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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Advice to young men about young women
Q. I posted this as an answer to a young man, a virgin, who wanted to know about his young girlfriend, also a virgin... First, I know it's hard to believe but a girl her age may not know her body very well. She may not know what is sexually stimula...
A. 24 July 2009: Yawn. Post a reply when you're not feeling so lazy. ... (read in full...)
Advice to young men about young women
Q. I posted this as an answer to a young man, a virgin, who wanted to know about his young girlfriend, also a virgin... First, I know it's hard to believe but a girl her age may not know her body very well. She may not know what is sexually stimula...
A. 24 July 2009: Here's the original thread: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-long-does-it-take-a-girl-to.html
Someone suggested that I submit the answer as an article, so I did, without too much editing. ... (read in full...)
Advice to young men about young women
Q. I posted this as an answer to a young man, a virgin, who wanted to know about his young girlfriend, also a virgin... First, I know it's hard to believe but a girl her age may not know her body very well. She may not know what is sexually stimula...
A. 24 July 2009: Oh, and I just wonder why you have to be 'anon'? Are you concerned about your statistics? I don't bite, really.... (read in full...)
Advice to young men about young women
Q. I posted this as an answer to a young man, a virgin, who wanted to know about his young girlfriend, also a virgin... First, I know it's hard to believe but a girl her age may not know her body very well. She may not know what is sexually stimula...
A. 24 July 2009: -Wow, to imply that a man parts are easier to understand is fairly naive.
Well, it's a lot harder for some people to find the clitoris than it is to overlook the penis.
-I suggest you don't be talking to young men, because you are missing the ... (read in full...)
Dear Cupid, this is the kinda stuff we want to hear.....
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A. 17 July 2008: Jack wakes up at home with a huge hangover he can't believe. He forces himself to open his eyes, and the first thing he sees is a couple of aspirins next to a glass of water on the side table and next to them, a single red rose!
Jack sits up ... (read in full...)
Dear Cupid, this is the kinda stuff we want to hear.....
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A. 10 July 2008: More Boudreaux jokes....
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Two cousins started school together. The teacher was asking everybody their names. When she got to the first cousin, he said, “Poo Poo.” She said she was not going to put up with such behavior and asked him again. “... (read in full...)
Dear Cupid, this is the kinda stuff we want to hear.....
Q. Just a little light comic relief, some entertainment if you like - sort of based on some of the problems here on Dear Cupid. Feel free to lighten your load : ) I'll start by submitting 8 things that I think guys would 'LOVE' to hear from their ...
A. 10 July 2008: Father Scola could make some good sermons. One day he was talking on the Ten Commandments and, boy, did he get excited. He was jumping up and down. Beating on the pulpit. He said you have to obey the Ten Commandments. He said everyone has sinned and ... (read in full...)
Dear Cupid, this is the kinda stuff we want to hear.....
Q. Just a little light comic relief, some entertainment if you like - sort of based on some of the problems here on Dear Cupid. Feel free to lighten your load : ) I'll start by submitting 8 things that I think guys would 'LOVE' to hear from their ...
A. 10 July 2008: Boudreaux, Shawee, Cowan and T-Brud were playing a round of golf with a $200 wager on the match. Boudreaux had a 10-foot putt on the 18th green to win the money. He eyed the break from every angle and was meticulous in setting up to stroke the ball. ... (read in full...)
Romantic music for a wedding - ideas please.
Q. Hi, This is probably an unusual one! But I am looking for help in regards to picking out music for an upcoming wedding ceremony! I dont want anything too lonely as it will be lonely enough. But ideas of more romantic tone. The main one I am having ...
A. 20 May 2008: So what did you decide on? And congratulations again, by the way.... (read in full...)
Dear Cupid, this is the kinda stuff we want to hear.....
Q. Just a little light comic relief, some entertainment if you like - sort of based on some of the problems here on Dear Cupid. Feel free to lighten your load : ) I'll start by submitting 8 things that I think guys would 'LOVE' to hear from their ...
A. 9 May 2008: BigSis, you learn AAALLLL kinds of things here on DC! Quite an ejimication... Sorry, Unky Phil, for the *gasp* factor!
And I've got some great new jokes from this thread, ta for that!... (read in full...)
Dear Cupid, this is the kinda stuff we want to hear.....
