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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Why do they ejaculate on my belly? Is this normal?
Q. I am on the pill and recently started having sex. Even though I am supposed to be safe, the boys I've been with still pull out and ejaculate on my belly. My friend tells me all guys like to do this. Is this normal? Is it necessary at all?...
A. 3 June 2008: I think you've had some good reasons why they might ejaculate on your belly, so I'm not going to add anything to that...
Let me talk a minute about 'safe' sex. There's 'safe' as in you're on the pill and can't get pregnant 'safe.'
Then there's ... (read in full...)
Do you think my wanting a baby is a good idea?
Q. Hi im 13 and really wnat to have a baby i know im young but i could handle it my sister had a baby at 16 and she is an amazing mom i wanted to know if you think this is a good idea or not?...
A. 3 June 2008: Hi, I'm going to draw a line between your feelings about wanting a baby and the reality of whether having one is a good idea or not.
I think it's perfectly normal for girls to want to have a baby, after all, our bodies are built to bear children... (read in full...)
I'm worried about the way my girlfriend's vagina looks may have something to do with her past!
Q. I have a rather strange question to ask here... I am curious about vagina... I have been with a variety of different women (sexually), and up until recently I have always encountered generally the same type(ish) vagina... Usually tighter, snug, not ...
A. 2 June 2008: Women's genitalia come in all shapes and sizes, so I expect that she may just be built that way. Do you have any suspicions about her other than her physical appearance?
And if you've been intimate with a lot of women, thus you could be consider... (read in full...)
Can anyone replace this emptiness?
Q. its been 3 days now and i have had no contact with my Ex at all, its been really hard not picking the phone up and trying to talk to her. Iam wondering what she is doing all the time, i totaly love this girl and it would be like wining the lottery ...
A. 2 June 2008: Hugostephen, please call your GP and ask for some counseling support. You sound unable to cope and I have read your previous posts on this.
You need to deal with these emotions that are causing you such pain, so that you can be prepared to suppo... (read in full...)
Sex with a co-worker tips, please no lectures.
Q. I want to know what is the best and easiest way to get a co-worker into bed, skip any moral lecture. How do I do this without embarrasing myself or getting into trouble at work, how could I find out what he thinks of me, without directly asking...
A. 2 June 2008: Have you tried simply asking him to have coffee with you? Plan A. Find out if he's will to share a beverage with you.
Then you can find out more about him through casual conversation and observe his body language.... (read in full...)
Is he likely to call?
Q. Hello, I have a dating dliema and would really appreciate your advice or thoughts! Late last year this guy I know asked me out for a drink, and as Ive always secretly fancied him a little bit, I was happy to go. We had a great time but he tol...
A. 2 June 2008: A most excellent plan, dudette! ;)
(Sorry, I should behave more like the mature woman but life's too short not to find the humor in it!)
xxx... (read in full...)
His 'anger problem' escalated into a physical assault on me!
Q. My boyfriend tried to kill me and I don't know what to do! We had stayed at a friends on Saturday night but I had went out for a little while, upon returning home on the Sunday my boyfriend started shouting and swearing at me for going out and le...
A. 2 June 2008: It sounds to me like he needs to address the 'anger management' problem right away. He is not going to get through this with just your help. It is a pity that his parents haven't helped him get this therapy he needs, as it is unlikely to be resolved ... (read in full...)
When he loses control he smashes things and sometimes hurts me. I hate this, but how can I help him?
Q. My boyfriend is a very violent person, if we have an argument and he feels he's lost control of the situation he will resort to scaring me by smashing things and sometimes he'll hurt me. I hate him for it, but I do love him. I know everyone will ...
A. 2 June 2008: You're not going to be able to help him, I'm afraid to report. He has got to be the one who acknowledges that he has a problem with abuse and his dealing with anger and frustration. This is a very dangerous situation for you to be in and you should ... (read in full...)
I denounced him so he was expelled for sexual harassment - but I will see him again in school next year! I'm scared!
Q. I'm going to the 8th grade in 3 months.There's this boy that's gonna be in the 8th grade with me again.The problem is,he's a pervert.He touched me some ways that made me so sick and scared.I didn't do anything to him when he did it cause hardly ...
