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writes: My girlfriend has stopped having sex with me. She says it's because she doesn't feel nice. She has put on a little weight and now she feels ugly but it's really getting to me and I want to have sex. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (18 April 2005):
 Sex is a two way thing. And respect goes along way. You need to make her feel special. You seem to be thinking of only you in this in that, its YOU that wants sex, YOU that thinks you got the problem, YOU that needs to maybe be a little flexible. Try talking to her properly about it, and understanding why it is that she feels so ugly, rather than just saying okay and then thinking "Oh I cant have sex" and then feeling sorry for yourself... it seems its more about you at the moment and it needs to be about her, sit and talk to her. Make her feel okay with it, if your are not sympathetic towards her she if going to be less inclined to have sex with you. Take the time to understand exactly why, try telling her that you fancy her, tell her shes attractive and that the little extra weight doesnt bother you. Spoil her, buy her something nice, take her for a nice meal something like that. You cant just expect a girl to want sex all the time if your not going to make the effort. Once you have found the real reason why she doesnt want sex take it from there. She says that she doesnt feel nice... Well help to make her feel nice. Think about her, you both have feeling and needs, but it has to be a two way thing or it wont work. Be a little less selfish and it will go a long way.Take Care
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