Q. Just a little light comic relief, some entertainment if you like - sort of based on some of the problems here on Dear Cupid. Feel free to lighten your load : ) I'll start by submitting 8 things that I think guys would 'LOVE' to hear from their ...
A. 9 May 2008: Ooh, is that a possible treatment option for frenulum breve?... (read in full...)
My neighbor is allowed to kill my dog because my dog "murdered"? What the hell?
Q. hi everyone im gettin really agravated with my neighbor he lives 2 houses down from me and my dog lucy is a lab and a retriever mix n is 12 years old and is still very playfull but now shes to be confined in2 the house because of my dumb ass ...
A. 9 May 2008: From the American Kennel Club website:
Be a Canine Ambassador
Set a Good Example
As a dog owner, you are responsible not only for your own dog's well being, but for the status of dogs everywhere. One irresponsible dog owner in town can ma... (read in full...)
My neighbor is allowed to kill my dog because my dog "murdered"? What the hell?
Q. hi everyone im gettin really agravated with my neighbor he lives 2 houses down from me and my dog lucy is a lab and a retriever mix n is 12 years old and is still very playfull but now shes to be confined in2 the house because of my dumb ass ...
A. 9 May 2008: Hi, I have a dog too, and I have an 'invisible fence' which keeps him inside our yard. I love my dog too, and I don't want him to be out there wandering around the neighborhood, possibly terrorizing other dogs or cats and other pets, or worry about ... (read in full...)
How to make him interested in me again?
Q. how can i get him back? After being attracted to each other we passed the contact details, then we met once for dinner, he show his real interest by openning up...i was sure he liked me...we had no physical contacts at all, then i told him about my...
A. 9 May 2008: Hi, I think he clearly doesnt want to pursue a relationship with you, sorry about that. If he's asked you to delete his contact information, that is as clear a "not interested" sign as there could be. If I were in your shoes, I would do as he ... (read in full...)
I have EXTREMELY bad PMS symptoms, what can I do to reduce their effect before they sabotage my relationship and my own personal well being??
Q. Okay so I have EXTREMELY bad PMS symptoms. I get just about everything known to womankind of this nature. Two weeks before I start my period, my skin breaks out terribly, my stomach cramps, my back aches, I get fatigued, crave junk really ...
A. 9 May 2008: Hi, I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I'm not a medical expert, and I think it would be irresponsible to give you advice on the conditions you're describing, other than to offer up some links (see below) and some thoughts here.
I read abo... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks I'm nuts...would you say I was over-reacting?
Q. Please help! I don't trust my own judgment because I have anxiety/depression and take meds. I have a b/f who I have been seeing for about three yrs - All my friends say he is using me - I have decorated and remodelled his house, landscaped...
A. 9 May 2008: Hi, Chippy, may I ask why you're afraid to end this relationship? Does the getting 'pissy' comment mean you're afraid he's going to be violent?
I'm concerned about this.... (read in full...)
He got caught masturbating in a shopping centre!!
Q. My b/f often masturbates to porn, i'm o.k with this and sometimes we watch it together. Anyhow last week he got caught masterbating in a shopping centre, now i think maybe i shouldn't have encouraged him. What do you think?...
A. 9 May 2008: His behavior in public is not of your making; he chose to do this seriously stupid thing on his own. You do not bear the responsibility for this. What happens inside the privacy of your own house is one thing, what you do in public that could harm ... (read in full...)
Invited to the reception but not the wedding. How rude.
Q. I got an invitation to my cousin's wedding reception, but not her to actual wedding. She didn't go to my wedding or reception last August. I don't want to go to her reception, she's a spoiled little snob, and she treats ppl. like crap. My mom got a ...
A. 8 May 2008: "Dear Cousin X,
"Thank you so much for your your kind invitation to the reception following your wedding. Unfortunately, I will not be able to attend. I do wish you all the best on your wedding and future together!"
"Sincerely,
... (read in full...)
Question for the BOYS and MEN on this site about strip clubs!
Q. Hey Question for the BOYS and MEN on this site... ladies are welcome to write their comments as well.... After a boys night out in a Strip club .. coming home to your wife,fiance or girlfriend ... wanting to have sex with her at that moment...
A. 8 May 2008: Hi Therese, you're very welcome. I know this is a touchy area for lots of women and I'm not trying to diminish anyone's feelings on this. It's just that the magnifying lens of worry can make this into a bigger issue than it really is in most ... (read in full...)
Ladies! What do you think of Latin American partners?