A. 2 June 2008: Make sure your new school is aware of the past situation between you and this boy. Then the adults who are responsible for your well-being while you're at school have all the facts and can keep an eye on things. I'd ask my parents to set up a ... (read in full...)
Is he likely to call?
Q. Hello, I have a dating dliema and would really appreciate your advice or thoughts! Late last year this guy I know asked me out for a drink, and as Ive always secretly fancied him a little bit, I was happy to go. We had a great time but he tol...
A. 2 June 2008: Rejection stinks. Your attitude sounds great though!
As to what to say if he asks you out again. Hmmm. You could say what you wrote, or you could try to turn it into a joke, like, "Well, I'd like to go out with you, but my ego is having a bit of p... (read in full...)
I become dry during sex, why and how can avoid this? (apart from lubricants, that I am sensitive to...)
Q. Im 17 and sometimes become very dry in the vaginal area during sex, and my boyfriend stops beacuse he says it hurts,Im wondering if there is a way to fix this?? (p.s. i have tryed lubes and my vaginal area is too sensitive.)...
A. 2 June 2008: If you can't use lubes, then you need to make sure you are staying stimulated to encourage your body's natural lubricants. Make sure you're well aroused through lots of foreplay, lots of manual and oral stimulation, stop if you need to and go back ... (read in full...)
Is he likely to call?
Q. Hello, I have a dating dliema and would really appreciate your advice or thoughts! Late last year this guy I know asked me out for a drink, and as Ive always secretly fancied him a little bit, I was happy to go. We had a great time but he tol...
A. 2 June 2008: Oh, poopy diapers! (As one of my friends likes to say.) Sorry to hear that he isn't interested in dating. Do NOT take this personally, it just means that's he's not interested in dating.
I admire your courage and calm way of dealing with this. At... (read in full...)
Was looking for a bi curious woman when I met her, which she agreed she was. Now she cannot stand me bringing up the subject, why?
Q. My girl was very bi curious when we met and got very hot about the idea of being with another woman. I was looking for a woman like this when met her and she understood this. I would like to know why she led me on, because now when I bring it up s...
A. 2 June 2008: A couple of thoughts spring to mind. One is that she was truly interested at the time, but has since thought about it and has decided it was only a fantasy, not one she wants to pursue any longer. Second thought is that she was hot about it, but now ... (read in full...)
He isn't paying attention to me. Should I do it to him?
Q. My crush and I talk on the phone daily.Every time that I call him he sounds busy so I ask him "are you busy?" and he replies "no" but then in less than a minute he says "I'll call you back in a minute" which turns out to be hours later.Every time ...
A. 2 June 2008: A woman I worked with years ago taught me a valuable lesson in phone etiquette. She would always ask when calling someone, "Is this a good time for you to talk?" before she started the conversation. This gives the other person a chance to say that ... (read in full...)
I dream of my ex every night
Q. Can anyone help me with every night i go to sleep i dream of my ex. These dreams feel so real. They can vary to me kissing her, cuddling her to her with another man. We broke up 2 months ago, and we are expecting our first child, she says she no ...
A. 2 June 2008: Sorry to hear that you're still hurting after the break up. I think I've seen you post before about this very difficult situation, and I think at this point it would be best for you to seek some counseling to help you with the emotions that are ... (read in full...)
Need advice on positions for making love with my girlfriend who has cerebral palsy.
Q. Hi. I am in a sexual relationship with my 52 year old girlfriend who has CP. This affects the left side and she cannot move her left arm very easily. We have made love a couple of times. I have fingered and had oral sex. I have also had ...
A. 2 June 2008: Here's a gallery of positions you might have a look at for more ideas. The positions are illustrated by the use of wooden artist's models, so it is probably considered somewhat 'safe for work'...
http:... (read in full...)
Need advice on positions for making love with my girlfriend who has cerebral palsy.
Q. Hi. I am in a sexual relationship with my 52 year old girlfriend who has CP. This affects the left side and she cannot move her left arm very easily. We have made love a couple of times. I have fingered and had oral sex. I have also had ...
A. 2 June 2008: Hi, I've found you some links to look at and see if there is information on some positions for you and your partner that will make things comfortable for both of you. The first link also has a gallery of positions but I haven't looked through them ... (read in full...)
My BF and I have very tender spots on our genitals, what could they be?
