Could she be into me? She doesn't know I'm a lesbian!
Q. Ok, here goes...... I'm a 25 year old lesbian, I work with a women in her 40s, she doesn't know I am gay and I personally wouldn't have said she was but she seems flirty with me? How can I tell if she's into me? She spoils me giving me free s...
A. 5 June 2013: Here's a crazy thought. Talk to her!
Ask her out for a cup of coffee (even on a lunch break) and calmly tell her that you greatly appreciate all the attention, and, while you like her (and it's clear that you at least enjoy all the attentio... (read in full...)
Crush on a coworker and I'm wondering what his text meant!
Q. There is a man that I'm interested in and he is working with me I asked him today in a text if he needed me and his reply was ( more than you know ) what was he meaning?...
A. 5 June 2013: He meant that you should speak. You know, without the cellphone, in person, one-on-one?...
And, as you're speaking with him, you might ask him "Hey, I'd love for us to grab a drink. You game?"
(It's called "Communication 101")... (read in full...)
How to reach a decision with my unplanned pregnancy?
Q. i'm 26 and had planned to go back to study. I discovered I was pregnant a few months after getting laid off my job. Can things get any worse? My boyfriend wants to keep it but I'm not sure. I've been to counselling and it hasn't helped much. I'...
A. 5 June 2013: There are couple of scenarios.
One, you keep the baby and the boyfriend.
Two, you lose them both.
Which one will you choose?... (read in full...)
She hurt me incredibly bad, I don't know why or what she wants from me, or even how to proceed from here. Help?
Q. help me, please. i have no idea what to do. i love my ex so much. we just broke up about a week ago and she hurt me incredibly bad. we had a stupid, small misunderstanding the other day and all of a sudden that night, she told me she needed space ...
A. 5 June 2013: Remember that old joke about a religious man and a flood? How the man drowned and upon getting to Heaven he demanded from God "Why did you not save me?" And how God replied "I sent you a car, a boat, and a helicopter. Why did you not take them?" ... (read in full...)
How do I ask this girl out at work?
Q. How do I ask this girl out at work? I'm a male nurse who works in a hospital, and there's this really cute medical resident who floats around the other units that I've been crushing hard on for like 4 months. She's rarely on my unit however,...
A. 5 June 2013: Here's a question for you. What are you looking for? WHO are you looking for? Is this woman your ideal? Does she personify your perfect partner, or is this someone nice who's smiled at you, and you build a castle in the sky based upon that? ... (read in full...)
How to help my boyfriend to grow up?
Q. My boyfriend is 29, I’m 26 and we’re been together for 2 years now and living together for 6 months. We have our disagreements and concerns or mostly I do, so recently I’ve talked with him about our life together and how he sees everything. He said ...
A. 5 June 2013: Love, his mental image of complete happiness does not end with you. While you certainly figure as a big part of his life, if he were to imagine his perfect relationship, it would include something else. Something more than what you are providing. ... (read in full...)
The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future
Q. The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships The future is where actual seduction takes place. That is the key to seduction. It has very little to do with turning someone on when you see them. I...
A. 28 May 2013: The fallacy of "seduction" I wonder how many people, enticed by the notion of seducing someone, have truly understood the meaning of the word. Thefreedictionary.com gives three meanings. Third is to “win over, attract”, second is “to induce t... (read in full...)
The men I date always talk about their ex's is this normal?
Q. Hello, I just want an honest opinion on this one. Im an attractive, pretty cool young woman who is independent. I wonder why men that I date always tell me or talk about other women? When I say other women I mean ex girlfriends or some women in ...
A. 28 May 2013: It seems you already answered your own question. "Is it normal?" Well, clearly, it does not seem normal to you. Yet, you still want to know WHY men you date talk about their exes, right? Well, I'm here to help. Unfortunately, you've given ... (read in full...)
I broke up with my bf of 7 years but I miss him so much. Please help?
Q. Hi .i recently posted about my bf not speaking to me 2-3 months at a stretch after a fight. I broke up with him. But im not able to forget about him. I miss him every single moment. I have not eaten for a week and a half. I feel like calling him and ...
