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I'm eight months pregnant and the baby's father is incommunicado.
Q. Hello, I need some advice please, I'm 35 weeks pregnant and the baby's father hasn't been in contact with me since we split up 3 month ago. I've tried ringing him and have had no answer to my calls or texts. Its like he isn't interested, and I hear ...
A. 20 February 2012: No we didn't read your previous post, because you didn't tell us you wrote one.. we are not mind readers, there are tons of people posting every day, 24hours a day. No other post showing up... you must have posted anonymous. So we don't know an... (read in full...)
Eight months pregnant with twins, but should I break up or make up?
Q. I am eighteen years old and i am eight months pregnant with twins . Idk what to do but first I'll give you the background: My bf is 19 years old and his ex gf lets called her C cheated on him numerous time , she got people to kidnapped him etc and ...
A. 31 January 2012: Why she texting you, what is there to talk about, you and him is finished and he's decided to be with her.. He knows that your aware he cheated, you fought over the ultrasound. You probably made it clear that you were finished, and since she was ... (read in full...)
Eight months pregnant with twins, but should I break up or make up?
Q. I am eighteen years old and i am eight months pregnant with twins . Idk what to do but first I'll give you the background: My bf is 19 years old and his ex gf lets called her C cheated on him numerous time , she got people to kidnapped him etc and ...
A. 31 January 2012: If the girl was bothering him, why did he text you, when he knew you was in grief because grandpa was hospital and dying.. why didn't he just tell the nurses to ban her or send her away?
And if he was fighting her off, why did he suddenly change h... (read in full...)
My B/f just expects me to invite myself over to his house to befriend his Mother and I find that totally rude and inconsiderate, especially given how my last visit there was
Q. Hello! Any advice on how my boyfriend is handling his family getting to interact with me and, thus, get to know me is very helpful and I appreciate it all! Thanks in advance. Background: My boyfriend (22 yrs old) comes from a low income family. H...
A. 31 January 2012: You're young, and you and him have different lifestyles... Just go pop in next time, no apologies, just be the way you are with no pretending. It's obvious you worry about acting right and doing the right thing and not hurting peoples feelings... (read in full...)
My B/f just expects me to invite myself over to his house to befriend his Mother and I find that totally rude and inconsiderate, especially given how my last visit there was
Q. Hello! Any advice on how my boyfriend is handling his family getting to interact with me and, thus, get to know me is very helpful and I appreciate it all! Thanks in advance. Background: My boyfriend (22 yrs old) comes from a low income family. H...
A. 31 January 2012: One other thing.. I know the mum and sisters have TV's in their bedroom.. but poor people usually don't go and hide when visitors come.. they think that it is rude.
Bit naughty of you to expect the mother not to use her own living room, even if ... (read in full...)
My B/f just expects me to invite myself over to his house to befriend his Mother and I find that totally rude and inconsiderate, especially given how my last visit there was
Q. Hello! Any advice on how my boyfriend is handling his family getting to interact with me and, thus, get to know me is very helpful and I appreciate it all! Thanks in advance. Background: My boyfriend (22 yrs old) comes from a low income family. H...
A. 31 January 2012: The family don't sound "dysfunctional or odd", but you do sound very judgemental because they are not what you are used to.
Your boyfriend is picking up on your feelings of superiority, and that's why he's embarrassed of his family. I think he... (read in full...)
Is there a future with this married woman or am I just a fling?
Q. Greetings Aunts! I am in a place I never expected to be, which is that I am involved with a married woman and have been for almost three years now. She is in my class at grad school. The way that our school works, the grad students...
A. 31 January 2012: No future, she is married
No future, she doesn't give a damn who you sleep with
No future, she is still with her husband after 3years of you
No future, she's planning on moving to England, she's planing a future with him not you.
Nope, it's ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is angry with me for wanting to go on a diet
Q. ive been thinking about going on celebrity slim diet, my friend went on it and she lost loads of weight, so i asked her about it, and she mentioned it to my boyfriend at work and he went mad at me.. Its nice to know he likes me how i am, but this is ...
A. 31 January 2012: Women have a very strange idea of what is attractive and what is proper weight, and what is a normal body. Women also have a strange obsession with very unhealthy diets. In this, it's usually best to take a man's advice.
You don't give your hei... (read in full...)
I'm eight months pregnant and the baby's father is incommunicado.
Q. Hello, I need some advice please, I'm 35 weeks pregnant and the baby's father hasn't been in contact with me since we split up 3 month ago. I've tried ringing him and have had no answer to my calls or texts. Its like he isn't interested, and I hear ...
