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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Embarassing question, I seem to have lost a vibrator...
Q. okay, this is embarrassing. About 2 weeks ago, I came home from a night out (yes, alcohol was involved). I fell asleep with my cordless "bullett" (a small vibrator) and have not been able to find it since. Is it possible that it is lost inside of ...
A. 3 June 2008: I just pictured trying to buy a vibrator in Paris, using only sign language, as I have just about zero French language knowledge. What would THAT pantomime look like?... (read in full...)
My new husband says I'm mental, am I ?
Q. Hi, I am recently married and I need some advice as to how to stor the rows that are happening in it. It's not so much the rows but the escallation of them. For example today my husband asked my opinion on a carton of milk that had been left in his ...
A. 27 May 2008: I hope that the book will help; it's just a tool to help you two learn to speak each other's language. You obviously have different styles of communicating, and maybe since the current way isn't working, it's time to think about the best ways to ... (read in full...)
This lad at college has recorded a very private conversation! What can we do? He's going to stir things up!
Q. I'll start from the beginning, best place to start. This all happened about a week ago. I'm currently at college. Me, and two other girls were sitting at lunch, having a big girly chat and eating. A lad we know came along and asked us to keep...
A. 27 May 2008: You're not going to get any better advice than LazyGuy's suggestions. I can only add that you should talk to the head of your college to report him as well. This is very probably not the first time this guy has done this and will not be the last, ... (read in full...)
I'm terrified of dogs, and this is causing a problem with my sister and me!
Q. My sister is a dog lover. I am terrified of dogs. She adopts large dogs and has several at a time. She recently moved from across the country to a few miles away from me and my family. She has become pregnant for the first time. I can't stand ...
A. 27 May 2008: Hi, sorry to hear that you're terrified of dogs. I have a medium sized dog who is a real sweetheart around children but does go after chipmunks, squirrels, rabbits, etc. in my yard. (He's not very good at it, but it's good exercise for him to chase ... (read in full...)
My new husband says I'm mental, am I ?
Q. Hi, I am recently married and I need some advice as to how to stor the rows that are happening in it. It's not so much the rows but the escallation of them. For example today my husband asked my opinion on a carton of milk that had been left in his ...
A. 27 May 2008: Just one more thought from me. During a recent argument--actually more of a heated discussion--with my husband, he quoted Albert Einstein on the definition of insanity.
"Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting differen... (read in full...)
My new husband says I'm mental, am I ?
Q. Hi, I am recently married and I need some advice as to how to stor the rows that are happening in it. It's not so much the rows but the escallation of them. For example today my husband asked my opinion on a carton of milk that had been left in his ...
A. 27 May 2008: A homework assignment for both Mr. and Mrs. F. Read Deborah Tannen's book, 'You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation.' Available new and used from booksellers online.
Extra credit will be given to the spouse who gives the first bo... (read in full...)
Embarassing question, I seem to have lost a vibrator...
Q. okay, this is embarrassing. About 2 weeks ago, I came home from a night out (yes, alcohol was involved). I fell asleep with my cordless "bullett" (a small vibrator) and have not been able to find it since. Is it possible that it is lost inside of ...
A. 27 May 2008: Hahahaha! I'm glad this story had a happy ending. Now we can only speculate as to the new life the little 'bullet' is leading. Hope it's having a blast! Maybe there's a 'Finding Nemo' story in it?
Thank you VERY MUCH for the update; we were all... (read in full...)
It started as friendship, then casual sex. Now it's more to me and I don't know how to tell her.
Q. Hi. I am a 17 year old male. lately, me and this girl who I am pretty much best friends with have been sleeping together quite frequently. At first it was just casual sex, but i eventually developed a lot of other feelings for her from being around ...
A. 27 May 2008: So you're best-friends-with-benefits, is that right? And you've developed feelings of love for her. And she doesn't want to continue the sex part, do I understand that correctly? Or is it that she wants to end the friendship?
I think there's ... (read in full...)
Tears stream down my face when I orgasm! Why is this?
Q. Hi. Any advise will be helpful. In the last 6 months or so when my boyfriend brings me to orgasim I have this rush of emotion and I can't help but cry. I don't understand what this is about. It just starts and tears are just running down my face. I ...
A. 27 May 2008: The tears happen to me too occasionally. I don't worry about it because I think it's just that you have released all your feelings and are completely vulnerable. Not a bad thing, I think, you're in a safe place with your boyfriend and you can let ... (read in full...)