A. 28 May 2013: Time won't heal anything. If anything, it will make every experience you've had seem sharper, more acute. Alas, there's no magic pill to cure a broken heart. Yet, there is something you can do right now. The best way to get over someone is ... (read in full...)
I have a live-in mother-in-law who criticizes everything I do!
Q. Hi, This is my first post. please be kind to me and excuse me for long boring passage. I have a mother in law who criticizes everything I do or say. It goes from a simple recipe to how to take care of my baby. She lives in with us. My husband...
A. 28 May 2013: There are two problems here. First is, why does your mother-in-law act this way? Second, what can you do about it? First issue is easy. Your mom-in-law likes your husband much better than she likes you and doesn't think that you deserve him... (read in full...)
How long do I give him this 'break' for? Should I get in touch to clarify this?
Q. I am really confused - my fiance had been blowing hot and cold since February this year basically since I lost my job and things were financially hard for us. We got engaged on New Year's Eve and I thought it was a new beginning for us - we have...
A. 28 May 2013: Your fiance does not know what he wants.
Regardless of what it is that he is looking for, it does not include you. Or, if it does (which I very much doubt), it does not end with you.
We imagine certain things. Certain situations that we'd like to... (read in full...)
I always thought I was straight but recently I've been having sexual thoughts about a guy I know. Am I gay?
Q. I always thought i was straight but recently i've been having sexual thoughts about a guy i know. What do I do? Tell him? Ignore it? Am i gay? Also, i know this guy because he is one of my best friends' brother. What do i do?...
A. 28 May 2013: Are you ready to ruin the relationship between you and your friend's brother? Because regardless whether he's gay or not, or whether you're gay or not, this will drastically change the dynamic between you, your friend, your friend's brother,... (read in full...)
Should I try to work things out and see if my feelings come back for him or should I just cut all ties?
Q. I need some advice as i'm still a year and a half later struggling to move on from my ex, i don't know whether this means i should be with him still or not. So me and my ex have been on and off for 11 years now i love him and think about him ...
A. 28 May 2013: Ask yourself this: "Do I really know what I want?" "Do I want this kind of relationship, or do I stay with my ex simply because this feels better and less scarier than moving on?" It's called "negativity bias", love. People are more afraid of ... (read in full...)
I am so happy with my boyfriend, but his roomate/ex/best friend hates me!
Q. Hi guys! The people on this site have helped me loads in the past and I'm hoping you can help me again with your advice. I got out of a very bad LTR last year which started when I was very young, for almost 4 years I was cheated on and manipulat...
A. 27 May 2013: a) you're a codependent.
b) you think you're in a relationship, yet your boyfriend has another opinion on that
c) things are not going to change in your life until after you figure out exactly what you want and what kind of a person you want to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says live for today, I want to plan for tomorrow.
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 2 years often says that i should live and be happy for today and not think about future, since future is always uncertain. He hasnt proposed and he never talks about our future together and when ever i talk about our futur...
A. 21 March 2012: Please, understand, that this is as close to a divine sign as it is ever gonna get.
You see, men only focus on what's in front of them, while women try to see the bigger picture. Little do both realize that the two are not mutually exclusive.
You w... (read in full...)
Eight years later and I am still confused about what he wants!
Q. I want to know if I am in love and what the hell is going on? I have known this man for 8 years, we went on a couple of dates 6 years ago, then he moved away for college, then we started up a long distance relationship for five months 4 years ago ...
A. 21 March 2012: Do you know what you want? Do you know what you're looking for? Do you have any idea of what is the most important attribute in a partner for you?
If you were to describe your ideal partner, would you resort to most general terms, or, could you poss... (read in full...)
I am the one who does the texting and keeping in contact!
Q. I have been talking to my best friends cousin and I really like him but he always brings up the fact that when we were younger he used to like me and now he us making me pay fir it. I'm always the one who.keeps calling him or texting him. Do you ...
A. 21 March 2012: Dialogue is a two-way street. As long as there are two people participating, who cares whether you're starting the conversation or not.
