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| Latest articles: Off Limits Dating
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: Is Someone Off Limits for Dating? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Mastering the art of dating requires a number of skills such as being socially calibrated, effective communication and knowing what you want. One of the areas that comes up for ...
How to Deal with a Toxic Person
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: The Best Way To Deal With Toxic People By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Toxic people are defined in this article as people who lack the capacity to reason, or people have the capacity to reason but just do not want to reason with you. In t...
A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce
No replies yet... 31 August 2013: A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships One of the ironies of couples counseling that I often find myself doing is taking the couple through the pre-marital coaching process when they may already be...
A Frank Comment on Miley Cyrus
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31 August 2013: A Frank Comment On Miley Cyrus By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I do not normally comment on the antics of popular culture, as so much of what we see of movies and TV are fiction based romances and relationships. I tried my best to stay fo...
The Wedding Speech
No replies yet... 26 July 2013: The Wedding Speech Remember this day, your wedding day. Not for the dresses and suits, not for the extravagance, nor the dinner and dancing, but remember your wedding day because of the reasons you chose to marry your spouse. Remember who is it that...
Sexually Incompatible Couples
No replies yet... 19 July 2013: Sexually Incompatible Couples Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship. However, couples who love each other dearly and connect on so many levels, but whom are sexually incompatible tend to find that sex can be at the core of a numb...
Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2
No replies yet... 28 June 2013: Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2 Separation does not automatically lead to divorce unless you let it. It is up to you and your partner to put in the work so that it does not happen. In the event you are the only one trying to work on yourself and ...
Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2
No replies yet... 22 June 2013: Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2 One of the most damaging actions an individual can take is to start dating someone new when going through a separation with their serious long term partner (spouse, common-law partner or a defacto-union). When I use ...
The Frank Break Up Formula
No replies yet... 14 June 2013: The Frank Break Up Formula By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Breaking up with someone is rarely an enjoyable or pleasant experience. In fact, there are those individuals who stay in less than satisfying relationships, and even can go all the ...
The Frank Romance Formula part 3 of 3
No replies yet... 8 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 3 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 of 3
No replies yet... 3 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future
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3 May 2013: The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships The future is where actual seduction takes place. That is the key to seduction. It has very little to do with turning someone on when you see them. I...
The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons
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27 April 2013: The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Sometimes life will slap you down when it has a lesson to teach you. For some people, the slap may be a light swat, and for others the slap has to be a severe smack down. ...
Dating With Disabilities
No replies yet... 5 April 2013: Dating With Disabilities by Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I once went on a date with a woman that had severe food allergies. We went out to a movie and I wished she had told me ahead of time. Although she mentioned that she was deathly all...
Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen
No replies yet... 21 March 2013: Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Rejection is the worst best thing that can ever happen to you. Managing rejection is a necessary part in managing your love life. Over the course of your ...
Things they do not tell you about having kids
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15 March 2013: Things They Do Not Tell You About Having Kids By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I always try to be very practical and realistic in my articles. This can come across very negative, given that my topic is Relationships (and all things relative...
When Friendship Is Meaningless
No replies yet... 8 March 2013: Friendship Is Meaningless Stop Hanging Out With Friends Who Sexually Reject You By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Friendship is meaningless. There I said it. Now before you shoot one of your nasty emails to the editor, actually read this colum...
Who Cares What People Think? Depends...
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1 March 2013: How Much Should You Care About What Other People Think? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships T here will be times when we want to do something in our lives that is meaningful to us. It could be a decision related to abandoning education, wh...
Learn How to Choose the Right Fights!
No replies yet... 21 February 2013: Pick And Choose Your Fights By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Fighting in relationships is normal. The issue is not whether you fight. The issue is HOW a couple fights. Do they talk out their disagreements? Do they wait until they are alon...
Starting Over After V-day?
No replies yet... 14 February 2013: Starting Over? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Valentine’s day can be a day of reckoning for some people. Meaning, the events leading up to, on the day of, and afterwards can really wreck your life. This is one of the reasons I often refer to...
A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best
No replies yet... 6 February 2013: A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best By Frank Kermit, Relationships At my weekly relationship workshop last Saturday I issued one of my famous “Frankisms” that seemed to really resonate with the attendees. I was trying...