I want to write a book. Where do I start?
Q. Hi everyone. I want to write a book but I am not an experienced writer. I have so many ideas and would love to become a writer for a living but do not know where to start. I got a C grade for G.C.S.E English but feel as though that is not good...
A. 27 May 2008: Hi, I think lots of authors keep journals of their daily lives and their thoughts, you could start there. I don't think the grade should be an indication of your ability to write well, so just forget about that and don't spend another minute ... (read in full...)
What are the different bases?
Q. i was just wondering, at the risk of sounding ridiculous, but here goes....what are the bases? i know the first base is kissing...are they 3 bases?? thx in advance...
A. 27 May 2008: When I was a teenager, lo these 30 years ago (GASP!), the bases were divided geographically, so to speak.
First base was above the neck, therefore kissing.
Second base was anything above the waist.
Third base was anything except intercou... (read in full...)
I've tried everything, and so far failed, to get her to reach orgasm
Q. Hi all, I'm hoping you can help! I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for a few months now, and I've tried everything, and so far failed, to get her to reach orgasm. She's quite inexperienced, she's only had one sexual partner before m...
A. 23 May 2008: I had a bit more of a think about this question, and I wanted to add one more idea.
Try this, make sure you have some time to devote to this, the whole night or a weekend if possible, and this will require some self-denial on your part.
Spen... (read in full...)
My parents want to bribe me not to go out with him... what can I do?
Q. So my boyfriend who i been on and off with for 3 years now is really special to me. The only thing is my parents just dont approve. When we break up they are so happy an when we are together again they get so angry at me an dont talk to me for a few ...
A. 23 May 2008: Thank you for the update, that helps a lot. Okay, I don't have children, so I can't speak from a personal persective as a parent, but I did bring home some boyfriends that my parents just didn't like. But my parents managed to keep mum about it and ... (read in full...)
Both married, and it cannot be. What happens to the feelings?
Q. Man meets woman at work.There is serious attraction on both sides. It cannot be. Both married, age difference, etc. The friendship is ended on good terms.Both look to their marriages. What happens to those feelings in time? Those of you wh...
A. 23 May 2008: Those feelings get put into a little keepsake box in the memory, occasionally taken out and contemplated, with a smile and a great deal of wistfullness, then put back in the box, until needed again.... (read in full...)
I've tried everything, and so far failed, to get her to reach orgasm
Q. Hi all, I'm hoping you can help! I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for a few months now, and I've tried everything, and so far failed, to get her to reach orgasm. She's quite inexperienced, she's only had one sexual partner before m...
A. 23 May 2008: Hi, gosh, what a lucky girl to have such a thoughtful and caring boyfriend! Good on you!
Right, on to the problem, which, believe me I understand, as I was just like your girlfriend at one time. Now, I've figured things out, for myself at least, a... (read in full...)
How can I tell her she's pretty without leting her know I like her?
Q. If a girl says she looks bad in her picture what can I say positive to make her feel good without being corny or giving signs that I like her???...
A. 23 May 2008: I agree with Collaroy, no girl will ever laugh at you if you tell her she is beautiful. So just tell her what Collaroy suggested if you like her.
Now, if you're just trying to be nice and don't really like her, then think of some celebrit... (read in full...)
Are women not attracted to shorter men?
Q. i have heard a lot of times that women naturally are not attracted to shorter men than them or they tend to look down on them maybe with disrespect. how true is this, ladies?...
A. 22 May 2008: The men I would think of with disrespect are men who treat others around them poorly, behave badly towards the women in their life, lie, or cheat or just generally be miserable people. It has nothing to do with height. I have some male friends who ... (read in full...)
My parents want to bribe me not to go out with him... what can I do?
Q. So my boyfriend who i been on and off with for 3 years now is really special to me. The only thing is my parents just dont approve. When we break up they are so happy an when we are together again they get so angry at me an dont talk to me for a few ...
A. 22 May 2008: I have to ask why you think your family doesn't like him? Sometimes parents can be overprotective but they also want to make sure that their children are happy and well-treated by people. Could you explain what he's done to make them spread lies ... (read in full...)
I can't stop crying my heart out. All I hear are my own words, my own visions of hell. Please help.
Q. Dear ones, I can't take it anymore, this situation, I can't stop crying my heart out. I know everyone have problems I agree, and most of them maybe are most difficult than mine, but I truly can't take it anymore. I have boyfriend 3 years I lov...