Q. This isn't really a question about relationships in itself. I just would like to ask girls and women what thing would come first to their minds if they were asked to give an opinion about Latin American men as partners....
A. 8 May 2008: Well, I really wish I had asked Pancho Villa's widow, when she gave me a kiss years ago in the 60s; I'm sure she would have had some interesting stories to tell, but I was only a little girl then.
I would say that they are passionate and feel thi... (read in full...)
Dear Cupid, this is the kinda stuff we want to hear.....
Q. Just a little light comic relief, some entertainment if you like - sort of based on some of the problems here on Dear Cupid. Feel free to lighten your load : ) I'll start by submitting 8 things that I think guys would 'LOVE' to hear from their ...
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And Birdy, BigSis and the rest of you lot, I have had to run to the loo, my darlings... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's lack of parenting skills is driving us apart!
Q. My bf's lack of parenting skills is driving us apart! I talked to him about some other issues we were having - and that went well but yesterday again his kids were there at his house ( they are there 2 days a week and every other weekend) I ha...
A. 8 May 2008: Hi, Chippy, I see you're still with your boyfriend. I had rather thought that you'd have taken your phone and lawn mower back by now and taken a break from the relationship, but I guess you're working things out with him. I hope it works out.
... (read in full...)
Question for the BOYS and MEN on this site about strip clubs!
Q. Hey Question for the BOYS and MEN on this site... ladies are welcome to write their comments as well.... After a boys night out in a Strip club .. coming home to your wife,fiance or girlfriend ... wanting to have sex with her at that moment...
A. 8 May 2008: I'm going to put in my 2 cents worth on this one. My husband very, very occasionally will be invited to a strip club, normally for a bachelor party. I have to admit, it makes me very uncomfortable, and I have made it very clear to him that he can ... (read in full...)
Two years...and he still hasn't introduced me to his family!
Q. Hi! I have a relationship problem. My boyfriend is 12 years older than me. He is currently working and i am still in Varsity. The problem is, he was married and has a child from a previous relationship. He doesn't call or give me any attentio...
A. 8 May 2008: Hi, this doesn't sound promising to me. It's been two years and you haven't met his family?
Let me ask a couple of questions for clarification. Have you met his child and his other friends? Do you go over to his house or meet elsewhere? Can you ... (read in full...)
I told him that I needed to work and he got really cold, visibly annoyed. What should I think of his attitude?
Q. Hello, Its exams period and the whole year has been very stressful as its the last undergrad uni year and we are both ambitious. We've been out together for more than a year now and before we were best friends for a year and a half. I love him...
A. 8 May 2008: Hi, first off, good luck on the exams! As to your question, I'll bet this is going to be a tempest in a teacup in the end. I think your increased level of stress is probably making you both a little prickly.
You owe each other an apology;... (read in full...)
A husband's gripe...how can he talk with his wife without offending her?
Q. The family tells her they want a certain brand of food, but she buys bargain brands that don’t taste good, a taste that requires another to kill the awful taste. She goes and buys supplies for building plotted plants. The fertilizer is such tha...
A. 8 May 2008: "You Just Don't Understand! Women and Men in Conversation" by Deborah Tannen PhD. Good stuff in there! Women want context, men want result, with summary only if needed...
I can't help with the shopping/potted plants though. I guess they are the ... (read in full...)
Vaginal penetration incomplete, did I lose my "V" card? What should I expect at full intercourse in terms of sensations?
Q. If only 1/3 of a penis penetrated my vagina for 10 seconds, did i lose my virginity? is this close to what it feels like when there is deep, full penetration for a longer period of time? Also, if the penis got soft once it was in, is this ...
A. 7 May 2008: Hi, glad we could help. I want to add that the first couple of times, it was a funny new sensation but if you're properly aroused, it really is a nice feeling. The thing is to be well relaxed and well lubricated. Trust me, once you get the hang of ... (read in full...)
Romantic music for a wedding - ideas please.
Q. Hi, This is probably an unusual one! But I am looking for help in regards to picking out music for an upcoming wedding ceremony! I dont want anything too lonely as it will be lonely enough. But ideas of more romantic tone. The main one I am having ...
A. 7 May 2008: I suppose 'Get Me to the Church on Time' would be inappropriate, but congratulations to bride and groom.
Some non-classical ideas:
Then Came You, Dionne Warwick with the Spinners
For Once in My Life, lots of artists do this one, Michael Bu... (read in full...)
