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writes:i need help please! my mom and i got in a huge fight about a year and a half ago about her and her boyfriend getting married i couldn't and i still can't stand him..time being she hated my boyfriend to, he probably wasn't and probably still isn't the best person for me to be around..but after that big fight at 13 i got the guts to pretty much run away from home, even tho everyone knew where i was going the second i walked out the door to me it was running away, my boyfriends mom let me move in with them..im now almost 15 and now almost 6 months pregnant..i haven't really talked to my mom since i "ran away" and it's been a little less than a year since ive actually seen her. i have no clue how to tell her im pregnant..ive realized i probably shouldn't have ran away and i'm pretty stupid for running away..but i would really love for her to be in my baby's life and be here for me now..it's been really hard doing this without my mom because she is usually the only person there for me and even more so with all the people that criticize me for being 14 and pregnant and soon to be 15 and pregnant ..how do i tell my mom and try to get her back in my life??? please help me Reply to this Question
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (22 December 2011):
 I cant understand how she let you walk out and you've been gone this long and she hasn't even bothered to contact you since.
Im not sure you have the rite to call social services on her you walked out she didnt throw you out.
"your mother knew you were at your boyfriends house, she also knew you would be having sex and knew you would getting pregnant. That means she's expecting you to call one day and tell her about a baby."MIAMINE I really like your comment.
If you want to rekindle your relationship with your mom the sooner you start the better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmy boyfriends mom is very happy about this so is his father, they found out almost 30 minutes after we found out because i started freaking out and crying..his parents never knew we were having sex and said that they never would have guessed tgat we were either we had our own rooms and totally separate beds..i have seen a doctor and everything looks great..i kno i should but i could/would never call social services on my mom..i love her to death even tho we haven't talked much, i mean it's my mommy i remember a time when it was just us and she was the only person i had..and yah i haven't lived with her for awhile now but i have lived in a good home, always had food to eat and clothes to wear..it's not like im on the streets..it's just this hard leap of telling my mom i am pregnant..my biological father knows also i just told him a couple of nights ago..he didn't say much or show much emotion about it..just told me he would start putting money in my bank account..i have a job and my boyfriend does too..we've got some money, not alot but i mean it is a start...
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (21 December 2011):
 If you ran away a year and a half ago, and you've decided to live under your boyfriends parents house, your situation is going to be hard...
Phone your mum and ask to see her. Then tell her your pregnant and ask for her help, love and support. Tell her your sorry, and tell her you were young and silly and you made a lot of bad choices and mistakes.
If your mother knew you were at your boyfriends house, she also knew you would be having sex and knew you would getting pregnant. That means she's expecting you to call one day and tell her about a baby.
What was your boyfriends mother doing.. How could she allow you to have unprotected illegal sex under her roof. Does the boyfriends mother know about the baby. Is she willing to keep you and the baby there, is she willing to help you out. Is your boyfriend working? Does he have enough money to provide for you and a baby if staying with his mother is a problem.
At the moment you seem to be a young teen under no adult authority and guidance. That is a dangerous place to be in. Call your mother, beg her for help. Make sure you talk to your boyfriends mother too, and see what support she can give.
As Tisha has suggested, it is a good idea for you to find the number of social services, and call them if things don't work out the way that you hoped. If your still at school, your pregnancy will be noticed, and they can provide support and help as well.
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reader, moli-c +, writes (21 December 2011):
i am an 28yr old woman that was a teen parent before myself, so i can understand your feelings to your mother and your situation, i had to tell my mother at one point or another, when she noticed i was acting different she figured pregnant or drugs! cause of yhe sleeping in and throwing up, so i swallowed my fears and told her when we were argueing because i threw up next to her table while eating my favorite food, anyway she responded completly different then i expected, tho she was hurt that her babygirl was going to give birth at such a younge age, and not get to live and expierience the youthful things that should be of importance to me like education and hanging with friend, or sports and talent, but now obligated to take care of another innocent being, doctors appnmnts and food and shelter, hard work and stress of trying to make the best out of your baby's life, which starts now, tell her by just saying it, she will love anything thing thats a part if you if she always been there for you, it would be healthy for you and your baby, a little less stress durring the pregnancy and prep time for the grandma to be, im wishing you the best of luck ,
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (20 December 2011):
 Who is taking you to the doctor? I'd ask for help from your doctor, explain that you are estranged from your family, and a runaway, and need some social service help in reaching out.
If you haven't been to a doctor, you have to get to one NOW.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org for help in locating one.
Best wishes to you as you follow the difficult path you've placed yourself on...
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (20 December 2011):
 This is going to come as a very big shock to her, especially since you have been out of her life for so long now, but I cannot help feeling what kind of mother is she to just let you go and not make much of an effort since then to get you back. It has almost been a year since she has even saw her daughter, which is terrible on her part.
I know you must be nervous about telling your mother that is only natural, off course you want her to a part of this huge step in your life. You also need her support and love at a time like this. You are still only very young yourself and you need all the support you can get.
The sooner you tell her now the better, so you can give her a bit of time to get her head around this before you have your baby. Call her and tell her you would like to meet up and talk to her about something important. Once you do see her just be honest with her and tell her you want her in your life again, that you miss her and that you are now pregnant and need her more than ever. Be prepared that she will be shocked and might be angry at first, so she will need some time to allow the news to sink in. All you can do really is be straight with her and tell her what you have just told us. Good luck.
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reader, natasia +, writes (20 December 2011):
 Just say what you have said here.
Just go and see her and tell her everything.
I am not quite sure how she let you go - how come she didn't come and get you back - but I guess because she knew you and her new husband didn't get along, she maybe thought it better for you where you are.
Please just talk to her. You are too young to be without your mum.
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