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I am a person of Philosophy: A science of non-contradictory vision. I wish to guide problem related to life, relationships, and sex, through this knowledge of philosophy and in addition, through the knowledge of Tantra Vision. Our modern Individualistic mode of life required such guidance. I will write series of articles on tantra, which anyone can read if feel guiding, and in addition, I will reply to the questioners with quoting relevant materials from articles.

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An Introduction to TANTRA. .As, power of light.

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3 February 2010: Article No 2...MEANING OF OBJECT. ... The object, so conceptualized by the word ‘tantra’ is sex organ in a state of erection. So, the object underlines the ideology of ‘eroticism. Here eroticism is principle, or philosophy, and not sexology...

An Introduction to TANTRA.

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26 January 2010: Tantra is a word belong to ancient Indian Sanskrit language. This word has been used by scholars in many ways, such as [1] It is used as a religious way with the ideas of god and goddess or deva and devis, temples, prayers, meditations, chanting ...

Think sex and Get pleasure..

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10 December 2009: What I am suppose to think? and What I am suppose to do? - in the realm of sex. This one is really hardest problem of life. Let me be the guide for those who want to think for themselves and want to be the original actor, and not a cheap imitator...

Sex existed before religion, and is the reason for relationships

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29 November 2009: Relationship is problem, perhaps most fatal problem. All destructive event like murder to suicide occur from bad terms of relations. It is also true that men cannot live without relating with something or with someone. So, it is quite necessary to ...

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I really want revenge on this shameless, unthankful

Q.   I was unhappily married for 13 years.I still respect my wife but love was just not there anymore.We have together three beautiful kids.I was more and more sad by time and didn't know what to do.Then two years ago I meet new love of my life.I am 35 ...

A.   13 July 2010: Your story touch to my head. Why we {human] need 'third eye?' You shut that, in search of 'nothing!!!' Our mind is not able to live in 'UN-reality' Unreality give sickness. Just open your 'third eye' and check the difference between truth... (read in full...)

What do you find is the best way to make sex really romantic, passionate and emotional?

Q.   I'm just really curious about people's experiences. I've heard loads of ways that sex has been really orgasmic and physically pleasureable for people, but I'm curious about the passion and romance of it. What made you feel the connection the most ...

A.   6 July 2010: Nice question. I suggest you in particular, and all who read this post in general to visit this site// / /// And if you feel, that it is guiding...then be member of 'Osho school f... (read in full...)

Depressed after finding a used condom, can I regain my trust in her and continue this relationship??

Q.   Somebody please help me sort out this mess! I apologise for it being so long but there really is no other way to tell this. It involves a beautiful relationship put under intense strain by being forced into being long-distance for 6 months, and then ...

A.   5 July 2010: Your post appear to me as more sensible. You are very thoughtful, and wise. But you are not getting mature response from this relationship is also sure thing. Now it is time for you, to think very seriously about love romance and relation... (read in full...)

My husband wants to go down on a man.

Q.   My husband wants to go down on a man. He has never done this before, but admits he has fantasized about it and just wants to try it to see what the hype is about. He doesn't want to try anal with a man or anything like that. Also, he wants to watch ...

A.   30 June 2010: His vision about sex pleasure seems to be confused. Such things, 'same sex love', indicate lack of true vision about sex and about sex pleasure. There is no easy way to correct his vision over a countable days or months. What that little sister s... (read in full...)

Does the length of time determine how 'good' sex is?

Q.   Before my boyfriend and I started dating, he told me the longest time he had sex for was several hours. I have a few other friends who have had sex for a similar length of time as well. For my boyfriend and I, our sex lasts for about ten minutes. So ...

A.   19 June 2010: Sex play for shorter or longer time is one amongst many aspect of good sex. But, how one will see many aspect? I am suggesting some simple and easy way to view quality of sex life. What is the cause of sex pleasure? Certainly there may exist on... (read in full...)

Where are men's erotic spots???

Q.   i really want to please my fiance because he is always giving me orgasms every time, but i feel i dont give him pleasure because once he has satisfied me, he then cums and its over so, can someone please tell me where mens spots are exept anal, its ...