A. 22 May 2008: Hi, Lonely B, I'm so sorry to hear that you're so unhappy. We all go through difficult times, I think sadly that it's part of growing up and dealing with the world.
I think my best advice to you is to take a few steps back from both of these lo... (read in full...)
My husband has been sending pictures of himself in his underwear to a man, is planning to meet him, and has told me that it's none of my business!
Q. I'm 27, and my husband's 29. We have two children, a 4-year-old son and a 5-year-old daughter and have been married for 3 years. On Tuesday when I was checking our email to see if a bid I made on eBay was successful, an email came through fro...
A. 22 May 2008: This sounds odd to me, too. Is "Jeff" a personal trainer by any chance? I'd be curious as to the contents of the email as well.
I'd have a look at the browser history if I were you too, and check the phone bills.
But it may just be that he'... (read in full...)
Just started seeing him, but he'll be travelling for a year starting in October. Should I just go with it and see how things go?
Q. Hi there, I am 27 have recently starting seeing a guy who I know thru a bunch of friends - we were friends first and have known one another for about 8 mths. He is 24 and we both have pretty good jobs. I suddenly realised I fancied him ...
A. 22 May 2008: I'm with Waterloo on this one. Just relax and enjoy the relationship and getting to know him even better. You never know how things will turn out, so don't worry right now about the future of the relationship at this point. Obviously, don't pressure ... (read in full...)
Why was I born?
Q. Why I was born? This life is too hard for me. Only problems and conflicts....
A. 22 May 2008: Maybe you were born to ask that question today, which then makes one or two or three or a dozen or a hundred people ask themselves the same question.
And then those one or a hundred people think about what is important in life. And they realize ... (read in full...)
I'm 13, is it OK for me to loose my virginity?
Q. im 13 is it okay to loose my virginity im not sure can anybody help ?...
A. 22 May 2008: Hey guys, this is an older thread, as you'll note if you check the original question date, so I doubt the original poster is still reading it. But let me add this useful link anyway.
http:... (read in full...)
Welcome to Unprotected-Sex - The City of Sin
Q. Hey! Welcome to Unprotected-Sex. More and more tourists visit Unprotected-Sex every year, and we're sure there'll be more! While you're stopping, why not relax with the guy you met just a few minutes ago over a few vodkas at Cinema Syphilis...
A. 22 May 2008: I'm a big fan of "Gullible's Travels" at the cinema which includes the cast members who believe that eye drops prevent pregnancy and that someone is infertile only because no one he's slept with ever got pregnant. Cast of thousands...... (read in full...)
My son is on drugs...does love and patience really work or do I let him hit rock bottom???
Q. I am heartsick. My teen son has always been a gentle, quiet, bright yet strong and determined young man, with high marks and good goals, for his future. We had him in sports--soccer, snowboarding and golf. He always love electronics with a a ...
A. 22 May 2008: You are an amazingly brave and wise woman.
In the not too distant future, your son will have the clarity to see that you have done all that is humanly possible to help him through this, and will thank you. It may take some time, and there will be ... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose the spark in our relationship, but it's getting that way because of money issues.
Q. Dear Cupid, my boyfriend and i have just bought a house and we are finding it hard with money, we are coping, just, but can't find the time to save money. We want to go out and do things but we can't afford it, so we stay home and watch the tv. I ...
A. 22 May 2008: Instead of watching TV one night, why not cook together? Find some interesting recipes online and experiment in the kitchen!
Also you could check out volunteering together somewhere in the evenings, one evening a week. I don't know where you are ... (read in full...)
Broken up - what now?
Q. I need advice towards when a person falls out of love with the significant other.You see me and my GF broke up my friends tell me that it can be the change i went thru b4 the breakup in other words i have to be back to the same way i was when we 1st ...
A. 21 May 2008: What do you like (besides this girl, of course!) in your life? What makes you feel passionate and makes you so busy that you forget everything else around you?
Is it sports, music, video games, hanging out with friends, reading, studying?
Make... (read in full...)
My son is on drugs...does love and patience really work or do I let him hit rock bottom???
Q. I am heartsick. My teen son has always been a gentle, quiet, bright yet strong and determined young man, with high marks and good goals, for his future. We had him in sports--soccer, snowboarding and golf. He always love electronics with a a ...
