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Oh my god over a year on since i first joined this site (where has the time gone) and i'm still loving it.
I got alot of help from all of the fantastic aunts and uncles when i needed it most, it was great getting everyone else's views on my situation at the time and it's great to see that those same people are still here doing the same fantastic job.
Due to what i have been through and the advise i have recieved off of here i am a much stronger person now and have so much more confidence in myself.
I am turning thirty this year i have a wonderful husband, yeah we have had our problems but thats life, and two fantastic children and i really believe my life is starting now and i cant wait for the rest of it.
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She says he's just a friend.
Q. Am I being too paranoid or is something going on? I've (21) been with my girlfriend (18) for over a year now, things have been going great up until she started telling me that there is a chance we might have to end it, because of conflicts with h...
A. 24 August 2007: I would be worried about it, the fact she has said he's accessible and your not, well quite clearly seen as you talk on the internet you are accessible, and she will say goodbye to you and then stay on line another twenty mins talking to him.
I thin... (read in full...)
My husband doesnt want to spend time with us!
Q. My hubby seems to be miserable at the moment (not sure if he is depressed). I don't what to do, or how to help him anymore. He's very good round the house and helps with tidying etc because he did all this when he lived on his own before met m...
A. 24 August 2007: I have been through depression in a marriage and it can distroy everything, and it very nearly did for me the only thing that saved us was me forcing my husband to go to the doctors, going with him and making him explain to the doctor how he felt.
T... (read in full...)
He physically hurt me and possibly had relations with other girls, but I still love him
Q. My boyfriend and I have been getting into a lot of heated arguments lately....mostly about random girls calling him and texting him... this morning our fighting escalated to the point where it got physical...I got pissed and in his face yelling...
A. 24 August 2007: I was going to try and give you some advice but after reading Dr Pete's advice there is nothing more to say, fantastic advice from him as always.
Take care.xx.
Hope you make the right choices.... (read in full...)
Just Wanna know is it normal to feel guilty after an orgasm??
Q. Hey, Just Wanna know is it normal to feel guilty after an orgasm?? Everytime I orgasm I feel really guilty and wanna stop whatever I'm doing.. Eg masturbating, getting fingerd, sex.. Pleasseee I Want A Answer =[ xx...
A. 24 August 2007: I sometimes feel guilty, but that is only if i have had an orgasm and my husband has not, and that's because sometimes he wants to pleasure me and wants nothing in return.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
How do I help my partner have courage to stand up against his ex wife's divorce demands?
Q. My partner and wife split 3 years ago. The kids are 21 and 20. He did not wrong her, it just all broke down. He is a loving man and tries to be a good Dad but , as to be expected I suppose, has been receiving loads of hatred. They have been ...
A. 24 August 2007: I understand it is very hard on his girls but surely at 20 and 21, they are old enough to stand on their own two feet, he deserves half of everything and that is what he should set out to get, once everything is sold or the wife buys him out if he ... (read in full...)
I think my sister is a control freak... she wants to meet my fiancee's family - is this normal?
Q. I think my sister is a control freak, i try to get on with her but she feels the need to interfer where it is not wanted, like recently. i'm getting married in feb and i was talking to her on the phone and she was trying to set up a get together ...
A. 24 August 2007: I don't think it is anything that unusual her wanting to meet his family, i know when my brother was due to marry i had met my sister in laws mum, dad, nans and her uncle, i think it just makes it a bit more comfortable for everyone when it comes to ... (read in full...)
What can I do and say to convince him I'm not having an affair and I just want to read my messages in private?
Q. My boyfriend is always over my shoulder when I receive a text message. It is really annoying becasuse I can't text my friends without him interrupting. I don't read his messages, so why does he read mine? When I tell him that I don't like him read...
A. 24 August 2007: You should not have to say or do anything if he can't trust you, then i'm sorry but you have no relationship. if he can have his privacy then you are entitled to have yours as well.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
His abuse is getting worse, he's tried to strangle me 5 times!!!
