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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Dear Cupid, this is the kinda stuff we want to hear.....
Q. Just a little light comic relief, some entertainment if you like - sort of based on some of the problems here on Dear Cupid. Feel free to lighten your load : ) I'll start by submitting 8 things that I think guys would 'LOVE' to hear from their ...
A. 17 July 2008: Jack wakes up at home with a huge hangover he can't believe. He forces himself to open his eyes, and the first thing he sees is a couple of aspirins next to a glass of water on the side table and next to them, a single red rose!
Jack sits up ... (read in full...)
Dear Cupid, this is the kinda stuff we want to hear.....
Q. Just a little light comic relief, some entertainment if you like - sort of based on some of the problems here on Dear Cupid. Feel free to lighten your load : ) I'll start by submitting 8 things that I think guys would 'LOVE' to hear from their ...
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Two cousins started school together. The teacher was asking everybody their names. When she got to the first cousin, he said, “Poo Poo.” She said she was not going to put up with such behavior and asked him again. “... (read in full...)
Dear Cupid, this is the kinda stuff we want to hear.....
Q. Just a little light comic relief, some entertainment if you like - sort of based on some of the problems here on Dear Cupid. Feel free to lighten your load : ) I'll start by submitting 8 things that I think guys would 'LOVE' to hear from their ...
A. 10 July 2008: Father Scola could make some good sermons. One day he was talking on the Ten Commandments and, boy, did he get excited. He was jumping up and down. Beating on the pulpit. He said you have to obey the Ten Commandments. He said everyone has sinned and ... (read in full...)
Dear Cupid, this is the kinda stuff we want to hear.....
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Embarassing question, I seem to have lost a vibrator...
Q. okay, this is embarrassing. About 2 weeks ago, I came home from a night out (yes, alcohol was involved). I fell asleep with my cordless "bullett" (a small vibrator) and have not been able to find it since. Is it possible that it is lost inside of ...
A. 3 June 2008: I just pictured trying to buy a vibrator in Paris, using only sign language, as I have just about zero French language knowledge. What would THAT pantomime look like?... (read in full...)
Embarassing question, I seem to have lost a vibrator...
Q. okay, this is embarrassing. About 2 weeks ago, I came home from a night out (yes, alcohol was involved). I fell asleep with my cordless "bullett" (a small vibrator) and have not been able to find it since. Is it possible that it is lost inside of ...
A. 27 May 2008: Hahahaha! I'm glad this story had a happy ending. Now we can only speculate as to the new life the little 'bullet' is leading. Hope it's having a blast! Maybe there's a 'Finding Nemo' story in it?
Thank you VERY MUCH for the update; we were all... (read in full...)
I'd like to go on a date with her, but I think I might have been too keen. Have I made a mess of it all?
Q. I gt talking to a girl a couple of weeks ago from a dating site (plentyoffish.com). She said she was just looking for dating, nothing else. We messaged and texted for a couple days until I mentioned 'girlfriend' in a message. (I'd like to date ...
A. 19 May 2008: These are all good questions.
Maybe this girl is just not a grown up! Or she's confused or just not ready for any kind of relationship, casual dating or otherwise. Who knows, one thing you know for certain is that she is not worth worrying... (read in full...)
I gave my virginity to him. How should I take revenge on him?
Q. I'm single and fell in love with a married guy. He is 10 years older than me. His wife was pregnant and got a baby daughter on my b'day. I gave my virginity to him, but after he got his wife back in his bed. He started acting weird, like ignoring ...
A. 16 May 2008: Living well is the best revenge.
George Herbert
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Is it just me, or is anybody else disturbed by 10-13 year olds giving out blow jobs?
Q. I've been watching this board for a couple of days now, and I have to admit that I am shocked at the number of 10-15 year old girls that are asking questions about boyfriends, sex and blowjobs. Is this the norm these days that children start this ...
A. 16 May 2008: "A male reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008):"
"Yeah, but the entire female gender puts that pressure on itself at least as much as the male gender ever does it."
"Teachers/counselors/parents also beat on the point about "girls mature fa... (read in full...)
