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Should I go out with a girl who isn't a Christian?
Q. Dear Cupids, I am a very strong Believer and follower of Jesus Christ (in other words, I'm a Christian) and I think I'm in love with a girl that isn't Christian. Is this alright? Should I go for this girl and ask her out? Sincerely, ...
A. 2 January 2012: At 13-15 religion shouldn't matter, and if your parents approve then it should be alright to date her.
Make one rule though... Do not discuss religion with her. You have your faith, she has her beliefs, a relationship isn't about changing... (read in full...)
Do you please your partner before sex or just expect them to be ready?
Q. Some people say that men are always ready for sex and can be ready seconds if they have someone to sleep with. Now I am not saying people aren't like this but I also have a question about not so giving people when it comes to sex. What I am wand...
A. 2 January 2012: opps.. sorry, missed the bit about a one night stand on new years eve...
She was probably drunk and tired, and it's not the way she normally approaches the sex thing. Sex, alcohol and lack of sleep can make lazy lovers out of the best people. ... (read in full...)
Do you please your partner before sex or just expect them to be ready?
Q. Some people say that men are always ready for sex and can be ready seconds if they have someone to sleep with. Now I am not saying people aren't like this but I also have a question about not so giving people when it comes to sex. What I am wand...
A. 2 January 2012: Of course it's selfish to expect your partner to please you, but for you to do nothing but just expect them to be ready. It doesn't matter if your partner is a man or woman... sex should be about mutual pleasure, not just yours and nothing else. ... (read in full...)
He hurt me and I want to get back at him and make him feel like an idiot!
Q. Say a guy mislead you and you ended up losing your virginity to him which was a big deal to you. You haven't experienced those sorts of feelings over a guy before a believe them to be love when in fact it was just confusion. You carry on seeing him ...
A. 2 January 2012: Good luck caller, be strong.... yes, I know how hard it is to turn a guy away when he's chasing you and you have strong feelings..... but I also know that giving him what he wants will devastate you and cause you so much pain. As my girlfriends t... (read in full...)
Even though we took all necessary precautions, I'm not feeling well, could I be pregnant?
Q. I recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend (21st Dec) ... it was an a amazing experience as we had waited for ages to show our love and commitment to each other. We of course took the necessary precautions before we made love to each other, w...
A. 2 January 2012: Your not pregnant... you used enough contraception to frighten even the most bravest sperm. Lost Virginity, sex, Christmas, new year... lots of things happening, it all sounds like stress to me. The pill bleed sounds normal, a little blood at first ... (read in full...)
My BF will flip out over this. But was unacceptable for my coworker to give me, and the others, a quick hug?
Q. Ok. So heres my question, please give me your opinions/advice whatever it may be! So today everyone in the office bought a gift we all contributed to for a male coworker. He gave everyone a quick hug, male and female. I know my boyfriend wouldn...
A. 2 January 2012: Get out of the relationship. If you can't accept a hug from a co-worker, after he has given one to the whole office, your already isolated and different, even when your partner is far away.
What could you do.. Offer him your hand instead,... (read in full...)
He hurt me and I want to get back at him and make him feel like an idiot!
Q. Say a guy mislead you and you ended up losing your virginity to him which was a big deal to you. You haven't experienced those sorts of feelings over a guy before a believe them to be love when in fact it was just confusion. You carry on seeing him ...
A. 2 January 2012: Sorry just saw your follow up...
Your depressed and fed up, because your wasting time thinking about this man. Before you and him broke up, because as you said "you were too busy" for him. What happened to being busy.
You choose to be ang... (read in full...)
He hurt me and I want to get back at him and make him feel like an idiot!
Q. Say a guy mislead you and you ended up losing your virginity to him which was a big deal to you. You haven't experienced those sorts of feelings over a guy before a believe them to be love when in fact it was just confusion. You carry on seeing him ...
A. 2 January 2012: "At first he promised he'd never cheat on her and that he only wanted to be friends and i believed him but then the other night he admitted that he still thought about me in "that way" and if we couldn't handle being friends then an "affair could be ... (read in full...)
He hurt me and I want to get back at him and make him feel like an idiot!
Q. Say a guy mislead you and you ended up losing your virginity to him which was a big deal to you. You haven't experienced those sorts of feelings over a guy before a believe them to be love when in fact it was just confusion. You carry on seeing him ...
