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Oh my god over a year on since i first joined this site (where has the time gone) and i'm still loving it.
I got alot of help from all of the fantastic aunts and uncles when i needed it most, it was great getting everyone else's views on my situation at the time and it's great to see that those same people are still here doing the same fantastic job.
Due to what i have been through and the advise i have recieved off of here i am a much stronger person now and have so much more confidence in myself.
I am turning thirty this year i have a wonderful husband, yeah we have had our problems but thats life, and two fantastic children and i really believe my life is starting now and i cant wait for the rest of it.
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My wife chats to other men in internet chatrooms. Am I right to be annoyed and upset?
Q. My wife has recently started using internet chat sites, mainly a flirting one. She can sit for hours chatting to other men most of which is of a personal and sexual nature, she has also given out her mobile number to some of these men so that they ...
A. 10 October 2007: I'm very sorry to hear that and i hope you are doing ok, hopefully in time you will be able to put this behind you and move on as you deserve better.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Why would he go back to her?
Q. i hate life. well me and my ex supposedly got back together, he claimed he missed me blah blah blah. well we werent 100% together but we were thinking about it. he went back to his other girlfriend. this shocks me cause last night he called he ugly ...
A. 9 October 2007: He is keeping you dangling in reserve babe and thats all it boils down to, if he tells you you are better, then he has it in his head he can have you as and when he wants to.
Hold your head high and tell him to have a nice life and move on with your... (read in full...)
What's the furthest you should go with a boy?
Q. Whats the furthest you shuld go with a boy? I mean, i like to make out with them but they always want me to go further, and im not even 15 yet. I dnt wanna giv them BJ or or toss them up, but this makje sme seem like a total virgin! Wat shuld I do? ...
A. 9 October 2007: I have to agree with Kenny,
You go as far as YOU want with a boy and never let them make you feel you should do any more than that babe.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Do I talk to my man about my ex?
Q. I was in a marriage that my ex was having affairs.I think im still trying to deal with that. my ex wants to go get help and work on things. i have been dating a guy for about 9months now and my ex is upset that im seeing this man.He wants our fami...
A. 9 October 2007: I totally understand where you are coming from on this, my husband cheated and i met someone else that was completely different, but at the end of the day i still and always will love my husband i and have forgiven and forgotten, if you can say all ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he want to be intimate with me?
Q. help! i have been with my patner since feb and in july after spending a week together we decided to move in together, the sex has been fantasic untill the last 2 weeks. he just doesnt seem to want to be intimate with me he kisses and cuddles me and ...
A. 9 October 2007: What are the other areas of both your lives like at the moment, because stress can cause people to lose their sex drive, does he seem alright in himself at the moment or is he a little low.
It could also be just one of those things as it is quit... (read in full...)
Should I try to call him, or wait for him to call me?
Q. theres this one guy who i got his number a while ago. we talked to each other alot. he seemed like a nice guy and i liked him. but he stopped calling me all of a sudden. is this a sign that he wants to break up if we were ever together? should i ...
A. 8 October 2007: You have nothing to lose by giving him a call, there's nothing wrong with us women doing the chasing and if he is not interested at least you will know where you stand, and you can move on without that 'what if'.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
What should I do if he wants to be part of our lives again?
Q. I called my daughter's dad, left a message to call back. He called. Judging from the tone of his voice, he wasn't having a good day. Everything that he is going thru has been broughten upon him by his doings onto my daughter and I and others. ...
A. 8 October 2007: Do you really need to be told what to do babe?, i think you know deep down what needs to be said to him when that call comes through.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Should I call him, or leave him forever?
Q. Could you give me an advice? The man i used to date this year he always hasn't enough time to see me. He usually apologised that he was so much occupied with his work which is true in some point. However, the last time i saw him this weekend he said ...
A. 8 October 2007: Do you want to see him on a casual basis knowing full well there will not be anything more to it?
I think maybe you should move on as i know i would not want to be with someone that i have kind of had to force to be with me.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Should I call him, or leave him forever?
Q. Could you give me an advice? The man i used to date this year he always hasn't enough time to see me. He usually apologised that he was so much occupied with his work which is true in some point. However, the last time i saw him this weekend he said ...
A. 8 October 2007: Do you want to see him on a casual basis knowing full well there will not be anything more to it?
I think maybe you should move on as i know i would not want to be with someone that i have kind of had to force to be with me.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Should I call him, or leave him forever?
Q. Could you give me an advice? The man i used to date this year he always hasn't enough time to see me. He usually apologised that he was so much occupied with his work which is true in some point. However, the last time i saw him this weekend he said ...
A. 8 October 2007: Do you want to see him on a casual basis knowing full well there will not be anything more to it?
I think maybe you should move on as i know i would not want to be with someone that i have kind of had to force to be with me.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Should I call him, or leave him forever?
