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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Advice to young men about young women
Q. I posted this as an answer to a young man, a virgin, who wanted to know about his young girlfriend, also a virgin... First, I know it's hard to believe but a girl her age may not know her body very well. She may not know what is sexually stimula...
A. 24 July 2009: Yawn. Post a reply when you're not feeling so lazy. ... (read in full...)
Advice to young men about young women
Q. I posted this as an answer to a young man, a virgin, who wanted to know about his young girlfriend, also a virgin... First, I know it's hard to believe but a girl her age may not know her body very well. She may not know what is sexually stimula...
A. 24 July 2009: Here's the original thread: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-long-does-it-take-a-girl-to.html
Someone suggested that I submit the answer as an article, so I did, without too much editing. ... (read in full...)
Advice to young men about young women
Q. I posted this as an answer to a young man, a virgin, who wanted to know about his young girlfriend, also a virgin... First, I know it's hard to believe but a girl her age may not know her body very well. She may not know what is sexually stimula...
A. 24 July 2009: Oh, and I just wonder why you have to be 'anon'? Are you concerned about your statistics? I don't bite, really.... (read in full...)
Advice to young men about young women
Q. I posted this as an answer to a young man, a virgin, who wanted to know about his young girlfriend, also a virgin... First, I know it's hard to believe but a girl her age may not know her body very well. She may not know what is sexually stimula...
A. 24 July 2009: -Wow, to imply that a man parts are easier to understand is fairly naive.
Well, it's a lot harder for some people to find the clitoris than it is to overlook the penis.
-I suggest you don't be talking to young men, because you are missing the ... (read in full...)
Advice to young men about young women
Q. I posted this as an answer to a young man, a virgin, who wanted to know about his young girlfriend, also a virgin... First, I know it's hard to believe but a girl her age may not know her body very well. She may not know what is sexually stimula...
A. 2 May 2008: Thanks for the nice feedback, everyone. If you have any thoughts to add, thank you Wizard of Waz for your acute observation, please feel free to add helpful comments too! I just wanted to give the young man some perspective from the girl's point of ... (read in full...)
Am I allowed to register to get married? I'm 20, and live in India...
Q. hi am 20 years old boy staying in india(karnataka), i just wanted to know if i am allowed to register marry,for boys it is 21, but in my case if i dont marry her, her parents will get her married to someone else, so am helpless, before writing pls ...
A. 2 May 2008: Hi, I don't know if this will help, I do not have any knowledge of the laws in India, but here is a link I found that may help.
http://weddings.iloveindia.com/indian-weddings/marriage-laws-in-india.html
http://societ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to give your male teacher a hug and a kiss on the cheek as a way of saying thanks?
Q. Hiya everybody so I was just wondering if it would be okay to give a male teacher a hug and a a kiss on the cheek. Our exam results would be coming out soon and if they are good me and my friends and classmates are going to thank all our teac...
A. 2 May 2008: I think the best way to thank a teacher is to write a nice note telling him or her that you really appreciate all their support over the years and that you will think of them as a role model as you continue on in life.
Hugs and kisses could ca... (read in full...)
I am very inexperienced with sex and relationships, and was raped 6 years ago by a bf, now I've started dating a new guy...but I need some advice!
Q. Hi I've never posted here before, and I kind of need some advice. I'm in my late 20's, and am going out on a third date with a guy I've known for a couple of months. We get along really well and really dig each other. The thing is, I know that in ...
A. 2 May 2008: Hi, sorry to hear of your awful experience! I want to tell you that rape is not a 'sexual experience,' it is an assault and a domination tactic, a brutal thing to do to anyone. You have to keep that in mind. Please tell him that you had this assault ... (read in full...)
Will he expect me to sleep with him? We've been sex texting and I sent him a raunchy picture of myself...
Q. I have been sex texting (quite explicit) a guy and sent him a raunchy picture of myself. He is taking me out for dinner next week. Do you think he will be expecting me to sleep with him as I've sent him these raunchy messages? I have already been ...
A. 2 May 2008: I'm with Tellulah on this one. He will very likely be expecting you to fulfill the implicit promise in those text messages, unless you'd clearly stated that you were only joking. But the raunchy picture kind of seals it, I think. Why are you sex ... (read in full...)
I found out my boyfriend joined a sex dating site. I don't know what to do.
Q. Hey all, where do i start, well im new to this but just so confused ,feel like i could talk to someone better, if they dont know me, than friends who give advice, not saying that we wont become friends on this site but you'll understand when i say ...