A. 1 January 2012: Nope, leading him on and then refusing to sleep with him won't do anything... he's already got a girlfriend remember, and if you won't, many will... he'll laugh at you and he'll think your stupid. You can't hurt guys like that, they can always ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend left me after I miscarried our baby and now I am furious
Q. Hi. I posted on here a few weeks ago re my situation but things have changed. Me and my bf have always had a tricky relationship but our love seems to hold us together. I have had some mental health issues that go back a long way, back to my ...
A. 1 January 2012: Thanks for your follow up.... I am starting to think that a lot of this is to do with the miscarriage, as you have pointed out. When children die, it's a rough time for everyone, and we can use anger and resentment because it's too hard to grieve, ... (read in full...)
Deep throating without gagging?
Q. Looking to hear from fellow females on the subject of deep throating. I have been trying to do it for my man but end up gagging within seconds. Is there a good way to do it without gagging? I heard if you lay on a bed with your head hanging over the ...
A. 29 December 2011: Taking drugs to do a sex act, that's not bloody fun, that's absolutely crazy. If you have to go to such extremes then it really isn't worth. Deep Throat isn't so big a deal, and a guy with a penis likes a woman's mouth, any way he can get it. ... (read in full...)
I want my son to call me 'Daddy' and not his step-dad.
Q. I have been in and out of my sons life now for two years now, not by my choice but by the choice of his mother. She recently let me start seeing him again which I am truely grateful for. But she has a live in boyfriend who my son calls daddy, which ...
A. 29 December 2011: Yes, that's the problem. Your not thinking about what's best for your kid, your thinking what is best for you. Good parents put their children first, and if it means being called "shit for brains", if that's what makes the kid happy, loads of ... (read in full...)
Another girl calls my b/f babe and he doesn't do anything about it
Q. Hello, well this isn't going to be long, but theres this girl who always calls my boyfriend babe, through messages, and it annoys me, i asked him why dont you do something about it, and he said theres no point. I dont do that tho only person i call ...
A. 29 December 2011: I call everyone babe.. I'm shocked to know that I could be offending the whole world with such a silly thing.. Perhaps because it's where I live. In the UK, it's very common for people to call you darling, honey, babes and that sort of thing, ... (read in full...)
Are all FWB relationships like this?
Q. Hi everyone I am in a fwb arrangement with a man of 10 months we didn't arrange it it just happened anyway I was just wondering are all fwbs like this one I see him once a month maybe twice if I'm lucky lol we live very close to one another I text ...
A. 29 December 2011: Yes, all perfectly correct for a FWB relationship. It's you that is the problem. FWB don't require birthday presentss, texts or christmas cards, that is for proper friends or for a boyfriend/girlfriend situation.
He's not really a friend, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend left me after I miscarried our baby and now I am furious
Q. Hi. I posted on here a few weeks ago re my situation but things have changed. Me and my bf have always had a tricky relationship but our love seems to hold us together. I have had some mental health issues that go back a long way, back to my ...
A. 25 December 2011: Yes, I remember you well...
Thing is, we are only getting bits and pieces of the story, and in this post you are mixed up, saying one thing first and then another thing. In the first part of your post, you do sound difficult to handle. Smashing... (read in full...)
Slept with a close friend...How do I get him to talk to me again?
Q. My friend and I were practically the only ones still at college, due to our exam schedule. Our exam finished at 10:30am and we both planned to fly home the next morning. We spent the whole day together; we were practically the only ones around. ...
A. 24 December 2011: "I've had sex before, but it had mostly just been an effort to make the guy happy...."
The guy is avoiding you because he's worried you might fall in love with him. You made the first move, you made it clear that you wanted to have sex. The fact... (read in full...)
My girlfriend of 4 years started being a prostitute.
Q. i found out my girlfriend started hooking she says she only been doing it for a month.she is a heroin addict that recently was taken off methadone. she says she is only giving blowjobs i know different.she said she started doing this because i am ...
A. 24 December 2011: Tell her to go back on methodone.. being a prostitute to get drugs, isn't getting better, it's taking a step back.
Addicts can't love people, they can't even love themselves.. the only thing they love is the drugs, they will lie, cheat and stea... (read in full...)