Q. Could you give me an advice? The man i used to date this year he always hasn't enough time to see me. He usually apologised that he was so much occupied with his work which is true in some point. However, the last time i saw him this weekend he said ...
A. 8 October 2007: Do you want to see him on a casual basis knowing full well there will not be anything more to it?
I think maybe you should move on as i know i would not want to be with someone that i have kind of had to force to be with me.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Should I call him, or leave him forever?
Q. Could you give me an advice? The man i used to date this year he always hasn't enough time to see me. He usually apologised that he was so much occupied with his work which is true in some point. However, the last time i saw him this weekend he said ...
A. 8 October 2007: Do you want to see him on a casual basis knowing full well there will not be anything more to it?
I think maybe you should move on as i know i would not want to be with someone that i have kind of had to force to be with me.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Should I call him, or leave him forever?
Q. Could you give me an advice? The man i used to date this year he always hasn't enough time to see me. He usually apologised that he was so much occupied with his work which is true in some point. However, the last time i saw him this weekend he said ...
A. 8 October 2007: Do you want to see him on a casual basis knowing full well there will not be anything more to it?
I think maybe you should move on as i know i would not want to be with someone that i have kind of had to force to be with me.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Should I call him, or leave him forever?
Q. Could you give me an advice? The man i used to date this year he always hasn't enough time to see me. He usually apologised that he was so much occupied with his work which is true in some point. However, the last time i saw him this weekend he said ...
A. 8 October 2007: Do you want to see him on a casual basis knowing full well there will not be anything more to it?
I think maybe you should move on as i know i would not want to be with someone that i have kind of had to force to be with me.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Should I call him, or leave him forever?
Q. Could you give me an advice? The man i used to date this year he always hasn't enough time to see me. He usually apologised that he was so much occupied with his work which is true in some point. However, the last time i saw him this weekend he said ...
A. 8 October 2007: Do you want to see him on a casual basis knowing full well there will not be anything more to it?
I think maybe you should move on as i know i would not want to be with someone that i have kind of had to force to be with me.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Should I call him, or leave him forever?
Q. Could you give me an advice? The man i used to date this year he always hasn't enough time to see me. He usually apologised that he was so much occupied with his work which is true in some point. However, the last time i saw him this weekend he said ...
A. 8 October 2007: Do you want to see him on a casual basis knowing full well there will not be anything more to it?
I think maybe you should move on as i know i would not want to be with someone that i have kind of had to force to be with me.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a 16 year old girl.
Q. hey. This may seem odd to a lot of people out there, but I think I'm in love with a 16 year-old girl. I'm friends with her mother who delivers baked goods to my shop. Sometimes "Diana", the mother, will send "Jocelyn", her daughter, to my shop to ...
A. 8 October 2007: You should steer well clear of this one, imagine you have a daughter of your own at that age and a man of your age takes a liking to her how would you feel about it.
Maybe it would be an idea if when she comes in your shop, you could if there is s... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is signing up for online dating services.
Q. What does it mean when your partner signs up to an online dating serice and is looking for females around our age in the state we live in? We live together and he otherwise is very loving and caring towards me. Known him for 7 years and togeth...
A. 8 October 2007: Agree with the others on this, there could be a totally inoccent explanation for this, especially if there has been no indication that he is not happy in your relationship.
Talk to him about it and try and remember to stay calm.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Not sure what it is!
Q. I Have Like A Little Bump Right Next To My Vagina But Im Not Sure What It Is! It Really Hurts When I Touch It And Sometimes Goes Red! And By The Way In Only 13! Please Help me...
A. 8 October 2007: Hey babe it could very well be an ingrown hair or something just as harmless but if you are that concerned then i would suggest you pay a visit to your gp show it to them and they will advise you.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Confused about how the pill works
Q. how does the pill (yaz) work once youve been on it for about 4 months as far as when you have your period. when you are on your period and you are taking the placebos....when are you fully protected by the pill to have sex again. is it as soon as ...
A. 7 October 2007: Babe all pills are different so i would suggest putting the name of your pill through a search engine and you will be able to get all the info you need.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I like him, and my parents like him. He likes me... But his parents don't! How do I overcome their negativity?
Q. Hi. Well where do I start...my boyfriend and I have been together 3 years, and got together when we were both 18. My family have welcomed him with open arms, however his family are not keen on me, and are not very nice to my bf. They pile loads of...
A. 7 October 2007: Hey inlaws can be a nightmare sometimes, but unfortunatly they come as part of the package just stick together and try not to let them get to you, you two are the most important thing.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend cheating?
Q. I have written a few times recently. I had found out my boyfriend was talking to his ex about 5 times a month for 3 months and he had lied about it.. Now his ex is pretty much crazy, she had hacked into his email before and tried sending me messages...
