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writes: My husband has left me this morning for a trial separation as he says the he does not love me enough anymore. However he says that I have not been the cause. I am heart broken and want him home. What can I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (15 April 2005):
 Hard as it sounds.. When someone stops, or falls out of love with you, you very rarely get it back. I dont know how long your trial seperation is for, or if your in contact. Maybe you should sit it out for a bit, give him his space, and maybe he will be able to think clearly and will then be able to come back and at least talk to you. Give him a while and if you havent heard anything, call him up and arrange to at least sit and talk.. he owes you that much. It does sound as though hes wimping out a bit though, just by simply saying he doesnt love you enough, maybe there is something else that hes just not telling you or cant tell you. I got told something similar years back, my then current boyfriend had been having a relationship with someone else behind my back. I didnt know anything was up.. we had been together for 6 years, one day he told me that he knows he loves me but couldnt feel it... that was a bombshell and you start to wonder what in the names gone on! He wanted to end it but wasnt strong enough to tell me the truth, enevitbly we broke up as he wanted to be elsewhere. This could be a similar situation. Im not saying it is, but does seem rather cold to just walk on out. I dont know how long you have been married, or how old you are.. he could just be scared that life is passing him by and wants to move on... Maybe counselling may help, im not sure on the full circumstances, but if your at least able to talk to one another this would help.. You may have to simply move on. I know its hard but maybe hes not the one for you. See if he does come back to talk and take it from there. In the mean time live your life, dont let it wear you down as it simply isnt fair. Get out with friends, meet people and when hes ready hopefully he will come back and chat and you can see where you are headed. I hope things work out for you. But always do what is best for you, never take second best, you only get one shot at life, so get out and live it!Take care x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2005): Continue living, be happy, find yourself. Life is like a circle. When he sees that your life has a purpose and meaning beyond him he may actually find you attractive.
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