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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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How should I deal with this very puzzling girl who has stood me up again and again? I think I'll be seeing her soon as she's on an event list for the company I work for!
Q. OK I really really need advice on how to deal with a tricky situation!!! There is a girl who knew friends of mine and saw me out, she found me on myspace and started emailing me. Apparently I have been told I look like Anjelina Jolie (supposedl...
A. 11 June 2008: Glad I made you smile and could be of help to you. Now get in there and 'sell' it! That is to say, make her believe that she was not worth a second thought by you. ;)
And let us know how it went. My guess is that she won't show up, btw. But you'... (read in full...)
I have an ectopic pregnancy and don't want to get admitted to the hospital as I am 17 and my boyfriend (35) doesn't know!
Q. hi i need help about a month ago i was told i had pid pelvic inflammatory disease, which i was given to by my boyfriend he says he didnt give it to me but i know that is a lie he did i didnt sleep with anyone eles well in say of this i got...
A. 10 June 2008: You can't wish this away, you just can't. It is time to be a big girl now and take care of yourself right NOW!!!!
Go to the hospital right now. No messing around on the internet waiting for strangers to solve this for you. We cannot. You must fac... (read in full...)
Man advice please!
Q. i,ve been seeing a guy of 43 for 14mths, i,ve never met his family tho they know of me. were quite close an he,ll spend most of his time with me, then he,ll back off an not contact me for few days.this has carried on all through the ...
A. 10 June 2008: Honestly, you sound like you have very low self-esteem and some jealousy issues, along with a dramatic family life. I think your boyfriend has given you the best advice that anyone can offer you. You need to learn to love yourself first, before you ... (read in full...)
Should've my friend "remove" me from this situation?
Q. I need to know if anyone out here "has" had an internet trist with someone you now? Meaning sending "naughty pictures and steamy latters". When I was away on a little trip I met some people that I partied with, got so drunk when we were out, my ...
A. 10 June 2008: Hi, I have not been in your situation, I have to be honest. But I'm wondering why you think your friend needs to shoulder more than 0.01% of the blame for this?
You made the choice to drink too much which then led to the subsequent events. ... (read in full...)
I have an ectopic pregnancy and don't want to get admitted to the hospital as I am 17 and my boyfriend (35) doesn't know!
Q. hi i need help about a month ago i was told i had pid pelvic inflammatory disease, which i was given to by my boyfriend he says he didnt give it to me but i know that is a lie he did i didnt sleep with anyone eles well in say of this i got...
A. 10 June 2008: Have you made your call?
Seriously, an ectopic pregnancy could cause a rupture and you could bleed to death. No messing around here, this is a true medical crisis.
http://www.webmd.com/baby/guide/pregnancy-ectopic-pregnancy... (read in full...)
I have an ectopic pregnancy and don't want to get admitted to the hospital as I am 17 and my boyfriend (35) doesn't know!
Q. hi i need help about a month ago i was told i had pid pelvic inflammatory disease, which i was given to by my boyfriend he says he didnt give it to me but i know that is a lie he did i didnt sleep with anyone eles well in say of this i got...
A. 10 June 2008: Honey, this is a do not mess around, do not try anything yourself, this is a go straight to your doctor NOW and get this seen too NOW!
An ectopic pregnancy is life-threatening for the mother. Serious, hand on heart, do NOT put this off one sing... (read in full...)
How can I finalize a divorce without an attorney?
Q. I have been desperately trying to get a divorce from my husband whom I haven't been with for 18 yrs now. At first I tried to have him served with the papers, but was unseccessful when he moved. He eventually had me served at my job. I thought that ...
A. 10 June 2008: Hmm, did you follow the link on the page I posted?
http://www.lawhelpcalifornia.org/CA/index.cfm
One more thought is to check with local law schools; they often have clinics provided by law students. Worth a try.
Sorry, I've got nothi... (read in full...)
Please love me
Q. I once told my fience that most people would rather be in a bad relationship then be alone, she thought i was crazy. i said this because a good friend of mine is in a relationship where he is not apprieciated and gets talked down to alot. my fience ...
A. 10 June 2008: Hey jay, I enjoyed it too. Sometimes articles don't get read as much as the main board, so don't get discouraged. You sound like a guy who has a good head on his shoulders and a positive outlook on life and relationships. I hope that people do read ... (read in full...)
Why is my life like this?
Q. Hi,I'm 24 and have never had a girlfriend. I've only ever had sex once through an internet advert as well and the whole situation is really getting me down. It's made a whole lot worse by the fact that all my friends are in happy relationships and ...
