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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Confusion, mixed signals, what the heck?
Q. So, I told this guy that I've known for 3 years that I like him. What do I do now? Funny thing is, it wasn't even me that started this whole thing. There I was minding my own business, and wham, he blindsides me with a barrage of hi hunnies and a...
A. 1 May 2008: Daniel, can she borrow the bull (toro) for a bit of gory fun in that carpark??? *Evil grin*... (read in full...)
Confusion, mixed signals, what the heck?
Q. So, I told this guy that I've known for 3 years that I like him. What do I do now? Funny thing is, it wasn't even me that started this whole thing. There I was minding my own business, and wham, he blindsides me with a barrage of hi hunnies and a...
A. 1 May 2008: Oh my gawd, my jaw hit the floor when I read what he tried to do in the carpark. What an asinine, self-centered, idiotic, maximum jerkimus, a**hole!!!!! I am floored, he is a first-class loser!
You now have your answer from him. And you absolute... (read in full...)
I'm 17yrs old and ready to have a baby with my boyfriend. He'll do it to make me happy but I know he's not ready!
Q. i'm 17 years old, and I live with my grandparents and my boyfriend of two and a half years who is also 17. I want nothing more than to have a baby, I know all the responsibilties because I grew up with my sister who had a baby at 17. I think i'm ...
A. 29 April 2008: Hi Leanna, thank you for that very thoughtful answer. It made me want to reach out and give you a great big hug, so here is a cyberhug ((((())))).
The thing is that you're not wrong to have those feelings, you can't be wrong for having them. Wh... (read in full...)
How can I get more sex from my wife or get her to bring up kids without having to talk to her about it?
Q. Hi I've been married for nearly over 5 years and my marriage seems to be going downhill really fast. Its been nearly over a year since we had sex and she's alway putting it off with some excuse or another. The other thing that worries me is th...
A. 29 April 2008: Sorry, one more question. When you got married, had you discussed having children? And what was the outcome of that discussion? ... (read in full...)
How can I get more sex from my wife or get her to bring up kids without having to talk to her about it?
Q. Hi I've been married for nearly over 5 years and my marriage seems to be going downhill really fast. Its been nearly over a year since we had sex and she's alway putting it off with some excuse or another. The other thing that worries me is th...
A. 29 April 2008: Eyeswideopen is correct here. You're going to be stuck in exactly this same spot a year from now if you don't take concrete action. I would still go for counseling if I were you; you will still learn a lot even if the other side isn't presented. As ... (read in full...)
Confusion, mixed signals, what the heck?
Q. So, I told this guy that I've known for 3 years that I like him. What do I do now? Funny thing is, it wasn't even me that started this whole thing. There I was minding my own business, and wham, he blindsides me with a barrage of hi hunnies and a...
A. 29 April 2008: Thank you for your followup! That was helpful to me, and I'm sorry if I responded as if you two worked together in a business. I know Dear Cupid tells people to keep the questions short but I really think that having the details is crucial to trying ... (read in full...)
I'm 17yrs old and ready to have a baby with my boyfriend. He'll do it to make me happy but I know he's not ready!
Q. i'm 17 years old, and I live with my grandparents and my boyfriend of two and a half years who is also 17. I want nothing more than to have a baby, I know all the responsibilties because I grew up with my sister who had a baby at 17. I think i'm ...
A. 28 April 2008: If he's not ready, then he's not ready. It would very very selfish of you to push him into doing something so final and alter his future, do you realize that?
I know that you feel ready, but just having a baby to keep from feeling sad doesn't ... (read in full...)
Confusion, mixed signals, what the heck?
Q. So, I told this guy that I've known for 3 years that I like him. What do I do now? Funny thing is, it wasn't even me that started this whole thing. There I was minding my own business, and wham, he blindsides me with a barrage of hi hunnies and a...