Q. My bf and I both have spots coming up on our genitals, I was hoping someone could tell me what they are and where they came from. We've both had a lot of them over a short space of time (2 or 3 in the space of about 2 weeks). What's also strange is ...
A. 2 June 2008: Hi, sorry to hear about this. I just had a peek at webmd.com to see what this site might say about it.
http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/understanding-stds-symptoms
I think the only responsible advice I can give you is to go see your doct... (read in full...)
How can I make my BF break up with me?
Q. Yellow. well, I have this amazing boyfreind. he is PERFECT. he cares about me, treats me well and all. but he lives in a different state. And I've realised, that i dont want to be with him. Not now though, maybe after i graduate from college. ...
A. 1 June 2008: Look, the thing is that you'd have to hurt him really badly to get him to break up with you. In fact, you might hurt him so badly he'd never want to see you again, and the idea that you might be able to see him after you get out of college is ... (read in full...)
When we found out that we both liked the same girl, his exact words were, "let the competition begin". I'm furious with him!
Q. My best friend met a girl last week. He told me, "You two would really suit each other". I shrugged it off, he always says things like this, besides it takes alot for me to fancy someone. Im sure ive been a whole 2 years without liking a soul ...
A. 1 June 2008: Okay, this is a new and very interesting wrinkle for you. Your second best friend also has a lot in common with her and also has watched from the sidelines while a girl he might have fancied gets swooped up by someone else.
So you have potentia... (read in full...)
When we found out that we both liked the same girl, his exact words were, "let the competition begin". I'm furious with him!
Q. My best friend met a girl last week. He told me, "You two would really suit each other". I shrugged it off, he always says things like this, besides it takes alot for me to fancy someone. Im sure ive been a whole 2 years without liking a soul ...
A. 30 May 2008: Go see your GP immediately about the heart cramp. This is not normal and should be checked out ASAP.
Please.... (read in full...)
Am I being too picky? I think he's capable of doing some of this household maintenance by himself...
Q. I'm in my early 40's. I am an Aries and a giving person who loves to make others happy. I was married at 25 for 8 yrs, and divorced. I have since dated 2 men each for 3 yrs and the one presently now for 2 years. The first BF had a drug problm, the ...
A. 30 May 2008: Danielepew has hit the nail on the head. Don't become his maid if you don't want to be.
Let his household chores, laundry, bill paying, be his problem, not yours.
It sounds like you're not happy with his household management. Well, how things... (read in full...)
'Truth or Dare' game leads to an awful revelation by my wife! Am I over-reacting?
Q. I've been cruising this site on and off for a while. I like to read the questions and have even given my own advice a few times. Now it is my turn to ask for advice. My wife and I had a party last weekend. After the group dwindled down to 12 or so...
A. 30 May 2008: Wow, Danielepew hit the real questions dead on. I don't have anything to ask beyond that.... (read in full...)
'Truth or Dare' game leads to an awful revelation by my wife! Am I over-reacting?
Q. I've been cruising this site on and off for a while. I like to read the questions and have even given my own advice a few times. Now it is my turn to ask for advice. My wife and I had a party last weekend. After the group dwindled down to 12 or so...
A. 30 May 2008: One more thought, you said there was booby flashing. Was she by any chance getting 'even' with you for being overly obvious about lusting after another woman?
What has she said about this in her defense? Can you tell us?... (read in full...)
'Truth or Dare' game leads to an awful revelation by my wife! Am I over-reacting?
Q. I've been cruising this site on and off for a while. I like to read the questions and have even given my own advice a few times. Now it is my turn to ask for advice. My wife and I had a party last weekend. After the group dwindled down to 12 or so...
A. 30 May 2008: So exactly how drunk was she? And you?
You seem to be holding on to your hurt feelings in a major way here. What has she said to you about what happened? What would a question from her look like on Dear Cupid?
"Dear Cupid, I'm writing because ... (read in full...)
When we found out that we both liked the same girl, his exact words were, "let the competition begin". I'm furious with him!
Q. My best friend met a girl last week. He told me, "You two would really suit each other". I shrugged it off, he always says things like this, besides it takes alot for me to fancy someone. Im sure ive been a whole 2 years without liking a soul ...