A. 30 January 2012: He has the option to ask for a DNA test.. that's his right.
Here's the details for CSA, they'll tell you what your entitled to. http://www.csa.gov.uk/
Here's the details for help from the government for new parents and children http://... (read in full...)
I'm eight months pregnant and the baby's father is incommunicado.
Q. Hello, I need some advice please, I'm 35 weeks pregnant and the baby's father hasn't been in contact with me since we split up 3 month ago. I've tried ringing him and have had no answer to my calls or texts. Its like he isn't interested, and I hear ...
A. 30 January 2012: Your UK.. good
Send him a registered letter (he has to sign for it, so you know it's received) explain about the baby and also explain that you would like him to be in the babies life if possible.
Also explain that he is liable for child suppor... (read in full...)
Eight months pregnant with twins, but should I break up or make up?
Q. I am eighteen years old and i am eight months pregnant with twins . Idk what to do but first I'll give you the background: My bf is 19 years old and his ex gf lets called her C cheated on him numerous time , she got people to kidnapped him etc and ...
A. 30 January 2012: Also.. I'm a bit confused.. if he knew you were in the house cleaning.. why did kiss some other woman, where you might see or hear him?... (read in full...)
Eight months pregnant with twins, but should I break up or make up?
Q. I am eighteen years old and i am eight months pregnant with twins . Idk what to do but first I'll give you the background: My bf is 19 years old and his ex gf lets called her C cheated on him numerous time , she got people to kidnapped him etc and ...
A. 30 January 2012: You should listen to what he has to say.... (read in full...)
I'm tired of always being the second place girl, the rebound!
Q. Hi. I'm 18yrs old and I fell for a man who is 30 yrs old. He is dating his girlfriend for 6 yrs, and i was told he broke up with her two months before he started seeing me. but then i found out, he lied to me and her and everyone he knew about the ...
A. 30 January 2012: Sigh... you present as aged 18 and currently living in the USA. The age of consent in most states is currently 18, that means your only just legal to start sexual activity.
You can't live without a man and that's your biggest problem. You get ... (read in full...)
Three times I have declined my boyfriend's request for an open relationship.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for roughly 10 months. A while ago, maybe 4 or 5 months ago, he brought up the subject of an open relationship. This isn't something that I feel comfortable with, which I expressed to him. He brought it ...
A. 30 January 2012: He doesn't really want a monogamous relationship and he will keep asking and asking again in the hope he will wear you down and give in.
Your attitude has been very adult. You listened to his request, you didn't automatically get upset and angr... (read in full...)
He's ok to do things when I"m on my period, I'm not!
Q. So me and my boyfriend were fooling around, having a good time, clothes on, and he went to put his hands in my pants, but I said no because I'm on my period, which I think is gross, and I thought he'd be grossed out when I told him, but he told me ...
A. 30 January 2012: Many, many women have no problem with having sex when their on their period. I am not one of them.. In my culture it's forbidden and very taboo. It's ok for you not to feel comfortable having sex at this time. Many women think like you. In s... (read in full...)
My gf is really 21 but looks 14!! Is it wrong to date her?
Q. i am 29 girlfriend is 21 but she looks about 13 or 14. is it wrong to be going out with her?...
A. 30 January 2012: You present as aged 29 and currently living in the UK. Your girlfriend is 21 and is young looking. The age of consent in the UK is 16. At 21 both of you are legally seen as adults and there is nothing you cannot legally do.
I really don't un... (read in full...)
My ex wife is upsetting my family
Q. I'm 43 and divorced 5 years from my ex wife Janet. We have one daughter together Amanda who is 13 and is living with me because she wanted it. We split up when she told me she was having an affair and when i asked her was it me or him she choose ...
A. 29 January 2012: OK.. I suggest this needs legal help, so there everything is clear to everyone.. She can't just demand your daughter come live with her, that's not the way it should work.
Go for either sole custody, or joint custody, but make it clear that you... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for being unhappy with the engagement ring?
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend of 4 years and I just recently got engaged. I'm really happy and excited about it all, because I had been pushing the whole get married thing for so long. We shopped around for rings and at first I didn't care which one he'd...
A. 29 January 2012: We had one caller.. who couldn't remember anything about her wedding, and spent a whole year crying and being upset because her wedding dress wasn't right...
What a terrible start to her married life, and of course her and her husband had problems... (read in full...)
