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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Do I not get her the lingerie this year, or what size do I get her?
Q. I will have been dating my gf for 4 years at the end of the month. Every year for our "anniversary" I buy her lingerie and jewelery. Buying her lingerie this year has been stressfull because of her weight. My gf is 5 ft 3 inches tall and weighed ...
A. 22 April 2008: You sound so sweet, she's a lucky girl.
Okay, ideas for the lingerie part. One is to just get her a really lovely silk robe and some fantastic bedroom slippers. There's not much worry in the sizing about these, so you can just ask the salesper... (read in full...)
I broke up with him, but I did it so subtly that I don't think he realizes it.
Q. My bf had been stringing me on for some time(years). Every so often we would have a talk and he would say he wasn't ready for marriage but never offered up when he might be and things would go on the same and not moving towards marriage or living ...
A. 21 April 2008: Thanks for the update! Sounds like things are going well with you. Stay busy, stay occupied, and think positively. Just wondering, did you manage to find the book I mentioned? I'd be curious to hear if you did, and if you found it helpful or not. 'A ... (read in full...)
Why can't I get the truth out of him, of why we broke up?
Q. How are you supposed to move on from a relationship that has ended when you don't even know WHY it ended??? My b/f broke up with me 1 month ago and I still have so many questions about why he ended it. I don't believe the broad/general reason he t...
A. 21 April 2008: Living with uncertainty is not the easiest thing to do, I know. But sometimes in life, timing is just not with you. I wouldn't waste too much time trying to get out of him his exact reasons 'why,' and try to accept that the relationship ended.
... (read in full...)
Moving to another country for love? He's not exactly against getting married eventually.
Q. moving for love? i'm with my bf for almost a year now. He's been wonderful, caring and loving. I'm 26, he's 31. he's moving to another country and has 'invited' me to move with him. Actually he said it's up to me but when I said I am consider...
A. 21 April 2008: It's a pretty big leap of faith, isn't it? Without a true commitment for the future on his part, if that is what you really want. Moving away from friends, family and work is always a huge stressor, and will put a strain on any relationship, even ... (read in full...)
I met a new guy who has what my boyfriend couldn't offer in terms of personality, but he's struggling financially. I stand at crossroad.
Q. I'm 27 this year. Dating with a man that i met one and a half years ago. When we first started dating, all i could think of was spending my life with him. I loved him dearly although he's a male chauvinist pig at times. Throughout the first 10 ...
A. 21 April 2008: Your gut is telling you that you're not ready to commit, I think. Why are you feeling pressure to marry? Does it come from within yourself or is it your boyfriend or is it family and friends telling you that it's time to settle down?
You should n... (read in full...)
I'm getting a pain in my jugular, what is it?
Q. Hello, any advice would be great! I keep getting pain in my jugular (weird I know!!), it's not all the time but just occassionaly I will get a really bad pain that lasts for about 5 mins or more and I can feel a kind of pressure. I'm having qui...
A. 20 April 2008: Sorry I can't give any firsthand help here; you might plug your symptoms into the symptom checker feature at webmd.com. It might be stress, it might be nothing, it might be worth getting checked out soon...
All the best, don't be afraid to ask a... (read in full...)
I'm worried about her cheating on me again because she has had a record of cheating on everyone she goes out with...
Q. hey I'm going back out with my ex gf(she asked me bak out this time). we went out about...2 or 3 months ago. lasted about a month then we broke up. we are essentially best friends and from what I understand she broke up with me then because she was ...
A. 19 April 2008: I'm going to be the boring old auntie here. You're still so young and have so much of your future ahead of you. At your age, you shouldn't feel tied down to a girlfriend, unless you two are truly committed to each other...
Could I suggest that you... (read in full...)
Gay feelings but I am straight?
Q. im a boy and im straight.Im addicted to mustarbating and i have developed that i lost interest in girl i always want to have sex with other boys.IS THIS NORMAL?...
A. 19 April 2008: Hi honey, there are lots of hormonal changes going on in your body. You are feeling confused and I think that's totally normal. Why not just let yourself relax and get to learn what it is that really 'turns you on' before worrying so much. Being gay ... (read in full...)
The day I found out about my parent's disease, my boyfriend was unsupportive. Since we generally have a rocky relation, would it be best to break up?
Q. i could really do with some help or advice....i'll try and cut this long story short and get to the point. basically last week i found out that my mother is in the early stages of alzheimers disease. im absolutely devastated and cant come to terms ...
A. 19 April 2008: Hi, sorry to hear about your mom's diagnosis. Very upsetting, I hope she's getting the best care she can.