A. 28 April 2008: Hi, I have to say that I think that if he were truly interested in a relationship with you, he'd have been behaving differently. Like asking you out on a proper date, that kind of normal thing.
It doesn't sound like it to me, sounds like he's enj... (read in full...)
How can I get more sex from my wife or get her to bring up kids without having to talk to her about it?
Q. Hi I've been married for nearly over 5 years and my marriage seems to be going downhill really fast. Its been nearly over a year since we had sex and she's alway putting it off with some excuse or another. The other thing that worries me is th...
A. 28 April 2008: I have to agree with the other posters here. If she won't talk about it, you have essentially been given no choice but to end the relationship. That is unless you're willing to go on with things the way they stand, and it sounds like you are done ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to put a golf ball in your girlfriend's vagina? Just throwing that out there....
Q. is it ok to put a golf ball in you girlfriends vagina and the have sex with it still in there and when your done swollow it?...
A. 28 April 2008: I believe the official medical terminology for either of the two activities you described is "VBI."
But then you'll be giving a gynecologist and an gastroenterologist a really good dinner story.
... (read in full...)
How do I dump the trouble women while keeping one or two lookers on the side for sex and still stay with me girlfriend?
Q. My love-life has been pretty hectic lately and I need some advice. I've been in a relationship with this truly wonderful, sweet girl for the past seven years. We get along great, do all sorts of fun things together and really care about each other. ...
A. 28 April 2008: I dispute your statement that you really care about your girlfriend. If you really cared about her, you'd let her go to find a guy who could truly commit to her, without exposing her to a whole variety of STDs. I do hope you've been practicing safe ... (read in full...)
How can I get a visa for the USA?
Q. Hello there can anyone help me?Well maybe my question is a out of this forum but i need some answers. I'm from a country that is out of Europe but i live in other coutry(in Eyrope). I want start a new life in a new country everything from ...
A. 28 April 2008: I don't any information other than to steer you to the following link:
http://www.unitedstatesvisas.gov/... (read in full...)
So many women would pay to see me naked, so how can I change her "errors" about premarital sex?
Q. I am hoping that some of the aunts on this site can help me with my problem. I am an extremely handsome, smart and funny 28 year old male. I have an excellent job and earn a very substantial sum of money indeed. I have two Ferraris and live in a ...
A. 28 April 2008: And I'd just poured a fresh cup, too! Do you use a cricket bat or baseball bat to fend them off?
To the poster, sounds like she thinks you've got crap taste in cars!
Now I'm off to brew a fresh cup...... (read in full...)
I have arranged for my ex to sleep with my friend at my place, should I go out?
Q. Hey all, I'm in a situation where i don't know have much experience in. My ex g/f and I are on good terms, and we occasionally meet up and still have great sex! Although she has only had experience with a different guy before she dated me. She i...
A. 25 April 2008: I'm finding this just as strange as Brooke and Susan are. She's your ex? So what she does with anybody I think is no longer your responsibility or concern...
And the "allowing her" language frankly is very concerning to me.
Let her live her own... (read in full...)
How do I get my parents to allow my boyfriend and I to have a sleepover?
Q. How do I get my parents to allow my boyfriend and I to have a sleepover? I've asked before and was told no, but that was a year ago. Is this a trust issue or what....
A. 25 April 2008: Well, it might be a trust issue or it might be that your parents want to know that you're safe and happy and well.
The good news about being a "grown up" is that you get to decide for yourself who you get to sleep with and when. I'm going to... (read in full...)
You made me realise it is too early to have a baby, but what if we are expecting at such young age?
Q. Hi my name is mar mar and we want to have a baby......But I been hearing some suggestings and i think now that i don't want to have a baby.........But i already came in her more than 10 times......And what if she is? Please help and give me tips on ...
A. 25 April 2008: One more idea, do you have an older brother or sister? They might be able to help too.
Don't forget to buy the pregnancy test; if you get confused about which one to buy, you can send me a private message for some advice, okay?... (read in full...)