The more important question is, does he respond in kind when you tell him that you like him?... (read in full...)
Is he playing games or being true when he ignores my actions that say stop?
Q. could it be that when your boyfriend goes down on you and is even willing to try cunnilingus even when you try to pull his head away - is it a sign that he loves you? i have had a couple of disappointements with men and i need a sign to show me that...
A. 10 February 2012: Umm, have you tried to TALK?
So many people try to guess "what is going on", "what is he thinking", and, every single time they guess wrong.
Instead of playing "the magic 8 ball", and wondering what is happening inside his head, simply ask t... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to be more adventurous with sex, is he bored already?
Q. Dear Cupid, I come to you with a bit of a dilemma, that's been bothering me since last night. I been dating my boyfriend for almost two months. We've been starting to have sex for about three weeks now and it's awesome. But yesterday he send me ...
A. 3 February 2012: It's a scientific fact. "Sexual habituation". In a test environment, a group of 20 female subjects were shown a provocative photograph, while another group of 20 male subjects were shown similar arousing material. While the female response re... (read in full...)
Ladies, how would you rather be approached by an interested man?
Q. As a woman, which way would you rather be approached? A. At my university, I see an attractive woman, so I say to her, "Excuse me, do you know where building F is?" She then shows me where it is and I say, "Actually, I know where building F...
A. 3 February 2012: Assume. As in "make an ASS out of U and ME". Your assumption is that once you have a clever line, your approach will be flawless, and, everything will be rosy from then on. Well, it's not so easy. Let's say, there is a single woman. Attra... (read in full...)
In real life I've never wanted him to kiss me. So is my dream telling me otherwise?
Q. I just turned 18 and im having some confusing feelings. I see one of my mates twice a week (all-day) with a few of our other friends, but I was recently really annoyed by him and vice a versa. We sorted it out last week and that night I had a drea...
A. 3 February 2012: A dream can tell you a great deal, as it is nothing more than a different state of your consciousness.
Now that psychobabble is over, here's what is likely happening.
You're likely attracted to him, yet, in real life, there are plenty of ob... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is constantly accusing me of cheating when I've never cheated!
Q. I need help I love my girlfriend but she is constantly thinking I'm cheating and she believes she has to cheat on my to stay with me I don't get it what can I do I love her so much I'll do anything for her I'm willing to get counsleing or whatever...
A. 3 February 2012: Grow a backbone.
Explain to her that her suspicions are unbiased, and, it is only by the virtue of you being a gentleman that you tolerate her accusations.
Of course, you better be able able to substantiate your claim, or, else, you'd be t... (read in full...)
He can't maintain an erection during sex now...is he cheating?
Q. Your Open Question: Why can't he keep his erection long anymore? is he cheating? Wow I've just been told my bf has been cheating on me. I asked him if he's ever cheated on me he says no. He says he loves me. But I'm not sure.. Am gunna have...
A. 3 February 2012: Ask him if he masturbates. Ask him whether his Kegel muscles are in shape.
Ask him if he gets excited by you. (And, if so, the problem is usually physical, not psychological)... (read in full...)
Want to go to the next level; don't want to sound desperate
Q. I have had my boyfriend since December 12, of 2011. He even asked me like a month ago if I wanted to go to the next level (making out, kissing, etc.) I said yes... We haven't done anything yet... I need help! How p do I tell him that I wanna kiss ...
A. 3 February 2012: Men are very often like newborn puppies.
We need guidance to the very basic things, like, where to find food, where to poop, etc. Lol
So, take charge. Take the lead. Kiss him!
Or, you can wait until the Second Coming...... (read in full...)
I feel like I owe it to my husband to have a threesome.
Q. My husband has been wanting a threesome with another women, i was for it at first but after his pushing and searching I started to have my insecruities. I feel tho, it needs to happen. I was unfaithful to him. I kissed a guy. (it might not see...
A. 3 February 2012: A threesome may be exciting and amazing, yet, if you're not attracted to another woman, what joy would there be for you?
If you're comfortable with being a sex slave to your husband's desires, however brief it may be, go for it!