She broke his heart 3 years ago and now that he's with me she wants him back?
Q. I recently was left by my boyfriend for a long-distance ex who came back into the picture three years after breaking up with him. We were together six months. This is a long one, but to get the best feedback I want to portray as much of the ...
A. 16 May 2008: Luna, I was so hoping that your story would have a happy ending, and I did hang on and read till the very end. So let me answer the questions you posed at the end.
"What should I do? - Move on, try to be friends again, stay in the “no contact”... (read in full...)
Is it just me, or is anybody else disturbed by 10-13 year olds giving out blow jobs?
Q. I've been watching this board for a couple of days now, and I have to admit that I am shocked at the number of 10-15 year old girls that are asking questions about boyfriends, sex and blowjobs. Is this the norm these days that children start this ...
A. 16 May 2008: I don't think that it's fair to lay the burden of controlling the behavior of 10-15 year boys on the girls of the same age. The girls are here asking because they are troubled by it, I think, in most of the posts I read here. The boys are off ... (read in full...)
Should I get involved with this "ned"?
Q. Update. I'm 16 and I am really attracted to this guy in my year. He is a very nice looking guy for his age but has different interests to me. He likes to drink and he used to smoke. In our area he is classed as a "ned". He makes out like he like...
A. 15 May 2008: Tell him that while he is so very attractive and you're flattered that he has asked you just to have sex with him, that you'd rather wait for a real boyfriend and relationship.
Unless you don't mind being added to his list of 'experie... (read in full...)
Is this a good plan for losing fear of speaking to girls?
Q. I'm 16 and I have never had a girlfriend, kissed or even held hands. I’m overweight (visibly) and generally painfully shy. I’ve just started considering a plan that can get my shyness to girls to disappear always have trouble talking to them or ...
A. 15 May 2008: Please do update us when you can! I'm impressed by the scientific calculation with which you conceived the plan, and I really hope it goes well.... (read in full...)
Embarassing question, I seem to have lost a vibrator...
Q. okay, this is embarrassing. About 2 weeks ago, I came home from a night out (yes, alcohol was involved). I fell asleep with my cordless "bullett" (a small vibrator) and have not been able to find it since. Is it possible that it is lost inside of ...
A. 15 May 2008: In the immortal words of Bruce Springsteen, "Someday we'll look back on this, and it will all seem funny."
I think it's probably lost in your sheets or your laundry or has rolled under the furniture somewhere. Do you have a roomate that could ha... (read in full...)
If I want to look at porn, I have a right, right?
Q. My girlfriend found porn on the computer yesterday that we share. I accidentally left the history up and she looked through it and saw what I had been looking at. I told her I was bored and those websites were in the magazine I was reading so I ...
A. 15 May 2008: Hi, I've just got to chime in with my 2 cents worth on this one.
The deal for her is that like many women, she compares herself to the women you're looking at, and it's a losing battle because most of the images are of beautiful, airbrush... (read in full...)
I want to give my wife a good reason to shave her pubic hair
Q. Hi Readers I have always wanted my wife to shave her pussy, she agrees whilst we are having sex but never gets round to doing it. so i can give her a good reason to do it, 'is there any good reasons or if anyone as any ideas...
A. 15 May 2008: You might try giving her a spa gift certificate for a Brazilian wax.
Though be prepared for some very tender, red skin, and possibly some parts where the top layer of skin has come off. And the red bumps that follow when the hair starts to grow ... (read in full...)
I have a very very diverse complex mix, and I need a POLITE or even cheeky-tongue-in-cheek-non-offensive-funny answer to give to intrusive strangers!
Q. I have a very very diverse complex mix, because of this it makes me stand out as I look extremely different from most people. My race is completely unspecific or impossible to guess. So every single time I leave my house I always have people ...
A. 15 May 2008: For complete strangers: "I'm so glad you asked, you see, I'm a representative for this charity that needs so much help, and I know you won't mind if I spend a few minutes with you talking about the need for donations to help save the _______. This ... (read in full...)
Bad pain, due to PID or pregnancy?