A. 21 May 2008: Dear poster, I know this is so difficult for you to go through and my heart goes out to you. This is not going to be easy I know for you, but you know you are a strong person with only the best intentions for your son. I had one other thought for ... (read in full...)
I've been swinging for the past 2 years...should I take it further even though I'm married??
Q. hi i am nat i have been swinging for the last 2 years really in joy it looking to go a bit further in to orgys looking to have sex with 20 guys or more do u think this is a wise move as i am married??????...
A. 21 May 2008: I would recommend that you discuss this with your husband, if you are 'swinging' together. If you are doing this behind his back, then you are cheating, not swinging.
If your husband is amenable to this activity, then I'd also recommend having s... (read in full...)
I'm having dreams of other guys, what does it mean?
Q. Hi everyone! I am having some strange dreams lately, I have a boyfriend whom I am very happy with, but I keep having dreams that I am with other men. They are not sexual, but I have dreamt of being with my ex (I was sitting on his lap and he had h...
A. 21 May 2008: Uncle Sneaker, it could have been worse, Susan could have said 'billions!'
To our poster, dreams are just our minds way of staying healthy, so don't over-analyze them. They might be a useful tool for examining what's troubling us in life, or they ... (read in full...)
I've been with my bf for 3 years, then HE shows up again! I don't know a way out of this!
Q. I don't know what to do anymore with my life. I have a boyfriend we're 3 years together, I love him I swear is true but in my life show up the other one...He is so cold, without emocions but I fell in love with him. And i betrayed my boyfrien...
A. 21 May 2008: You're going to have to be strong and wise and pick the one who is best for you, that is what I meant to say. ... (read in full...)
I've been with my bf for 3 years, then HE shows up again! I don't know a way out of this!
Q. I don't know what to do anymore with my life. I have a boyfriend we're 3 years together, I love him I swear is true but in my life show up the other one...He is so cold, without emocions but I fell in love with him. And i betrayed my boyfrien...
A. 21 May 2008: Hi,
Which man would you really want in the future? The one who breaks up with you for no reason that he can explain, or the one who has loved you for 3 years?
Which one is the honorable man? You must think logically about this and be certain t... (read in full...)
My son is on drugs...does love and patience really work or do I let him hit rock bottom???
Q. I am heartsick. My teen son has always been a gentle, quiet, bright yet strong and determined young man, with high marks and good goals, for his future. We had him in sports--soccer, snowboarding and golf. He always love electronics with a a ...
A. 21 May 2008: I can't give advice as a parent, but only as one who watched a very good friend suffer from the disease of alcoholism and ultimately die as a result. I'm also no expert on drugs or rehab, so you have to take what I'm going to say with that caveat.
... (read in full...)
Any tips to induce childbirth so my beloved dying grandmother can see her first great grandchild? It would mean so much to me!
Q. I am pregnant with my first child. However my grandmother who is the most important person to me in my life is dying. There is nothing more in this world that I want than for my gran to see my child when it is born....but the way things are looking ...
A. 20 May 2008: One thing I forgot to add, my father's dad died before he was born. Now that is a loss that can never be forgotten, and I'm sure my dad would have loved to have known his own dad. But it was not meant to be.... (read in full...)
Any tips to induce childbirth so my beloved dying grandmother can see her first great grandchild? It would mean so much to me!
Q. I am pregnant with my first child. However my grandmother who is the most important person to me in my life is dying. There is nothing more in this world that I want than for my gran to see my child when it is born....but the way things are looking ...
A. 20 May 2008: Hi, sorry to hear that you didn't like the answers given. But you have to realize that trying to give birth prematurely might not be in the best interests of your baby.
The awful fact of life is that people leave this earth, they die, and they lea... (read in full...)
The more he says NO, the more I want my HOT neighbour!
Q. Ok I have never ever done this before! I am always a good girl who hasnt slept with many people. I never sleep around and i always make sure I am proctected. I have this neighbour who i find very attractive! I life at home with my parents and i have ...
A. 20 May 2008: Hi, I read your last post and the previous replies as well. The thing you're going to have to come to terms with is that you've asked for it, he's answered, and the answer is still 'no.' If you were a male asking this question here on the site, ... (read in full...)
"Am I really ready for sex?"
Q. Using contraceptives for the first time can be daunting and stressful. Before you rush out for those contraceptives ask yourself "Am I really ready for sex?" Running through these few questions with a simple YES or NO answer may help you to be reall...