Q. I've been with my husband for 3 years and I don't know what to do. I have a six year old boy who adores him and a one year old baby girl. The problem is he has become physically abusive. He has tried to strangle me five times but generally just ...
A. 24 August 2007: If you going to ask about something like this then you are going to have to accept that most people will tell you to leave him, and thats because we have heard of so many stories like this where it starts off with abuse like this and then the women ... (read in full...)
Is she just being cautious? Is our relationship doomed? What do you think is going on?
Q. Dear people, I met a girl in a chat room on New Year's Eve this year. Since that day we have spoken on the telephone without fail every day, morning and night when we are in bed till we fall asleep. After approximately a month both of us...
A. 24 August 2007: I find it very bizarre that considering you have said that you are in love with each other she will not give you her address or her home phone number, even after what she went through in her previous relationship.
I think i would have to start aski... (read in full...)
If I double up with 2 methods of protection is it safe to stop worrying about pregnancy?
Q. I am almost 16 and have been with my boyfriend for 10 months, not to mention 2 years when we were younger. I love him and am ready to have sex with him however the only thing holding me back is the possibility of pregnancy even using contraception. ...
A. 24 August 2007: I think you should definitely wait until it is legal for you, if you love each other there should be no issue with having to wait, and when you are ready if you go on the pill and use condoms that will give you your double protection.
Take care... (read in full...)
How do you know when you might have an STD?
Q. Urgent help needed, How do you know when you might have an STD? What are the tell tale signs, and symptoms of HIV herpes etc, what does it look like? Can you go to the doctor and have a regular check up for blood sugar, or HIV...etc etc, a...
A. 24 August 2007: Totally agree with previous poster, your doctor can test for all std's, so if you are worried it's always best to get it checked out.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Any advice on painless anal sex.
Q. How can it not hurt so much? My boyfriend and I have tried to do anal and it hurts alot. He really wants to do it cause he has never done it before but how or what can we do to not have it hurt so much. He gets it in a little way and then it starts ...
A. 23 August 2007: You need to be really relaxed because if you are concerned and worried that it is going to hurt you will tense up and you should probably try lube, it will hurt the first time the same as virginal usually does but you get past that, i took a couple ... (read in full...)
We never realized there was such an age-gap between us because we get on so well
Q. Alrighty.. sorry about the long message!! Well im 19 and I find myself quite crazy about a 38yr old! we work together and for the first year of working together we never actually knew eachothers age!! only recently have we found out how old eachothe...
A. 23 August 2007: Hey you are an adult, so if it feels right for you then i would say go for it.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
If he loves me why is he cheating on me?
Q. Dear Cupid, I love my first boyfriend very much but I don't know if he loves me that much, because he cheats on me which I've not got him red-handed but have been informed. Any time I confront him on this issue he denies. I tried breaking up ...
A. 22 August 2007: Babe you have to realise as hard as it is that he does not love you, you do not treat someone you love in this way.
He obviously wants to have the best of both worlds, he wants a loyal loving partner and a bit on the side.
Don't let him treat yo... (read in full...)
I am looking for some advice on how to get my vagina a bit tighter during sex? I heard of kegel exercise but I'm not too familiar with that?
Q. hello, I am looking for some advice on how to get my vagina a bit tighter during sex? I heard of kegel exercise but I'm not too familiar with that?...
A. 22 August 2007: Do you orgasm before you have sex because i find that works a treat for me.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Advice on ovulation please.
Q. Hi guys, Thanks for the answers on the amusement rides another one for my friend just wondered if you could help, she has worked out the time of the month when she should be ovulating, has done ovulation tests for the last three days and no sign of ...
A. 22 August 2007: Thanks both of you for your answers, i have showed my friend and she is very grateful and has taken it all on board.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
if he does not put his penis inside your vagina but still busts because we are just fooling around can you still become pregnant?
Q. Hi, I am a 16 year old who is not to sure about having sex and have questions about it - if he does not put his penis inside your vagina but still busts because we are just fooling around can you still become pregnant? ...