Q. i need help i have or had PID pevlic inflamotary dease i dont know if im spelling it right but well i think im pregnant now im having bad bad pain i didnt wait 3 weeks to have sex i did it the next day and i think also i might have it again an...
A. 15 May 2008: Please see your doctor! You can buy a home pregnancy test to see if you are pregnant, but with your medical history, don't you think it would be a good idea to have it checked out by a medical professional?
Take care of this soon, please take car... (read in full...)
Is this a good plan for losing fear of speaking to girls?
Q. I'm 16 and I have never had a girlfriend, kissed or even held hands. I’m overweight (visibly) and generally painfully shy. I’ve just started considering a plan that can get my shyness to girls to disappear always have trouble talking to them or ...
A. 15 May 2008: I rather like this plan, but I'm afraid that by girl 10 or 15 you'll be asked to leave by the security guards!
You sound like you have a good sense of humor and some good ideas on how to deal with rejection.
How about just treating some gi... (read in full...)
Sex with a fat person, should I give it a try?
Q. This guy asked me to have sex with him. I like him and was thinking about saying yes. I like him alot and he is very nice-looking and has a great personality but is well-built. Would it be awkward having sex with him because he is fat?...
A. 15 May 2008: Um, have you two even been out on a date yet? I'm just asking because I think it's normally a good idea to have some kind of understanding of what the relationship is going to be.
Are you okay if he talks about this at school and tells people y... (read in full...)
He's asked me to have sex with him and I don't know what to say!
Q. I recently just turned 16 and I really like this boy in my year. He is not the nicest looking but he is very nice to me and always complimenting me. I have liked him for a while and now he has asked me to have sex with him. I don't know what to say ...
A. 15 May 2008: Honestly, I would wait until I was in a really committed relationship with a guy who loved me and respected me and wanted only the best for me.
Compliments are easy to give.
Disappointments will be many in a lifetime, and maybe it's time he had... (read in full...)
I'm feeling ignored and unpopular at school, and my parents don't believe me when I say I'm unhappy.
Q. Hi, I no I write to you a lot about this kind of thing. You have given me great advice in the past so I hope you can do so again. I'm getting really down. At school, No-one wants to work with me on group work. I never get in a group with anyone I...
A. 14 May 2008: Hi, I'm waaaayyy older than you but I remember some of the feelings of feeling excluded in school. One so-called friend even started a 'hate club' against me, it was very upsetting at the time, but now I can't remember her name. She wasn't very ... (read in full...)
Any help from girls! Help, is this a period?
Q. hey hey, I started bleeding today from my vagina and methinks it may be periods but i thought id get your opinion.. my blood varys in colour from brownish to bright red is this right?? and i seem to have a continuous flow of blood.. is this normal ...
A. 14 May 2008: Welcome to womanhood! You've got your first period, I'm pretty sure. The colors you described are all quite normal, you typically go from a brighter red to a darker brownish color as a few days pass.
At your age, you can expect that the periods ... (read in full...)
Hurt, confused and broken....help.
Q. i got married last year. me and my husband had a fairytale relationship before we got married. now we have spells of really highs or really lows. I got raped at fifteen, and his beginning to bring it up alot recently. we go through periods where we ...
A. 14 May 2008: He is not fighting fair, if he escalates it into that ultimatum, and if he brings up your being raped. He does that because he's trying to win at any cost, at any cost to you. This is not a good sign, he lacks empathy and coping skills.
I complete... (read in full...)
All I want to know is if YOU would want to be with someone like this?
Q. Ok, I am going to summarize everything and all I want to know is if YOU would want to be with someone like this. My GF before she met me: Slept with 18 people, involved in group sex, cheated, had an abortion, stripped for coke, lots of one nigh...
A. 14 May 2008: You may indeed be the best person she's ever been involved with, from the report you gave of her. But that doesn't mean you need to stay with her. I think you're right to be questioning the longterm viability of this relationship, because if she is ... (read in full...)
I'd like to go on a date with her, but I think I might have been too keen. Have I made a mess of it all?