A. 7 October 2007: Babe this will not just go away as you have had so much doubt put into your head by some deranged, jealous ex and the way i read it that is all she is.
All you can do babe is just take each day as it comes and try your hardest not to focus on it t... (read in full...)
Do I fancy or hate my teacher?
Q. There's this teacher at school that i always think i've hated! i always say i hate him and take the mik out of him with my friends just joking but...every time i see him my knees go weak and every time i talk to him or he looks at me i go all shaky ...
A. 7 October 2007: I reacon you fancy him personally, but you don't want to admit it to anyone so you try and hide it by acting the way you do with him, never heard of going weak at the knees at the sight of someone being because you hate them.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Is it really worth getting back with my ex?
Q. I have been on and off with this girl for over 2 years. I love her with all my heart. This girl was my first love so maybe thats why I have so many feelings for her. She is very selfish and flirtatious. I am 24 and she is 20 and maybe its beca...
A. 7 October 2007: Sounds like this relationship is very one sided, and if you are really honest with yourself as much as you love her do you want to be in a relationship like that?
With the problems that there are already i don't think the distance is going to help... (read in full...)
Am I right to doubt my boyfriend?
Q. Ok, here's the problem, I love my bf but lately he has been saying how nice looking and open-minded my best friend is, my brother has told me to leave him because he thinks he is cheating on me and I want to leave him but we live in the same house ...
A. 7 October 2007: Do you have any reason to think that he is cheating on you, as you have to bear in mind brothers can be very protective over their sisters and it's not always what they think.
Also you say you wabt to leave him and they fact that you live in the ... (read in full...)
Have I any rights over my ex?
Q. my ex is moving in to a new flat do you think i have a right to see it before i let her see her son i have a order for the kid becouse she drinks and does drinks he lives with me. she is moving at the end of oct and has told me she will not let...
A. 7 October 2007: If you have full custody over your child, then you have every right to know where she is living if she wants to have your child over to stay as you need to be sure that the environment is safe for your child.
You may need to go to court to get this... (read in full...)
Why do men seek attention from other women?
Q. Hi there, I recently read some of your response and would like to ask you the following. I have a wonderful man. Treats me with respect, love, loving words, very complimentary, we wake in the morning and he holds me and tells me I'm beautifu...
A. 7 October 2007: Taste of his own medicine maybe in order, i'm not usually a fan of playing games but on the odd occasion it's what's needed to get through to someone.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
My wife chats to other men in internet chatrooms. Am I right to be annoyed and upset?
Q. My wife has recently started using internet chat sites, mainly a flirting one. She can sit for hours chatting to other men most of which is of a personal and sexual nature, she has also given out her mobile number to some of these men so that they ...
A. 7 October 2007: Too right you should be upset about this as far as i would be concerned this is just as bad as having an affair.
What your relationship like at the moment, had things got bad between you bofore this started to happen?
You need to tell her how much... (read in full...)
My husband masturbates to porn sites - should I feel betrayed?
Q. I have been married for 30 years and I have caught my husband viewing porn sites and selecting a person that he obviously likes the look of. Once selected he starts to masturbate. I do not agree with this and I have also caught him doing this to ...
A. 7 October 2007: Are there issues when it comes to your sex life? is this a sudden thig?.
I have no problem with my husband watching porn if he wants to do that and he feels the same with me, some people see it as a really big deal but it is only a film with acto... (read in full...)
I'm athletic and confident but I'm still a virgin. Please help!
Q. I'm 22 years of age and have never really been in a long-term relationship. Up until a couple of years ago, I had no self-confidence and could never understand how anyone would want to be with me, let alone how they could find me remotely attract...
A. 7 October 2007: I will let you into a little secret, women actually find it quite a turn on if they know the person they are with is a virgin, especially the women out there that like to be the more dominent one, and if you are not interested in one night stands ... (read in full...)
How do I go about contacting the boy I fancy?
Q. I like this guy and I've been told he likes me and wants to get to know me. He's my friend's brother but that isn't the problem. The problem is I don't know how to get into contact with him beacuse he doesn't live near me. I would ask his sister ...
A. 7 October 2007: If she is a good friend then she should be one of the very people you should be able to discuss it with babe, just go for it and ask her tell her how you feel about him at least when you have done this you will know where you stand with her and hey ... (read in full...)
Could my flatmate be pregnant?
Q. My flatmate, work collegue and close friend has been acting really differently lately - hysterical laughs turn quickly into floods (quite literally) of tears. She is really stressed out and keeps skipping meals and then stuffing herself with foo...
A. 7 October 2007: Like basschick said she could be pregnant, although if she was using protection it's unlikely, but you say she is stressed out and is skipping meals so it could be that she is depressed, try sitting her down and having a chat find out how she ... (read in full...)