A.   17 June 2010: Sexual pleasure exists in mind, is factual truth. Basing on this truth, the better thing for doing is to share him with totality. Allow your own mind to feel him totally. Allow your mind to meditate on sensual feeling and emotional feeling with ... (read in full...)

Where are men's erotic spots???

Q.   i really want to please my fiance because he is always giving me orgasms every time, but i feel i dont give him pleasure because once he has satisfied me, he then cums and its over so, can someone please tell me where mens spots are exept anal, its ...

A.   17 June 2010: Sexual pleasure exists in mind, is factual truth. Basing on this truth, the better thing for doing is to share him with totality. Allow your own mind to feel him totally. Allow your mind to meditate on sensual feeling and emotional feeling with ... (read in full...)

How can I make him forget about my past and focus on the present?

Q.   my boyfriend is finding out all about my past relationships and what i've done. these things im not proud of at all and i honestly don't have a reason why i did the things i did. he always gets mad at me whenever he remembers something he was once ...

A.   17 June 2010: Say him...past is dead. say him reason, that no one's mind can judge in advance that something is unworkable. That which is unworkable is dead. So, do not punish present over dead issues. Ask him to judge your present loving state of heart. Loving ... (read in full...)

Sexy stuff to do with your boyfriend?

Q.   What sexy things can i do for my boyfriend...and like what sexy things can i say to him...i dont want to have sex with him..just sexy stuff i can do for him. ...

A.   17 June 2010: Oh !!!...thanks and congratulation, for giving me the question, I usually struggle to seek on this site, to give my answer. I felt sorry, as I found very very to nil, such question. MY answer... First, you possess very unique desi... (read in full...)

My girlfriend had sex before we met!

Q.   HEY. Me and my girlfriend is together for 2 years and got engaged some time ago [e-mail address removed]. My problem is that I cant deal with the fact that she slept with four guys before we started dating. When I think of this I get so angry th...

A.   15 June 2010: If you love her is fact, than first think out the reason of your love for may not be exclusively related with sexual matter, but with her physical and intellectual personality, and emotionally the intimacy you have experienced with ... (read in full...)

How important is the "spark"? Can a relationship work without it?

Q.   I have a question about the "spark." For those of you who are in good stable happy relationship, do you still feel a spark after years and years of being together? I am wondering how important this spark is. I'm with a guy and we have admitted...

A.   7 June 2010: My understanding about 'spark' is this: Spark is sensual feeling, one felt during beginning of relation. Where sense of touch felt alive, and vibrant. Generally it is felt before physical intercourse became routine. As soon as physical intercourse ... (read in full...)

My heart is bleeding... he wants to be with someone else...

Q.   my heart is broken . i love this man. we have a son . he has two girls with this trampy slutty drug usin woman and i dont know why he chooses her over someone like me, im totaley the oppisit of her but she may be dieing from a tumor we found out ...

A.   5 June 2010: I have full sympathy for you. Your men is trapped by worst type of female. Only her death can free your men from her trap. Yes, she must be lier, and she too is trapped by some gang formed by similar type of mentality. I can understand your pai... (read in full...)

Why did I cheat on my boyfriend when everything is so perfect? What is wrong with me?

Q.   First of all let me start by saying that I already am aware of what I have done, I am not looking for comfort or criticism - what I have come here for is help or insight into my behaviour. I cheated on my boyfriend, I met someone through work las...

A.   31 May 2010: Perhaps this knowledge can help: Sexual spark or attraction is common is always there...but what intellectual human mind need to feel is spiritual spark...once human mind feel spiritual spark..then he gained the ability to have self ... (read in full...)

He wants me to do sexual things and I don't want to.

Q.   My boyfriend found out that i have had sexual activities in the past, and he wants me to do sexual things with him. I don't want to, but I feel bad not doing anything because I know he reallyy wants it! I feel horny at times, but when it actually ...

A.   20 May 2010: Your attitude is right. Do not go straight for sexual thing, but allow sex desire to be as horny as possible, as high as will notice the quality of life with this attitude. ... (read in full...)

Should I see if the other guy can satisfy me?