You made me realise it is too early to have a baby, but what if we are expecting at such young age?
Q. Hi my name is mar mar and we want to have a baby......But I been hearing some suggestings and i think now that i don't want to have a baby.........But i already came in her more than 10 times......And what if she is? Please help and give me tips on ...
A. 25 April 2008: Hi Mar Mar,
I think it's time to come clean with your parents and tell them what's been going on with you and your girlfriend.
If you've been wanting a baby, then, well, you've been doing all the right things to get one. But I think you'll hav... (read in full...)
She was dry with me but wet when she came back from work-is she cheating on me?
Q. My wife and i have past 2days we had sex she dry before start and then she went to work when she come back when I feel her she was wet as she just finished having sex or may be cheatin...
A. 25 April 2008: Er, hate to be clinical here, but if you ejaculated inside her, she may be having the normal discharge following that, it sometimes takes a day or two for things to drain out, so to speak.
Also, women have varying rates of vaginal discharg... (read in full...)
Save my pride or lose this relationship?
Q. My boyfriend and I been dated for 2 yrs, we always talk abt getting married but he didn't propose even I told him I wish to settle down. He put all his priority to his career so he didn't propose even few mths later, when i wanted to breakup with ...
A. 25 April 2008: Hi, I understand you want a fairy tale romance and for him to be romantic and give you this magical story of a perfect proposal and then as fairy tales always end, you both live happily ever after. Doesn't that sound great?
I do understa... (read in full...)
SITE VIDEO: April 2008 video from Andrew
Q. Been a while since we had a video update. Anyone interested in being able to post their replies to the site as YouTube videos??...
A. 25 April 2008: Hi Andrew!
I'm afraid the technological requirements for this would be beyond me, and I'd have to buy a camera and figure out how to use it... I can barely manage my keyboard at times.
I find myself rereading and editing my typed text befor... (read in full...)
I have a massive crush on my college tutor! I'm not looking for a way out of my marriage though.
Q. I'm a mature student and have a massive crush on my tutor at college. He's about 10 years older than me if that, as far as I know he's still single, I'm married though, I've been unhappy with my husband for at least 18 months. I'm not just l...
A. 24 April 2008: My suggestion is to deal with your marriage first. Either end it honorably or get counseling to deal with the issues you're facing.
Then, you'll either be in a happy committed relationship, and not worried about a little crush, or you'll be singl... (read in full...)
We met online, only after we slept together he said that he loves his ex and we could remain FWB! Should I accept this?
Q. I met a guy on a dating site, we hit it off. But he broke up with me a few days later because he wanted to get back with his girlfriend. This is after we slept together. I emailed him back wanting to see him to discuss the situation. He said he ...
A. 24 April 2008: He's told you what he's prepared to do with you. High marks for honesty. Well, I do suspect that he's not being honest with his girlfriend, but that's someone else's worry.
So, would you be happy being a once a week girlfriend? I think you know... (read in full...)
Guys in marriage (tip-thoughts)
Q. The need to go with her buying stuff for the house: I now understand the importance of going with the wife shopping. I have a 40 pound decoration she wants me to hang over our bed, but she forgot to get the hangers that go with it. Of course, ...
A. 24 April 2008: Taxes, ah well, taxes! I was finally well-trained enough to put anything tax related into a special envelope which then gets hauled out on the day before they're due by my husband. I've also learned that it's best to find a good reason to leave the ... (read in full...)
My new wife was not completely honest about her sexual past...how can I look at her the same way?
Q. I am married and recently me and my wife had another conversation about previous partners and experiences. I say "another" conversation because the answer this time around is much different than the first time we talked about it when we were dating. ...
A. 24 April 2008: I don't have much to offer on this one, other than to suggest you read this link, as this question was really thoroughly discussed here.
You could private message Yos and Troubledtoomuch for some advice too, I don't think they would mind. Click on... (read in full...)
