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writes:I was wondering if there is any way of terminating a child support payment. My ex no longer allows me to see my daughter and I don't believe I should be paying for her when I can't even see her let alone talk to her. I could use that money for supporting my wife and three kids, instead of throwing it to a woman who keeps my child from me. Any recomendations or opinions (mean or nice) are appreciated.Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2008): My X is doing keeping me from seeing my child as we speak. I'm having a hard time financially so I'm also behind on child support, which has nothing to do with me seeing my child.
She does not want me to see the child because she hates my new wife. I'm looking at my options now, but I will see my child and thats the only guarantee I can let out at the moment.
Next week I'll be visiting with the case worker. I would have done this earlier but I really hate having others involved in my business (ie. the court). But, if my X cant stop acting like a child then so be it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2008): If you really want your daughter in your life, why don't you go to court for visitation rights?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2008): first you need to contact your case worker and explain you are not allowed to see or talk to your child they will definetly get you wat you need.as of paying well just because you cant see her dosent mean she is not eating or need clothes or all the other things that kis need.you act like you are renting her thats what it sounds like to me. like if i cant see her then i wont pay you.and you as a man have it easy you pay a monthly fee and see the kid once and a while but you dont know how hard it is to us mothers day to day working paying day care buying food bathing the kids ext.ext.ext.there are legal ways to fix this but not paying is not one of those.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (23 July 2008):
 You fathered the child, you pay for it. Don't expect much support from me for trying to get out of supporting your own child.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (23 July 2008):
 Hi
Not too sre how it works in the States, but here, regardless of if you see the child or not, you are still liable to pay for the upkeep. My 26 yr old brother is paying for 2 children he doesn't actually see through our Child support system (Csa). Its not a condition of maintenance here, weather you see them or not. Simply the fact you created this child 50/50 responsibility.
If you want to have something to do with the child, take her to court? Over here people can do that using whats called Legal Aid. Basically if they are not working, they can get the fee wavered to take the ex to court. But as i say, its going to be different where you are from i expect. But i am of the belief that, if you make a child, someone has to pay to bring them up! Why should it be the state?
C xxxxxx
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