Asking Hard Questions
No replies yet... 1 February 2013: Asking Hard Questions By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships When trying to decide if you should be committed to someone, moving in with someone, getting engaged, and getting married, each new transition brings about the unpleasant task of askin...
Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix
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24 January 2013: Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix By Frank Kermit, Relationships If you ever had sex with someone that is about to get married, and have been invited to the wedding, do not go. This is especially true if the spouse-to-be feels uncomfortable havi...
Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy
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16 January 2013: Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Couples who are experiencing a transition in the status of their relationship may sometimes look to explore new ways of redefining their sex lives b...
Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships
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13 December 2012: Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships As the holiday season approaches, invitations begin to swarm in for get-togethers from family, friends and even office parties. It is a time of people coming together, and in some ca...
Couples in Transition
No replies yet... 29 November 2012: Couples in Transition By Frank Kermit, Relationships When a couple is going through a change in the status of their relationship they are a couple in transition. This includes couples that are transitioning from monogamy to non-monogamy, from no...
Your Home Is Your Seduction
No replies yet... 15 November 2012: Your Home Is Your Seduction By Frank Kermit, Relationships Your date is coming over to your place! You have seen each other a couple of times already, but this is different. This is YOUR PLACE, not some coffee shop or movie theatre or restaur...
The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey
No replies yet... 6 November 2012: The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey By Frank Kermit, Relationships The movie of your life is how we each envision our lives unfolding throughout our life span. This concept goes beyond simple fantasizing of what your life would be like. Writing ...
What Love Masks by Frank Kermit
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2 November 2012: What Love Masks By Frank Kermit, Relationships A mentor of mine taught me that love is not blind; it is just that categories are rigid. When you meet someone, you put that person in a category (lover, friend, temptation, fling, does-no...
The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work: An Article About EFT and Weight Loss
No replies yet... 2 November 2012: The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work An Article About EFT and Weight Loss I have a confession. I used to daydream about food. You know that point in the day when someone catches you; your head in your hands, that dreamy look on your face? If so...
Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type?
No replies yet... 1 November 2012: Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type? By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all have our “type”. By “type” I am referring to that type of person each of us is madly attracted too. Each of us has our preference of what we like, what turns us on, ...
Is there such a thing as Happily Single?
No replies yet... 19 October 2012: Is there such a thing as Happily Single? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Is being single really that bad? After all, when a person considers the amount of pain that a relationship or casual dating can cause, it may seem that just skipping the w...
Be Thankful For a Broken Heart
No replies yet... 11 October 2012: Be Thankful For A Broken Heart By Frank Kermit, Relationships Ok, I hate this. I really hate this part of the process. However, it is a necessary part of the process, and if I am expected to help encourage others to do it, first I have to demo...
Stop Talking About Your Ex On Dates!
No replies yet... 5 October 2012: Stop Talking So Much About Your Ex By Frank Kermit, Relationships So you are on a date with someone new. You are excited. You are nervous. You hope that this is finally going to be the one. You meet. So far, you both like what you see. This...
Dating in Social Circles
No replies yet... 29 September 2012: Dating In Social Circles By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dating can be tricky. Does the other person like you the way you think he or she might? Do you really like that person enough to get more serious, or do you want to keep it more casual a...
Frank Guide to Speed Dating
No replies yet... 21 September 2012: Frank Guide To Speed Dating By Frank Kermit, Relationships Every way to meet someone new is a good way. Though friends, through the Internet, blind dates, approaching someone you want to meet, at a workshop, matchmaking companies, business conv...
Relationship Goal Setting
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15 September 2012: Relationship Goal Setting By Frank Kermit, Relationships Setting goals in most areas of your life can be challenging. When it comes to relationships, there are even more challenges. Whereas in other areas of your life such as education, emplo...
Battling The Savior Complex in Relationships
No replies yet... 6 September 2012: Battling The Savior Complex By Frank Kermit, Relationships As children, many of us grew up on stories about the hero that saves a person, and in the process, earned the undying love and loyalty of the person saved so that the hero and that saved ...
Get Out Of Your Own Way!
No replies yet... 30 August 2012: Get Out Of Your Own Way By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest obstacles that a person can have as an obstruction on their path of finding happiness, peace and healing for their love life, is themselves. Although most people wou...
Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow
No replies yet... 26 August 2012: Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow By Frank Kermit, Relationships Young adults tend to discount how the choices they make today will impact their futures tomorrow. At least, when it comes to relationships. The bes...