A. 21 August 2007: Yes Yes Yes, you most definitely can still get pregnant this way babe, so if this has happened to you and you are not taking contraceptive pills then i would get yourself a test.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
My friend asked me on to visit on holiday and now is being wishy washy
Q. Hi there. I really need some advice as I don't know how to go about this. Last Saturday, a very good friend of mine (we used to go out) invited me to come with her family and friends to their house in Cornwall. I thought great, I need a holiday a...
A. 21 August 2007: The only suggestion i can offer is that you phone them and ask them if there is anything they would like you to bring with you in the way of bedding etc.
They will either tell you no it's fine with have everything to accommodate you or come up with... (read in full...)
My boyfriends sister wants to move in with us. He said ok, but I dont want her here!
Q. I'm 2 months pregnant, and have a 4 month old at home. My boyfriend works, I am a stay at home mom. Last night, my b.f. got a call from his sister who lives 2 hours up north with her b.f. Something happened, she didn't say what but she was packing ...
A. 21 August 2007: Been there and done that and that was one of the contributing factors of my marriage split.
My husbands brother moved in with us last Feb only going to stay a couple of weeks while he got himself sorted, he ended up leaving at the end of Nov and ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to masterbate to help me get over him?
Q. Hi im sixteen and am really confused. I always want to txt this guy friend of mine and i always want to fool around with him, but theres been some problems in the past and he wasnt very nice, and i know he'll probably hurt me again. So ive been ...
A. 21 August 2007: Everyone has different ways of dealing with things and if this is working for you, who are we to tell you that it's wrong, it's not as though you are hurting anyone.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
He is trying to work things out with his ex. Should I wait around?
Q. HELP. I work with a man who is in a relationship with his exwife. He tells me that he would love to date me, but needs to see if things will work out with his ex. He calls or texts me almost every day. He is in therapy right now to help with his ...
A. 21 August 2007: He also wants his cake and eat it as well by the sounds of it, he he wants children and his ex wife does not i don't think therapy is going to help them really, so it may be he is not giving you the full picture babe.
If i were you i would tell him ... (read in full...)
I want to leave my husband, but dont have a clue how to get started
Q. hi there.. i am in deep trouble again...i want to leave my husband but i do not know where to start or where to get help. i also have a child to consider as i am not willing to leave her with my husband. i want to start a new life possible far away...
A. 21 August 2007: Need to give a bit more info babe as to what country you are from for us to be able to give you any further guidance.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I cheat on my fiancee all the time, but its his fault cause he got me into computers
Q. I am engaged to a wonderful man who i love,but i am addicted to cheating.It seems so easy,they are all available on the internet. He has almost caught me twice,but luckily i turned it around on him and now he has to prove to me that he`s not a ...
A. 21 August 2007: What a lame excuse that is, my husband got me into computers but that has not made me start cheating on him.
If you want to see other people then you get out of your relationship.
How can you say that you love him, if you love someone you have abs... (read in full...)
I am getting ingrown hairs and shave bumps
Q. Alright, so I recently gota gf and decided to start shaving my pubs (from what i gather girls my age prefer shaved). so anyways, i have a problem and i'm wondering if its normal... getting ingrown hairs. sounds nasty i know, but i'm wondering if ...
A. 21 August 2007: It's a totally natural thing to get and i would not worry about them too much as I'm sure your girlfriend probably gets them as well.
Are you using shaving cream when you shave as i find loads of that helps reduce it.
Take care.xx,... (read in full...)
I'm a girl of 18 and the boy i like is 14.
Q. I am an 18 year old girl who likes a 14 year old boy. Is that allright and what should I do? I really like him.......
A. 20 August 2007: You are the one asking the question, what do you think about it?
I think for you to ask you obviously realise it is not really the right thing to do.
I don't see a problem in age gaps as long as you are both adults.
You are clearly going to hav... (read in full...)
From talking to her friend it looks as though she wants to stay in touch.
Q. Hi all. Something troubles me. *For those of you who don't know my situation, go to my profile, it explains everything there* So, as you know, me and my long distance girlfriend of 2 years broke up about 2 months ago, and within the past couple ...
