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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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He was not quite supportive when I told him I cannot climax without a vibrator! Shouldn't he be happy and excited to meet my needs??
Q. I have a problem with my boyfriend of 9 months. Everything in our relationship is great except for the sex. I do enjoy having sex with him very very much, but I can’t orgasm without a vibrator on my clitoris. I don’t know why and I wish it wasn’t ...
A. 18 April 2008: I didn't mean you had to throw the vibrator away, just kind of shelve it for a bit. As for masturbation ideas, PM me and I'll tell you what's worked for me. Otherwise, you can type 'masturbation' into the search box on the upper right hand side of ... (read in full...)
He's self harming because of his girlfriend. What should I do?
Q. Well, I like my best friend but he has a girlfriend. I think he might like me but i'm not sure. He's self harming because of his girlfriend. What should i do? It's getting to me. ...
A. 16 April 2008: Well, sorry to hear that you've fallen out. I can only hope that he's getting help if he needs it...
And are you okay? I hope that your friends and family are doing well. Don't be afraid to ask for help if you need it!
All the best.... (read in full...)
He was not quite supportive when I told him I cannot climax without a vibrator! Shouldn't he be happy and excited to meet my needs??
Q. I have a problem with my boyfriend of 9 months. Everything in our relationship is great except for the sex. I do enjoy having sex with him very very much, but I can’t orgasm without a vibrator on my clitoris. I don’t know why and I wish it wasn’t ...
A. 16 April 2008: Er, to the last poster, was that a score? I really was hoping to have a male uncle give a man's perspective on this one...
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I am getting tired of waiting for him to see that I am there for him, to notice that I have let him absorb my identity and my everything! It's confusing, what can I do?
Q. I've been in this relationship for past three years and it been wonderful but at the same time it has given me so much of sorrow that i feel like killing myself at times. I love this guy. For me it was love at first sight and he openly admits th...
A. 16 April 2008: I think that you've invested enough time and energy into this relationship, and it sounds like he has put into it all he can, to be able to decide if it has legs, long-term potential. So the question of all or none... well, I think he's giving you ... (read in full...)
Any tips for me on how to approach him?
Q. I'm a jr. in high school. I'm on the softball team as well as other clubs. I have a lot of good friends. But I have trouble when it comes to guys. They never seem to work out for whatever reason. I like a sr. guy Andrew. He is very attractive....
A. 15 April 2008: The whole problem with this is that you won't know if he likes you until you try. But you don't have to be too obvious about it... when I was your age, there was this whole grapevine thing. You could tell the girl you knew was a big gossip ... (read in full...)
How do I write a song?
Q. ok i have a question but it's not to do with relationships or love or sex etc. its to do with music. i play drums and really want to be able to learn how to write song lyrics has anyone got any knowledge or websites i can go to because i really want ...
A. 15 April 2008: We wish you success. Hey, I'd like to see a note on your first album crediting all your success to Dear Cupid! :-)
Just kidding, go make some great songs now.... (read in full...)
My dad is trying to win us over after coming back to my mom...but it's not working
Q. hey im from a broken family my mom dad separated when i was 9, im 12 now and my dad has come back but even though he tries to win us we always end up hating him even more.. why am i feeling this way?...
A. 15 April 2008: I think you are still angry with him for leaving in the first place, this is a natural feeling and I think quite normal.
Just give yourself time to accept him back into your life and your family; he loves you and I'm sure wants you to be happy.
... (read in full...)
He's self harming because of his girlfriend. What should I do?
Q. Well, I like my best friend but he has a girlfriend. I think he might like me but i'm not sure. He's self harming because of his girlfriend. What should i do? It's getting to me. ...
A. 15 April 2008: I hope that he does tell his mom. Are you okay with this and do you think that this is the best thing for him?... (read in full...)
I just want to be his friend, I don't want a relationship with him.
Q. Hi to all. I've been talking through the phone with this old college male friend lately. We live thousands of miles away. We are currently both single. I'm happy talking to him because he always speaks highly of me and he is a good friend. It's l...
A. 15 April 2008: Looks like Danielepew was answering at the same time I was writing my reply. You know, he's probably right about the fact that you won't be able to keep him as a friend, once he knows that you are not interested in him romantically. I guess the best ... (read in full...)
I just want to be his friend, I don't want a relationship with him.
Q. Hi to all. I've been talking through the phone with this old college male friend lately. We live thousands of miles away. We are currently both single. I'm happy talking to him because he always speaks highly of me and he is a good friend. It's l...