Are You A Partner Or A Liability?
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17 August 2012: Are You A Partner Or A Liability? When it really is you and not them By Frank Kermit, Relationships “It’s not you, it’s me.” Have you ever heard that said to you when someone broke up with you? Have you ever been the one to use it when dump...
The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships
No replies yet... 9 August 2012: The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships There are 7 certain words that catch many people off guard when it comes to relationships. They are: Lust, Love, Sex, Dating, Commitment, Marriage, and Monogamy. ...
Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss.
No replies yet... 20 July 2012: Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss By Frank Kermit, Relationships Are you too nice when it comes to relationships? Do you walk on eggshells because you do not want to upset your partner? Are you reluctant to enforce your bounda...
Re-Establishing Trust in a Relationship Article
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12 July 2012: Broken Trust Takes More Than Time To Re-Establish By Frank Kermit, Relationships Trust is one of the most important components of a relationship. Love is a great start, but it takes more than loving someone, or being loved by someone, to make ...
Understanding Emotional Needs
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4 July 2012: Understanding Emotional Needs: What We Respond To Versus What We Should Like By Frank Kermit, Relationships Emotional needs are about what a person responds to. It has nothing to do with what a person should like. We all should be attracte...
Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date
No replies yet... 29 June 2012: Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date By Frank Kermit, Relationships When you are on a date, and the person you are getting to know says or does something that triggers a well-honed instinct that you need to stop dating that person, you hav...
The Art of Storytelling on a Date
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Art of Storytelling: Make or Break A Relationship Happy Ending By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the challenges that people face when they go on dates is that they may not factor in that others will not understand what they are trying ...
Swinger Beginner Advice
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Swinger Beginners: Keep it Out of the Work Place By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dear Frank, My husband and I recently returned from a business trip/vacation where a few of my husband's co-workers also brought their wives. We really hit it o...
When your Ex becomes a symbol and you can't get over it
No replies yet... 13 June 2012: When Your Ex Becomes A Symbol Relationship Symbolism of Why You Are Still Hooked By Frank Kermit, Relationships We are surrounded by the power of symbols. A symbol is more than just a design we recognize; symbols are a means of making meaning. ...
Ally Vs Enemy: Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men
No replies yet... 9 June 2012: Is She His Ally or His Enemy? Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men By Frank Kermit, Relationships The best way I know how to teach people about the emotional needs of men is to break it down to absolute fundamentals. If people can und...
Dating After A Break Up - Just How Long Should You Wait?
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1 June 2012: Dating After Breaking Up? The Sooner The Better By Frank Kermit, Relationships “How much time should I wait before I start dating again?” is a common question that I get asked from someone that has just recently gotten dumped, and still sufferi...
Relationship Redemption: How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure
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23 May 2012: Relationship Redemption How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all make mistakes in life. If you have ever tried to get into a relationship, are in a relationship, or are recovering from a relationship, ...
Finding The Meaning Of Your Life And Relationships
No replies yet... 15 May 2012: The Meaning of your Relationships Starts With The Meaning Of Your Life By Frank Kermit, Relationships Contemplate your death. No seriously. In order to make meanings of your relationships past, present and those you will have in the futur...
The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women
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10 May 2012: The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women By Frank Kermit, Relationships A woman can only play one of two roles in a man’s life. She is either his mother or his lover. She cannot be both. When a man addresses a wom...
Moving To The Next Level: Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships
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1 May 2012: Moving To The Next Level Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest mistakes people make in relationships is to promote someone up the hierarchy of commitment that has not really earned it. I...
Beware Your Friends when it comes to love
No replies yet... 15 April 2012: Beware Your Friends They May Not Want You To Be Loved By Frank Kermit, Relationships Mistakes Singles Make # 6… Seeking the approval of friends that influences your love life choices. Love may come and go, but a friendship can last a lifetim...
Are Relationships Worth The Risk?
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8 April 2012: Relationships = Risk But is it really worth it? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Given that there is so much risk in getting involved in relationships, or having sex for that matter, is it at all worth it to even bother? After all, a broken hear...
Tattoos and Relationships
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24 March 2012: Beware The L-I-N-K Of (L)ove and (INK) By Frank Kermit, Relationships While at a coffee shop a few weeks ago, I met a tattoo artist. He had his son’s name tattooed on his hand, and being the ever-inquisitive one, I asked him about his profession...