A. 30 May 2008: One more little kick in the backside for you from me.
When I was at university, there were these two friends, let's call them Steve and Dan. Steve was a very handsome guy and was known to be a bit of a ladies' man, Dan was shyer, cute but not stun... (read in full...)
When we found out that we both liked the same girl, his exact words were, "let the competition begin". I'm furious with him!
Q. My best friend met a girl last week. He told me, "You two would really suit each other". I shrugged it off, he always says things like this, besides it takes alot for me to fancy someone. Im sure ive been a whole 2 years without liking a soul ...
A. 30 May 2008: So what are you doing to get to know her better? You haven't caved in, have you? Do not stand on the sidelines wringing your hands, get in there now, and make sure she's thinking about you too!
I think I understand why you're so angry with you... (read in full...)
'Truth or Dare' game leads to an awful revelation by my wife! Am I over-reacting?
Q. I've been cruising this site on and off for a while. I like to read the questions and have even given my own advice a few times. Now it is my turn to ask for advice. My wife and I had a party last weekend. After the group dwindled down to 12 or so...
A. 30 May 2008: How has she been in the past 6 days? Stubborn? Contrite? Apologetic?
Well, it sounds like quite a party, and I expect everyone was way over the limit, including your wife. Alcohol lowers inhibitions, as you may know, and the usual mental filters ... (read in full...)
How do I get over my nervousness of asking someone out?
Q. How do I get over my nervousness of asking someone out? (They have done it on the occassions before!)...
A. 30 May 2008: Why not just say that you'd like to give her your number if she'd be interested in a date? That way you don't sound dodgy, you sound interested but not too pushy?... (read in full...)
Why can't I stay away from this woman that keeps making up then breaking up? Why am I in this childish relationship?...
Q. What a mess I have made of my life. I met the woman of my dreams 10 months ago. Tall, beautiful, funny, sexy, great career, an absolute dream. Things were amazing immediately. The chemistry was out of this world. After a few months of dating we ...
A. 30 May 2008: Wow, this is a very unhappy relationship. I don't blame you for feeling overwhelmed by it. Obviously, you're going to have to sort this out for yourself, but I hope you'll get some good advice and some clear thinking from the aunts here.
I'm g... (read in full...)
My long distance GF is moving close to me but I recently started feeling that we are totally wrong for each other!...
Q. I have been seeing my gf for 7 years. We began dating in college and continued to date through grad school but at that point it was long distance. I guess we have had a long distance relationship for 4 years. Now she is finally moving to be near me ...
A. 30 May 2008: Peter Pan is right, you need to talk with your girlfriend. This change in your perspective on your relationship is not a bad thing, it might be some long needed clarity. But you need to do the difficult and courageous thing, and share this with your ... (read in full...)
My best friend likes a girl and I'm playing cupid to find out if she also nurtures feelings for him. Any suggestions?
Q. hey, ok my mate(a lad) really likes this girl he's at college with. She seems like nice girl, i've spoke to her on the odd occasion but now we've started talking more i've got her msn. Thing is we are becoming beter friends and talking more so what ...
A. 30 May 2008: Hey, I've played matchmaker more than once in my life. Let me tell you about one that worked out, maybe it'll work for you too.
There was this guy I knew at work, and he fancied a girl who also worked there but in a different department. I could ... (read in full...)
How do I avoid getting sucked back into the snake-pit?!
Q. Dear Cupid, Just yesterday I broke up with my ex. It seems to have been a long time coming. We always (Me ending it) broke up.. over stupid little fights. All the time! But then he would not leave me alone for a few days and i would cave. He was t...
A. 30 May 2008: You need to listen to hlskitten and the other posters regarding making the break up permanent. Then you need to address the lack of friends and the zero contact with family. What happened with your family that ended the contact? And where did your ... (read in full...)
On again, off again with my online girlfriend, tomorrow night we decide what our status is... I need some advice to help me!
Q. hi, umm.. i have a gf, well, i donno if its a "real gf", we met through a website called bebo, its similar to facebook and myspace.. i live in new zealand, she does in australia, i'm 18 in college shes 17 in her senior year. we've known eac...
A. 30 May 2008: Hey, Omar, just saw this thread. Hlskitten is right, you know, online relationships aren't real-world experiences. You may be missing out on meeting people in your real world if you are committing yourself to this girl you haven't even met face to ... (read in full...)