A. 20 August 2007: Oh Andy Andy,
See what i mean you go on holiday and hardly think about things then WHAM, straight back to reality and now you have a friend making things worse for you (although I'm sure that is not her intention).
Listen you are getting used to ... (read in full...)
Is there a problem if hes honest with me??
Q. Hi im 17 and a half years old. I have met this bloke of the internet. He told me everything about himself kids partner the whole lot even the trouble with the law. I trust him, ive met him. Hes so nice loving all the good things. I got so wound up ...
A. 20 August 2007: I would be very concerned about any man of this age wanting to have a relationship with someone of your age.
How do you know that everything he has told you is the absolute truth?
When you start seeing someone you don't generally care about wh... (read in full...)
Will eating only 2 apples a day make me lose weight quickly?6
Q. Hey.. ok well i'm planning to lose weight..So i'm going to eat two apples a day and that's it..iv done this now for 1 day..and I no that i'm going keep on doing it..how long will it take like before the weight all drops off?? i'm 9 stone and I hate ...
A. 20 August 2007: Why do you hate your body so much that you would try and starve yourself?
At your age, the weight that you are is perfect.
Do you have a problem seeing yourself in the mirror or have people said things to you to make you feel this way.
Yes eatin... (read in full...)
I always helped her financially and this time when she asked me for money I couldn't help her since I had financial problems myself. So she decided to break up with me saying that she needed someone who could help her with her problems.
Q. PLEASE HELP AGE 21 WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP FOR 2 1/4 YEARS AND NOW SHE BROKE UP WITH ME. We had been together, soo happy and this was a serious relationship we were planning on buying a house end of year but before all that happened we broke up. We ...
A. 20 August 2007: I'm sorry that you had to go through that, but now you have had the confirmation that you did not wnat you are just going to have to just try and pull yourself together.
It hurts like hell i know and i'm not saying you will get over it over... (read in full...)
Should i be worried about his friendship with his ex?
Q. I'm finding it hard to deal with my fiances relationship with his ex girlfriend. Their breakup was amicable and they are still friends, she lives in another country and doesn't come over here very often. I feel really insecure because she was the ...
A. 20 August 2007: I don't think you should be too worried that they are still friends especially if she lives in a different country, but if the personal possessions are upsetting for you to see around then maybe you could try telling him this, just explain that you ... (read in full...)
She has told me she does not mind if i find it elsewhere.
Q. My girlfriend has gave me "permission" to sleep about, is this normal? I have been with my partner for 4 years and we have 1 daughter and have been living with each other for 3 years. Now our sex life was fantastic before our daughter came al...
A. 20 August 2007: What is normal?
Everyone is different, personally there is no way on this earth i would tell my husband to go find it elsewhere, i would in fact try to sort the problem i had out.
It is very common for a women to lose their sex drive after a child,... (read in full...)
Having serious marriage problems. Should I stay or should I go?
Q. I have been married for 9 years, and me and my wife have lost connection physically and emotionally. We have tried professional help, but it doesn't seem to work. We have 2 children and I don't want to leave them behind, but I have been trying t...
A. 20 August 2007: I understand that you do not want to leave your children behind, but just because you no longer live there it does not mean to say you have to stop seeing them.
I think it would effect your children in a bigger way if they have to see their dad ever... (read in full...)
Am I the only one or does anyone else feel that dearcupid makes you paranoid?
Q. Am I the only one that finds that dearcupid makes me paranoid reading about all the different questions people ask(cheating with bosses, having sex with brothers and sisters etc) Am I the only one or does anyone else feel that dearcupid makes you ...
A. 20 August 2007: Good yeah definitely, i thought my life was crap until i came on this site and now i know there's a hell of a lot worse to come yet:).
Take care.x.x... (read in full...)
I always helped her financially and this time when she asked me for money I couldn't help her since I had financial problems myself. So she decided to break up with me saying that she needed someone who could help her with her problems.