Open Relationships and Infidelity
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17 March 2012: Open Relationships Do Not Always Stave Off Infidelity By Frank Kermit, Relationships Some people believe that one of the surest ways to guarantee fidelity is to only do open relationships. The premise is that people only cheat in monogamous ...
What is a Relationship?
No replies yet... 10 March 2012: What is a Relationship? Is best defined by what it’s NOT By Frank Kermit, Relationships Over the years, I have been asked a number of times “What is a Relationship?” This is a harder question to answer than most people think. In my experience,...
Engaged! Now what?
No replies yet... 19 February 2012: Pre Marital Disclosure What you don’t know, you must know By Frank Kermit, Relationships Valentines day has come and gone. Some relationships have started. Some relationships have ended, and some relationships have proceeded to the next le...
Making Monogamy Work
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5 February 2012: Making Monogamy Work By Frank Kermit, Relationships Monogamy is easier than open relationships, because the rules are simpler...but the application of the rules of monogamy is not as easy. Monogamy works for monogamous people...however...
Single Parent Dating, Not Just a Single Issue
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3 February 2012: Single Parent Dating – More Than Just A Single Issue By Frank Kermit At least 40% of marriages end in divorce. Depending on the study you read, the percentage can be higher. Even though the break down of families continues, the drive that ma...
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Why can't women have young lovers?
Q. I am an attractive 40 year old woman currently in a relationship with a 24 year old strapping young jock. We initially hit it off as friends while playing on a co-ed softball team together. Then went out with a group and ours eyes met and have been ...
A. 26 September 2009: Woman can have young lovers. Some woman however just can not give themselves what they want. Maybe it is an issue of if you feel you deserve it?
In terms of how society regards older women and younger men, the issue is that most people feel com... (read in full...)
Am a lover? Or his mother?
Q. I am sittin here angry....why becoz I have a Man (boy) in my house that thinks he is my boyfriend. However, we have as often a nun and a monk....and he does not work, I cook, I clean, I do it all...as he sits and watches, doing his thing....we use ...
A. 26 September 2009: A woman can either play one of two roles in any man's life:
mother or lover.
She can not be both.
A man sees woman as either one of two roles in his life:
Ally or enemy.
The conflict here is that a woman resents being his mother, when she wan... (read in full...)
I get turned on when my g/f talks about her past sexual encounters
Q. I am 39 and my gf is 38 and I don't know if I am a freak or got some serious problems but I get turned on when my girlfriend tells me about her past sexual encounters. It is something that I have been dealing with for awhile and I just dont know ...
A. 26 September 2009: The answer will be found in the book: Sperm Wars.
Basically, you are channeling what most experience as sexually jealousy, and using that energy to fuel your own orgasm.
Based on the premise that when a man senses his female lover might have... (read in full...)
Visit my son in jail? Or write a letter telling him how his behavior is affecting the family?
Q. My son ended up in jail, after several probation charges with shoplifting and others, to support his drug habits. Now it is the 10 th year of this struggle. We tried to help him,many many times. Right now ,I'm hesitating if I should visit him in j...
A. 25 September 2009: Visit him once to tell him what you need to tell him to get closure.
I would not write letters because other inmates often have access to the letters and return addresses. Not safe.
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Torn between 2 girls, part of me wants them both but know I can't do that!
Q. Hello all, I'm really in need of some impartial advice. I am 24 and I have been going out with a girl for over 3 and a half years now. Due to our locations and the hours we work we have only been able to see eachother once a week for the whole time ...
A. 23 September 2009: Sounds like she was in it for the drama. She wanted what she thought she could not have (because of the other girl). As soon as you became available, you became "too attainable" for the level of drama she was looking for.
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Seriously guys, why can't I get girls to show any interest in me? Please help me Cupid!
Q. Hi there, I'm writing to ask your advice on a problem that has remained unsolved for me since I was about 17. I'm 30 now! It's a pretty straightforward problem: I can't get a girlfrind, girls just don't seem to be interested in me. See? I told ...
A. 17 September 2009: In everything you said, you never talked about anything that would be on an emotional level. You are very straight forward, but I did not gather anything about you that describes your passions. You tell me what you do...but I want to hear WHY you ... (read in full...)