Q. I gt talking to a girl a couple of weeks ago from a dating site (plentyoffish.com). She said she was just looking for dating, nothing else. We messaged and texted for a couple days until I mentioned 'girlfriend' in a message. (I'd like to date ...
A. 14 May 2008: I think you're going to have to accept that she's not interested in going on a date with you, if she hasn't responded to your texts and voicemails. It could be that you did a little too much texting and trying to contact her, and that put her off, ... (read in full...)
Why isn't she getting pregnant? We keep trying...
Q. me and my partner have been having unprotected sex for 18months now! she is 19 and im 22.it may seem young but we are financially stable and want a baby! but she dont seem to get pregnant! is there a problem with either of us?...
A. 14 May 2008: Laura is correct, you need to be seen by your doctors to find the answer to your question.
Here's a website for some research help:
http://www.webmd.com/infertility-and-reproduction/default.htm
Wishing you good luck in conceiving!... (read in full...)
I'm taking care of everyone and no one is taking care of me
Q. This is kind of hard to explain so I'll just start at the beginning. My friend is seven months pregnant and throughout her pregnancy I have been taking care of her. I walk her to class, carry her books, talk to her when she feels down, tell her that ...
A. 14 May 2008: You sound like a very caring and sweet person to be taking care of everyone else; it's very selfless of you. And you have lots of worries on your plate, I know. I think you need to let your girlfriends know about how you're feeling, so that you can ... (read in full...)
What does love mean to you?
Q. This has more than likely been asked many times before but I don't feel like going through thousands of questions. Anyway I wanted to know what each of you thought love means to you....
A. 13 May 2008: I don't think that there is any better answer to this question than the one q1605 gave. That is love.... (read in full...)
I think my friends have spread rumours about me...should I forgive or plot to get even?
Q. Today at school my friend really hurt me. Her and this boy went and told everyone that i am not a virgin. It's really affecting me becasue people are calling me slag and becasue i am normaly quiet and keep out the way people are saying "its always ...
A. 13 May 2008: Honey, don't take this treatment from bullies, and that is what they are, bullies, because they are trying to hurt you in a very awful way. Please tell your parents or a teacher right away; they can help you deal with this better than you trying to ... (read in full...)
Why do I always put down my husband?
Q. I love my husband. Why do I always seem to put him down? I think that he is the most generous smart lovable good person that I've ever met. He is very shy, not real forthcoming with his feelings or affection for that matter. Doesn't like bei...
A. 13 May 2008: Sorry, anonymous male, I wasn't referring to you at all. I was trying to answer a fellow female who's been married for 15 years. If he can't come out of his shell in a 15 year marriage, then there are more serious problems than just posted here. I ... (read in full...)
Why do I always put down my husband?
Q. I love my husband. Why do I always seem to put him down? I think that he is the most generous smart lovable good person that I've ever met. He is very shy, not real forthcoming with his feelings or affection for that matter. Doesn't like bei...
A. 13 May 2008: Are you putting him down in front of other people or just in private?
I know some marriages where one spouse or both seem to be denigrating each other in public; I seriously worry about the long term survivability of those marriages, as it shows... (read in full...)
I need gift ideas for my boyfriend who is starting a new job!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a couple of months now. He has just got a wonderful new job that he will be starting in 2 weeks time. He will get a company car, will have to wear a suit + tie, be clean shaven etc which is a change for him b...
A. 13 May 2008: A really good pen (find out if he likes the ball-point or fountain tips), a nice attache case or briefcase, a great shaving kit, a no-iron shirt with a matching tie, a leather folio that holds a note pad, a good watch, there are some ideas. The best ... (read in full...)
I don't think she fancies me, how do I stop liking her?
Q. I like my friend. We are close. We talk a bit, but I don't know if she likes me. She sends me pics of hear wearing new outfits and asks my opinion. She was tellin me bout this guy who liked her, and she turned him down. So she feels free talk to me ...
A. 13 May 2008: What standard? So they're older or better looking than you seem to think you are? That does not make them of a higher standard. I think really good relationships start by being friends first, and you're already there.
Why not ask her out for dinn... (read in full...)
Is masturbation murder?