A. 10 June 2008: Time to enlist your friends' help in this one, I think. Ask them and their girlfriends to assess you honestly, if you think you can take it. I don't want you to take self-esteem beating if you don't need one right now. Your friends might be able to ... (read in full...)
Three's a crowd
Q. I have been 'shacking up' with my boyfriend for the past 6 months and for the most part things have been going well. Except one major thing. He loves to have his friends over, and it has gotten worse since they have all now recently graduated. ...
A. 10 June 2008: Ouch. Not good. Did you have the conversation with him while he was at work? I know that sometimes my guy is too busy to deal with domestic issues and I wait until he's home and relaxed to talk with him about a problem.
If he was at work, th... (read in full...)
Three's a crowd
Q. I have been 'shacking up' with my boyfriend for the past 6 months and for the most part things have been going well. Except one major thing. He loves to have his friends over, and it has gotten worse since they have all now recently graduated. ...
A. 10 June 2008: It is indeed childish behavior. You and he live together, you and he should be able to work out some kind of reasonable compromise on this. If he's not willing to compromise, then maybe you do need to rethink the 'shacking up' with him until he's ... (read in full...)
My friend loves him like crazy. I need to get sure he really loves me
Q. i 'm a 19 year old lady in college and i love my repeater in section, and i'm sure he loves me too from his looks to me and his dealing with me, as i entered his heart at a time he was broken by another harsh female who left him depressed and sad, ...
A. 10 June 2008: You have asked the question that everyone has asked themselves at one point or another. "Does he like me?" Or she, as the case may be.
You said you were in college and he is a 'repeater in section.' I don't really understand what that means, b... (read in full...)
Spotted Dick. Has he got his just desserts for cheating?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a bit and we always had a great sex life until he started a new job as a labourer. Since then we've had sex about 10 times in the last 7months!! He says he doesn't want to have sex because he keeps...
A. 10 June 2008: This link is NOT SAFE FOR WORK! Graphic images of genital infections. NSFW!!!!
http://www.visualdxhealth.com/searchResults/adult_Male_Anogenital.htm
I do not recommend using this link as a means of diagnosing or treating any disease.
He n... (read in full...)
How can I finalize a divorce without an attorney?
Q. I have been desperately trying to get a divorce from my husband whom I haven't been with for 18 yrs now. At first I tried to have him served with the papers, but was unseccessful when he moved. He eventually had me served at my job. I thought that ...
A. 10 June 2008: Hi, I don't have any knowledge about the laws regarding divorce in California.
I did find you this website that might help you pursue finalizing the divorce.
http://www.courtinfo.ca.gov/selfhelp/family/divorce/
Best of luck.... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant?
Q. does anyone know about pregnancy? i been feeling light headed and nauseas, boobs are getting big and they hurt. and i been having cramps for a few days now like im going to get my period but i dont. by the way i dont get my period monthly so i dont ...
A. 10 June 2008: Hi, you should definitely see your doctor again if you still are having symptoms like you describe. Or take a home pregnancy test before that.
Here's a link for you to look at:
http://www.we... (read in full...)
I never orgasm during sexual intercourse, but when I masturbate I do... why is that so?
Q. I'm a very sexually active 25 year old female. I have been having sex on and off for about 7 years. I have noticed that i NEVER orgasm with sexual intercourse, but when i masturbate manually with my own fingers inside, i can orgasm in less than 10 ...
A. 10 June 2008: Welcome to the 75% club of women who do not orgasm through sexual intercourse alone. You're simply normal, that's all.
Use what you know about your body's response to help you orgasm during intercourse, but do not worry about it if you aren't a... (read in full...)
I am tired of him and want out of this relationship!!
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for 2 and a half years. we get into arguments about three times a week. its not just a regular little argument he gets to throwning stuff around breaking my stuff to make me mad. punching wholes in the ...
A. 10 June 2008: Hi, this does not sound like a safe situation for you. Do you have someone you can to to stay with? A family member, a friend, anyone who can give you a place to stay to get away from him?
Please call this number or look at the websites here for... (read in full...)
How should I deal with this very puzzling girl who has stood me up again and again? I think I'll be seeing her soon as she's on an event list for the company I work for!
Q. OK I really really need advice on how to deal with a tricky situation!!! There is a girl who knew friends of mine and saw me out, she found me on myspace and started emailing me. Apparently I have been told I look like Anjelina Jolie (supposedl...
A. 10 June 2008: I think you're on the right track when you said that you didn't want to let her know that you were made vulnerable at all.
After all, you'll be on the job for your company, right? So, if I were in your shoes, I'd look vaguely at her when I saw he... (read in full...)