Looking back at the encounter with an old friend, I have done most of the talking so I feel a bit embarassed now...
Q. I went out with an old friend a few days ago, and we got on as well as we always did, talked for hours non stop about what we'd been up too, told stories about things that had happened since we last spoke, and just generally had a laugh. Problem is ...
A. 24 April 2008: Just ask her out again, tell her that you think you might have been doing too much of the talking. Then do your best to listen to her, ask her questions about herself that don't simply need a 'yes' or 'no' answer, and give yourself the benefit of ... (read in full...)
Do girls make passes at guys with glasses?
Q. Do girls think guys with glasses are nerdy? Im tall, 6'2, im not horribly thin but i am not that muscular and i have glasses so basically i am the normal tall,skinny,nerd. I was wondering if getting contacts would make me more attractive, w...
A. 24 April 2008: I'm quite sure my husband would like to be 6' 2" and skinny! But he's still very handsome at 6' and not skinny.
He has the coolest glasses, kind of trendy with black rims and a rectangular shape to them. He used to wear contacts but I think he... (read in full...)
Insecure about my nose - what do I do?
Q. I have a big nose and im really insecure about it! so i have 2 questions: 1. does a big nose generally make a girl look ugly? 2. surgery is way out of the question lol so how can i make my nose appear smaller? thanks :-) x...
A. 24 April 2008: Hi, I have a rather big nose too, it kind of slopes down for a bit then slopes back up with a round bulgy bit at the end. You can see in my picture it's a bit big. I used to really hate it, I would spend all kinds of time with two mirrors examining ... (read in full...)
Why Won't she Masturbate me?
Q. My wife and I have been been married 13 years. We have a great relationship and a good sex life. When we make love I often masturbate her before having intercourse, and she enjoys it a lot! I would love her to masturbate me too sometimes but, ...
A. 24 April 2008: Susan, that's funny! It could be something as simple as that, poster, but I agree with Susan that you need to communicate with her.
Here are two thoughts on how to go about it. One is to have an open and loving discussion about sex sometime... (read in full...)
Ahe claims sport contributed to the hymen being broken, could it be true?
Q. hi something thats always bugging me ..i wonder if you can help me.... i have been married for sometime/before my marriage my wife use to play badminton quite alot....and crease her legs together to masterbate..... on our first intercourse i noted ...
A. 24 April 2008: Sounds like you're already starting to think positively. Tell you what, next time you have a negative thought, don't push it away, but then stop, and write down 3 positive things about yourself and your wife. Keep a little journal where you only ... (read in full...)
How can a guy express his appreciation for a girl in a way she will enjoy?
Q. A question for the girls, mainly. What can a guy do or say to a girl to let her know he thinks she's special, he's attracted to her and she makes him feel wonderful in a way she will appreciate and that will make her feel as happy and wanted as ...
A. 24 April 2008: Sometimes when I'm talking about something I feel passionately about, my husband will be listening, then I get the feeling that he's stopped paying attention to my words. I'll look over at him and he'll be looking at me with a kind of glazed ... (read in full...)
How does a doctor check a female to see if she has an STD?
Q. How do doctors check females for an std? Does it hurt? I'm not going for a check-up or anything, I don't need to, but I'm just curious. I've heard they insert a tube up a guy's urethra (spelling?) and that doesn't sound too pleasant! So what about a ...
A. 24 April 2008: I think these links will help people understand what might happen at the gynecologist's office. Be sure to be completely truthful about any sexual activity and your family history.
http://women.webmd.com/guide/pelvic-examination
http://women.... (read in full...)
We argue because of his job and he becomes very abusive, I've nobody to talk to, please help!
Q. hi i am in a relationship and have been for two years + my partner has a work mobile phone and recieves calls on it from women that he has trained on a personal level he says that it should not be a problem but i see that it is ??? the oth...