Q. well as u all know ''sperm'' is pretty mutch something alive ,i mean it turns into a human if u have sexual intercourse with a woman ,well if people masturbate is it a sin ,as my freind said it ''mastubation is murder'' then he followed on ...
A. 13 May 2008: To add to oldfool's train of thought, by the time a female reaches puberty, she has about 300,000 ova, and a male produces something like 12 trillion spermatozoa in his lifetime. Do the math, I can't! And technically, ova and spermatozoa are cells, ... (read in full...)
I am 16 and I am scared of having sex!
Q. the big question: sex? why am i scared to have sex?! i am 16 and i am scared of having sex, because i hear that it hurts the first time espeacially, and from what i see from movies, i know this will sound funny, bu when i watch movies where it happe...
A. 13 May 2008: Hi, I think that there's nothing wrong with you. You're still young and have lots of time to grow up and learn more about life and the 'adult' things that everyone faces as they get older.
I wouldn't spend much time worrying about it at this poi... (read in full...)
My fingers are deformed and I'm scared it's putting the girls off me
Q. Hey, well Im 18 years old and as of yet had not had a girlfriend. I was born with a birth defect to my hands in which my fingers are deformed.The only relationship i've had has been an online one and she knew about my situation. I'm not anti-social. ...
A. 13 May 2008: Hi, saw your post and it reminded me of a well known broadcast and actress here in the US, Bree Walker. She's been married 3 times and has 2 children, so there's definitely hope for you! Though I rather hope you don't have to divorce as many times ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend bleeds everytime we have sex, is it unusual?
Q. Most girls I've had sex with haven't bled during/afterwords, unless they were virgin's or hadn't had sex in quite a while, but my girlfriend at the moment, she bleeds EVERY TIME we have sex? is this unusual?...
A. 12 May 2008: Hi, the best thing for her to do is see the gynecologist; she should be checked out as bleeding every time is not normal. It's so considerate of you to be concerned about this, by the way. Take care, and make sure she sees her doctor!... (read in full...)
I really just want to let myself go with him tomorrow night, but what can I do to stop the nerves?
Q. Bit of a strange question. Recently, my best friend, who is a guy admitted he was in love with me. We have always had an amazingly intimate and close friendship and I think deep down I have always been in love with him too. He left me a letter...
A. 10 May 2008: Hi, what a lovely story! I've got good news and bad news for you. Bear with me, while I spell it out here.
The bad news is, you're not going to be able to stop your nerves. You will be feeling fluttery and worried and scared and happy and excited ... (read in full...)
Should I believe him after he broke the promise the first time, about visiting lap dancing bars?
Q. Hi, My fiance is going out tommorow night to liverpool with a load of guys who want to go to a lap dancing bar, when I first got with my fiance I explained that I do not like these kind of things and he said he didnt like them either and promised...
A. 9 May 2008: Your guy sounds like he cares about you and your feelings, very good start. I think that Birdy and Lonelytwo gave some very good advice, which is to just trust him to do the right thing. It's difficult to do, I know, but if you two have a good ... (read in full...)
Why don't I have an orgasm when I have sex with my partner?
Q. hi, i just want to ask why i did'nt feel orgasm every time i had sex with my partner? my partner is good in sex i know it. he always ask me if im finished i said not yet,if i feel that he can no longer to wait for my orgasm, im just pretending and ...
A. 9 May 2008: Hi, you're normal, you're in the 70% group that hlskitten described. You shouldn't have to pretend, I'm sure that he would rather you be happy and satisfied than you being worried and faking it.
If he's as considerate as he sounds, then he'll wa... (read in full...)
Dear Cupid, this is the kinda stuff we want to hear.....
Q. Just a little light comic relief, some entertainment if you like - sort of based on some of the problems here on Dear Cupid. Feel free to lighten your load : ) I'll start by submitting 8 things that I think guys would 'LOVE' to hear from their ...
A. 9 May 2008: BigSis, you learn AAALLLL kinds of things here on DC! Quite an ejimication... Sorry, Unky Phil, for the *gasp* factor!
And I've got some great new jokes from this thread, ta for that!... (read in full...)