My husband has joined an online dating site
Q. My husband has joined a sex dating site. Should I be worried. Or is it harmless fun?? ...
A. 29 January 2012: "Sex dating site".... the clue is in the title... it's for single people who want sex or who want to date. (cheating, lying, married people also use it.. but they have to lie and say stupidness like "my wife doesn't exist, or my wife doesn't ... (read in full...)
My B/f says he's desensitized from all the sex and needs a three day break! Is that even possible? And he watched porn the very next night!
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been having sex pretty much every night for the past week to the point where he can't cum. He says he's desensitized from all the sex and needs a three day break, which we both agreed to under certain conditions: he not ...
A. 29 January 2012: Be very carefully before labelling your boyfriend an addict... You can't have a small addiction... either your an addict and it's destroying your life, or your just a normal person. There is no such thing as a small addiction.
Not wanting ... (read in full...)
I want to combine all of our fetishes into one night. Suggestions?
Q. Me and my Gf have recentally shared with each other about our fetishes. She has a rape and bondage fetish, and i have a diaper fetish. When I found out about her fetish I was fully accepting and I'm willing to play the part to pleasure her. But wh...
A. 28 January 2012: *nods to Chalice*
Fair play and turn about.... was thinking she would have a duty to payback if she went first.
Diaper play first, then she'll do it properly to make sure he works hard when it's her turn.... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for being unhappy with the engagement ring?
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend of 4 years and I just recently got engaged. I'm really happy and excited about it all, because I had been pushing the whole get married thing for so long. We shopped around for rings and at first I didn't care which one he'd...
A. 28 January 2012: "I'm really happy and excited about it all, because I had been pushing the whole get married thing for so long." (original caller) "I'm not materialistic I just live in a materialistic world. The first thing everyone wants to see when you hear so... (read in full...)
I want to combine all of our fetishes into one night. Suggestions?
Q. Me and my Gf have recentally shared with each other about our fetishes. She has a rape and bondage fetish, and i have a diaper fetish. When I found out about her fetish I was fully accepting and I'm willing to play the part to pleasure her. But wh...
A. 28 January 2012: Agree with Marieclaire, the fetishes don't mix and definitely can't be done in one night.
Diapers - man wants to submit
Bondage - woman wants to submit
They are totally opposites and you can't combine them. Bondage is a common fetish, diape... (read in full...)
My wife says she no longer enjoys sex but she's unwilling to try new things
Q. I have been with my wife for a total of 5 years and until recently, our sex life was pretty decent, but as of late, she has stated that she does not get anything out of it. I have done some research and understand what she means, but she is unwil...
A. 28 January 2012: Remind your wife that a bad sex life is why many people get divorced or go and seek out other sex partners. She got the wedding ring, and part of her duty/responsibility is trying to work with you to make your marriage happy and successful.... "I ... (read in full...)
My B/f says he's desensitized from all the sex and needs a three day break! Is that even possible? And he watched porn the very next night!
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been having sex pretty much every night for the past week to the point where he can't cum. He says he's desensitized from all the sex and needs a three day break, which we both agreed to under certain conditions: he not ...
A. 28 January 2012: Good question...
Answer is both... too much sex can drain a guy and even if he wants to in his mind, his body has nothing left to give.
But too much porn can do the same thing...
Your request isn't unreasonable... you have a intense sex l... (read in full...)
People think he's perfect. Yet how do I cope with his secretiveness and fact he may be seeing escourts? He has excuses for everything.
Q. Hi, I'm married with two kids and have serious trust issues with my husband. We've been together for 12yrs and everyone who knows us thinks he's the perfect guy as he is a great father, helps around the house and is easy going. About 2 yrs ago I ...
A. 26 January 2012: Porn is one thing.. escorts are another... porn is men and women who you can't touch... escorts is about meeting people for intimacy.
Why are you even bothering to wonder... the fact that he was even tempted to find out would be enough for me t... (read in full...)
Going to his house to do oral...does he like me?
Q. Hi um recently I've been talking with this guy and he is in my science class. I've known him for two years now and were friends. Not close but were friends. And recently we've gotten much closer than ever. It started over Christmas break. He texted ...
A. 24 January 2012: Nope.. when guys love you they ask to be your boyfriend. Guys that ask you for blowjobs think your stupid and easy.
Haven't you ever watched the movies.. Happy ever after with prince charming.. he usually says "I love you will you marry me.".. o... (read in full...)
I want to watch porn with him, but can't get comfortable enough!