Torn between 2 girls, part of me wants them both but know I can't do that!
Q. Hello all, I'm really in need of some impartial advice. I am 24 and I have been going out with a girl for over 3 and a half years now. Due to our locations and the hours we work we have only been able to see eachother once a week for the whole time ...
A. 17 September 2009: Yes you can date two women at that same time. Best be honest about it though. Until you find someone that you would want to build a life with, and have tested her for that level of commitment, it is best to date as many people as possible to make ... (read in full...)
What's wrong with me? Why do guys always put me in the "friend zone"?
Q. Okay so I feel ridiculous for saying this out loud because Men do not validate you and your life but I feel like something must be wrong with me. I don't think I'm that cute or pretty (I mean I might have an ok face but I don't really like my body) ...
A. 17 September 2009: Do you only seek out men that are too shy to make the first move?
Do you ask out the men you like, or just wait for them to make the first move?
Have you ever rejected a man's advances?
Do you have a reputation of rejected men's advances?... (read in full...)
Should I tell her husband she was cheating on him?
Q. ok, so I was seeing a girl who lied to me...I later found out she was married. Apparently the husband was away overseas; she has gotten back together with him and has cut off all communication with me. My question is should I email/ tell the ...
A. 17 September 2009: If she is willing to lie to you and dump you, has it occurred to you that she would likely be willing to lie about you in order to protect her marriage?
For example, she might accuse you of raping her if she feels you would threaten her marriage... (read in full...)
Woman like bad boys??
Q. Hi. I was wondering about all the myths out there about women love a "bad boy" or a "jerk." Can this possibly be true over someone who is down to earth and nice instead of cocky and rude?...
A. 15 September 2009: Because jerks address women's emotional needs in indirect ways, where as nice guys only address her emotional needs partially and actually violate some of her key emotional needs that keep him "just a friend" instead of her lover.
At the heart of... (read in full...)
Flirting with me and yet found out she has a boyfriend
Q. okay. i am a 30 year old male. a few months ago i started going to the library to study for school a few days per week. this went on for a while. while i was going, a girl that works there started being really friendly with me. i could tell she was ...
A. 14 September 2009: First mistake you made is that you told your friend about your interaction with her. This means that if she actually was open to seeing you, she might not bother now, because you were not discreet (protect her reputation) and did not approach her ... (read in full...)
I am 25, a virgin and never kissed a girl. I am considering going to a hooker, is this a good idea?
Q. Well, i'm 25 and I have never had sex, even I have never kissed a woman. So I have alrady decided to pay a hooker. I'm very exited about that, but at the same time scared. Am I doing something good or at the contrary? All the time I was expecting ...
A. 13 September 2009: I did a special seminar for adult male virgins such as yourself. My advice is NOT to pay for it for your first time. It may satisfy the physical hunger, but it will never satisfy the emotional hunger.
The negative repercussions include using es... (read in full...)
I don't like sex, it's despicable, what do you think?
Q. I don't like sex, I never have and I don't think I ever will. I'm not asexual, I'm anti-sexual. For me, sex has a negative impact on a relationship not a positive. I think as a man, if you have a sexual relationships with a women they ...
A. 12 September 2009: Well, there are only two things that I can see here.
1-You are a virgin with no experience, and are making conclusions that are rooted in what you THINK is going to happen, not what has happened. (I have worked with alot of adult male virgins,... (read in full...)
I had a terrible accident 4 years ago and my girlfriend has looked after me, but now I find out she has been talking to a guy behind my back
Q. Hi‚ I,ve been in this relationship for 9 yrs and we live together. I was in an accident 4 yrs ago, I almost lost my life. She's been helping me with everything because I'm in a wheelchair, I have to learn to walk again but she been there for me. ...
A. 12 September 2009: She sounds exhausted.
Since you are at home, have you considered starting a home business through the computer, so that she does not have to work two jobs?
The kids (12 and 14) are in school right?
I wonder, when you both moved into the new ... (read in full...)
I'm 35 and she is 21, would people care about the age difference?
Q. I'm 35 and just signed my divorce papers to finalize my divorce. We were separated for almost a year and I found myself becoming friends with my neighbors. I was physically attracted to the one girl from the day I met her and she was the same. Since ...