Evolution V.S. Religion & a Close-Minded Chistian Boyfriend
Q. As someone who was raised as a catholic Chistian, I never thought too much about what my faith meant to me. I Began dating a very Chistian boy (a mix of Baptist and conservative) I whent to catholic school so I knew and understood quite a bit of the ...
A. 24 December 2011: Ex-christian atheist here... Here in Europe there is no problem in being Christian and accepting evolution. As you say, it is very possible to translate biblical text to accord with theories like the big bang and evolution. Rejection of evolution ... (read in full...)
Does this disgust girls?
Q. Sometimes when I'm kissing a girl or holding her close, I'll start to get an erection. I know it's normal but sometimes I feel a bit embarrased. Is this disgusting for girls? Should I try to hide it? ...
A. 24 December 2011: If she's your girlfriend, or a girl your kissing and making out with, then an having an erection compliments her and tells her you think she's sexy. Just don't push it into her stomach. If she wants to feel you more, she will move closer.
If it... (read in full...)
Is it usual for the boyfriend to say I Love You more? I was the first to say it and still say it the most...
Q. Me and my GF have been together for almost months and two weeks now. well to start i said I love you first. I don't know Y but I did. we had only been together like a week or two at the most. and she was very excited i said it and surprised I said ...
A. 24 December 2011: That's the way it happened to me.. just popped out of my mouth, didn't think about it, I just said the words. If I say something I mean it, so I didn't worry. Guy didn't say anything back, but I didn't expect him too.
If I love you, that's m... (read in full...)
I read my wife's journal and now I am tormented by it
Q. I have been with my wife for 9 years, married for 6. I was a virgin when we met. She told me she had been with three men. Considering her great beauty and how many men were after her I didn't think that was so bad, especially because she is three...
A. 23 December 2011: Yes original poster.. wild times, and then blackout where you forget everything explains the situation to me. Also explains why she doesn't want to talk about it at all.. she wants it dead and buried, but that's not fair, to you it's all new and... (read in full...)
Newly wed, no sex and we argue! What can I do?
Q. My husband and I got married about 2 months ago after being together for nearly 5 years (living together for over 3 of those). We have always had great chemistry (really, no complaints in the bedroom), and while we have had our ups and downs like ...
A. 23 December 2011: I'm a great believer in traditions, ceremony and habits to help smooth out family life, religion is a great example of how to take old things, wash away problems and make them new again.
Weddings are supposed to do that, your supposed to leave yo... (read in full...)
Losing my virginity.....what do I need for my first time? How do I make sure I last long enough?
Q. Okay so when I was 16 I promised myself myself if I was 21 and still a virgin that I would lose it to someone of that year. Well here it is 6 years later and its come to the unfortunate time that I was dreading and excited for. This girl who I ...
A. 22 December 2011: Exactly Fatherly Advice, The things needed to lose your virginity and have good sex at the same time may be lacking due to the posters views about sex, virginity and women. Bring a condom, that's all I can say, but this arrangement for sex with som... (read in full...)
Am I too young to get married?
Q. Ok so me and my girlfriend were really good friends before we ever started to date. she had some emotional issues with things and then she started caring for me as more than friends when she relized that i was a caring person and wanted/tried to ...
A. 22 December 2011: I'm not keen on people marrying young.... it often ends in divorce, because as people get older they can change, they can want different things and they can grow apart. At 19,20,21 your still growing, emotionally, physically and mentally.
Of co... (read in full...)
I've lost myself.....Could I be depressed?
Q. Hi all, I was wondering if anyone can help me? Over the past 12 months I've noticed some significant changes and I'm not quite sure what to do. I only turned 21 a few months ago, prior to this I was a very social person. I loved going out clubbing ...
A. 22 December 2011: Yep, you need to see a doctor, you haven't provided enough information for anyone to advise you about depression. It could be bad diet, it could be boredom or changing circumstances (like growing into adulthood), it could be the beginning of ... (read in full...)
I want my husband to dress as a woman permanently, are there any pro's or con's to my plans? Has anyone else pulled this off before?
Q. A few months ago I talked my 25 year old husband into dressing up in my clothes during sex play. He is a small framed somewhat effeminate, 5'8" 145 pound guy. I was very much amazed and turned on by how much he looked like a real female. Here is ...
