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writes:My ex and I broke up 3 months ago. We were together a long time and were very close. We have known each other as friends for even longer. His reason was that we had just grown apart (although I still don't think we had). I recently found out that he started seeing someone else only a week after we broke up. He is still with her now. A few weeks ago I met up with him for dinner and he told me that he misses me dreadfully and that he now realsies that he should never have ended our relationship. He said I'm still the only person who he can talk to and relate to. It was other factors such as his job which got in the way and we deserved more of a chance than he gave us. He also told me that he doesn't see this new relationship going anywhere and he wants to get out of it but doesn't know how. He said when he is with her he is always thinking of me and he started seeing her to take his mind off our break up. After this dinner we agreed to try and rebuild at least our friendship and to see how things go from there.However, I have since been told through his mate that he is totally into this new girl and he was fobbing me off with a load of rubbish. This upset me so much and when I asked him about it he said that everyword he said to me was the absolute truth. I have seen him again twice since that night, once we got on great and he even tried to kiss me, but the next time things were really awkward and we haven't spoken since. I just dont' know what is going on. I don't know who to believe, him or his mate and if he does feel the way he says he does about me. Why is he with someone else?
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (14 July 2007):
 You need to tell this guy that you will not commit to anything with him before he ends the relationship he's in and see what he does. If he doesn't end things then stop contact with him and get on with your life.
I agree with the lady below- actions do speak so much more louder then words! It's so easy for someone to say yeah I'm going to do that and never get around to it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2007): Sorry, but if he REALLY meant what he said and wanted to be with you again, he would end it with this other woman. He phone her and tell her it wasn't working and wish her goodbye and good luck; or he would simply not call her again to make arrangements to get together.Remember this: actions speak louder than words. Think about it: how well do his words and actions match up?
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reader, flower girl +, writes (14 July 2007):
 Exactly how hard is it to get out of a relationship, when there are no children, no marriage and no mortgage involved.
If you want out it is the only time it is that easy you just walk away.
Sounds to me as though he is trying his luck with you and says these things with the hope you feel sorry for him and see him on the side.
Take care.xx.
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