Dear Cupid, this is the kinda stuff we want to hear.....
Q. Just a little light comic relief, some entertainment if you like - sort of based on some of the problems here on Dear Cupid. Feel free to lighten your load : ) I'll start by submitting 8 things that I think guys would 'LOVE' to hear from their ...
A. 9 May 2008: Ooh, is that a possible treatment option for frenulum breve?... (read in full...)
Come on aunts and uncles stop dodging your resposibilities....
Q. I often hear the phrase 'it's not for me to judge'. If no one offers a judgement then how is right and wrong determined in society? Someone batters an old woman, 'it's not for me to judge'....Someone molests a child, 'it's not for me to judge'. Isn...
A. 9 May 2008: Interesting question. What are the responsibilities of volunteer agony aunts and uncles? And what does the word 'judge' mean?
These are from dictionary.com:
"to pass legal judgment on; pass sentence on (a person)
"to hear evidence or legal a... (read in full...)
Unusual sperm fetish? I even swallow sperm from used condoms..
Q. Hi, I have an unusual fetish. My thing is that I really enjoy having a guy ejaculate in my mouth. My friends think I am mad but I love the taste of sperm and have always allowed a partner to do this for me. I have not had a boyfriend for ...
A. 9 May 2008: Lisa, I can't help you with controlling the kink, but I need to point out there are infections that can be spread via semen. Hepatitis B is one of them, so if you wish to continue in this practice, I would strongly suggest you get yourself ... (read in full...)
My husband offered me to his friend. Does he just want an open relationship?
Q. House party out of control. I am rather confused and upset. I have been with my husband for 5 years, married for 3 with two young children. We used to have house parties all the time and my hubby would either not drink or drink very little, he was a...
A. 9 May 2008: I read your post with horror, what an awful experience you went through. I'm so sorry for what you're going through right now.
First off, he goes straight to be assessed for alcoholism and any other possible diseases or conditions by the doctor. ... (read in full...)
My neighbor is allowed to kill my dog because my dog "murdered"? What the hell?
Q. hi everyone im gettin really agravated with my neighbor he lives 2 houses down from me and my dog lucy is a lab and a retriever mix n is 12 years old and is still very playfull but now shes to be confined in2 the house because of my dumb ass ...
A. 9 May 2008: From the American Kennel Club website:
Be a Canine Ambassador
Set a Good Example
As a dog owner, you are responsible not only for your own dog's well being, but for the status of dogs everywhere. One irresponsible dog owner in town can ma... (read in full...)
My neighbor is allowed to kill my dog because my dog "murdered"? What the hell?
Q. hi everyone im gettin really agravated with my neighbor he lives 2 houses down from me and my dog lucy is a lab and a retriever mix n is 12 years old and is still very playfull but now shes to be confined in2 the house because of my dumb ass ...
A. 9 May 2008: Hi, I have a dog too, and I have an 'invisible fence' which keeps him inside our yard. I love my dog too, and I don't want him to be out there wandering around the neighborhood, possibly terrorizing other dogs or cats and other pets, or worry about ... (read in full...)
Dear Cupid, this is the kinda stuff we want to hear.....
Q. Just a little light comic relief, some entertainment if you like - sort of based on some of the problems here on Dear Cupid. Feel free to lighten your load : ) I'll start by submitting 8 things that I think guys would 'LOVE' to hear from their ...
A. 8 May 2008: Mandy, those are priceless! I am HOWLING, hope none of the neighbors call the men with the padded vans and those little jackets with the extra long arms...
And Birdy, BigSis and the rest of you lot, I have had to run to the loo, my darlings... (read in full...)
Dear Cupid, this is the kinda stuff we want to hear.....
Q. Just a little light comic relief, some entertainment if you like - sort of based on some of the problems here on Dear Cupid. Feel free to lighten your load : ) I'll start by submitting 8 things that I think guys would 'LOVE' to hear from their ...
A. 28 March 2008: Oh, BigSis, you know how to brighten up the day!!! Those council letters are priceless!!! Thank you for the belly laughs.... (read in full...)
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