A. 24 April 2008: Forgot to add that the article is called "Warning signs you're dating a loser."... (read in full...)
We argue because of his job and he becomes very abusive, I've nobody to talk to, please help!
Q. hi i am in a relationship and have been for two years + my partner has a work mobile phone and recieves calls on it from women that he has trained on a personal level he says that it should not be a problem but i see that it is ??? the oth...
A. 24 April 2008: This sounds like a deeply troubled relationship and you need to focus on your personal safety and well-being now. There's a very good article by "Ask oldersister" in the Articles page. Please go read that and ask yourself if this is the situation ... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to have sex with someone who could be paralyzed from the waist down?!
Q. okayy. my boyfriend went to the doctor like 2 days ago. They said a disk in his back was out of place and if he plays any sports or messes up his back in anyway he will become paralyzed (sp?)from the waist down. when he told me that i tryed to ...
A. 23 April 2008: Did you tell his coach or talk to his parent? That's the best thing to do, you can leave a voicemail for the coach, I'm sure you have the number for your bf so you can talk with his parents!!!!!
Go call and then report back, you know what to do no... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to have sex with someone who could be paralyzed from the waist down?!
Q. okayy. my boyfriend went to the doctor like 2 days ago. They said a disk in his back was out of place and if he plays any sports or messes up his back in anyway he will become paralyzed (sp?)from the waist down. when he told me that i tryed to ...
A. 23 April 2008: I'm amazed that he would be allowed to play football; his parents and his coaches would make sure that he was on the sidelines.
If you want to help, tell the school coach or trainer of his diagnosis, right away! It's very important that they hav... (read in full...)
Ahe claims sport contributed to the hymen being broken, could it be true?
Q. hi something thats always bugging me ..i wonder if you can help me.... i have been married for sometime/before my marriage my wife use to play badminton quite alot....and crease her legs together to masterbate..... on our first intercourse i noted ...
A. 23 April 2008: She might be very exhausted at trying to convince you of something that you simply don't want to believe. Trust her, love her, and stop worrying! She is with you for 20 years, right? So please give her the benefit of the doubt. You are only going to ... (read in full...)
We have a lot in common and he's never ONCE treated me badly, unlike my ex'es. Why don't I love him?
Q. I have this AMAZING friend. He has truly proved himself to me that he is amazing. I mean most guys wouldn't bother being 'friends' with me if they knew they had no chance with me, but this guy, he doesn't care, he just likes me for me and really ...
A. 23 April 2008: Sorry, I hadn't quite finished my answer to you.
Right, so ask yourself if he were to become romantically involved with one of your friends, would you be entirely happy for him, or would you be just a bit jealous? That'll give you some insight,... (read in full...)
We have a lot in common and he's never ONCE treated me badly, unlike my ex'es. Why don't I love him?
Q. I have this AMAZING friend. He has truly proved himself to me that he is amazing. I mean most guys wouldn't bother being 'friends' with me if they knew they had no chance with me, but this guy, he doesn't care, he just likes me for me and really ...
A. 23 April 2008: I just want to tell you about my friend. Back when I was single, I had this great male friend who was funny, intelligent, supportive and quite handsome. I just thought of him as a good buddy, until one of my girlfriends met him and asked me, 'Who is ... (read in full...)
6 months pregnant and separated from my partner, who initially wanted to break any contact! Now he seems to have changed his mind, his behaviour is confusing!
Q. hi, i'm new to this but need bit of advice. i'm 6 months pregnant and have split with my partner. he said he didn't want anything to do with me or the baby but has since seemed to have changed his mind.i've had to move out and go live with my ...
A. 23 April 2008: Hi loobyloo, I'm sorry to read of your situation, but I have to say that you sound like you have your priorities in the right order. You sound sensible and strong, and I think you will be just fine. Give him what support you can, but I think he is ... (read in full...)
One Night Stand: Is there a general consensus on when to cum?