A. 2 May 2008: Well, he now knows that you are upset and concerned with him and have some real trust issues with the relationship. I personally would feel better if he had registered in a dating site two years ago that had a bit more class than upfor ashag sounds ... (read in full...)
He literally doesn't understand that any relationship takes time to develop and I feel he's rushing me and is turning me completely off...any advice?
Q. Hello, I am really confused about this friendship I have with this guy and hope you can help me. We are both Latino, but he's 21 and I'm 23 and he's an illegal citizen. We go to the same church, but he only speaks spanish while I predominantly speak ...
A. 2 May 2008: Can you just simply tell him 'no, I don't want to be your girlfriend.' Period, end of it? And then tell him that you are very sad and uncomfortable about the lack of respect he is showing you? This sounds like he doesn't really understand you, I ... (read in full...)
I do not have planned parenthood clinics in my location, are there other alternative places for free birth control?
Q. Hey, I live in North Dakota, and here we do not have a planned parenthood clinic, and I was wondering if there were any other clinics around here that you can get free birth control at....
A. 1 May 2008: Here are two websites to help you start to look for some help. You can also use condoms and I highly advise that you do anyway, hope you can afford them.
http://yourstdhelp.com/north_dakota.html
http://ask.hrsa.gov/pc/ (here you have to do a... (read in full...)
I found out my boyfriend joined a sex dating site. I don't know what to do.
Q. Hey all, where do i start, well im new to this but just so confused ,feel like i could talk to someone better, if they dont know me, than friends who give advice, not saying that we wont become friends on this site but you'll understand when i say ...
A. 1 May 2008: I'm not hoping for the worst, I'm preparing for what could be the worst case scenario. That's what you should be focused on now. Take care.... (read in full...)
I found out my boyfriend joined a sex dating site. I don't know what to do.
Q. Hey all, where do i start, well im new to this but just so confused ,feel like i could talk to someone better, if they dont know me, than friends who give advice, not saying that we wont become friends on this site but you'll understand when i say ...
A. 1 May 2008: As Daniel said, snooping his emails is the least of your worries right now, and you'll figure out what to say when you talk face to face with him, so stop focusing on feeling guilty for that. Let's start to think logically here.
There might be... (read in full...)
I found out my boyfriend joined a sex dating site. I don't know what to do.
Q. Hey all, where do i start, well im new to this but just so confused ,feel like i could talk to someone better, if they dont know me, than friends who give advice, not saying that we wont become friends on this site but you'll understand when i say ...
A. 1 May 2008: Well that's a whole different thing; print out the emails so you have a hardcopy. Then can you go down to a web cafe and look at the site from there?
Big huge red flag on the fiancée now though, sorry to agree with you. Start thinking about wh... (read in full...)
I found out my boyfriend joined a sex dating site. I don't know what to do.
Q. Hey all, where do i start, well im new to this but just so confused ,feel like i could talk to someone better, if they dont know me, than friends who give advice, not saying that we wont become friends on this site but you'll understand when i say ...
A. 1 May 2008: Um, yuck. I too like Daniel tried to look at the site, and got sent immdiately after the page loaded to some Russian page. Looks like it's a real nasty site, possible that you've got some viruses on your computer as a result. Do not go there!!
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Is my ex running a scam with my phone?
Q. I was right in the middle of something at work when my cell phone rang....looking at the caller ID it was my OWN cell phone number. I didn't pick it up because I thought my phone must be acting up. I put it in my drawer and went back to work. Then...
A. 1 May 2008: Contact your cell phone service provider right away, tell them about this now! And turn off your cell phone until you know what's going on and what to do about it. I think the last poster has some very good advice here!... (read in full...)
Confusion, mixed signals, what the heck?
Q. So, I told this guy that I've known for 3 years that I like him. What do I do now? Funny thing is, it wasn't even me that started this whole thing. There I was minding my own business, and wham, he blindsides me with a barrage of hi hunnies and a...
A. 1 May 2008: Daniel, can she borrow the bull (toro) for a bit of gory fun in that carpark??? *Evil grin*... (read in full...)
It's the same old routine every time. I need more foreplay.
Q. Whenever i have sex with my bf its always the same routine. i toss him off he fingers me i give him head FOR ages! then he jumps on me and we have sex. And ive tried everything i can but i just cant come straight out with it, i just cant ...
A. 1 May 2008: Hi, I hear your frustration. I'm afraid my advice is going to be what you don't want to hear... You're just going to have to be able to talk to him about this. If you've got a good relationship and talk about other things, then sex and your needs ... (read in full...)
Confusion, mixed signals, what the heck?
