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writes:I am normally a fun to be around person and easy going person who is also funny (I think), but the problem is that you really have to get me to be comfortable with the people before I am able to do this. I have a huge crush on this guy I know, and I guess because I'm so intimidated by the fear of saying something stupid or something that no matter how hard I think about something to talk to him about, I can't. So what ends up happening is awkward silences, and from what he sees, I am sure I look like a person with no personality or even no person skills, which is just not true. So how can I let go of this fear and just start being my true self in front of him? Because if I should show my personality to anyone, it is him!
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (12 April 2008):
 As hard as it sounds, just totally be yourself. When you get to an awkward silence, say something like "hmm... gotta love awkward silences.." Try to kind of break the ice. I've found I'm more shy and awkward around people I'm just not too compatible with, when we are unable to find something to talk about and keep it going in a conversation. Or even better, try to talk to him with your friends around. Then you will be yourself and he can kind of jump into the conversation and go from there. Maybe invite him on an outing with you and some friends? Also get some confidence around him! If he thinks what you say is stupid you shouldnt like him. Talk about school, movies, books, sports, anything! Good luck. Hope I was of some help to you :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2008): Maybe he knows already you are a fun person because he spotted you before you got so shy. A lot of us feel shy when we meet someone we like. He might feel the same way and be afraid of making an idiot of himself. Concentrate on making him feel at ease and you will probably forget about your own insecurities.
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