A. 15 April 2008: I'm assuming you want to remain friends with him and that you don't want to hurt him unnecessarily.
You need to give him a graceful and face-saving reason for why you're not the girl for him, I think.
Right, first off, tell him the next time yo... (read in full...)
He's self harming because of his girlfriend. What should I do?
Q. Well, I like my best friend but he has a girlfriend. I think he might like me but i'm not sure. He's self harming because of his girlfriend. What should i do? It's getting to me. ...
A. 15 April 2008: I still think you should tell somebody about this worry of yours; it might be nothing, but maybe he's lying to you about stopping...... (read in full...)
He's self harming because of his girlfriend. What should I do?
Q. Well, I like my best friend but he has a girlfriend. I think he might like me but i'm not sure. He's self harming because of his girlfriend. What should i do? It's getting to me. ...
A. 15 April 2008: If you're really concerned about him, please tell an adult; preferably your parents or a teacher. You don't have to tell them that you think he might like you, just that you're worried that he's hurting himself. This is too big a burden for you to ... (read in full...)
Are there any long term side effect from anal sex?
Q. Hi Over the past few months my partner and i have tried anal sex. At first she was against it, but now likes it and enjoy the change. she is concerned if there is any long term side affect from doing it that way and if so what...
A. 15 April 2008: Well, I don't really know what the long term effects might be, so I can only advise that she have a chat with her doctor about it. As long as you're using lubrication, practice immaculate hygiene and she's comfortable, I don't have much else to ... (read in full...)
I like him but I don't know if he's ready to commit. How do I go about it?
Q. hey everyone!! so there is this guy i like alot...but were both about to graduate high school and i dont know if things will progress from here. We flirt alot and he has an amazing personality and is very smart, but i just dont know if he is re...
A. 15 April 2008: Why not just enjoy getting to know him better? Being friends is a great place to start; you can learn about him and see if you two are really compatible without worrying too much about if he is 'the one' for you.
I know that you're about to leave... (read in full...)
Feelings for my fiance's best friend and he likes me too. How do I tell him?
Q. ok, i have a fiance, but i have strong feelings for his best friend, i dont know where they came from but he also said that he loves me also, how do i tell my fiance?...
A. 15 April 2008: Hi, you might not be ready to have a fiance if you don't know how to handle these confusing feelings about being attracted to someone else. I'm not not speaking about your age here, so don't get that idea; this advice would go for anyone who is ... (read in full...)
I'm being verbally abused by my mum. I'm so sad and want to tell someone but don't know who, I need help, what can I do?
Q. Hi all this isnt a love related question really but i didnt know where else to go. The thing is that i have a very bad relationship with my mam. She is mean to me says im fat even though im a size ten. She is always saying mean comments to me, tell...
A. 15 April 2008: Hi Kate, I just saw your post in answer to this older question. If you are having a problem, please do post the question again on the main site.
I hope you have another adult you can trust to talk to; a teacher, a guidance counselor, an aunt or ... (read in full...)
Is he being sincere? Could be possibly be more?
Q. A year ago, I met an Air force guy with whom I felt incredibly attractive to. We met only for 2 occasions in a business meeting. He flirted with me but that was it, cuz he had to left shortly after that. I decided to email him 2 months after an...
A. 15 April 2008: Collaroy is absolutely correct here; don't live your life waiting for him. Stay friends with him, but don't expect any future with him...
Sometimes life's timing just stinks, and this sounds like one of those times. I'm sorry for that. Keep on ... (read in full...)
How can I make her jealous?
Q. So now i go out with that boy right across from me now and we are like in love turns he liked me for a long time.Well we go to seprate schools and there is this girl in his class that likes him.So anyway me my boyfriend and his sister who is my best ...
A. 15 April 2008: She's not worth the effort of even trying to make her jealous. Someone is going to have to be the better person, and it might as well be you!
Ignore her, otherwise you'll just be giving her what she really wants, which is attention and somethin... (read in full...)
My ex wants a sex fling but does he really want more?
Q. My ex boyfriend dumped me 4 months ago. We were together for a year, lived together as well. Although the reaosn why he broke up with me wasn't actually clear at all, I think it had something to do with him feeling insecure - basically he was more ...
A. 15 April 2008: I think Danielepew is correct here, your ex has told you what he wants.
I think that you know you deserve more in a relationship than just being FWBs, and I suggest you keep him at arm's length until all the finances and settling of the accounts... (read in full...)
How do I write a song?