I love her, but the attraction is fading and I don't want to hurt her
Q. I have been seeing a girl for about 10 months now. She is possibly the most lovely girl I have ever met and I love her a lot. However I am becoming less attracted to her physically. She has quite a lot of issues - she is mostly recovered from a...
A. 7 May 2008: This is a tricky one. Is she still athletic? If she's eating well, and maintaining a healthy body weight, she may be stabilizing after the eating disorder. She may be reaching her 'normal' body.
I don't want to bash you for not being sexually... (read in full...)
My husband is abusing me
Q. My husband is verbally and emotionlly abusing me. With this I have been in depression for two years now cause if this, and it's getting way worse than better. I lead my anger and deprrion on food, that now I'm obese. He doesn't understand that ...
A. 7 May 2008: Hi, I had a thought today, you could look at this website and see if there is a group there for diet and fitness, I'll bet there's one focused on people who use food for comfort.
http://yourtotalhealth.ivillage.com/diet-fitness
... (read in full...)
Vaginal penetration incomplete, did I lose my "V" card? What should I expect at full intercourse in terms of sensations?
Q. If only 1/3 of a penis penetrated my vagina for 10 seconds, did i lose my virginity? is this close to what it feels like when there is deep, full penetration for a longer period of time? Also, if the penis got soft once it was in, is this ...
A. 7 May 2008: Fron the Merriam-Webster's Medical Dictionary:
vir·gin
Pronunciation: 'v&r-j&n
Function: noun
: one who has not had sexual intercourse
sexual intercourse
Function: noun
1 : heterosexual intercourse involving penetration of the... (read in full...)
Does the cup size decrease a lot when you lose weight?
Q. I wanna get fit. I'm not really fat, actually, I'm in my normal weight range (I used to be overweight, just not anymore). However, there's still some flab around my mid section and my hips, butt and especially thighs. I want to lose around 10 ...
A. 7 May 2008: If you're losing fat all over your body, your breast size might go down a bit, but it should all stay in proportion. Keep in mind though that getting fit also means you're getting good muscle tone, and that includes your pectoral muscles, the ones ... (read in full...)
Fingering has not gained us much thrills yet, will stimulating the famous G spot be more pleasurable for her?
Q. my gf is a virgin and we just recently started fooling around.. she gets nothing out of fingering and i've posted about that on here before.. but bc she doesn't get anything out of that would her g-spot not give her anything either?? ...
A. 7 May 2008: You are so sweet to be worried about her pleasure too. Annalisa gave you some good advice there, so I don't have much to add, other than to suggest that you ask her to show you what feels good to her. Ask her if she masturbates at all, she might not ... (read in full...)
My wife gets too dry
Q. my wife gets dry too quickly. she gets really wet but after two minutes she gets really dry and i can feel goosebumps inside her so i pull out as i think she is sore. any advice?...
A. 7 May 2008: There are some good personal lubricants on the market, you could use those in a sexy way with her and that might help a lot. Is she staying turned on? Maybe you could check with her as to her state of arousal, and enter her for a bit, pull out, play ... (read in full...)
I'm too embarrassed to buy a dildo so what do I do?
Q. ok to tell you the truth i masturbate regularly but now its starting to not feel good and im not getting any pleasure from it im too embarrassed and shy to buy a dildo what should i do?...
A. 6 May 2008: Why not leave off masturbating for a little while? Stay active, go out and do some physical activity and keep yourself mentally busy with school, friends and family. It may be that you've overdone things a little and your body just needs a break. ... (read in full...)
What and How to tell him I am sad and unhappy with his actions
Q. Please help me - My bf logged in at a dating site again right after he was unhappy with me - He also has been texting his ex-fiance ( they have no children together) I pay for his phone and I am asking all of you how I should tell him I am concerned ...
A. 6 May 2008: Hi Chippy, I've read your previous questions and problems with this man. I think it's time to jump ship, end it with him. He is not helping you in your recovery and treatment and I think it's time for you to listen to your daughter and the advice ... (read in full...)
My husband is abusing me
Q. My husband is verbally and emotionlly abusing me. With this I have been in depression for two years now cause if this, and it's getting way worse than better. I lead my anger and deprrion on food, that now I'm obese. He doesn't understand that ...