A. 12 September 2009: Look, there will always be people that think you two should not be together. There will never be any union of two people that doesn't have other people against it for reasons such as age, jealousy, attractiveness, money, etc....
If you want to ... (read in full...)
Confessions of a Sexless Union, what do I do from here?
Q. My boyfriend hasn't had the desire to have sex with me in 2.5 years. I don't believe he's cheating on me, he's just gone off sex and affection. He's incredibly depressed about his station in life yet seemingly has no desire to better his position. ...
A. 12 September 2009: Your boyfriend is very depressed, and that is why he is not interested in bettering his situation. This is not an intellectual debate. He knows he could do something, he has simply lost the desire to do anything (including sex with you).
Talk ... (read in full...)
Why do men and women make it so hard to build a relationship together?
Q. Ok so this is really a question for men who have been through the same thing and women who have told a guy this and what it really meant for them. I'm in love with this girl for quite some time now. She is my best friend. so much so that I dont ...
A. 12 September 2009: One more thing...
having pre-qualifiers is important (I don't want to make it sound like they aren't) because the act of sex can end in a pregnancy.
When joining genes (or the potential for it), people have a right to be picky and have c... (read in full...)
My gay ex-boss wants to watch a movie together before the re-hire...
Q. I have an ex-boss who is considering hiring me again. He is gay and kinda tries to hang out all the time. He suggested he is renting a movie and we should watch it at my place before we get into the job thing. I'm scared but I need this job and ...
A. 12 September 2009: Unless you intend to date your boss, do not go. Let him know that you want to maintain a professional relationship since you will or may be in a position to work with him.
You don't want him to mistreat you? If that kind of abuse is even pos... (read in full...)
Why do men and women make it so hard to build a relationship together?
Q. Ok so this is really a question for men who have been through the same thing and women who have told a guy this and what it really meant for them. I'm in love with this girl for quite some time now. She is my best friend. so much so that I dont ...
A. 12 September 2009: In the case of ending up in the friend zone, the answer is that you addressed enough of her emotional needs that she likes you enough as a friend, but you fell neutral on or violated her emotional needs enough such that she does not want to be your ... (read in full...)
Why can't men commit to one woman?
Q. Y is it hard for men to commit.They act as if they are in a realationship but at the same time just not saying it.But if they see the women with someone else than they want to claim her but to a certain point. I was in a three relationship with this ...
A. 12 September 2009: Y is it hard for men to commit?
Two reasons:
1-Because legally, men have more at risk. The law is such that men suffer more in cases of separation and divorce, and many men have either been burned really bad, destroyed financially, or ... (read in full...)
Three way relationships. Help!!!
Q. Me and my Boyfriend have been together for about 5-6 months now and we have been getting on really well untill recently. My boyfriend once lived with his (ex) girlfriend and when they split up she moved out and she is still paying half the mortgage ...
A. 12 September 2009: If she is moving back into her HOME, it is likely that he is still with her, and they are trying to fix their relationship. Until they completely break it off (and that means SELL THE HOUSE), your best course of action is to stay out of it. Why ... (read in full...)
Am I the only one to fantasise about having sex, only clothed?
Q. hi , can you pls tell me whether women will enjoy sex when man is fully clothed.i am a man i like to be fully clothed with woman wearing short skirts and i enjoy very much when she grind,rub her thighs against my thighs which is fully clothed ...
A. 12 September 2009: Is it normal? Well, it is about as normal as most sexual fetishes. You have a fetish for being clothed during sex, and to be dominated by a woman. The being dominated part is common among some men, and the clothing part is the first I have heard ... (read in full...)
I've only ever had the one partner..and I'm fantasising about other men because of this..!
Q. Im having feelings for another guy, well more like fantasizing what it would be like to be with him and I feel badly because I have a boyfriend whom I've been with for a year and five months, and who I love very much. But he's the only guy I have ...
A. 12 September 2009: So, basically you love your boyfriend, and want to continue seeing him, but would like to experience sex with other people?
Have you looked into the swinger lifestyle? It is not for everyone, but if you move slow, it will allow for you BOTH to ... (read in full...)
Why do they give me their numbers if they don't want me to call?
Q. Hey I have a big problem..whenever I go clubbing and partying I always get numbers from women. On average I get about 3-5 numbers per night but whenever I call them they usually seem to be more than ready to not talk to me. What's going on here and ...