Q.   I`ve had three lovers in my life and the biggest of the three was my ex hubby just at 5inches and 5inches in girth before my bf now witch is almost 4inches long and 4.5 around. I noticed the difference the first time he put it in and I was let ...

A.   18 May 2010: All discussion about size? I feel sorry because such discussion will not through any light on most important aspect of sexual activity. Just check,.. Sex is pleasure giving activity,... than it must have 'cause'. Some quality must work as cause, ... (read in full...)

Is my age, my attitude, or just the men?

Q.   Hello. I read all these wonderfull answers, and decided that i need an answer to the question that i have on my mind for the past few years. I am relatively young woman in my early forties. I look very good for my ages, at least this is what i'v...

A.   18 May 2010: I read your post many time...I have to because it present totally new situation, unknown to many...This came from female,... What I have to say is this: Now it is not, it cannot be the question of particular male or particular female's attitud... (read in full...)

I want to begin a new life with my new man but I cant move on from my ex!

Q.   I am a divorcee with a son.I fell in love with my best friend's boyfriend. Having known my best friend for years, I knew how hard she presses her boyfriends when it comes to relationships. She forces things outta them e.g to go out, to spend time ...

A.   18 May 2010: Oh !!! Dear, you are so simple and so straight forward and soooo honest....greatest quality you possess, in such fraudulent culture!!!! here your saying is proof of your simplicity..what hurts me is that, he had so many complains about his girl... (read in full...)

Does this prostitute have feelings for me or is she just using me for money?

Q.   I have meet a prostitute and enjoy her company immensely, her being a prostitute does not bother me, i am married not happly married, and prefer her company allthough it is on occaisionally, i think she likes me. the only thing when we go out out ...

A.   17 May 2010: Prostitution is a trading of 'sex', like other trading, sex is also trading, and it can be good and bad trading...but it is TRADING...It is a service to customer... customer can be a good or bad from the stand point of 'sellers'...The language of ... (read in full...)

Husband is about to cheat. Please help me make the right decision.

Q.   Hi. I am married 13 years. I married my high school sweetheart. we have been together for 25 years. We have only had sex with each other. My husband recently turned 40 and feels he has missed out on something, specifically sex with other women. ...

A.   15 May 2010: What you [as a couple], really need is romantic life with all colors, musics, poetry, dialog...etc, which once you may have possessed. Develop some common hobby like music painting etc that will provide you new and fresh context for freshness. Most ... (read in full...)

Is it normal to be aroused by the thought of other men when you're in love

Q.   I've been in a relationship with my man for nearly 7 years now and we are due to get married in another year. I love him a lot and we have great sex. But for most of our relationship I have found myself repeatedly tempted by other men. I have nev...

A.   15 May 2010: After reading your post I feel relaxed, as my personal conclusion is getting support. It is said that male feel female's body as stimuli in very generous context, where as female, contrary to male, has no such tendency. My conclusion is that female ... (read in full...)

What I see in my police job makes me afraid for my own kids

Q.   I am a father of 3 teenage children 1 son and 2 daughters (13, 15 and 16) I am also a police officer. Over the past year we have been called to many parties with underage drinking/and or fights and once we got there we found live sex, orgies, group ...

A.   12 May 2010: I appreciate this post as most important, because this sexual activity is observed by police officer, not by any orthodox mind. This posts demand some moral statement, which I am going to present here. The heart of this posts is presented by this ... (read in full...)

How can I get my wife to be more sexually suggestive?

Q.   I am a soon to be 47 year old male, and I would greatly appreciate some insight in regard to my current situation. I have been married now for 7 years (second marriage) and I have always had a strong sex drive, and still do. Sex is very important ...

A.   11 May 2010: dear friends, I have read from romantic writers, who collectively express the view against marriage-that marriage is deathbed of romance. I truly want to correct your idea about romance. Everything is romance that excite desire. A good poetry, ... (read in full...)

I told him I had a problem with porn, now I watch it myself

Q.   Thank you for taking the time to read this. I'll get to the point. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year. I love him very much. Each passing day I want and need and taste for him. I have had many abusive relationships. I told him that I ...