A. 20 May 2008: Excellent article, CaroleP! It will certainly be useful to add as a link in answers to questions posed by lots of our readers; I know I will use it often.
A few links for those who need some more information:
http://www.pl... (read in full...)
Romantic music for a wedding - ideas please.
Q. Hi, This is probably an unusual one! But I am looking for help in regards to picking out music for an upcoming wedding ceremony! I dont want anything too lonely as it will be lonely enough. But ideas of more romantic tone. The main one I am having ...
A. 20 May 2008: So what did you decide on? And congratulations again, by the way.... (read in full...)
Sex with 67 men in the past, is that high or low in your opinion?
Q. My wife had sex with 67 men before me...is that number too high or low for a woman?...
A. 19 May 2008: The limericks are the real issue confusing,
The big question is, protection; was she using?
For sixty-seven or such,
Even one could be too much,
For to risk life and health is never amusing.... (read in full...)
I'd like to go on a date with her, but I think I might have been too keen. Have I made a mess of it all?
Q. I gt talking to a girl a couple of weeks ago from a dating site (plentyoffish.com). She said she was just looking for dating, nothing else. We messaged and texted for a couple days until I mentioned 'girlfriend' in a message. (I'd like to date ...
A. 19 May 2008: These are all good questions.
Maybe this girl is just not a grown up! Or she's confused or just not ready for any kind of relationship, casual dating or otherwise. Who knows, one thing you know for certain is that she is not worth worrying... (read in full...)
I need immediate help.. please! I'm being blackmailed!
Q. I need immediate help, please. Before I explain my situation, I just want the people to know that I'm not really.. 'this' kind of a person. I don't know why I acted this way, and now I'm paying the price for my stupidity. I've always been independ...
A. 16 May 2008: I agree with LazyGuy 100%; he has hit all the concerns you may have right on the head!
Get yourself on the phone to the police NOW!!!!
YOU ARE IN DANGER!
This man knows where you live and cannot be trusted to just 'go away.' He has to be ... (read in full...)
I need immediate help.. please! I'm being blackmailed!
Q. I need immediate help, please. Before I explain my situation, I just want the people to know that I'm not really.. 'this' kind of a person. I don't know why I acted this way, and now I'm paying the price for my stupidity. I've always been independ...
A. 16 May 2008: This is a very scary situation and I'm so sorry you find yourself in it. I hope that you can tell your parents, but I can see why you're afraid to. This is a really tough situation to be in.
I can only offer these as a source of help for you.
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I gave my virginity to him. How should I take revenge on him?
Q. I'm single and fell in love with a married guy. He is 10 years older than me. His wife was pregnant and got a baby daughter on my b'day. I gave my virginity to him, but after he got his wife back in his bed. He started acting weird, like ignoring ...
A. 16 May 2008: Living well is the best revenge.
George Herbert
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Embarassing question, I seem to have lost a vibrator...
Q. okay, this is embarrassing. About 2 weeks ago, I came home from a night out (yes, alcohol was involved). I fell asleep with my cordless "bullett" (a small vibrator) and have not been able to find it since. Is it possible that it is lost inside of ...
A. 15 May 2008: In the immortal words of Bruce Springsteen, "Someday we'll look back on this, and it will all seem funny."
I think it's probably lost in your sheets or your laundry or has rolled under the furniture somewhere. Do you have a roomate that could ha... (read in full...)
I'd like to go on a date with her, but I think I might have been too keen. Have I made a mess of it all?
Q. I gt talking to a girl a couple of weeks ago from a dating site (plentyoffish.com). She said she was just looking for dating, nothing else. We messaged and texted for a couple days until I mentioned 'girlfriend' in a message. (I'd like to date ...
A. 14 May 2008: I think you're going to have to accept that she's not interested in going on a date with you, if she hasn't responded to your texts and voicemails. It could be that you did a little too much texting and trying to contact her, and that put her off, ... (read in full...)
Romantic music for a wedding - ideas please.
Q. Hi, This is probably an unusual one! But I am looking for help in regards to picking out music for an upcoming wedding ceremony! I dont want anything too lonely as it will be lonely enough. But ideas of more romantic tone. The main one I am having ...
A. 7 May 2008: I suppose 'Get Me to the Church on Time' would be inappropriate, but congratulations to bride and groom.
Some non-classical ideas:
Then Came You, Dionne Warwick with the Spinners
For Once in My Life, lots of artists do this one, Michael Bu... (read in full...)
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