Q. ok i have a question but it's not to do with relationships or love or sex etc. its to do with music. i play drums and really want to be able to learn how to write song lyrics has anyone got any knowledge or websites i can go to because i really want ...
A. 14 April 2008: Hi, I found a couple of links for you to look at for some guidance...
But the best thing is to write about what you know. I'd suggest that you either write it down or talk into a recording device so that the words and feelings are your own.
... (read in full...)
Can I hide having sex at 13 from my parents? Is it advisable?
Q. i want to have sex but my mom doesn't know that.i'm only 13 and want to have a baby.but also i don't have a boyfriend.how do i get a boyfriend and have sex at the same time without my mom finding out?...
A. 14 April 2008: MissKin has given you some really good advice here. I just wanted to suggest that if you think you want a baby, you should try a bit of babysitting for a young infant just to see how things are with a baby. Have you done any babysitting yet?
... (read in full...)
I am getting tired of waiting for him to see that I am there for him, to notice that I have let him absorb my identity and my everything! It's confusing, what can I do?
Q. I've been in this relationship for past three years and it been wonderful but at the same time it has given me so much of sorrow that i feel like killing myself at times. I love this guy. For me it was love at first sight and he openly admits th...
A. 14 April 2008: Hi, sorry to hear that you're feeling so much distress about this relationship, and I do feel for you, but I have to tell you that you need to look calmly and objectively at what you yourself have written about this.
"he openly admits that he ... (read in full...)
I'm suffering from really bad period pains! Any tips on how to obviate them?
Q. Hi, i'm suffering from really bad period pains! And when i'm in classes at school I don't know what to do because the pain becomes unbearable - and its not like I can just take a paracetemol because some teachers are quite strict about it! ...
A. 14 April 2008: Sorry, I meant "relieve" not "relive!" ... (read in full...)
How do I get out of my relationship with my girlfriend? I am married with kids.
Q. hello, how and what will i say to my gf that i want out to our relationship. i love her so much but i am married to another woman and with kids. my wife will commit suicide if i will choose my gf which i don't want to happen, we leave together and ...
A. 14 April 2008: Tell your girlfriend that while you do care about her, your marriage and children must be your number one priority in life. You have to put them first and you don't want to lie to your wife or break up your family.
Then do it, and please stop che... (read in full...)
Any tips for me on how to approach him?
Q. I'm a jr. in high school. I'm on the softball team as well as other clubs. I have a lot of good friends. But I have trouble when it comes to guys. They never seem to work out for whatever reason. I like a sr. guy Andrew. He is very attractive....
A. 14 April 2008: He sounds really nice! Why not ask him for some help with your catching and throwing a softball? A very simple question, and it gives him a chance to show off his baseball skills.... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't seem to be interested in sex!! What should I do?
Q. My husband doesn't seem to be interested in sex. Everyone says I'm attractive and I get a lot of attention from other men. I am totally committed to him but I feel like I've tried everything. I have tried to be "hard to get", understanding, and ...
A. 14 April 2008: Hi again, I found a website that might help you in your discussions with your husband.
http://blogs.webmd.com/sexual-health-sex-matters/2006/09/top-10-reasons-men-dont-want-sex.html
Good luck to you as you work on this.... (read in full...)
Can I have anal sex while I suffer from hemorrhoids?
Q. can I have anal sex while I suffer from hemeroids? thank you...
A. 14 April 2008: Hemorrhoids are basically swollen veins in your anal canal. I would think that anal sex might cause them to tear and cause more problems... but you should probably ask your doctor about that.
Here's a link for some more information:
http://... (read in full...)
I'm suffering from really bad period pains! Any tips on how to obviate them?
Q. Hi, i'm suffering from really bad period pains! And when i'm in classes at school I don't know what to do because the pain becomes unbearable - and its not like I can just take a paracetemol because some teachers are quite strict about it! ...
A. 14 April 2008: Hi, I used to have bad period pains too. You have to stay ahead of the pain, take ibuprofen (advil) before you start your period, so that it has a chance to work before the cramps start.
Also exercise helps!
Here's a link which may give you som... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't seem to be interested in sex!! What should I do?
Q. My husband doesn't seem to be interested in sex. Everyone says I'm attractive and I get a lot of attention from other men. I am totally committed to him but I feel like I've tried everything. I have tried to be "hard to get", understanding, and ...
A. 14 April 2008: I assume you've tried talking with him about his lack of interest in sex? What has he said?
Reasons why he's not interested could be many. One is a medical problem; if he expects you to do all the moving maybe he is afraid of exertion on his part... (read in full...)