You're going to be put into the position of learning a lot about this disease and its effects in the future. There is a lot of stress a... (read in full...)
He was not quite supportive when I told him I cannot climax without a vibrator! Shouldn't he be happy and excited to meet my needs??
Q. I have a problem with my boyfriend of 9 months. Everything in our relationship is great except for the sex. I do enjoy having sex with him very very much, but I can’t orgasm without a vibrator on my clitoris. I don’t know why and I wish it wasn’t ...
A. 18 April 2008: I didn't mean you had to throw the vibrator away, just kind of shelve it for a bit. As for masturbation ideas, PM me and I'll tell you what's worked for me. Otherwise, you can type 'masturbation' into the search box on the upper right hand side of ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: New feature, "watched questions" list
Q. I've added a new feature that lets you add questions to your "watched questions" page. It's just an easy way to make a list of questions that interest you and that you want to keep track of. It's easy to remove items from the list or clear it. ...
A. 17 April 2008: Thanks, Andrew, it's a nice feature to add. I'm already using it. Dear Cupid, I seem to be addicted to Dear Cupid, and it just gets better every day.... (read in full...)
I broke up with him, but I did it so subtly that I don't think he realizes it.
Q. My bf had been stringing me on for some time(years). Every so often we would have a talk and he would say he wasn't ready for marriage but never offered up when he might be and things would go on the same and not moving towards marriage or living ...
A. 16 April 2008: Funny, isn't it, when you take back control of your own life, you get that sense of relief. Believe me, I understand!
You do need to make sure that he understands that you're on the break though, otherwise, he might not get it. You might as well ... (read in full...)
My partner of 4 years is very controlling about everything even down to what we eat!
Q. My partner of 4 years is very controlling about everything even down to what we eat. We recently split for a couple of weeks when i found out he'd looked at porn on the internet. We got back together after talks, because I'd seen what he'd looked at ...
A. 16 April 2008: Why did you get back together? Did he come back and ask for a second chance, or did you ask him to come back?
I ask because it sounds like you two are still dealing with issues that haven't been resolved. He feels spied on, you feel that he's not... (read in full...)
How do I keep my man and control my emotions?
Q. im 18 with a 35 year old boy friend, we have lots in comon and get along great i'm about 6 weeks pregnant we're both happy about it, it's both our frist child and really he doesn't know what to expect and i'm trying to help him but it seems he ...
A. 16 April 2008: Hi there,
I've not been pregnant, so I can't help with any firsthand knowledge, but it does sound like you're a bit hormonal. Have you just been like this since you've become pregnant? I know that you said for one week before you were pregnant... (read in full...)
He's self harming because of his girlfriend. What should I do?
Q. Well, I like my best friend but he has a girlfriend. I think he might like me but i'm not sure. He's self harming because of his girlfriend. What should i do? It's getting to me. ...
A. 16 April 2008: Well, sorry to hear that you've fallen out. I can only hope that he's getting help if he needs it...
And are you okay? I hope that your friends and family are doing well. Don't be afraid to ask for help if you need it!
All the best.... (read in full...)
A question of who should be president?
Q. During the recent presidntial election many have talked about relgion and morals. John McCain is remarried while his first wife is stil living that is adultery. Hillary Clintons husband is an adulter. Barrack Obama has no cases against h...
A. 16 April 2008: Golly gee, this primitive (that's the word without the little extra a) thinker has been voting for longer than you've been around. So I kind of think I know a wee bit about how things work in the democratic process.
I'm very proud that you know... (read in full...)
Urgent help needed for assignment due in the morning!
Q. ive been really stupid and left an assignment until the last minute It's due in tomorrow morning, im panicking and haven't really got any notes for it! i know its all my own fault like,.. but any one got any ideas what i can do?...
A. 16 April 2008: You might also look at the reviews on amazon.com; I just checked there for you, and there might be enough there for you to work with.... (read in full...)
Urgent help needed for assignment due in the morning!
Q. ive been really stupid and left an assignment until the last minute It's due in tomorrow morning, im panicking and haven't really got any notes for it! i know its all my own fault like,.. but any one got any ideas what i can do?...
A. 16 April 2008: Have you looked at wikipedia.org?
LOL, eyes!... (read in full...)
A question of who should be president?
Q. During the recent presidntial election many have talked about relgion and morals. John McCain is remarried while his first wife is stil living that is adultery. Hillary Clintons husband is an adulter. Barrack Obama has no cases against h...
