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writes:hi alli am getting married in five weeks time last week me and partner had a big fight due to the stress of it all and fri night he was not feeling well so i went out on the lash and got talking to a guy we chatted nothing else and went clubbing my mother has found out cos i told her and now she says she is disgusted with me and basically ia m a w***e even though i did nothing with the man , my man has no issues wit it he trusts me now my mother is talking of not coming to the wedding i dont know what to do please help!!
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (28 July 2008):
 This is between you and your fiance. If he does not have a problem with it, so be it.
Plan your wedding anyways. If your mother does not come, it will be her loss.
However, I do beleive she will attend. Afterall, if she is worried about what the neighbors would think, the same principle applies to HER too if she does not attend.
BTW, I do think it was inappropriate to be clubbing with another man weeks before your wedding, so I can understand your mother's concern, and surprised that your fiance does not have a problem with it. Being married is different from being single or just dating. I think you need to clarify your expectations with your fiance (will he be looking forward to spending time with female friends clubbing after you are married to him?). It is a potential red flag.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2008): i have tried talking to her several time and she is not interested just calls me selfish how could i do it and waht will the neighbours think i am at a complete loss
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reader, CGL0527  +, writes (28 July 2008):
 As long as you did nothing malicious, it's ok. As for your mother, she probably has issues with it. Maybe you should talk to her or something, that tends to ease things a bit.
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