Q. So, I told this guy that I've known for 3 years that I like him. What do I do now? Funny thing is, it wasn't even me that started this whole thing. There I was minding my own business, and wham, he blindsides me with a barrage of hi hunnies and a...
A. 1 May 2008: Oh my gawd, my jaw hit the floor when I read what he tried to do in the carpark. What an asinine, self-centered, idiotic, maximum jerkimus, a**hole!!!!! I am floored, he is a first-class loser!
You now have your answer from him. And you absolute... (read in full...)
We seem to be growing apart. Is he taking me for granted?
Q. Dear Cupid, I don't know what to do about my boyfriend. I love him, but after a couple years it feels we are growing apart. He works a lot more than when we first met. I keep asking him to make dates for us to hang out, but he doesn't seem to ...
A. 1 May 2008: Hi, sorry to hear that you're feeling sad and frustrated in your relationship. I know it's hard when the honeymoon phase ends and life gets in the way of the magical moments you shared together...
Can I assume he's in the same age range as you a... (read in full...)
Could my friend be pregnant??
Q. My friend who i love sooo much kind of makes some stupid decisions sometimes. She's on birth control and that usually is enough to keep someone from getting pregnant, but if you have a condom why not use it to make sure you are protecting yourself ...
A. 1 May 2008: Hi, you seem like a good friend to her! I know that she might think being on contraceptive pills is enough for protection, but she also needs protection from sexually transmitted diseases too, and the pill does NOT protect against those. There are ... (read in full...)
Do you have to be swept off your feet by a person right off the bat for them to be a great match?
Q. Do you have to be swept off your feet by a person right off the bat for them to be a great match? I've been dating a guy for a few weeks now. I'm looking to start a serious relationship, so I don't want to waste any time with someone I don't ...
A. 1 May 2008: For me, it took some time to see my now husband as the catch he truly was. But the spark did develop, omg, yes it did! So if there's no spark after some time, maybe he's not the right one for you, but give it a chance first. And don't lead him on if ... (read in full...)
Could it be something more than a crush? I think I'm falling for him...
Q. Hey everyone, i have this huge crush on one of my friends. He is very good looking, has a wonderful personality, and we have a lot in common. Everytime i see him I get a weird feeling in my stomach and i get all tingly. I think about him all the ...
A. 1 May 2008: What to do? Enjoy the whole situation! It sounds so nice.
Med school is going to be a huge stressor in his life soon, and he just won't have much time for just hanging out... So let him know you like him and just enjoy this lovely swoony feeling.... (read in full...)
How long does it take a girl to climax through fingering?
Q. Hi, im quite young and still a virgin. I recently got a new girlfriend which i love very much but she is very shy and has not done much with any other boy except me. She is quite shy, and i have dry fingered her (over her pants), but she doesnt f...
A. 30 April 2008: Hi, I'm happy to hear that you're concerned for her pleasure but I want to tell you a couple of things to think about from a woman's point of view. I'm not trying to bash you about this but I think you are asking because you are a bit frustrated and ... (read in full...)
He won't go down on me anymore, he says we are too old, what gives?
Q. My husband wont go down on me anymore. We have been together for 14 yrs. He says we are not kids any more, he is 32 i am 35. I would be willing to give him a bj but he has never liked them. I dont orgasm from intercourse only clitoral stimulation. ...
A. 30 April 2008: After reading about the abuse and the affairs, I think that the least of your worries should be about how old he thinks is too old for oral sex.
The most important thing for him now is to get him into counselling to deal with the abuse he's suf... (read in full...)
Off-white discharge for nearly a year, what could it be?
Q. Hi I'm 14 and I have been having a off white discharge for almost a year now I am a virgin I thought I might have caught a STD from a public bathroom but I heard that some women just have discharge I don't want to tell my mom becuse what if it is a ...
A. 30 April 2008: Go look at webmd.com for some helpful information about your normal cycle. Here's a place to start:
http://www.webmd.com/hw-popup/normal-vaginal-discharge
Don't worry, all women have some vaginal discharge at various points in their cycle. It co... (read in full...)
He is the most popular among girls but only seems interested in studying! How can I talk to him?
Q. this question is for all the shy guys or people who know shy guys and also for guys who study all the time but dont perform well academically.. well what do these guys like in a girl..would they go for someoone as hot as a typical chee...
A. 30 April 2008: Ask him for help with your schoolwork, an assignment you have in a class you're in together. Suggest that you'd like to meet him in the library for help on this specific thing. Then he'll know you're interested in school too which would give you ... (read in full...)
Please help me! I have two questions, one is should I try to talk with her again, and the other one is what type of stuff do you do when you get a girlfriend?