Q. Just a quick question, during unprotected sex, either in a relationship or a one night stand....what is the general consensus on where to cum? cheers for any answers...
A. 23 April 2008: Here's more information on genital warts, caused by HPV, thank you Andrew83 for the helpful addition. WARNING, THIS SITE CONTAINS PICTURES OF LESIONS WHICH MAY NOT BE SUITABLE FOR ALL VIEWERS.
http:... (read in full...)
One Night Stand: Is there a general consensus on when to cum?
Q. Just a quick question, during unprotected sex, either in a relationship or a one night stand....what is the general consensus on where to cum? cheers for any answers...
A. 23 April 2008: "Just a quick question, during unprotected sex, either in a relationship or a one night stand....what is the general consensus on where to cum?"
Well, you're asking individuals for an answer here, so you'll get my input, and you'll have to put a... (read in full...)
He has doubts about the relation hence is unable to involve sexually, but is attentive in other ways, what does he mean?
Q. What does he mean when he says he has doubts about the relationship and hence is unable to be pysically intimate with you? But then he tells you he loves you and cares very much for you. He does little things like pack you sandwiches for lunch, buy ...
A. 22 April 2008: He loves you and cares for you but doesn't want to be physically intimate means just that, I think. He is being honest, and cares about you but is not interested in you as a sexual partner. It could be that that he has some medical issues that ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to stop taking the pill so we can try to get pregnant. Should I?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and things are going good. He told me yesterday that he wants me to stop taking the pill and he wants to start trying. Im not really sure im ready. I love him i really do but im not ready im not sure i ev...
A. 22 April 2008: Sorry to hear about this situation; it sounds really difficult to deal with. And I'm sorry that you lost the child you were carrying, I hope that you have time to recover from this loss.
Please bear with me as I give you this crazy advice, ... (read in full...)
My dad has been married five times and he has his sights on a nasty number six now, I cant cope anymore !
Q. I was raised by my dad, over the years, my dad has been married 5 times but I am an only child for now. My dad is a great loving dad and I know he loves me a lot and I love him so much too but in and out I always have a new ever-changing mummy or ...
A. 22 April 2008: Hi, I just saw this question and answers and I want to let you know that I'm here for you if you want to send me a private message.
It sounds like there's a lot of upset and worry in your life right now and I'm sorry for that. I have to say that... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have an abortion in the case of ectopic pregnancies?
Q. I discovered over the weekend I am pregnant.. This is *not* good news for me personally - but the reasons are my own. So I went to the doctor today to ask about abortions, after a little chat she's refered me to a hopspital + I'm feeling okay about ...
A. 22 April 2008: Hi, an ectopic pregnancy is actually very serious. For more information, you can also follow this link:
http://www.webmd.com/baby/guide/pregnancy-ectopic-pregnancy
You should definitely contact your doctor again to ask this question, if you... (read in full...)
I am scared that he is going to be grossed out by seeing me in swimsuit!
Q. Okay, you all may think I am silly.....but, this is seriously causing me major distress. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months. We have been sexually active. However, I haven't walked around naked a lot. I have bad cellulite and saddle bags ...
A. 22 April 2008: I'm sure he has a pretty good idea about what your body looks like by now, so I think you are worrying too much. You're going to ruin your weekend together if you're focused too much on this, so ixnay on the egativenay oughtsthay!
You are fantasti... (read in full...)
Do I not get her the lingerie this year, or what size do I get her?
Q. I will have been dating my gf for 4 years at the end of the month. Every year for our "anniversary" I buy her lingerie and jewelery. Buying her lingerie this year has been stressfull because of her weight. My gf is 5 ft 3 inches tall and weighed ...
A. 22 April 2008: You sound so sweet, she's a lucky girl.
Okay, ideas for the lingerie part. One is to just get her a really lovely silk robe and some fantastic bedroom slippers. There's not much worry in the sizing about these, so you can just ask the salesper... (read in full...)
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