Q. I used to be dead set against porn when me and my partner first got together. That was 7 years ago. Now that I have grown up and gotten older, I realize it is not so bad, and that I actually enjoy it. i dont obsess over the peopl in the movies, ...
A. 23 January 2012: PPS: My guy took me to Amsterdam, and we picked some sexy movies together... it was really nice because the shop was packed with couples, men and women together choosing their sexy films. In that country porn is not something that only men do, but ... (read in full...)
I want to watch porn with him, but can't get comfortable enough!
Q. I used to be dead set against porn when me and my partner first got together. That was 7 years ago. Now that I have grown up and gotten older, I realize it is not so bad, and that I actually enjoy it. i dont obsess over the peopl in the movies, ...
A. 23 January 2012: Firstly I'll declare I'm pro-porn, I've found it useful in many ways and recommend in tons of ladies. To dislike porn is fine and OK. To want to understand it is also fine and OK.
Now to your issue. You want to let out your inner freak.. ... (read in full...)
My body isn't the same after having a baby...so my bf's porn watching bothers me... a lot! What can I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for three years we have a two year old daughter and we live together. I caught him watching porn the other night while i was supposed to be napping. I approached him and he lied to my face when i could see it on ...
A. 23 January 2012: Is your boyfriend a child? Is he put on earth to follow your commands? You say you told him how you felt and you told him to follow your orders? But how does he feel, does he agree with you, does he have his own feelings, his own wishes and his ... (read in full...)
We haven't had sex for 4 months, but b/f watches porn 4 times a week
Q. ok you all saay don't worry about the porn, it took a while and l have excepted that this man of mine will watch porn till he die, ok what do l do about he can watch pron all day or about 3 to 4 times a week, but l have not had sex for about 4 ...
A. 23 January 2012: Just seen your follow up... the thing is, sometimes porn can help men who are having problems with erections and low sexual desire, sometimes it can harm. It's difficult to say if pornography with your guy makes things better or worse.
You p... (read in full...)
Found boyfriend on a fetish website!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year. He is very kind, sweet and generous and I've never had any doubts that he's a good person. The only real problem we've had is his porn usage - I don't like it, I think the majority is degrading to ...
A. 19 January 2012: "I'm so confused. Does this count as cheating? Should I try to forgive him and make our relationship work?"
Problem is your thinking only about you. Is my guy cheating on me? Should I forgive him? Should I bother treating him decently... (read in full...)
Husband is watching porn on our honeymoon!
Q. My husband and I are on ourhoneymoon and we were about to get in the hot tube in our room (ending in having sex) but when I looked over I saw he was on his computer watching porn. As I was walking over he quickly exited out of it. I confronted him ...
A. 19 January 2012: Bloody rude... but he is right, pornography purpose is to help raise sex drive. If his sex drive is low and his not a sexual person, I can understand him using some porn to try to get him wild and in the mood.
"You should be enough".. yep, tha... (read in full...)
He says he was in a bad place at the time ...
Q. I found out that my boyfriend of 10 years had been involved in a texting relationship. I also found a large amount of computer file folders with womens pictures. Each woman had their own folder. The women were downloaded pictures from facebook, ...
A. 19 January 2012: 10 years is a very long time... must be something that keeps you two together.... His behaviour is disturbing, and yes it is based on sexual titillation, but the fact that he's using people you know, and taking time to check out his facebook fri... (read in full...)
I think I'm addicted to internet porn!
Q. i am a man of 26 i have always loved porn and mosted fantasys i have tried to explore most of my sexual appertite but i feel its not enough i have a fiance that is 23 years old as much as i love her she just doesnt fufill my needs is this wrong of ...
A. 19 January 2012: I'm putting addiction to the side for the moment, it's a term that is overused and rarely is correctly diagnosed. For proper addiction it has to ruin your life greatly, take all your money, make you unavailable/improper for work, and basically put ... (read in full...)
Do some women also have an overblown sense of entitlement when it comes to sex?
Q. People always say that men have an overblown sense of entitlement when it comes to sex. But I think some women can be like this too. I'm not trying to be sexist. I just think there are some situations where it's always the woman who "decides" when ...
A. 16 January 2012: A man has to be aroused and hard for sex to work. If he isn't interested his dick won't come up and therefore no sexual intercourse can occur.
A woman needs to be aroused for her juices to flow. If she's not aroused, she will be dry and then sex... (read in full...)
His continued porn use is eating away my love for him!
Q. I need some male answere to understand what is going on or going wrong in our relationship. I try to make it simple. Here are the facts: We are married for a long time,still in love, have lots of hot sex (never boring!!!!), I am still very attra...