Q. hi i need some HELP!! i relly like this girl i met her last year through a friend i have onely met up with her 2 times but talked alot on msn because my mate was going out with he and she split up with him and i helped her throught it, i have not...
A. 30 April 2008: Okay, to your first question, why not just call her just to have a chat? Say 'hi, I've been thinking about you and just wanted to see how you were doing?' Simple, nice and not complicated or difficult. Then you're talking again with her and you can ... (read in full...)
My older BF discusses our most private issues with his mates and makes me feel so dirty by improper remarks! Is this all my fault??
Q. My bf is 11 years old than me i am 17 and he is 28 he gets very jelous but then he loves parading me in front of his friends. We were in a pub. I bent over to pick up a packet of crisps and he was saying to his mates "that is all mine when ever i ...
A. 30 April 2008: Um, sorry to be direct here, but your guy sounds like a first-class jerk. There's nothing caring or gentlemanly about his behavior toward you and I think you seriously need to consider dumping him.
He makes you feel like dirt, he tells intimate... (read in full...)
I made a mistake by writing him a love letter - I feel awkward as our conversations are tense now! What to do?
Q. ok where i work at is a family business which is ran by two brothers who are my bosses one of the brothers has children which 2 of them work in the store as well so they also have authority I've liked one of they're sons for a long time and would ...
A. 30 April 2008: You've put him in a very awkward position, you know. Since he's technically your boss he could be accused of harassment if he makes any unwanted advances. I know that you like him a lot, but now that he's told you he is only a friend (and still an ... (read in full...)
The best way to spend the wedding night?
Q. what is the best way to spent first night of wedding....
A. 30 April 2008: Making love, laughing with each other, sleeping a little, then repeat. And order room service for food if necessary.... (read in full...)
Does he like me too, since he blushes when I am near and laughes at my jokes?
Q. Dear Who ever answers this, I like this boy. I'm not going to say any names but I love him!! He's smart, intellegent, funny, athletic, and handsome!! He is in 3 of my classes but if you count gym, he is in there to. I to...
A. 30 April 2008: If he's talking to you, smiling a lot, laughing at your jokes and blushing, it sounds to me like he likes you! So smile back, enjoy talking to him too and laugh at his jokes. Blushing is involuntary, so you can't force yourself to do that, but I'll ... (read in full...)
When a man fantasizes about doing sexual things with other women, does it mean that he loves his own woman less?
Q. When my husband or a man in a general fantasizes about doing sexual things with other women, does it mean that your husband loves/desires you less, or that he wishes you weren't around so he can fulfill his fantasies? Do men ever have fantasies ...
A. 29 April 2008: Now, I'm not a man, so I can't speak for them, but I'm quite sure my husband and most men have fantasies about other women. I can name a few that I know my husband finds very attractive and desirable! But I know that he loves me and would never act ... (read in full...)
I'm 17yrs old and ready to have a baby with my boyfriend. He'll do it to make me happy but I know he's not ready!
Q. i'm 17 years old, and I live with my grandparents and my boyfriend of two and a half years who is also 17. I want nothing more than to have a baby, I know all the responsibilties because I grew up with my sister who had a baby at 17. I think i'm ...
A. 29 April 2008: Hi Leanna, thank you for that very thoughtful answer. It made me want to reach out and give you a great big hug, so here is a cyberhug ((((())))).
The thing is that you're not wrong to have those feelings, you can't be wrong for having them. Wh... (read in full...)
Why is my new husband giving me the cold shoulder?
Q. I just got married a few months ago, but things are not going very well. Before marriage my husband talked to me for hours on the phone and would often come and visit me (we lived in 2 different states then). Now he barely speaks to me. We never ...
A. 29 April 2008: Can I guess that you moved to be with your husband? And that part of your isolated feeling is that you're still working on making new friends and miss the ones you left behind?
I moved too to marry my husband and it is a huge upheaval of life as ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says I should be able to come just from intercourse, is he right?
Q. Im a little confused about some stuff.. I lost it to my boyfriend who i really love about two months ago.. and from those times... when we've had sex.. he cums but i havent had an orgasm yet.. im nto surprised since this is my first time...
A. 29 April 2008: The previous posters are all correct, of course; most women do NOT orgasm through intercourse alone, clitoral stimulation is almost always necessary. My guess is that the girls he's been with before have most likely lied to try to keep him happy.
... (read in full...)
Should I risk friendship if there is the chance of a relationship?