Q. PLEASE HELP AGE 21 WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP FOR 2 1/4 YEARS AND NOW SHE BROKE UP WITH ME. We had been together, soo happy and this was a serious relationship we were planning on buying a house end of year but before all that happened we broke up. We ...
A. 20 August 2007: Hi,
I hate to say this and it is only my opinion, but i think maybe she is seeing someone else and she used you not helping her financially as her reason to get out so she did not have to tell you the truth.
You will get over this and you will fin... (read in full...)
She wants to stay friends.
Q. Hey all. I'm back from holiday with a rather dramatic turn of events, as usual. (I copied this from an update on another question. I just wanted a fresh point of view from the other aunts) On the 2nd day of my holiday, she text me, asking how I...
A. 19 August 2007: Hi Andy,
I don't think it helps to move on not talking about things, because if you still need to talk and you don't then you will start bottling things up which is worse.
Noticed you wanted to get other peoples advice so sorry if you did not want... (read in full...)
We are living on seperate floors because we both have issues.
Q. I have been living with my boyfriend since November but only gave up my apartment in May. We have been having more and more problems, we both are seeing therapists and psychiatrists and are on meds. I have severe anxiety and some depression. He ...
A. 19 August 2007: Money should not come into it babe, obviously you are a proud women, but i honestly think if you two have that many issues they maybe you should move out, except the offer of help from your family and start again.
It does not mean you have to stop... (read in full...)
He cheated on me, but should I give him another chance?
Q. Hi, I recently found out that my boyfriend of 3 months has cheated on me with his ex partner. He says it was only once, but I'm not sure. He could be telling the truth as we had a row and then he spent a few nights elsewhere with ex. He says hes...
A. 19 August 2007: Dont blame you babe, you make him work and good luck i hope everything works out for you.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking about him and it's wrong.
Q. Please help. I have recently been married and had an affair before being married with a friend of a friend. I became quite close to the guy but he lives a distance away and I see him rarely so nothing physical happened in recent years and I married ...
A. 19 August 2007: Well you have to have a long hard think, are there any problems in your marriage, because generally if you are in a loving happy relationship then you do not get interested in someone in this way.
Do you want your marriage to work?
Feel free to ... (read in full...)
I love him but i'm also scared of him.
Q. I like this guy who is so sweet and has big blue eyes and brown hair, but I'm scared cause he said he would kill me if I didn't show up o time for our next date. He then said he was joking, but I've seen him say that stuff to his friends like:Hey ...
A. 19 August 2007: If i were you babe i would steer well clear of this one, if he has turned on people before for such a small thing then i would not take the risk.
If he starts to harass you then you will have to say something to someone.
You will realise as you g... (read in full...)
I want him back now, but i'm not sure if he wants that.
Q. I need help. I was dating this guy for three years. We broke up twice in the middle of the relationship, but fixed it. I have a problem that when things start getting hard and I start finding other guys attractive, I would break up. Well, I ...
A. 19 August 2007: You are just going to have to tell him how you feel about him, because if you don't you will always be wondering what if.
If he has been flirting with you then he must still like you but just does not know how you feel.
Talk to him and good luc... (read in full...)
Why am i so bothered about his ex coming back, when we are just friends with benefits?
Q. I'll try to make this brief. I cheated on my first love 2 years ago, he left me (as he should!) and swiftly got together with one of his very pretty friends. Over the past two years he had forgiven me, he has contacted me on and off, I NEVER contact ...
A. 19 August 2007: Personally i think you are kidding yourself, i think you do really like him still but just have serious doubts.
That's why you are bothered about his ex returning and you are worried that even though you are just friends with benefits as soon as s... (read in full...)
He cheated on me, but should I give him another chance?
Q. Hi, I recently found out that my boyfriend of 3 months has cheated on me with his ex partner. He says it was only once, but I'm not sure. He could be telling the truth as we had a row and then he spent a few nights elsewhere with ex. He says hes...
A. 18 August 2007: Everyone deserves a second chance, but he needs to realise that he can't go running off to his ex if you two argue, the right thing to do would be talk about things and get them sorted.
The decision is yours at the end of the day, but only do it i... (read in full...)
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