A. 16 April 2008: Golly gee, this primitive (that's the word without the little extra a) thinker has been voting for longer than you've been around. So I kind of think I know a wee bit about how things work in the democratic process.
I'm very proud that you know... (read in full...)
A question of who should be president?
Q. During the recent presidntial election many have talked about relgion and morals. John McCain is remarried while his first wife is stil living that is adultery. Hillary Clintons husband is an adulter. Barrack Obama has no cases against h...
A. 16 April 2008: Here's the bit that pertains to the qualifications of the President...
"No person except a natural born citizen, or a citizen of the United States, at the time of the adoption of this Constitution, shall be eligible to the office of Presiden... (read in full...)
A question of who should be president?
Q. During the recent presidntial election many have talked about relgion and morals. John McCain is remarried while his first wife is stil living that is adultery. Hillary Clintons husband is an adulter. Barrack Obama has no cases against h...
A. 16 April 2008: You know, I have to have a quick peek at the US Constitution again. I'm pretty sure that "adultery" wasn't an exclusion to being in public office.
Why aren't you asking the same question about the leaders of other nations? Or is your world vi... (read in full...)
He was not quite supportive when I told him I cannot climax without a vibrator! Shouldn't he be happy and excited to meet my needs??
Q. I have a problem with my boyfriend of 9 months. Everything in our relationship is great except for the sex. I do enjoy having sex with him very very much, but I can’t orgasm without a vibrator on my clitoris. I don’t know why and I wish it wasn’t ...
A. 16 April 2008: Er, to the last poster, was that a score? I really was hoping to have a male uncle give a man's perspective on this one...
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I am getting tired of waiting for him to see that I am there for him, to notice that I have let him absorb my identity and my everything! It's confusing, what can I do?
Q. I've been in this relationship for past three years and it been wonderful but at the same time it has given me so much of sorrow that i feel like killing myself at times. I love this guy. For me it was love at first sight and he openly admits th...
A. 16 April 2008: I think that you've invested enough time and energy into this relationship, and it sounds like he has put into it all he can, to be able to decide if it has legs, long-term potential. So the question of all or none... well, I think he's giving you ... (read in full...)
My Dad is setting me up with his friends!-Is he winding me up?
Q. im soo confused and just dont understand why my dad would want me to do this. well on monday we was watching thig programme on tv. me, dad, my friend who stayed over at mine and my dads friend. me and rachel went upstairs ont he computer just ...
A. 15 April 2008: Hi there, did you read my previous post? Did you tell anyone?
I think if you read all the posts that you actually had some good advice, why aren't you commenting on those?
What did your mum say?... (read in full...)
Any tips for me on how to approach him?
Q. I'm a jr. in high school. I'm on the softball team as well as other clubs. I have a lot of good friends. But I have trouble when it comes to guys. They never seem to work out for whatever reason. I like a sr. guy Andrew. He is very attractive....
A. 15 April 2008: The whole problem with this is that you won't know if he likes you until you try. But you don't have to be too obvious about it... when I was your age, there was this whole grapevine thing. You could tell the girl you knew was a big gossip ... (read in full...)
Are there any other people who want to wait for marriage before having sex?
Q. As a young man 25 years old, I want to know if there are any other people from 18-35 who have standards and want to remain virgins when they marry, also would not marry a person who has been divorced and had kids of of wedlock?...
A. 15 April 2008: At 47, I'm too old too, but I'm with Eyes here in sending a great big hug to Deejuliet too.
... (read in full...)
How do I write a song?
Q. ok i have a question but it's not to do with relationships or love or sex etc. its to do with music. i play drums and really want to be able to learn how to write song lyrics has anyone got any knowledge or websites i can go to because i really want ...
A. 15 April 2008: We wish you success. Hey, I'd like to see a note on your first album crediting all your success to Dear Cupid! :-)
Just kidding, go make some great songs now.... (read in full...)
I'm scared I have herpes! What do I do?
Q. I'm scared I think I have herpes. I have been with my boyfriend for over a year. He is my first. He has been in previous relationships. He's never cheated on me. Today I discovered what looked like a blister/pimple around my anus and I'm really w...
A. 15 April 2008: Sorry to hear of your worry. It's best that you make a doctor's appointment to have it checked out right away. It could be herpes or something else, or it could be nothing to worry about.
Here's a link for you to look at, but don't worry too much... (read in full...)
Should I make the next move or wait to see if he contacts me again?
Q. Hello! I am wondering what to do next. There is this man that I have known for a very longtime. We went to high school together and then had a few classes together in college. In college we studied together a few times. One night he made a pass ...