My friend is coughing up blood. What should I do?
Q. ok this isnt relationship wise.....but my friend is coughing up blood and REFUSES to go to hospital. i have tried everything and been told it can be quite serious. what should i do ?...
A. 10 June 2008: Tell her parents or guardian right now! Do not wait, do it now.... (read in full...)
Does it mean anything if he tells you he wants to remain single?
Q. hi just a quick question. Ok if a guy decides he wants to stay single, through choice do you think that if he met someone he really liked and had feelings for that he may change his mind and give it a go? Like if he knew that the person he liked had ...
A. 9 June 2008: In my experience, I've learned that men who are telling you that they are not in a position to be in a relationship should be taken at face value. They are being honest, and that should be enough to let you know that they really don't want to have a ... (read in full...)
He's not as affectionate... does he still love me?
Q. Alright, I am back everyone! :) I have a question. What are the signs that your boyfriend is not as interested or in love with you anymore? In the beginning my boyfriend was sooo happy with me, always holding me close, telling me he loved me, ...
A. 9 June 2008: Hi, Heidi, I've read your previous post and all the answers you had there too. In fact I did answer your first one too...
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/does-it-mean-he-doesnt-love-me-if.html
I think it boils down to this question.
You... (read in full...)
Should I tell him about the abuse or not??? Please help!
Q. me and my bf have been going out for 9 months were both 17 and boths virgins! but when i was like 7 or 8 i was sexually abused like i was never made have sex just made do other things with this guy who was 20ish i never ever told anybody and im over ...
A. 9 June 2008: Of course you're not 'damaged goods.'
I don't really think that you are 'over it' even though you would very much like to be, otherwise, this would not have come up as a worry for you. And why you would think that you are 'damaged goods' now is o... (read in full...)
Late period, then extended period. What's going on?
Q. I slept with this boy over a month ago and we didn't use protection (i know it was stupid and don't really need a lecture), i was over two weeks late on my period which never happens and now i've been on for two weeks! I'm never late and i'm never ...
A. 9 June 2008: Hi, Uncle Sneaker has given you the best advice and the best support any auntie here can do for you! He's very right about your needing to see the doctor. I know you're probably afraid of the big lecture and being made to feel foolish there, but ... (read in full...)
I nearly had sex with my Mum's 37 year old friend
Q. I'm 16, and I fancy my Mum's 37 year old friend. I have since I first met her, but I knew nothing would ever happen between us. But the other night, she was at my house with my Mum, and they had a few drinks. My Mum went to sleep on the couch, I ...
A. 5 June 2008: I'll bring the tongue of dog, but do you mind if I leave it attached? He's a real sweetie, and gives nice licks as kisses.... (read in full...)
We broke up 3 months ago, I saw her last night and now I can't get her off my mind...any advice?
Q. Hi All, my ex girlfriend broke up with me 3 months ago. After the first 4-6 weeks of feeling horrible, I started to be ok, still sad, but I was coping well I thought. I found out she'd been on a few dates with another guy, and after the horrible 2 ...
A. 5 June 2008: Sorry to hear you're in some distress over the break up. It is hard to get over, and when you hear that the one you split up with has gotten back and started dating, it's very tough to handle.
I found an article for you on DearCupid; it might be... (read in full...)
I broke up with my BF a month ago and still feel sad. What do I do?
Q. I'm in my 11th grade..Broke with my bf 1 month ago..During the days of our relationship we thought we'd always B one..!!But fate changed everything...its been a long time since i haven't spoke 2 him nor text ed him..my heart still feels the pain of ...
A. 5 June 2008: It does take time to get over a break up, the sad simple truth. You need to be able to talk it through with someone like a girlfriend or your parents if you can talk with them. Almost everyone has to go through this experience once in their lives. ... (read in full...)
Is he a promise breaker? I don't know what to do!
Q. dear qupid what would if this was you? my boyfriend and i have been dating for about a year now and 3 month when we were dating he wasent really serious about me. he admited he was still in love with his ex girlfriend who broke up with him for about ...
A. 5 June 2008: The trust issues in this relationship sound very troubling. I think I would take a break from the relationship and try to work out what it is I would like for a future. Then if he has proven himself to be trustworthy, I might consider taking him ... (read in full...)
If I'm pregnant how do we tell our families? (No lectures please)
Q. Hi, First of all im not here for lectures, as far as im concerned im a mature woman who may be within a certain age band *looks up* but I work 45 hours a week, I pay my way and i am independant, I have been in a serious relation ship for about a ...
