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writes:I've been talking to a girl EVERY DAY for the past 5 months or so. Most of the calls came from her, and we talk for hours. We never went a day without talking.About 2.5 months ago, I admitted to her that I was in love with her (wrote a long letter). Even after that, we still talk every day and she doesn't try and "throw me away."Here's the problem. She's 23, I'm 18. She has a boyfriend right now who she always tells me doesn't give her the love that she needs, doesn't give her the 100% she gives in a relationship. She opens up to me about everything, regardless of me loving her or not.She has plans to leave her boyfriend also. While that looks good for me, she always tells me that she doesn't know where to find someone who can give her the love she needs, even after I told her that I can. A while ago, she told me that she can't see me more than a friend, and she knows that it hurts me to talk to her and see her this often. I love her to the point where I can't even function anymore, I can do absolutely nothing without the thought of her. She's tearing my heart out right in front of me.This is in relation to this question:http://www.dearcupid.org/question/ive-fallen-completely-in-love-with-her-like.htmlWhat can I do to show her how much I love her, and that I can be the one to give her the love and support she needs? How can I get her to overlook the age difference between us? Am I not seeing some sign from her? Why, even though she knows it hurts me, is she still talking to me so much?Any other advice I can follow? I really feel like I can't let her go, and I don't want to let her go or forget about her. The feeling is so much more intense than my past relationships, which I didn't have much trouble getting over.Thanks guys
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (27 July 2008):
 Age will not be the issue. If she says it is, she is using that as the excuse to not hurt your feelings. It means that she just does not see you as a lover material.
It is easier for her to say "I don't date men younger than me" instead of "You don't turn me on".
If you address her emotional needs, she will date you no matter what the obstacles.
Is her boyfriend a jerk? If so, my other lecture: How To Steal Her Away From A Jerk might be better for you. Read the reviews of it here:
http://www.lulu.com/content/2409141
-Frank B Kermit
author of From Friends To Lovers
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI was thinking of doing just that, taking a break from her.
The only thing that I feel puts me in a different position is the fact that there's 5 year age difference between us. How can I get her to overlook that in the future, after she breaks up with her current boyfriend?
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reader, Frank B Kermit +, writes (27 July 2008):
I did a lecture on exactly this topic called: From Friends To Lovers: Stop Being Her Emotional Cookie Man.
You are currently in the category of her brain that makes her see you as a friend. She will never date you until you change that.
1-Stop being her therapist
2-Take a break from her UNTIL she breaks it off with the boyfriend
3-Learn about her emotional needs, and how to address them
Once you have learned about her emotional needs and how to address them..
let her back into your life and make her your girlfriend.
You are trying to logically prove to her she should date you, and this is EMOTIONAL decision.
You can read reviews of my lecture that has the steps and information you need: http://www.lulu.com/content/2440004
-Frank B Kermit
Author of From Friends To Lovers
http://www.lulu.com/content/2440004
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