A. 15 April 2008: Hey, don't worry so much about him not calling; anything could have happened. I'm sorry he hasn't called yet. Why don't you wait until tomorrow or Thursday and then call him with a cheerful voice and ask if he'd like to have that drink with you this ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend sent me a very strange text that makes me think he is cheating. Is he?
Q. My boyfriend of the past year sent me a text message yesterday while he was with me. It read "I'm at my moms, call you in a minute". I asked him if he sent me a message and he said no. When I opened it and asked him why he sent me this message and ...
A. 15 April 2008: I don't think you're missing anything. Just keep a close eye on this, my own personal radar would be on high alert! Good luck.... (read in full...)
Met him online and we've spoken to meet in person. Problems are his age and long distance.
Q. I'm 25 and gay, and I met a guy online, who I really connected with. The problems are, he's 18, and lives halfway across the country. We've spoken of meeting, and I think it's mutual that we both want to. I'm still apprehensive, due to his age, but ...
A. 15 April 2008: You're putting a lot of effort and faith into a guy you haven't met in person yet! You should stop worrying about him so much, it's not good to hand your heart over to a guy you don't really know.
Long distance relationships are challeng... (read in full...)
One minute he is talking long-term for us and the next he's not interested...what's going on?
Q. Hi, I'm so miserable, i've been with my guy for just over a month, we both agree that this is a serious long term relationship obviously feelings and circumstances considered. But i dunno i'm gettin mixed signals! One minute he talks about our ...
A. 15 April 2008: Hi, you've only been together a month, so things are still developing and you're only just getting to know each other. Lighten up a bit, stop worrying so much about the future and just enjoy his company. I agree with the previous poster that no one ... (read in full...)
My Dad is setting me up with his friends!-Is he winding me up?
Q. im soo confused and just dont understand why my dad would want me to do this. well on monday we was watching thig programme on tv. me, dad, my friend who stayed over at mine and my dads friend. me and rachel went upstairs ont he computer just ...
A. 15 April 2008: Um, why didn't you call the police, the NSPCC or Childline? Or why didn't you tell a teacher or your mum or a close adult relative? I think that you've received some good advice, why not act on it?
Come back and let us know how the phone call or ... (read in full...)
How can I get my girlfriend to orgasm?
Q. Whats the best way to make my GF orgasm ive got her close but shes never actully orgasmed please help?...
A. 15 April 2008: Have her show you how she does it for herself. If she doesn't know how, you're not going to be able to do it for her. And why not just buy a vibrator?... (read in full...)
He vacilates between telling me he loves me and telling me he is using me for sex and calling me names. What gives?
Q. Hi I hope you dont mind me writing to you found your site on google and think you may be able to help and any advice is welcome. Thing is I met a bloke ten weeks ago and have found myself falling for him already and much to my delight he told ...
A. 15 April 2008: Hi, glad you found dearcupid! I'm happy for you that you have found love, I'm just a little concerned that things seem to be moving awfully quickly here. You haven't really known each other that long, and are already in deep. It does take some time ... (read in full...)
I feel so angry with my parents and so many relatives and so-called friends
Q. I feel so angry with my parents and so many relatives and so-called friends. My parents decided to hold a family party which was an absolute disaster. My dad who initially agreed to this party believing that we wouldn't go ahead with it, then ...
A. 15 April 2008: It does sound like a very grim party, I'm sorry for that. You seem to have put a great deal of emotional value on it going well, and I think in a way you might have been a little unrealistic about it solving all the problems that your family seems ... (read in full...)
My Mother in law is not speaking to me, or anyone right now and I am hurting because of it
Q. My mother in law is not speaking to me again. We had some words. She is not entirely upset with just me. She is got a lot going on. House guest who came to visit and never left, quit smoking, possible job change etc. We live next door to each ...
A. 15 April 2008: Hi Mery, I'm so sorry to hear about your awful history with your family; that is truly shocking and must be very painful for you.
Your feelings of feeling abandoned and hurt by your mother-in-law are natural and understandable. I don't know of ... (read in full...)
I broke up with him, but I did it so subtly that I don't think he realizes it.
Q. My bf had been stringing me on for some time(years). Every so often we would have a talk and he would say he wasn't ready for marriage but never offered up when he might be and things would go on the same and not moving towards marriage or living ...
A. 15 April 2008: One more thing that might help you in this new phase of your relationship with him, a book I recommend because it helped me a lot.
'A Fine Romance' by Judith Sills PhD.
All the best.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend sent me a very strange text that makes me think he is cheating. Is he?