He was not quite supportive when I told him I cannot climax without a vibrator! Shouldn't he be happy and excited to meet my needs??
Q. I have a problem with my boyfriend of 9 months. Everything in our relationship is great except for the sex. I do enjoy having sex with him very very much, but I can’t orgasm without a vibrator on my clitoris. I don’t know why and I wish it wasn’t ...
A. 14 April 2008: I'm quite sure he wants to get you off, otherwise he wouldn't be with you. My guess here is that the presence of the vibrator is a big sign to him that he is not enough for you. I'm hoping the agony uncles weigh in with the male point of view, so ... (read in full...)
I'm on the pill and worried that some amount of women still get pregnant on it!
Q. I'm new to birth control and have been taking them for 2 months now. i take mine all the time without missing any. me and boyfriend always wear condoms but, this time we tried without condoms. I had unprotected sex on the (April) 9th, 11th. On the 1...
A. 14 April 2008: It's really unlikely that you'll get pregnant if you've been taking it properly, I think.
Here's a link that may help you with further research. You could also have a chat with the doctor about your symptoms, if you're really worried.
http://... (read in full...)
He wants to be close sometimes and other times its like he's afraid of me !
Q. I have been discreetly seeing a guy who is going through a divorce,there is a 6 year old involved whom he adores dearly, he wouldn't take any chances in losing his son. He doesn't really want anyone to know that we are involved ,so to speak. We've ...
A. 14 April 2008: It sounds like he's into you for the sex only. If he's worried about losing custody of his son in a divorce battle, then he's probably focused on that right now, and can let anyone know he's seeing anybody else right now.
If he really wants to... (read in full...)
He no longer uses porn but I still cannot accept the fact that for my husband sexual arousal was possible with other women, strangers!...
Q. have a problem that I realise will seem very silly to some but I honestly am at a loss as to what to do. I love my husband greatly and in the past we have had issues with him using porn. We have been to couples therapy and our relationship has ...
A. 14 April 2008: It sounds like your husband is working hard on the marriage and communicating with you. He's been doing the things that can save the relationship, right?
Your feelings are your own, just as his feelings are his own; you can't help them, but I ha... (read in full...)
Wish I could talk to women but I am too self-conscious, any advice?
Q. im a 21 year old male and still a virgin and i have scaring from my acne and real selfconcious about it and i wanna talk to women but am too scared is there any way to avoid this the only good thing about me is that im pretty built ...
A. 14 April 2008: I'd start small, just try to have a small conversation with one or two women a day, not trying to pick them up, just a simple conversation for practice.
"Hi, how are you doing" kind of chatting, or you could ask advice while shopping for food or ... (read in full...)
My fiance is fed up with me constantly worrying about my weight, and how I look. How can I overcome this problem?
Q. What is wrong with me, with letting go? My fiance and i are due to be married, but believe it or not we still have issues in the bedroom! I'm the most self-conscious person i know which is partly the reason after having sex with the same person for ...
A. 14 April 2008: You've never reached orgasm with your partner of 10 years? At this point, I think you may have worked up a huge amount of worry that needs some professional help! You've got a loving partner, you're in a committed relationship, you have all the ... (read in full...)
He doesn't like me in his 'face space', and says it's too personal.
Q. He likes for me to give him oral sex, but he doesn't really like kissing me, before or after, he doesn't like me in his face space. Does he not want to be that close to me, he says it's too personal, but isn't oral sex pretty personal?...
A. 14 April 2008: The after, maybe I could see he doesn't want his own smell back in his own face, but before? He sounds like a selfish or certainly inconsiderate lover to me. What does he do for you? Do you just want a little romance, smooching and making out? And ... (read in full...)
Out of the blue he says that he needs to experience life without me! This is like a bad dream.
Q. I was just told two days ago by my, now ex-boyfriend, that he doesn't like me like he should. He says that he needs to experience life without me! All of a sudden, me and my son (from a previous relationship) have to move. My "ex" and I were toge...
A. 14 April 2008: There has to be SOMETHING that happened... even if you're not aware of it. After four years, to boot you out with a month's notice and no indications of trouble? That's cold. There must be something else going on...
How long have you been living w... (read in full...)
How can I get the friendly but shy store clerk to ask me out?
Q. How can I get the friendly but shy store clerk to ask me out? I went there yesterday with the intention of flirting with him, but his boss was right there and we didn't have much time to talk. I don't know him very well, but he's a friend of a frie...