A.   8 May 2010: In the heat of sexual is your exact description,...'When I am in that heat of the moment I get very into it. But as soon as it goes away. I am very disgusted with myself. I hate myself. I know I am not okay with any of these situations ... (read in full...)

Just got married to a wonderful man, but I'm in love with my best friend

Q.   *OP's own title* Hello Cupid, I'm extremely conflicted, I just got married to an amazing guy who I love like a friend (he feels the same way but we have four kids so it seem to be the right thing to get married). Here is the issue, I have been i...

A.   8 May 2010: You can crate your own mapping. The best friend is high spiritual ideal, and allow in your mind to live like high ideal only, which is unapproachable but worship able like god. Human choice cannot follow social ideal all the time, is my vision s... (read in full...)

How can I marry the man I love when my family is against it?

Q.   I stay in Mumbai, India. I have got engaged with one guys but I don’t want to marry with that person as I love some else who is married person and has 1 child but he is divorced. I have informed them about this to my parent they are against it they ...

A.   8 May 2010: A family- is emotionally more powerful force. In orthodox society, a Individual is not marrying to another individual, but a individual is marrying to a family, and family is unit of what we call 'society'. So, marriage is not a spiritual event in... (read in full...)

After six months there is no passion in my marriage

Q.   We are married for 6months. I no more find my husband passionate to me. These days he hardly speaks. Its happening from a month. Once I saw him watching some gals pics who were showing up their body. I felt disgusted. As life should move on I ...

A.   8 May 2010: It is only ignorance of your husband, he has really no ideas how to make life alive in relations, so he is dreaming. He think all the time about other female body romantically. But, such dreaming has nothing to do with life. He would be same person ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend is a gang member and the girls are passed he cheating on me?

Q.   hi =) Im madly in love with my boyfriend, he's just about everything i've ever wanted in a guy, he's my life. And he tells me the same, it seems like he does.He treats me better than anyone ever has, he calls me his "KWEEN" and treats me like 1... ...

A.   6 May 2010: I know that at your age it is difficult to see the difference between, pleasure of sex which has metaphysical nature, and it is confused with feeling of love, which develop with knowledge and intimacy and many more factors. What you describe... (read in full...)

We used to have sex 6 times a day and now its 4 times a week. I need more!

Q.   im so obbsessed with sex lately. im in a very good relationship over a year now, and my boyfriend cant keep up, all i have wanted to do lately is have sex and i dont understand why? at the beginging we used to have sex up to 6 times a day, now...

A.   6 May 2010: My Dear, I read your report [not question or a trouble ] many time, all responses many more time... You possess godly quality, so any guidance rooted from ordinary science and ordinary society will not give you light, your soul need. There is ... (read in full...)

I am very jealous of other women around my boyfriend but I am curious about having a threesome! Would it be a bad idea?

Q.   So iv been with my bf for 4 years we have a beautiful son and a really strong connection. were completely in love. Now about ME I am a super jealous babymomma. i have suspicions of somethings i think he might have done while i was pregnant but ...

A.   4 May 2010: Your thinking?! Or feeling ??!! Or Fantasy ???!!! Or...nothing, is full of contradiction, but good for time pass in asking and reading the answers of others...... (read in full...)

My dancing makes me unintersted in sex with my husband!

Q.   Ive got a really serious problem , Im a lap dancer exotic dancer in Australia , I love my job , make great money , and really love seeing the guys get all turned on with their Big erections that they can hardly control . The problem is my hu...

A.   2 May 2010: You say, you feel total release, means satisfaction during your dancing. You share customer's erection and feel total release...I think, your this experience of satisfaction with erection is great value in itself. To have sex with your husband means ... (read in full...)

Should I tell my boyfriend what happened in bed with his best friend?

Q.   What should I do ? , my b/f was out of town at a business function and we had a party down here , It was all good fun , with drink , music and Dance . When I was getting ready for bed I put on my favorite skimpy nighty and jumped in bed , ...

A.   2 May 2010: Your following statement record some important meaning. 1.'But feeling his errection poking into my night dress really turned me on ...' 2. 'Its more about the fact that I felt his errection and played on it to keep him hard , I really enjoyed... (read in full...)