A. 6 May 2008: In reading the links provided by the government, it seems that your best bet is to contact your doctor. Here's a weblink for what I found:
http://www.cfpc.ca/English/cfpc/programs/patient%20education/depression/default.asp?s=1
I'll try to k... (read in full...)
My husband is abusing me
Q. My husband is verbally and emotionlly abusing me. With this I have been in depression for two years now cause if this, and it's getting way worse than better. I lead my anger and deprrion on food, that now I'm obese. He doesn't understand that ...
A. 6 May 2008: Hi, I think your best bet would be to talk with your physician or health care provider; you could call the local hospital for help in giving you a referral number.
I worry a bit that you feel you can't ask family or friends for some support ... (read in full...)
I don't know who I am anymore...I think I must be depressed!
Q. I believe I am depressed even though this isn't clinically proven. I hurt all the time and I get headaches daily. Today I decided to go for a walk and sat behind a pile of hay for quite some time before I heard a truck, then I ran home. Please help ...
A. 6 May 2008: Hi, sorry to hear about your friend, and how you're feeling. This is very hard to help with, so listen to the advice you're given here by other posters, and read the link here:
http:... (read in full...)
They say, visit a doctor, but I really can't tell my mum! What do you suggest?
Q. Help me! I know discharge is normal but I get SO MUCH. I'm not sure if it's right. I have to put loo roll in my knickers all the time its awful. When i wake up, and then stand up, its realy heavy, as if its been 'collecting' overnight. I hate it b...
A. 5 May 2008: Okay, I think I understand why you can't talk with your mum. I'm NOT a medical expert, but this sounds like you're perfectly normal. Again, I'm not in any position to tell you everythings just fine either. So, I think your best stategy is to tell ... (read in full...)
Sex with my girlfriend used to be great, now she doesn't want it at all!
Q. My girlfriend and i have been together for 6 years now, and sex use to be great... but know she doesn't want it at all. I have a 7 inch penis....and she said it hurts... what is the problem?...
A. 5 May 2008: Hi, has she been to her gynecologist? There may be something going on that needs a medical check up. If the pain is recent, there may be an infection or perhaps something more serious. Just to be on the safe side, see a medical specialist.
All t... (read in full...)
They say, visit a doctor, but I really can't tell my mum! What do you suggest?
Q. Help me! I know discharge is normal but I get SO MUCH. I'm not sure if it's right. I have to put loo roll in my knickers all the time its awful. When i wake up, and then stand up, its realy heavy, as if its been 'collecting' overnight. I hate it b...
A. 5 May 2008: Hi, I really think you might need to consider talking with your mum about this, I know it might be very embarassing but I hope she would want the best for you! If you're concerned because you've been sexually active and you don't want her to find ... (read in full...)
I want us to live together but how can that happen if he is reluctant to even see me?? He says he feels pressurised, I think he is not used to being in a serious relation!
Q. I've been in a relationship for nearly 2 years now. He's 23 and i'm 22. I met him online and we met almost instantly despite me living in Manchester and him in London. 8 Months in to the relationship I decided to move down here to be with him. ...
A. 5 May 2008: Hi, you got some good answers from the previous posters, Ask oldersister, malvern and Danielepew. I have to ask if he was the one who suggested that you move to be with him? Or did you do this to try to move the relationship forward? If you made ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me very much but I got told that he cheated on me the night when my bestfriend died!
Q. I need major help. I have been with my Boyfriend For 4 years. And well a few weeks ago I lost my bestfriend. He died by drowing. "theres a Reason for this". The day b4 he died he told my bf"Treat her right, She's a good Girl". He laughed. And well ...
A. 5 May 2008: Hi, I read your posts and want to extend my condolences. It's so difficult to lose a good friend, I know because I went through the same thing awhile back... So having said that, I want to offer the best advice I can here. We need to divide up the ... (read in full...)
I feel powerless about arguing about his other dates as I am just a friend... with benefits! How will these feelings go away?
Q. Im utterly in love with someone i know isnt going anywhere and never will, it started off as a one night stand two years ago and then a few more since then we have become the best of friends going everywhere together holidays to festivals constantly ...
A. 5 May 2008: I'm with danielepew and ember13, you need to end the relationship with him, even though it will be difficult. Line up your friends and family to support you as this is a break up, even though you're not in an 'official' relationship, because to you ... (read in full...)
My in-laws hate me. It's all getting worse.