A. 14 April 2008: I agree with Collaroy; just ask him out yourself! You could play the 'does he like me or not?' game, but what do you have to lose by just asking him out for coffee or lunch?
Go for it! And good luck!... (read in full...)
We're not agreeing on our wedding plans, can you help, please?
Q. He wants a drive-thru wedding, i want a normal wedding.....I dont know what to do.....can you please help?...
A. 14 April 2008: I think that a drive-thru wedding would be one in Las Vegas, where you pull up to the officiant, stay in the car and exchange vows there? Is that right?
Generally, it's the bride (or her mother!) who is the one who selects the feel and theme of... (read in full...)
I hit my pregnant girlfriend and now she is ignoring me! I feel awful...
Q. I hit my girlfriend and she is 5 months pregnant i feel bad and everthing but she is ignoring me and i dont get. I said sorry she was winding me up and i hit her i really need to see what can i do please help i feel awful. PLZ HELP?! she is alot ...
A. 11 April 2008: If you truly want to get back in good standing, sign up right away for an anger management course. This will do two things for you; one, it will demonstrate that you realize you did something wrong and are taking immediate steps to correct it. ... (read in full...)
He's finding it difficult to keep up with my pace, what should I do?
Q. I've met man 63. Annd Im 45. He helps me to get through my divorce. We get on well and I love being around him. Our sex life is great. We can have sex twice a day. It's amazing for his age. I really enjoy making love to him. It's highly ...
A. 11 April 2008: Hi, I think I've seen this question, or similar variations, with the exact same ages and problem a lot of times recently. I think you've had some very good answers here and in the past. Is there something more going on than you've shared with us? ... (read in full...)
What can I do about genital warts?
Q. I have genital warts. NOTHING helps.........any advice? PLEASE!!!!...
A. 11 April 2008: You need to ask your doctor this question, I'm afraid to tell you. I don't think there are any home remedies that can help, and you might wind up hurting yourself.
Check out webmd.com for some information, but do see your gynecologist straight... (read in full...)
Is this guy really into me?
Q. ok so me and this guy that i had met in the club 2 or 3 weekends ago has been talking on the phone tome since then.he is a nice person to talk to but the only reason that we talk on the phone is bcuz i gave him my number when he called i was so ...
A. 11 April 2008: How old is he? Well, it sounds like he enjoys talking with you, but when it's time to make real plans he backs out. I'd guess he likes the flirting but isn't that interested. If he were really interested, I think he'd have asked you on a proper date ... (read in full...)
I want to plan something nice and special because I am afraid when I go on deployment she might move on
Q. My fiancee left arizona and went back home to here parents house. i was treating her badly and not being good to her, i am in the military and deploying soon, i want to see her when i come home but i am not sure of what we can do that wont make her ...
A. 11 April 2008: You're going to have to talk with her about your feelings, and hers. Why were you treating her badly? If it is stress, due to your upcoming deployment, maybe you were pushing her away?
Put yourself in her shoes, if someone you loved was treating... (read in full...)
He likes me but said he doesn't want me to fall in love with him, what's up with that?
Q. I'm seeing a man who told me he likes me so much but he does not want me to fall in love with him and he does not want to ever hurt my feelings. What's up with that? he's Mexican and I'm American....
A. 11 April 2008: I think it means he likes you but doesn't want you to get serious about him. He is not looking for a love relationship, it seems to me. I would not pin any hopes on changing his mind as he's been so upfront with you. In my experience, when a guy ... (read in full...)
Dry skin and dandruff - how can I make these less noticeable at least?
Q. Uh... Hi. This is embarrassing. Well, I suffer from really dry skin and kinda bad dandruff. I use moisturiser and special shampoos and conditioners but nothing helps! I've used sensitive stuff as well but everything I've tried fails. I'm wor...
A. 11 April 2008: Hi there, sorry to hear about the skin and hair condition. I have to agree with the previous poster that you might consider seeing your doctor for the dandruff if over-the-counter special treatments haven't helped. Sometimes, you just need something ... (read in full...)
Long distance ends with a low blow but we can't cut off...
Q. Apologies as this is a bit long but I thought readers would need some good detail. My relationship with my Ex (call her M) had been a year and a half. Being long distance with her main home in Australia we had met up in England and she spent mo...
A. 11 April 2008: Sometimes questions here make me want to shout, 'Cover your heart, Indy, cover your heart!' (Remember the scene from the Indiana Jones movie?) This is one of them for me.
M may indeed be on the rebound, still recovering from her past relation... (read in full...)
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