i mentioned it in this thread, i wont check, but my r... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 15 February 2008: Very good positive attitude. Glad to hear it. Blimey he was a charmer wasnt he? not! Thats the best thing to do, keep reminding yourself how nasty he acrually was. And all those things...you deserved better.
I didnt realise he was on coke, unfo... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 13 February 2008: How far up his own ass is he?He didnt sound like he wanted to talk. He knows what buttons to press thats for sure, and exactly how you react, thats horrible. And a tad creepy! The power trip must be sensational for him! I wasnt pleasant to an ex ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 11 February 2008: Hi
You have a constant migraine because of the pressure in your head. This is basically all doing your head in. Too much stress. I expect you're not eating either. Bad combination. We would all get migraines in this situation. This is a nigh... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 7 February 2008: Who cares if you have pushed them together. They deserve each other dont they? They probably wont make each other very happy. And She certainly wont ever trust him.
And he asks you to treat HIM with respect??? I would of replied with a lot more than... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 6 February 2008: Well said RCN. The longer you are on your own, and really dont mind being on your own, you gain strength and know being on your own is way better than being treated badly.
Its quite a shame the amount of people on here that settle for second, thir... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 6 February 2008: This is truly horrible. Nothing anyone can say will make the situation any better. Theres lots on here with problems obviously, and this is one of the many worse ones. At the end of the day, it sounds like he played you both for fools, and, small co... (read in full...)
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