Q. hello all - I posted a question nearly a year ago and checking it back recently I can see that people have even commented recently so thank you http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-in-laws-hate-me-and-my-husband.html I wanted to add a comment...
A. 5 May 2008: I'm with eyeswideopen here. He's had his chances (I read your previous post, by the way) and it is time for the big move. You can do it; you've put up with enough. Wake up call time is now! Why waste another minute of your life in this toxic ... (read in full...)
I have a little trouble with my skin, any ideas on how to prevent the peeling?
Q. Hi i'm 13 year old femalee (: and having a little trouble with my skin. EVERYBODY admires it and thinks its lovely especialy for my age i drink a fair bit of water cleanse and always moisturise before i apply foundation but when i put foundation o...
A. 5 May 2008: Rhythmandblues is right about asking a doctor if you're really peeling around the eyebrows, and in that you're probably hiding your beautiful young skin.
If you're doing the right things in moisturizing and exfoliating and staying hydrated... (read in full...)
I wonder if I should jump ship before I get too attached, as I am skeptical about LD relations?
Q. I've been seeing a guy for a few weeks now, and we're not serious yet, but I think we're headed in that direction. He's really starting to grow on me, and I think he's feeling the same way. But the thing is, he's going to be leaving to go to ...
A. 5 May 2008: Well, long distance relationships are difficult to maintain, both people have to be committed to making them work. It sounds to me like you've got a good start on a nice relationship, but that the timing may be working a bit against you, as he'll be ... (read in full...)
It hurts more than it is enjoyable. How do I get the right way across to her without telling her she's doing it wrong?
Q. ok so i'm not virgin i've been with many girls in high school but i started dating a girl that i've been with for over a year now and we just recently started fooling around bc she's a virgin.. i've got 2 questions.. 1 when i finger her it doesn't ...
A. 5 May 2008: Hi, lots of girls get very little pleasure through fingers in their vagina alone. The clitoris is her main pleasure center, just as your penis is yours. Keep that in mind.
You should be feeling comfortable enough with her to be able to tell her... (read in full...)
We've been texting each other and are now ready to meet in person. Any tips to dismiss the awkwardness?
Q. ok I've been talking to this guy that goes to my school. He is sorta cute. He's really nice and I'm pretty sure he likes me and I like him too. We have no classes together but have the same lunch and for about a week or maybe even two now I'm been ...
A. 5 May 2008: You could tell him to meet you with his phone, and you could start the 'conversation' with him via texting, as a way to make it funny and light-hearted! By the time you two send a couple of texts to each other while you're sitting next to each ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend an ABUSER?
Q. I am confused about whether of not my bf is abusive. Please tell me what you think. We haven’t been dating for long (just under 2 months) so part of him is still putting on the perfect guy act I think, but I feel that maybe these little things that ...
A. 5 May 2008: Sorry to tell you this, but I think you don't need to be confused anymore. He sounds like an abusive man. Read, if you haven't already, Ask_oldersister's article called 'Warning signs you're dating a loser.'
http:... (read in full...)
It was special for her, but are there other methods to ensure she has an orgasm?
Q. some educated answers would be great here!! I'm with a women with whom I make love with, literally for hours!!! Its great. The other day she had an orgasm through penetration, and I was shocked to learn that that was only the second time that had...
A. 5 May 2008: You sound like a very considerate lover; I think that you should just keep doing what you're doing, and talk about what pleases both of you when you're together.
Two tips from me. One, keep in mind that only about 25-30% of women reach climax t... (read in full...)
Advice to young men about young women
Q. I posted this as an answer to a young man, a virgin, who wanted to know about his young girlfriend, also a virgin... First, I know it's hard to believe but a girl her age may not know her body very well. She may not know what is sexually stimula...
A. 2 May 2008: Thanks for the nice feedback, everyone. If you have any thoughts to add, thank you Wizard of Waz for your acute observation, please feel free to add helpful comments too! I just wanted to give the young man some perspective from the girl's point of ... (read in full...)
Dear Cupid, this is the kinda stuff we want to hear.....
Q. Just a little light comic relief, some entertainment if you like - sort of based on some of the problems here on Dear Cupid. Feel free to lighten your load : ) I'll start by submitting 8 things that I think guys would 'LOVE' to hear from their ...
A. 28 March 2008: Oh, BigSis, you know how to brighten up the day!!! Those council letters are priceless!!! Thank you for the belly laughs.... (read in full...)
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