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30-35,
*ebeccaa
writes:Hello, well this isn't going to be long, but theres this girl who always calls my boyfriend babe, through messages, and it annoys me, i asked him why dont you do something about it, and he said theres no point. I dont do that tho only person i call babe is him and some of my friends sometimes but girls. Should i be worried about this, and the fact he won't do anything about it or just ignore it? Reply to this Question
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reader, Rebeccaa +, writes (30 December 2011):
Rebeccaa is verified as being by the original poster of the question There not exactly great friends, shes just a girl from his old school who he said he spoke to about 3 times
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reader, Miamine +, writes (29 December 2011):
 I call everyone babe.. I'm shocked to know that I could be offending the whole world with such a silly thing.. Perhaps because it's where I live. In the UK, it's very common for people to call you darling, honey, babes and that sort of thing, especially taxi drivers. Take a look at EastEnders, don't they use affectionate terms to all people, including the one's that they hate. Is "dear" allowed, that's an endearment popular with the current prime-minister.
You can feel how you feel. But I think your boyfriend is right not to do anything about it. He will look a right idiot if he says to that girl "Your not allowed to call me babes because my girlfriend doesn't like it". I assume she would tell everyone she knows and he would be the centre of attention and some really stupid jokes. "OK, can I call you honeybabe or will your girlfriend cry. Or can I call you sweethotlips .... etc, etc
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reader, Rebeccaa +, writes (28 December 2011):
Rebeccaa is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou, and i asked him why he doesnt think its unacceptable and his exact words were "because it doesnt bother me i know they dont mean anything by it, its just a word" but does that then mean he doesnt mean anything when he says it to me?
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (28 December 2011):
 I wouldn't worry about it - she could just tend to call everyone by pet names. I know I do. I don't mean anything by it, it's just like a diner waitress: "Can I getcha anything, hon?" Or upper class snoots: "Why hello, Reginald, my darling." Or me: "Hey sweet, how you doing?". I'd only worry if she's literally raising an eyebrow and licking her lips as she purrs out "babe...". Otherwise, I'd stay quietly annoyed, but tolerant of her little speaking habit. Good luck, buttercup!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2011): Hmm I think it's harmless for mature adults, but in teens, she is likely to be flirting. Who else does she call babe? That's what you need to find out and you will get your answer!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2011): I was taught by my parents who reserve pet names and affectionates only for us girls (daughters, grandkids) or my parents to one another.
I would be concerned but again, ask him why he doesn't find that unacceptable.
Then tell him you do.
I'd be upset if another woman called my Fiance Babe, Honey, Sweetie and if it wasnt his Mother.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (28 December 2011):
 I call most folks babe or sweetie or darling... it does not mean anything much to be honest...
I would not be worried..
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reader, mammer69 +, writes (28 December 2011):
I agree. I know a lot of people that call friends (Boy and girl) honey and babe. It's just the way they are. And if you trust and love him then it shouldn't matter. Now if he is calling her anything similar you might want to be worried.
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reader, Rebeccaa +, writes (28 December 2011):
Rebeccaa is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou, he doesnt call her anything back
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