A. 14 January 2012: If it's eating away at your love for him, it's time for you to walk away and end the relationship. I'm not going to discuss the rights and wrongs around pornography, it only ends in a debate that never seems to end. Instead, lets deal with your r... (read in full...)
Losing the baby, financial difficulties, my drinking, his insensitivity... it's all a big mess!
Q. Hi all. I have a very difficult situation and am very torn as to what to do. I have always had a difficult situation with my bf but recently things got worse. In October we bought a house together and we have a joint mortgage. I also found out that...
A. 8 January 2012: Sigh.. again, only part of the story your telling here. Things are still not worked out. In your last post you wanted to dump him, you blamed him for most of your mental distress and issues. Now your together, but then again your not.
Is th... (read in full...)
Boyfriend cheating with S and M mistress?
Q. My boyfriend is into S and M (bondage) He doesn't want to do it with me because he thinks I'm only doing it to please him. Our sex is not great. He complains that he cant get into it because the S and M is what turns him on the most. He is meet...
A. 7 January 2012: Wiseoldman is right, if your guy needs a professional "mistress", he wants to be the submissive one. You can't just try to please him, that defeats the whole object. With a "mistress" only her needs are important, and he has no say at all. You ... (read in full...)
Am I nuts, or is it wrong of my ex wife to make me a babysitter so she can get laid in her own bed?
Q. I am worried (I guess that is the best word) that my ex-wife is shirking some of her responsibilities as primary custodian of my son. She is a great Mom, but I have been asked a few times lately to take my son and keep him out to a specific time. ...
A. 3 January 2012: How often do you babysit this 15year old child?
How many hours a week does your wife look after your son?
How many hours a week do you look after your son?
How often do you have sex per week/per month?
Do you get to date, have you had a girlfr... (read in full...)
Please help an inexperienced married man understand sex and relationships
Q. I was an 18 year old virgin when I met my wife. I had never had a girlfriend or even kissed another girl until one night after a date she just leaned over and kissed me. I waited some months before sleeping with her at age 19. She was 21 and expe...
A. 3 January 2012: All this really depends on the person.. the questions you ask are like asking "what do you find funny, what makes you laugh".
1. Sex with other people.. neutral... nice at the time, luckily I always meet nice people.. best when I was in love and... (read in full...)
I feel guilty doing things my mother disapproves of, but should I?
Q. Hi everyone, Over the past year, I have begun the process of "growing up". I'm getting ready to graduate from college, moving out of my mom's house, I've been applying for jobs, etc. In a few days, I'm leaving for a New Year's vacation with my ...
A. 3 January 2012: (laugh) Of course you feel guilty... just as she feels guilty for being upset that you are growing up and leaving home and no longer need her.. For mothers this is called the "empty nest syndrome"... you give your life to your kids, for 18years they ... (read in full...)
After everything that has happened, I'm sad for days on end, but don't want to get medicated!
Q. Hiya, I'm 31 and married with 2 children an 8year old and one about to turn 1. I would consider myself a happy go lucky person that takes everything in my stride normally. recently I have found everyday things harder and herder to cope with, and I ...
A. 2 January 2012: Since you have had a difficult year and your sadness is caused by a lot of grief and sadness anti-depressants may not be necessary. Your doctor can also offer counselling, CBT or therapy. Depression is a funny thing, some people get better for n... (read in full...)
If I am a girl 17 and he is 4 years my junior then who makes the first move? Is this OK?
Q. I need some help. I am in love with a close friend but I don't know what to do about it. I am a girl 17 years old, but I am 4 years older than him, so who should make the first move? Who should make the first move me a girl or him a guy 4 year...
A. 2 January 2012: You present as aged 17 and currently living in the UK.. The age of consent in the UK is 16 and you are allowed to legally have sex. The boy you like is 13, under-age and still a child. I am not happy about a soon to be adult (you) dating a ... (read in full...)
Should I go out with a girl who isn't a Christian?
Q. Dear Cupids, I am a very strong Believer and follower of Jesus Christ (in other words, I'm a Christian) and I think I'm in love with a girl that isn't Christian. Is this alright? Should I go for this girl and ask her out? Sincerely, ...
A. 2 January 2012: At 13-15 religion shouldn't matter, and if your parents approve then it should be alright to date her.
Make one rule though... Do not discuss religion with her. You have your faith, she has her beliefs, a relationship isn't about changing... (read in full...)
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