A. 22 December 2011: Not really fair.. you like it, but what about him, to live 24/7 as a woman because your partner likes it is a very big sacrifice. Your asking him to move away, maybe avoid his family and friends, just to please you... that's asking a lot of one ... (read in full...)
I want my husband to dress as a woman permanently, are there any pro's or con's to my plans? Has anyone else pulled this off before?
Q. A few months ago I talked my 25 year old husband into dressing up in my clothes during sex play. He is a small framed somewhat effeminate, 5'8" 145 pound guy. I was very much amazed and turned on by how much he looked like a real female. Here is ...
A. 22 December 2011: There is a more suitable alternative if your husband is willing and you really must do such things... not full immersion as a woman, that's silly unless as I say he has such needs. But there is no reason why over time he can't dress more feminine. ... (read in full...)
Is an abortion ever morally wrong because it transgresses the father's rights?
Q. Sometimes the mother wants an abortion and the father wants her to have the baby. Is an abortion ever morally wrong because it transgresses the father's rights? A Post in here made me think of this question. Would like to hear peoples opinions...
A. 22 December 2011: In short, he has very little power to determine when and how he becomes a father. I'm a self styled pro-choice person.. Who is forcing a man to have sex and get a woman pregnant.... you also list a lot of contraceptive choices... fine fo... (read in full...)
Is an abortion ever morally wrong because it transgresses the father's rights?
Q. Sometimes the mother wants an abortion and the father wants her to have the baby. Is an abortion ever morally wrong because it transgresses the father's rights? A Post in here made me think of this question. Would like to hear peoples opinions...
A. 21 December 2011: 1. Man don't want baby, man shouldn't have sex, or should hope and pray that the contraception he is using works.
2. No country in the world can force someone to keep a baby inside them.. if abortion is illegal, women will still try to abort us... (read in full...)
I ran away, now I'm pregnant and don't know how to tell my Mom!
Q. i need help please! my mom and i got in a huge fight about a year and a half ago about her and her boyfriend getting married i couldn't and i still can't stand him..time being she hated my boyfriend to, he probably wasn't and probably still isn't ...
A. 21 December 2011: If you ran away a year and a half ago, and you've decided to live under your boyfriends parents house, your situation is going to be hard...
Phone your mum and ask to see her. Then tell her your pregnant and ask for her help, love and support.... (read in full...)
I read my wife's journal and now I am tormented by it
Q. I have been with my wife for 9 years, married for 6. I was a virgin when we met. She told me she had been with three men. Considering her great beauty and how many men were after her I didn't think that was so bad, especially because she is three...
A. 21 December 2011: Thanks for the update, and it is relevant... your story isn't the normal type we usually get here. It's not just a diary, it's a journal written in by tons of people.. it's more than a sexual experience between a wife and a previous boyfriend.
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I read my wife's journal and now I am tormented by it
Q. I have been with my wife for 9 years, married for 6. I was a virgin when we met. She told me she had been with three men. Considering her great beauty and how many men were after her I didn't think that was so bad, especially because she is three...
A. 21 December 2011: Ok, so you updated your post.. story still sounds odd..
The only thing I can think of is fantasy.. This is writing, there are no pictures... you sure she wasn't writing her imaginations and trying to write an erotic book.
A notebook, and he... (read in full...)
I read my wife's journal and now I am tormented by it
Q. I have been with my wife for 9 years, married for 6. I was a virgin when we met. She told me she had been with three men. Considering her great beauty and how many men were after her I didn't think that was so bad, especially because she is three...
A. 20 December 2011: Personally I would leave any guy who was disrespectful enough to read my private diary. What are you going to do.. you decided to invade her privacy, you didn't like what you saw.. now you keep nagging her for some unknown reason to tortur... (read in full...)
Depression+Weight Gain=MORE DEPRESSION
Q. about 5 months ago when i was told i wasnt aloud to talk to my boyfriend anymore i got very depressed and gained some weight. i didnt think it was that much at 1st but now im realizing, since its winter, that some of my pants and coats are really ...
A. 20 December 2011: Walking.. walking in winter keeps you walm, and because you have to work harder the weight falls off. It's too hard to cut calories at winter, because your body wants the extra food to keep it nice and warm.... (read in full...)