A. 5 June 2008: I knew that you were indeed an intelligent and resourceful young woman. Sorry if I missed the mark on the exams/being around other young women, but it was a guess based on your age and country flag. Thank you for your very gracious reply about it!
... (read in full...)
Is there any way I can stop my jaw getting sore during oral sex?
Q. This is a little awkward to ask, but what the hell I suppose. I really enjoy giving blow jobs to my boyfriend. I love that I can get him off that way. But I always find my jaw gets incredibly sore after a while, so I have to stop, and that's n...
A. 5 June 2008: Combine your hand around his penis and your mouth over the head and use them together in one motion, you can take a break when your jaw gets tired but keep your hand moving. Make up for your mouth not being there by extending the stroking of your ... (read in full...)
My ex has a narcissistic personality disorder and no one in her life will help her but me!
Q. I'm positive my ex-girlfriend has a Narcissistic Personality disorder. I once told her of my suspicions that she may have a mild bi-polar disorder called hypomania on the phone after we broke up and she flipped out. So, then I sent her a letter with ...
A. 5 June 2008: Rey, wow, that was very long post to read. You've obviously put a lot of time and effort into the relationship and it must be very frustrating not to be able to help.
I just don't see that you can do anything more than you've done. She's read you... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend of two years wants to come back after seeing someone else... what should I do?
Q. my girlfriend that i had for almost 2 years started acting funny for a few days, so i ask what was wrong and she said nothing. she was going to bars after work for 4 hours and not call me or answer the phone. stay at work late and it seemed like ...
A. 5 June 2008: If you feel that the trust between you can be rebuilt, then you can start to work on it with her. It's probably time for a good long honest talk with her. What are your expectations, what are hers?
What went wrong, was it just that she wasn't s... (read in full...)
We're getting married this year, but I'm getting cold feet as he is not very affectionate, should I marry him?
Q. hi, i've been with my fella for 7 yrs and we are getting married this year. I've started having second thoughts though.. can you fall out of love with someone and become just friends???? Because that's how we are, we don't do anything couple ...
A. 5 June 2008: I think it's a good idea to take a break and put the wedding on hold until you can solve this communication problem with him.
Things are obviously lopsided from your point of view, and unless he's willing to deal with your concerns, marriage... (read in full...)
Does it mean he doesn't love me if he lied about the porn?
Q. I am torn because my bf of about 8 months looks at porn. I found videos he dowloads, web cams vids and short movies. I am very hurt and feel betrayed. I asked him in the beginning if he looked at porn and he said no. Then i found it on the comp. I ...
A. 4 June 2008: I don't know him. You know him better.
But if you've found the porn on the computer, why shouldn't he find your concern about it on the same machine?
Again, I don't know him, but it may help him understand what you've been going through.
... (read in full...)
Does it mean he doesn't love me if he lied about the porn?
Q. I am torn because my bf of about 8 months looks at porn. I found videos he dowloads, web cams vids and short movies. I am very hurt and feel betrayed. I asked him in the beginning if he looked at porn and he said no. Then i found it on the comp. I ...
A. 4 June 2008: I'm so sorry that you are so hurt and confused by this.
I have no idea if this will help him understand what you're going through, but why don't you bookmark this page on your computer and show it to him, so he can see what you've been experien... (read in full...)
I nearly had sex with my Mum's 37 year old friend
Q. I'm 16, and I fancy my Mum's 37 year old friend. I have since I first met her, but I knew nothing would ever happen between us. But the other night, she was at my house with my Mum, and they had a few drinks. My Mum went to sleep on the couch, I ...
A. 4 June 2008: Didn't that film end with Dustin's character riding off into the sunset with the daughter?
This has been a very interesting thread to read. I have to agree that if the genders were swapped in the original posting, we'd be shouting, no no no! Don'... (read in full...)
I had anal sex, is there any possible way I might be pregnant?
Q. I'm 16, My boyfriend and I have been messing around and have only had anal sex! I have missed my period and I'm very moody! It there any possible way that I could be pregnant? Please help I'm so scared!...Thank You...x...
A. 4 June 2008: Calm down, you're probably moody because you're so worried right now. If you're in your teens then your period might still be quite erratic, and stress doesn't help either.
Lecture time, you still should be using condoms. Lecture over.
Follow ... (read in full...)
Some men put work before their women, how is a proper ordering of priorities?
Q. What ranking is a woman meant to come in their partners life?? What should be coming before them and after?? Some men put work before them, is this right?? Or should a women come before work?? Just a general question really. Something me and...