How do I stop my feelings towards my friend?
Q. I've fallen for my best friend but she has a boy friend. She is currently in a long distance relationship with him but she tells me about her feelings more than she does with him. I love her very much, much to the point where I care about her more...
A. 7 October 2007: Short of having nothing to do with her any more, which i understand you would not want to do, i don't think there is anything you can do, apart from meet someone else but then would that be fair if you feel the way you do about your friend.
You coul... (read in full...)
Having a Bridget Jones moment and seeking suggestions on how to handle my "hugh grant"!
Q. I'm having a Bridget Jones moment and I would like any suggestions concerning how to handle my "hugh grant" character. Initially, as usual, the first few dates were wonderful. Now he only seems to be interested in sex which, by the way, we have not ...
A. 7 October 2007: Just tell him you are worth more than he is offering, so you are moving on hold your head up high and wish him a good life, simple as you owe him nothing else.
Take care.xx.
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I hate feeling like the fat ugly one next to all my gorgeous friends!
Q. I hate feeling like the fat ugly one next to all my gorgeous friends. Every guy that I ever like ends up with one of my two best friends. Last night I was at a party and my "best friend" got off with the guy that I was interested in. I always ...
A. 7 October 2007: There is no way on the face of this earth that you are even remotely fat being ten stone at 5'10.
Maybe you need to consider that your insecurities shine through so much that guys are afraid to approach you and i'm saying that from expe... (read in full...)
I don't think he loves me enough - should I let him get me pregnant?
Q. dear cupid\ I'm in a distance relationship with this guy, he is working and I am student, I'm 19 he is 24. At times he is all caring and loving, but when he is angry he calls me names and yet he says he loves me, he even wants to inpregnate me...
A. 7 October 2007: You do not treat someone that you love in that way, i would be very wary of him and would definatly not be even thinking about having a child with him.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Where should I spend Christmas and New Year - his place or mine?
Q. My bf planned for us to spend a week's vacation to their place this coming November. This is ok with me. I asked him to spend Christmas at my place then New Year at their place, but he insisted on spending both holidays at their place. His re...
A. 7 October 2007: The holiday vacations i believe should be spent with the family, maybe i'm just old fashioned.
I totally understand that you want to spend time with him, but i also think he should have abit more respect for the fact you would also like to spen... (read in full...)
I have Bulimia and I need help. I think I might be killing myself.
Q. I'm 19 and I've suffered from bulimia since i was 11 years old but now although i acknowledge there’s a problem I’m terrified to get help. I’m also highly worried about what i have done to my body and the irreversible damage I may have caused, I’m ...
A. 6 October 2007: Hi there, i just want to start by saying i think that it is great that you have realised that you do have a problem, that is the first step babe, now you need to act on this but you are going to need alot of support, now your paremts obviously ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant but my partner wants to terminate. What should I do?
Q. Hi I am 24 and I am aslo 10 weeks pregnant. I have been with my partner for only 4 months so got caught really quick - yes, we were both stupid. I had a termination last year at five months due to medical conditions and my current partner ...
A. 6 October 2007: I know you say you love him, but honestly how can you love someone that could try and make you chose between him and your unborn child, he is using emotional blackmail on you and if he can do that now what's to stop him doing that in the future to ... (read in full...)
I need someone to tell me I'm not a slut for having sex at 11. And how do I tell my mum about the pregnancy?
Q. When i was 11 i had sex for the first time and got pregnant i just need someone to tell me im not a slut, am i ?? i am 11 and pregnant how do i tell my mum and what do i do??...
A. 6 October 2007: Babe it does not make you a slut, unfortunatly probably just poorly educated, it will not be easy telling your mum but it something you are just going to have to do, i don't think there is an easy way of doing it and i'm sure when your mum has got ... (read in full...)
He keeps hurting me! I keep loving him! Should I give him another chance?
Q. Hi guys. I've met this great guy, let's call him Tom in May. We met at work. He was really sweet, he bought me flowers and everything was perfect.We started dating.In July I had to leave the town for a month. He replied for my two e-mails and that's ...
A. 6 October 2007: Stop wasting your time on someone that really can't be bothered babe, like you say you are at uni so get out there and enjoy yourself and get your qualifications, let him play his games with someone else.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Do people who are in love have things in common?
Q. Do people who are in love with each other have anything in common. Some people have told me that opposites attract but I have seen that it is not the true in some cases. The same could be refered to couples who have a lot in common. Can someone ...
A. 6 October 2007: I have met people that when i have spoken to them we could be peas in a pod, but there is absolutly nothing there romantically, me and my husband have some things in common but we are own people and we just gel and that is all it boils down to at ... (read in full...)
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