Is drunken fumbling meaningful?
Q. Does he like me or was it because we were both drunk? Guy in my class invited me to his birthday drink up with a couple of his mates.I was the only girl. Didn't mind, we're good friends( forgot to mention i kinda fancy him!) So we got drunk at ...
A. 20 December 2011: I know your not listening to the lectures about no drinking or getting high, so I'm not gonna play mother and waste time.
Sounds like flirting to me, but how can you take that seriously... my dad forgets me mother is his ex-wife of 30years,... (read in full...)
When You Get Married Do You Really Get Bored?
Q. Okay I'm obviously way to young to be considering marriage or anything but I'm just curious... When you get married does the flame die out and you want to move on to someone else? Or when you really love someone does it not get boring? Lol I'm just ...
A. 19 December 2011: Done 18years with one guy, and there was not a second of boredom, not inside the bedroom or outside, we could talk for hours and hours with no problem. You need to find someone who is a friend as well as a soulmate, that helps a lot. You got ... (read in full...)
I feel like he totally missed the boat on the whole chivarly thing.
Q. We had a big snow storm today. After work my car was frozen shut. I called my husband who drives a 4WHD truck to come pick me up. While waiting my boss poured some rubbing alcohol on the door jam and viola it opened. I called my husband but he had ...
A. 19 December 2011: "Personally, if you have too little time in the morning to get your things together, you need to wake up earlier" (chigirl) Yep, totally agree... why are you cooking him breakfast if your late and you resent it so much, why not just get somethi... (read in full...)
I would prefer to see him on Sunday. Am I being mean by telling my boyfriend to get over not feeling well?
Q. hey everyone! Do I have the right to be miffed or am I in the wrong?! Any help is much appreciated!!! I'm going away on vacation Wednesday for two weeks and, thus, won't be here for the holidays. For the past two weeks, my boyfriend and I ...
A. 19 December 2011: lol.. win, win... you end up sounding loving and caring, he gets to do the brave thing, and risk everything to be with the girl he loves.
Now that's a great moral, and a love story for Christmas, that has everyone here smiling a lot.
Wishing... (read in full...)
He thinks I want a boyfriend, but I just want a FWB!
Q. Hi there, I really need blunt advise on this, the last thing I want is to appear as an idiot. This year has been very difficult for me and after breaking up with my ex-bf three months ago, i do not feel like dating for a while. He broke my ...
A. 18 December 2011: "I do not expect anything good from anyone"
Opps.. this type of thinking changes a lot of things. FWB is one thing, when your not ready for a relationship, but strong enough to make sensible choices not clouded by emotions like love. But a FW... (read in full...)
I would prefer to see him on Sunday. Am I being mean by telling my boyfriend to get over not feeling well?
Q. hey everyone! Do I have the right to be miffed or am I in the wrong?! Any help is much appreciated!!! I'm going away on vacation Wednesday for two weeks and, thus, won't be here for the holidays. For the past two weeks, my boyfriend and I ...
A. 18 December 2011: Yep babes, you sound harsh.. if someone is not feeling well, it's only a mean person who expects them to get over it. It's not your body, so you can't tell how he is feeling. It's not your job to decide how far he should push his body. My cousin ... (read in full...)
He thinks I want a boyfriend, but I just want a FWB!
Q. Hi there, I really need blunt advise on this, the last thing I want is to appear as an idiot. This year has been very difficult for me and after breaking up with my ex-bf three months ago, i do not feel like dating for a while. He broke my ...
A. 17 December 2011: I'm not the moral police, so I'm not here to tell you to fall in love, get married and all that nonsense. I'm always confused by the anger/hate shown to women who act in similar ways to men where sex and love are concerned. Your not an "easy lay", ... (read in full...)
I feel like he totally missed the boat on the whole chivarly thing.
Q. We had a big snow storm today. After work my car was frozen shut. I called my husband who drives a 4WHD truck to come pick me up. While waiting my boss poured some rubbing alcohol on the door jam and viola it opened. I called my husband but he had ...
A. 9 December 2011: I'm just confused about why you posted here. You already asked your women friends and they all agreed with your position. (or you ignored the ones who had a different opinion) The aunts on DC have been kind enough to share their views with you, ... (read in full...)
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