Why does the man blame the woman?

Q.   why does a man do something wrong and then try to turn it around on the woman instead of making up?...

A.   2 May 2010: In sexual matter... yes you are right as human mind has yet not achieved evolution completely or socially. Human mind still choose to see the thing from perceptual level, and do not choose to develop his conceptual faculty. At least, modern human ... (read in full...)

He had a sly errection ..what did I do ??

Q.   Hi everyone , Im a little confused over an incident that occured recently . There was a group of us going out for dinner and my boyfriend was driving ..we were one seat short , and seeing Im the smallest I jumped onto a male friends lap in th...

A.   1 May 2010: What you describe is 'power of sex'...yes it has that much power, it is like 'fire', it represent 'reason'...I am not going to condemn you like others but...invite your attention towards your 'will power'...which is creative, which make judgement, ... (read in full...)

Confused about my feelings for my best friend's husband!

Q.   hi.i have best friend.she loves me a lot and so does her husband.i am haapily married but have feelings for my best friends husband and so does he feel the same.also my friend is aware of this and doesnt mind if there is an affair between ...

A.   26 April 2010: There is a difference between 'feeling for relationship' and 'feeling that includes DESIRES. Do you understand the meaning of DESIRE? Then check, is there any element of desire in your own mind? It is easy and simple to check one's own mind the... (read in full...)

Is it normal for me not to go ahead and sleep with other women when she says it's ok?

Q.   I don't know what to make of this. I have only had sex with one woman. She and I are together and we plan on getting married. Although we haven't set a date we are serious. She has had sex with seven other guys before. She keeps telling me ...

A.   26 April 2010: As a couple you both create very thinkable point. I also feel the question why? Why she suggest you to have sex with other? Surprisingly, she think in terms of reason also from the experience of her is this...," She said she [mother] ... (read in full...)

I woke up and found she'd left me taking the 2 kids with her...

Q.   I really dont know what to do any more, and I need help. I have 1 son with my partner and I have brought up her other son from birth as my own, cos at one point we split up and slept with someone and got pregnant but since then we sorted things out ...

A.   25 April 2010: The feeling you express here, is needed to communicate to her heart, and you will have your partner back, but it is also sure that you cannot valued her presence, as you now valued her absence. Such one is negative attitudes towards values itself. ... (read in full...)

Do women enjoy sex as much as men?

Q.   I an always wondering cause ladies have different answers.. Do ladies love sex as much as men if not more?...

A.   24 April 2010: The question is not is asked from ancient time to this days...but you will not get its true answer- neither from female, nor even from male!!! Not because the question has no answer, but because call from wrong person. If you or anybo... (read in full...)

I just had a horrible "first time", or what should have been. I'm too hurt to move on, what do I do?

Q.   "Wow, hun...You're so much smaller than my ex...I'm sorry." That's what she told me when we were just about to...yeah Then she got up, apologized, and left quietly. I felt so terrible after, I actually cried lol. We don't see each other anymore. ...

A.   24 April 2010: You are MOST UNLUCKY- not in a sense what you got from nature, but what you got from society, specifically porn cultured society. Unfortunately you partner's mind is created by such porno culture that focus only on particulars and not on universa... (read in full...)

How can I tell him rough sex hurts sometimes???

Q.   Me and my boyfriend are in a relationship of 3 years, we have sex very often, all the time he likes having rough sex and I don't know how to tell him that he hurts me sometimes without making him feel bad? What do I say?...

A.   23 April 2010: With calm and cold mind, you have to be communicative. Here is your dialog; Sex must be as soft as flower, so the method one choose must not be hurting but pleasuring. Hurting is the proof that method so employed is mistaken, and required immediate ... (read in full...)

Do girls care about circumcision?

Q.   I m uncircumcised I don't know if it's going to be a problem ,i got pretty good size 9 inch and i can pull my forskin back pretty long way and it's not causing me any issues in bed ,and all women have a great pleasure during sex. Since now no women ...

A.   21 April 2010: Male or female care about having sex with greater love-respect-admiration and all, and all the rest is only minor details for which all sort of compromise is possible.... (read in full...)

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