A. 12 September 2009: Just giving you a phone number in a club is no real indication of interest. In many cases they could be intoxicated, or just doing the "polite" thing. Unless you plan to have sex the same night you meet her in a club, take the assumption that it ... (read in full...)
Feeling ignored
Q. Im 37 and my girlfriend is 41. We have been dating for about 5 months and get along fine. However, I have noticed that her home life kind of distracts us from developing a solid relationship. She has two kids 17 and 20 who live with her (i dont have ...
A. 12 September 2009: You are right to be angry. It was your time to be with her, and her family interrupted that. But like you said you are too nice, and my guess is that you never told her what your boundaries are. I doubt you have ever even thought of your ... (read in full...)
How can I talk to my brother about my relationship and make him understand?
Q. I am 17 and am in a relationship with a girl who is older than me with 3 years,my senior brother knows about it but we dont talk about it,we come from a family that is highly religious and having a girlfriend is considered a sin. How can i talk to ...
A. 12 September 2009: Because of your religion, this makes the issue more difficult.
So, let me ask you this.
How would you treat a family member that is doing something that YOU find a sin, but that person feels is justifiable?
Next,
How would you want them... (read in full...)
Is love enough to keep our marriage together?
Q. My husband and i have been married since april 2008. We started talking jan 2008. Our relationship moved extremely fast. We have a baby together she was born april 2009. We have lots of issues and are trying to decide iof we should stay together. ...
A. 12 September 2009: i guess i have a couple questions.
1. is love enough to make this absolutly crazy relationship work.
Nope. Love alone is a great motivator, but it is not enough to make a relationship work. The reason is that you can love someone that is ... (read in full...)
My children are being kept away from me against my will by my mother-in-law
Q. I am 24 years old. I have been married to my husband since April 13, 2007 and dating him since October 24, 2005. We have 2 kids together. The oldest turned 3 April 5, 2009 (I was about a month pregnant already when I started dating my husband. He ...
A. 12 September 2009: It is time for you to do the right thing.
1-Go see a lawyer. If you can not afford one, go see one from legal aid. Can you talk to a lawyer through the army?
If you really can not find a lawyer to at least listen to your case, do your own res... (read in full...)
She knows I'm attracted to her and invited me to her house, does she want to hook up?
Q. girl who knows i'm attracted to her invited me over to her house while her parents are out of town. Does this mean she wants to hook up? we usually just hang out at bars, we slept in the same bed once at a party but just spooned....
A. 10 September 2009: Yes, it is very possible she wants to hook up.
However, now that she has made the invitation, it is up to you to make the first move.
When the time is right, lean in for a kiss. If she rejects you, you will know your answer. You have to be w... (read in full...)
How do you react when you break up but your ex wont give you the space to heal?
Q. you are dating someone and you break up and you don't have time to heal because they call you and act like nothing has changed and then they suggest to you to move in and act like roomates but they also say I love you and call you sweetheart and so ...
A. 10 September 2009: Cut the contact. When he calls, either do not answer the phone, or don't return the message. When he asks for a hug, say no. When he starts telling you things that prevent you from healing, cut him off in conversation, and verbally tell him that ... (read in full...)
I promised I'd never be around an ex, but it's either the promise or my best friend's wedding. What do I do?
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for 1 year now, and we continue to have the same problem, and it’s getting worse. I promised my girlfriend that we (or I) would never be around any of my x's back in January. Shortly thereafter my best friend and ...
A. 10 September 2009: Who do you see yourself having in your future 10 years from now?
Do you see yourself still in a relationship with your gf?
Do you see yourself being great close friends with your buddy?
BTW, didn't your buddy consider your feelings t... (read in full...)
He said he wanted group sex and now I havent seen him for a week
Q. Well I have a boyfriend of about 6 months or did have. He was so romantic when I first met him, really interested in getting to know me take me out on fantastic great dates. He was amazing and sex was amazing, he would always tell me I was the best...
A. 10 September 2009: Well, if he is bisexual, that might factor in a lot more than just a multi-partner lifestyle.
At the site of
http://www.franktalks.com/radio
I also have interviews with bisexuals (some in BDSM, some not) and that might give you some inform... (read in full...)