If, however, it ... (read in full...)
I think my husband's behavior is strange for a married man but he turns it all on me and my "crazy insecurities"
Q. How do you kill the old demons? I am an educated, confident woman in every area of my life except with my spouse. We've been together 7 years and most of those years have been good. We get along most of the time, have a fairly good sex life etc. My ...
A. 3 February 2012: Let's play a guessing game.
Guess!
Sorry, I didn't tell you what you were supposed to guess?
I'm really sorry!
How about this?
STOP GUESSING!!!
Ask him. Confront him, voicing your suspicions. If he doesn't put them to rest to your sati... (read in full...)
I want to impress him
Q. I wanna impress my crush. I really like him and want him to be thinking of me. I haven't seen him for a long while and I wanna leave him speechless. We always text and stuff so I know he is into me but l just want to look extra nice when he sees ...
A. 3 February 2012: Walk up to him, and, quietly whisper into his ear "You know, I have the biggest crush on you!"... (read in full...)
She is separating from her husband. When can I tell her how I feel about her?
Q. Hello everyone. I have been good friends with a woman for nearly two years. She is married with two young children. I have been divorced for five years with three children. Recently, my feelings have gone beyond the good friend stage and I have...
A. 3 February 2012: The more you wait, the better the feeling becomes. Just like fine wine, bottled for a hundred years, just before it turns into vinegar.
OK, casting aside the sarcasm, there's no best time to open up, yet, there's never a bad time to do so.
S... (read in full...)
What does he want from me?
Q. I was with this guy for on and off for 2 years and we broke up about 10 months ago. I was completely heartbroken....This guy has hurt me so much in the past 10 months that we've been broken up. He went from breaking up with me to dating a new girl 2 ...
A. 3 February 2012: Stop guessing.
Unless you have "amazing powers of deduction" (badly quoting of "Pink Floyd"), even then you won't be able to guess what he's thinking.
If you can read his mind, then, you're in luck.
If you know somebody who can read his min... (read in full...)
No double standard - I just want one off sex
Q. I'd like advice about meeting with a guy I met online. To lead up to this question, I must explain I've only been in long lasting relationships since I was 15. I've never really been single. My ex cheated on me last month and I'm still upset, but my ...
A. 3 February 2012: Making yourself safe in this world has become more and more difficult, and, it'd be funny to see so many scary stories, if they weren't true.
Unfortunately, many of them are.
Protect yourself. Whether by checking in to a nice hotel, running a ba... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't want sex any more. Can any one suggest what things need fixing to improve this situation?
Q. My wife and I have been married 15 years. We have a miserable sex life and have for a long time. It started very early in our relationship where within a year we went from: "I have never been so loud during sex. Can we do it again?" to "Do...
A. 3 February 2012: First off, forget her trying to better herself. If it hasn't happened by now, what makes you think it is going to happen in the near future?
Secondly, for you, sex is an extension of your love towards her, yet, for her, it is nothing more than sel... (read in full...)
My B/f couldn't get enough of me and now I have to beg him for sex even once a week. Is he bored of me?
Q. I started going out with my boyfriend 8 months ago And we've been living together for 4. I'm 25 and he's 35. At first he couldn't get enough of me, even waking me Up several times during the night for sex most nights. Now if I get it even once a ...
A. 1 February 2012: It's a lot simpler than you think, Lostineire.
It's called "sexual habituation".
Simply explained, when men are continuously exposed to the same sexual stimulant, their sexual response decreases, while female sexual response stays the same in ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have a relationship with a man 22 years younger than me?
Q. I am in my fifties and had a boyfriend of 38 .he just dropped contact 3months ago. We saw each other occasionally.I loved him but he borriwed money and never gave it back. Is it biologically normal to have a relationship with a guy 22years younger ...
A. 1 February 2012: Why not?
Is there some physiological difference between when you were 22 years younger?
Why should be wrong to date someone much younger/older than you? Simply because society believes "date someone your age"?
Of course, borrowing money ... (read in full...)
The heat wants what the heart wants....so do I tell my married lover how I feel about him knowing he would walk away? Or just keep quiet and carry on witht the affair?