Q. Hi guys hope that your advices help me to take a decision. I really like my flatmate. I'm 30 and she is 29. We live together for 3 months now. We get along very well and I really enjoyed her company. I'm trying to decide if I tell her what I'm fee...
A. 29 April 2008: I'd tell her before she leaves on her trip; it'll give her something to think about while she's gone and give you a bit of time to recover from the stress of revealing your feelings.
But don't make it too strong or too much of an ultimatu... (read in full...)
How can I get more sex from my wife or get her to bring up kids without having to talk to her about it?
Q. Hi I've been married for nearly over 5 years and my marriage seems to be going downhill really fast. Its been nearly over a year since we had sex and she's alway putting it off with some excuse or another. The other thing that worries me is th...
A. 29 April 2008: Sorry, one more question. When you got married, had you discussed having children? And what was the outcome of that discussion? ... (read in full...)
Can you just stop loving someone?
Q. Is it possible to just stop loving someone??? can trust be regained for keeping a secret for a long time if the secret was not your fault??? ...
A. 29 April 2008: Maybe and maybe.... (read in full...)
How can I get more sex from my wife or get her to bring up kids without having to talk to her about it?
Q. Hi I've been married for nearly over 5 years and my marriage seems to be going downhill really fast. Its been nearly over a year since we had sex and she's alway putting it off with some excuse or another. The other thing that worries me is th...
A. 29 April 2008: Eyeswideopen is correct here. You're going to be stuck in exactly this same spot a year from now if you don't take concrete action. I would still go for counseling if I were you; you will still learn a lot even if the other side isn't presented. As ... (read in full...)
Confusion, mixed signals, what the heck?
Q. So, I told this guy that I've known for 3 years that I like him. What do I do now? Funny thing is, it wasn't even me that started this whole thing. There I was minding my own business, and wham, he blindsides me with a barrage of hi hunnies and a...
A. 29 April 2008: Thank you for your followup! That was helpful to me, and I'm sorry if I responded as if you two worked together in a business. I know Dear Cupid tells people to keep the questions short but I really think that having the details is crucial to trying ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my husband get turned on unless he touches himself? He doesn't respond normally to sex!
Q. After the initial honeymoon first six months of sex, my husband of 2 years has never been hungry for sex or had a high sex drive. It has bothered me hugely as I love sex and believed he did at first. As time has progressed, it has got fewer and ...
A. 28 April 2008: Thanks for your update; it does help to know that you're pregnant and have one child already. But you still face the same issue, I know.
Hmmm. Okay, a couple of thoughts off the top of my head, and these are just speculation, so bear with me here.... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my husband get turned on unless he touches himself? He doesn't respond normally to sex!
Q. After the initial honeymoon first six months of sex, my husband of 2 years has never been hungry for sex or had a high sex drive. It has bothered me hugely as I love sex and believed he did at first. As time has progressed, it has got fewer and ...
A. 28 April 2008: I think you might need to resort to shock tactics here. If he says he loves you and can't imagine the rest of his life without you, then give him a taste of life without you. Try to talk with him about it again, and try to get him to understand that ... (read in full...)
I'm 17yrs old and ready to have a baby with my boyfriend. He'll do it to make me happy but I know he's not ready!
Q. i'm 17 years old, and I live with my grandparents and my boyfriend of two and a half years who is also 17. I want nothing more than to have a baby, I know all the responsibilties because I grew up with my sister who had a baby at 17. I think i'm ...
A. 28 April 2008: If he's not ready, then he's not ready. It would very very selfish of you to push him into doing something so final and alter his future, do you realize that?
I know that you feel ready, but just having a baby to keep from feeling sad doesn't ... (read in full...)
Confusion, mixed signals, what the heck?
Q. So, I told this guy that I've known for 3 years that I like him. What do I do now? Funny thing is, it wasn't even me that started this whole thing. There I was minding my own business, and wham, he blindsides me with a barrage of hi hunnies and a...
A. 28 April 2008: Hi, I have to say that I think that if he were truly interested in a relationship with you, he'd have been behaving differently. Like asking you out on a proper date, that kind of normal thing.
It doesn't sound like it to me, sounds like he's enj... (read in full...)
How can I get more sex from my wife or get her to bring up kids without having to talk to her about it?
Q. Hi I've been married for nearly over 5 years and my marriage seems to be going downhill really fast. Its been nearly over a year since we had sex and she's alway putting it off with some excuse or another. The other thing that worries me is th...
A. 28 April 2008: I have to agree with the other posters here. If she won't talk about it, you have essentially been given no choice but to end the relationship. That is unless you're willing to go on with things the way they stand, and it sounds like you are done ... (read in full...)
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