He said he wanted group sex and now I havent seen him for a week
Q. Well I have a boyfriend of about 6 months or did have. He was so romantic when I first met him, really interested in getting to know me take me out on fantastic great dates. He was amazing and sex was amazing, he would always tell me I was the best...
A. 10 September 2009: Well, if he is bisexual, that might factor in a lot more than just a multi-partner lifestyle.
At the site of
http://www.franktalks.com/radio
I also have interviews with bisexuals (some in BDSM, some not) and that might give you some inform... (read in full...)
He said he wanted group sex and now I havent seen him for a week
Q. Well I have a boyfriend of about 6 months or did have. He was so romantic when I first met him, really interested in getting to know me take me out on fantastic great dates. He was amazing and sex was amazing, he would always tell me I was the best...
A. 9 September 2009: Watching your partner have sex with another person can heighten a person's sexual attraction to their partner. For men, seeing his wife have sex with another man might make his own orgasm with her more intense (source: the book Sperm Wars). For ... (read in full...)
Every kind of relationship I have FAILS! Should I give up now, or could there still be hope?
Q. dear cupid, i am a complete and utter failure at every attemp of relationship i shoot for. whether that is a geunine relationship, fling, one night stand, or any thing not mentioned i crash and burn like the hindenburg and titanics bastard love ...
A. 9 September 2009: First to make a relationship work long term requires two people...it is not just you.
However, there are two things that I would recommend:
1-Choose girls not just on how she looks, but how she treats you. You might just be choosing the wro... (read in full...)
My sister is having an affair. Should I tell her lovers wife.
Q. My sister has been having an affair for over a year now. They are both married although only content in their marriages. I want to reveal the affair to his wife but do not want to reveal my sister's identity because she has young children in the ...
A. 9 September 2009: The most you should do is talk to your sister and set a boundary that you must never be used to help lie for her to see her lover, nor protect the secret of the affair.
It is not your business, AND, for that same reason, you should not be involved... (read in full...)
Should I encourage her to keep her options open or just stay out of it?
Q. A friend of mine has been with her boyfriend for a long time. She loves him and he loves her. They have issues though. I've told her they will never change because he is unwilling to change the drinking addiction he has. He is also unemployed ...
A. 9 September 2009: Stay out of it. She is an adult, and if she has not made the decision to help herself, the root cause that makes her stay with her current guy, are still going to be there. She will likely end up with another guy who has similar problems, no matter ... (read in full...)
Guys: What goes on in a cheater's mind?
Q. Does a married man fall in love with the other woman/have feelings for her or do they just go back with their wife and family as if nothing ever happened. I know they have made their choice of going back with their wife but for whatever little ...
A. 9 September 2009: If a man is truly miserable at home, he will leave his wife regardless if another woman is in the picture or not.
If a man has not already left his wife, it is likely he does not plan to.
A person who cheats (man or woman) does not always ... (read in full...)
We agreed that we'd break for the summer -- I'm a mess waiting for official word
Q. Myself and my girlfriend broke up about 3/4 months ago and i dont think im over it yet. we agreed to be friends, speak on the phone once a week and just try to get on as if nothing's happened, just minus the kissing, sex, closeness etc. ...
A. 9 September 2009: First of all,
"...cos when you've been so close with someone for 18 months they can't lie to you, especially if the relationship ended on good terms..."
Yes they can. Especially if lying to you would be in the name of sparing your hurt fe... (read in full...)
We planned to have this baby and try to make things work, but all of a sudden he wants me to have an abortion!
Q. Hi Guys, Just want some outside opinion on a tricky situation. I've been seeing a guy for a couple of months and last week we found out I am pregnant. I know it is iresponsible, but I don't want a lecture! We talked about it, and even though w...
A. 9 September 2009: I think the worst thing any people can do to a child is to bring a child into this world where it is not fully wanted, or will be cared for.
Using a child to bring a couple closer together does not work in the real world, because the problems... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is manipulative and talks badly of me to friends. What do I do?
Q. ok so i dont know what to do. Everytime me and my boyrfriend fight he always turns it around on me...he is very munipulative.We fight all the time and we live together. he tells me if i move out then he will break up with me. He says that all the ...
A. 9 September 2009: 1-Move out
2-Dump him
3-Dump your friend
4-Come to terms with why you would date and move in with a guy that is so manipulative to begin with, and why you would have a friend that would side with such a manipulator against you.
#4 is the r... (read in full...)
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