Q. Im hurting and need some advice. I just came out of a horrible divorce and is still going through a nightmare of fighting and possible custody battle with my ex husband. Im trying to get my life back together and doing pretty good. Everything I do ...
A. 1 February 2012: There's a very cool saying.
"If there is a doubt, there is no doubt".
You, however, don't just doubt whether he feels something for you.
You KNOW that it's just sex.
So, why on God's Green Earth are you so hung up on that?
Is it the best ... (read in full...)
After only 2 months of marriage the arguments are terrible and she is threatening to cheat! Why is she doing this and how do I sort this out?
Q. Great 2 months of unstable marriage. At first I was appreciated. We used to love each other prior to getting married but... In these 2 months, we have had epic arguments, I've been called idiot etc. We had an argument tonight and she went further to ...
A. 1 February 2012: Here's a thought.
Stop wasting your time posting here, and, become the man that your wife wants you to be.
The ONLY reason she's threatening a divorce and cheating on you is that you have not lived the ideal that she's had of you in her mind.... (read in full...)
I need to learn how to interact with guys
Q. Hi guys, I think the best way to describe it is.. I'm stuck! Its been this way most of my life, and the situation doesn't really change. I guess you could say I have very little to do with guys. It's not me so much that doesnt have much to do ...
A. 29 January 2012: The best way to socialize is to find common interest.
It's very difficult to attract a rocket scientist if you don't have the slightest interest in astronomy.
However, there are, of course, certain things that men (boys) will lean towards. Thi... (read in full...)
Could this be abuse?
Q. Am I being abuse if when I question my husband he puts on his headphones to block me out, ignores me for days, sleeps in the other room, tells me I'm negative, threatens divorce and if I try to remove a headphone from his ear to talk to him he hits ...
A. 29 January 2012: traweb7, love is hard.
Love is blind, but, don't tell her that. She's deaf as well.
I've been there myself. In an unhealthy situation, where everyone, not just you, wonders "what the hell is wrong with your partner?", but, sometimes, t... (read in full...)
Sexy birthday treat ideas
Q. Hi every1! Am looking for some guidance lol my man turns 37 on Thursday and I want to give him a surprise but I have NO IDEA what to get him.. What do u get the man who has everything.. And he doesn't help saying he doesn't want anything.. Just me ...
A. 29 January 2012: Do think of it in terms of "item/thing", but, rather, in terms of "experience".
Give him a great night on a town, that ends in romantic evening.
He is right. He doesn't want any"thing". But, he will love a wonderful gesture.... (read in full...)
Guys I talk to think I'm flirting, but I don't even know how to flirt!
Q. One of my friends keep telling me not to talk to boys the way I do, and he says that I "don't know what I do to other guys." I've tried asking him what he meant, but he shrugged it off. I'm almost certain that he's talking about flirting, but I ...
A. 29 January 2012: Learn what it is you're doing, and, examine what effect it is having.
Forget about your friends saying "This is flirting". They may not know themselves.
NEVER go by public opinion. At best, it is flawed, at worst, it is going to hurt you.... (read in full...)
I like my friend and got shot down. Do I try again?
Q. So I have a friend that I recently told I have feelings for. The problem is, when I told her, it was really awkward and she pretty much walked me into the whole situation. She shot me down, but my heart won't let me give up. Would going up to her ...
A. 28 January 2012: It certainly sounds like it was a very uncomfortable situation for both of you.
Perhaps, that's what dictated her abrupt response.
Give it another shot, this time, making sure that you're both in a comfortable place and time.
If she says "no" th... (read in full...)
Could this be abuse?
Q. Am I being abuse if when I question my husband he puts on his headphones to block me out, ignores me for days, sleeps in the other room, tells me I'm negative, threatens divorce and if I try to remove a headphone from his ear to talk to him he hits ...
A. 28 January 2012: You are not being abused if your husband ignores you, sleeps in another room, tells you you're negative, and, threatens you with divorce (although the last one is borderline).
You ARE being abusive towards HIM when you forcefully take off his head... (read in full...)
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