She wants more experience, she's only 15 and isn't ready to have a relationship for the rest of her life! But it's tearing me apart...
Q. Me and my best friend started dating about a year and a half ago. Recently, she broke up with me because she told me that she isnt ready to have a relationship for the rest of her life. She wants more exprience with boys. I agreed because i want to ...
A. 30 May 2008: I'm sorry to hear that you're going through the pain of a break up. Sometimes life's timing stinks, doesn't it? At 15, she is still too young to commit to one man for the rest of her life, and I commend you for letting her go. She needs to ... (read in full...)
I have not started my period yet and am worried...
Q. i am slightly worried i have not started my period yet and i am in year nine but my discharge has started going brown should i be worried ? i need some advice thanks ............
A. 30 May 2008: If your discharge is going brown, you may be starting your period. Don't worry too much about it, girls may not start until later as the previous poster mentioned. Just be sure to stay healthy, eat right, exercise a bit, and things will be just ... (read in full...)
Is cybersex classed as cheating?
Q. when i was with my boyfriend i was having cybersex online with another man, is it cheating? ...
A. 30 May 2008: I guess you should ask yourself if he was having cybersex with another girl, how would you feel? I'm not sure it's actually cheating in the physical sense, but it doesn't seem like a good way to keep a solid relationship with your boyfriend.
... (read in full...)
I just found out about my best friend indiscretion and I do not know if I should get angry at her or simply just ignore it...
Q. My best friend complains that i dont tell her things. She wonders why ! I have just found out that something that i did tell her , she went back and told another person what i said. and she wonders why i dont tell her things. I'm so annoyed . I dont ...
A. 30 May 2008: Why don't you simply tell her that you don't feel you can tell her things because she then tells other people? You don't feel you can trust her. Be honest with her about that, and maybe she'll learn a much needed life lesson.... (read in full...)
How do I get more confidence about sex? My boyfriend is getting bored!!
Q. My boyfriend wants to do more in bed, But I usually try new positions with him every time but he still says it's the same old thing and it's getting boring. I say no to certain positions because im nervous after maybe the second or third time he ...
A. 30 May 2008: Hi, to slow him down for a bit sounds like a good idea, especially if you are in the 13-15 age range. In fact, stopping wouldn't be a bad thing, as you are technically underage, and he might get in trouble for having sex with you. How old is he? You ... (read in full...)
Any tips on losing my virginity with a close friend?
Q. hi I'm nearly 18 and single. I'm still a virgin. I have this friend who I'm quite close to, she is same age. We always up for trying something fun. Whenever we drink we have good laugh. I think we now want to try sex. There's a few things though ...
A. 30 May 2008: Oh, I think the 14/15 year olds get told not to have sex, unless I'm not reading the same posts...
Anyway, I did post something for you to read, here's the link:
http://www.de... (read in full...)
Is a blow job for a groom a tradition?
Q. Hey sisters and brothers Just a funny one Just spoke to some friends ... bullshitting .. question was DO you think its a tradition for a GROOM to get blown at a bachelore party??? 95%guys said YES! So, how do you guys feel over here? J...
A. 30 May 2008: Hey, if the bachelor wants to get a blowjob from his good male buddies, who's to say no? Well, maybe the bride, but she'll never know.
Hahahaha, I'm looking forward to reading more answers!... (read in full...)
Is he likely to call?
Q. Hello, I have a dating dliema and would really appreciate your advice or thoughts! Late last year this guy I know asked me out for a drink, and as Ive always secretly fancied him a little bit, I was happy to go. We had a great time but he tol...
A. 28 May 2008: Thanks for the update! Fingers crossed for you. But don't be too disappointed if he doesn't respond as you'd like. At least he's been honest about not being up for dating, and you know about his past breakups, so don't stress about that. It's not ... (read in full...)
Is he likely to call?
Q. Hello, I have a dating dliema and would really appreciate your advice or thoughts! Late last year this guy I know asked me out for a drink, and as Ive always secretly fancied him a little bit, I was happy to go. We had a great time but he tol...
A. 28 May 2008: I think you certainly should have gone out with him! He may still be uncertain about dating anyone seriously yet, I don't know what he's thinking. But you do like him and want to keep contact, right?
Why not just text him today, say somethin... (read in full...)
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