A. 4 June 2008: I think that men don't get enough credit for juggling all the balls that life throws at them. They are expected to do well at work, they are expected to be good husbands, lovers, boyfriends, fathers, sons, and friends and carry it all off with out ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my wife wanting to be a surrogate mother to help her twin sister have a child?
Q. Hi everyone. I came home Monday happy to be home to my wife and our newborn twins. I was met at the door by my wife who excitely told me that she wants to carry a baby for her twin sister. She is 41. Her sister recently recovered from breast canc...
A. 4 June 2008: But if you wife donates an egg, her sister's ovaries have nothing to do with it! She still has a uterus, right? Well, there's probably still concern about the cancer treatment. So it's probably a no-go solution.
I wouldn't present it as a 'no' on ... (read in full...)
We just have sex. Why can't I say no?
Q. Sorry this is kinda long but i really need some advice and please no rude answers!! There is this guy who I lost my virginity to. he's 21 and I'm 18, we're both in college. we have a lot in common and he said that he liked me but just got out of a ...
A. 4 June 2008: You've got some good advice from hlskitten and pepper27. Time to work on your self-esteem.
One evil thought sprang to mind. Next time he comes around for sex, tell him that you need to have a talk with him. Then tell him that you think you're p... (read in full...)
How to slim down quickly so that my dress will fit?
Q. Sorry this isn't a relationship question but: I bought a £135 dress from Coast a few weeks ago its absoloutly gorgeous, its a tight fitted boob tube satin dress and i tried it on tonight and its a little tighter than it was a few weeks ago when i b...
A. 4 June 2008: I don't know if they are sold in the UK, but google 'Spanx' (put on your porn filter first though!!!!). That's a line of undergarments that slim you down a bit.
Seven days is not enough time to really manage healthy weight loss, sorry.... (read in full...)
When he leaves to go to see his adult children on sunday afternoons and I am left at his house because I am not allowed to go with him, what should I do?
Q. how do you stay in a 3 and one half year relationship with a man that allows his adult children to control him.he will not even get engaged much less get married because they object. he see his kids and their spouses by his self. i am not allowed ...
A. 4 June 2008: I don't know how I would put up with it. I'd have been long gone, because he's obviously not going to give you the relationship you want, and is not willing to stand up for you with his family. And this has been going on for nearly a year? Hmmm, ... (read in full...)
My lover says its not a relationship!
Q. I have a problem. I like a guy who is really brilliant and has always been straight with me. He says he fancies me too, However he told me not to expect a relationship. I'm sleeping with him and all he says is 'we'll see' about the relation...
A. 4 June 2008: Tell him that you've decided that you don't want to have sex without a relationship. Then stick to it. Waterloo is completely spot on here. Don't let yourself be used by this guy.
If it were me, I'd have dumped his sorry carcass by now.
So stan... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to hide our relationship!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a month now, and he wants to keep our relationship from people at school. I want to be able to hold his hand in the hallway, and he wants just to say "hi" and see each other on the weekends or after ...
A. 4 June 2008: This is going to sound odd, coming from a grown woman, but I went through the exact same thing with my boyfriend (now my husband) when we first started dating in our early 30s. Sounds nuts, I know, but I went along with it because I trusted him and ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my wife wanting to be a surrogate mother to help her twin sister have a child?
Q. Hi everyone. I came home Monday happy to be home to my wife and our newborn twins. I was met at the door by my wife who excitely told me that she wants to carry a baby for her twin sister. She is 41. Her sister recently recovered from breast canc...
A. 4 June 2008: I think that you're very entitled to feel betrayed by not being consulted in this very life-altering decision. It does seem as your feelings are not being taken into consideration at all and that your concerns are being swept under the carpet.
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Does it mean he doesn't love me if he lied about the porn?
Q. I am torn because my bf of about 8 months looks at porn. I found videos he dowloads, web cams vids and short movies. I am very hurt and feel betrayed. I asked him in the beginning if he looked at porn and he said no. Then i found it on the comp. I ...
A. 4 June 2008: This is probably one of the things that women just don't understand about men, and likely causes more upset than actually needs to happen. Calm down, you're in a good relationship if everything else is working well between you two.
Men are visu... (read in full...)
If I'm pregnant how do we tell our families? (No lectures please)
Q. Hi, First of all im not here for lectures, as far as im concerned im a mature woman who may be within a certain age band *looks up* but I work 45 hours a week, I pay my way and i am independant, I have been in a serious relation ship for about a ...
A. 4 June 2008: I know I am probably the queen of lecturing those who engage in unprotected sex, but I cannot find it in me to even begin to say blah blah other birth control methods blah blah too young blah blah blech. And the blech is on me for being too abrupt. ... (read in full...)
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