Q. My boyfriend of the past year sent me a text message yesterday while he was with me. It read "I'm at my moms, call you in a minute". I asked him if he sent me a message and he said no. When I opened it and asked him why he sent me this message and ...
A. 15 April 2008: Sounds like he might be, it is an extremely odd thing to do as a 'joke.' I don't blame you for doubting him and questioning his truthfulness. There's nothing you can do but have a serious discussion with him about it. You might now notice things ... (read in full...)
I broke up with him, but I did it so subtly that I don't think he realizes it.
Q. My bf had been stringing me on for some time(years). Every so often we would have a talk and he would say he wasn't ready for marriage but never offered up when he might be and things would go on the same and not moving towards marriage or living ...
A. 15 April 2008: Tell him if he calls that you two are on a break. Then say that you're a little busy, and need to end the call, as you've made other plans and have to get ready, run some errands and and do some clothes shopping. Then you can turn off your phone and ... (read in full...)
My dad is trying to win us over after coming back to my mom...but it's not working
Q. hey im from a broken family my mom dad separated when i was 9, im 12 now and my dad has come back but even though he tries to win us we always end up hating him even more.. why am i feeling this way?...
A. 15 April 2008: I think you are still angry with him for leaving in the first place, this is a natural feeling and I think quite normal.
Just give yourself time to accept him back into your life and your family; he loves you and I'm sure wants you to be happy.
... (read in full...)
He's self harming because of his girlfriend. What should I do?
Q. Well, I like my best friend but he has a girlfriend. I think he might like me but i'm not sure. He's self harming because of his girlfriend. What should i do? It's getting to me. ...
A. 15 April 2008: I hope that he does tell his mom. Are you okay with this and do you think that this is the best thing for him?... (read in full...)
He's self harming because of his girlfriend. What should I do?
Q. Well, I like my best friend but he has a girlfriend. I think he might like me but i'm not sure. He's self harming because of his girlfriend. What should i do? It's getting to me. ...
A. 15 April 2008: I still think you should tell somebody about this worry of yours; it might be nothing, but maybe he's lying to you about stopping...... (read in full...)
He's self harming because of his girlfriend. What should I do?
Q. Well, I like my best friend but he has a girlfriend. I think he might like me but i'm not sure. He's self harming because of his girlfriend. What should i do? It's getting to me. ...
A. 15 April 2008: If you're really concerned about him, please tell an adult; preferably your parents or a teacher. You don't have to tell them that you think he might like you, just that you're worried that he's hurting himself. This is too big a burden for you to ... (read in full...)
How do I write a song?
Q. ok i have a question but it's not to do with relationships or love or sex etc. its to do with music. i play drums and really want to be able to learn how to write song lyrics has anyone got any knowledge or websites i can go to because i really want ...
A. 14 April 2008: Hi, I found a couple of links for you to look at for some guidance...
But the best thing is to write about what you know. I'd suggest that you either write it down or talk into a recording device so that the words and feelings are your own.
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I am getting tired of waiting for him to see that I am there for him, to notice that I have let him absorb my identity and my everything! It's confusing, what can I do?
Q. I've been in this relationship for past three years and it been wonderful but at the same time it has given me so much of sorrow that i feel like killing myself at times. I love this guy. For me it was love at first sight and he openly admits th...
A. 14 April 2008: Hi, sorry to hear that you're feeling so much distress about this relationship, and I do feel for you, but I have to tell you that you need to look calmly and objectively at what you yourself have written about this.
"he openly admits that he ... (read in full...)
Any tips for me on how to approach him?
Q. I'm a jr. in high school. I'm on the softball team as well as other clubs. I have a lot of good friends. But I have trouble when it comes to guys. They never seem to work out for whatever reason. I like a sr. guy Andrew. He is very attractive....
A. 14 April 2008: He sounds really nice! Why not ask him for some help with your catching and throwing a softball? A very simple question, and it gives him a chance to show off his baseball skills.... (read in full...)
He was not quite supportive when I told him I cannot climax without a vibrator! Shouldn't he be happy and excited to meet my needs??
Q. I have a problem with my boyfriend of 9 months. Everything in our relationship is great except for the sex. I do enjoy having sex with him very very much, but I can’t orgasm without a vibrator on my clitoris. I don’t know why and I wish it wasn’t ...
A. 14 April 2008: I'm quite sure he wants to get you off, otherwise he wouldn't be with you. My guess here is that the presence of the vibrator is a big sign to him that he is not enough for you. I'm hoping the agony uncles weigh in with the male point of view, so ... (read in full...)
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