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Oh my god over a year on since i first joined this site (where has the time gone) and i'm still loving it.
I got alot of help from all of the fantastic aunts and uncles when i needed it most, it was great getting everyone else's views on my situation at the time and it's great to see that those same people are still here doing the same fantastic job.
Due to what i have been through and the advise i have recieved off of here i am a much stronger person now and have so much more confidence in myself.
I am turning thirty this year i have a wonderful husband, yeah we have had our problems but thats life, and two fantastic children and i really believe my life is starting now and i cant wait for the rest of it.
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He makes me feel insecure about myself and picks out things I hate myself for.
Q. he makes me feel insecure about myself, he sometimes picks out the things i hate about myself. he knows about this and his way of talking is to involve his d*ck and think it makes it all better. i told him it wont fix the problems or what im ...
A. 26 June 2007: What a bully this is emotional abuse and no one deserves to be treated like this, he has no right to use your insecurities in yourself as a tool for anything.
Get rid of him now and you will probably start to feel much better as he is just maki... (read in full...)
I want my friend, but she has a girlfriend--what can I do?
Q. Hi again, I recently posted a question title: "I got her to kiss me and now I don't know what to do". (please note I didn't force her to--she wanted me to lol). Basically, I really like my friend, and have the feeling she does me. I had some gre...
A. 26 June 2007: Like YummyMummy says the only way you can find out is just come straight out and ask her, at least then you will know and if it's not to be you can move on knowing you tried.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
She says she's confused, while I'm just hurting
Q. me and my girlfriend were dating for almost three months, and then we took a break. i still love her very much and really wish to go back out with her. she still loves me too and she even told me that she still loves me, the only problem is she's ...
A. 26 June 2007: I know you love her but you are young you are supposed to be enjoying yoyrself not worrying about relationships, if she wants you she will come back if not then just move on you are in the best place for finding a new girlfriend.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
My ex says she misses me and I think I feel the same but I have a new love interest
Q. My ex and I had a rough going of separate ways. After a month she has contacted me and told me that she misses me. I am currently seeing another woman... although not my girlfriend, we have went on a few dates. My ex has quite the past in drug...
A. 26 June 2007: If you still have feelings for your ex then is it really fair to be in a relationship with someone else right now.
Maybe you should take time out and decide what you want, when you spend some time on your own and have no contact with either of them... (read in full...)
How can I make him trust me so we can have a relationship?
Q. Dear Cupids I have a very frustrating relationship with my current "friend with benefits" I like this man, and want a real relationship with him, however he tells me that he won't let anyone in and won't trust anyone because he's been hurt too ma...
A. 26 June 2007: Of course he is going to tell you he is not taking advantge of you, because surely if he did say he was you would not want to see him anymore, everyone has sexual needs but some not the need to have a serious relationship for what ever reason.
I... (read in full...)
Jealous of my 'friend with benefits''' new boyfriend
Q. i feel like in a 3rd wheel. my friends with benifits has a boyfriend and at 1st i was cool with that. she knows i love her and she says she loves me too.i want to be more than just friends w/benifits but she wont dump her boyfriend. i know i cant ...
A. 26 June 2007: I see so many questions on here about 'friends with benefits' and i can't see why anyone does it bucause in every single case it turns out that one has fallen deeper than the other one and it just causes so much heartache.
If she does not want to h... (read in full...)
His mother won't approve of our two year relationship--should I end it?
Q. I am a 43 yr old Englishwoman. My boyfriend is 24 and from an Eastern European country. We work together and have lived together for over 2 yrs. We are totally in love but his mother doesn't approve of our relationship. Our problem (his mother) ...
A. 26 June 2007: Try putting yourself in his mothers shoes and think how you would feel, her son is in a different country living with a women who with no disrespect to you could possibly be the same age as herself, she is probably just concerned for him more than ... (read in full...)
He said he wants the space to be excited to see me again--should I worry?
Q. My b/f and I are in our 50's. We met a couple of months ago. We hit it off like a rocket. We felt that we have known each other for awhile, that is how comfortable we were and still is. He calls me several times a day. Not long ago he told me ...
A. 26 June 2007: He's still takes you out and he has asked you to leave you things at his place for the weekends and he tells you he loves you, it's still early days in your relationship and maybe everything happened a bit quick so i don't think there is a huge big ... (read in full...)
When I told her I liked her, she said she didn't want to lose me as a mate! How can I convince her to give us a try?
Q. I told a girl I like her and then we became close. But now if I say can we get together, she says she doesn't want it because she doesn't want to lose a good mate. How can I get her to see I'll always be there for her as a mate? And how can I get ...
A. 26 June 2007: If she has made up her mind there might be no way of convinceing her to give it a try, plus how can you be sure yourself that you will always be there for her as a friend, if the relationship was to end badly you may never want to see each other ... (read in full...)
I'm kind of embarrassed to ask, but how do I give him a hand job?
Q. Okay, so I've been dating this guy for several months, and he and I definately have very strong feelings fro each other. We were friends long before we were dating, so we know each other pretty well. Lately, we've been getting more...passionate, I ...
A. 26 June 2007: I'm sorry i can't help you but i personally think you are way to young to be concerning yourself with these sorts of problems, please take it from people that have been there childhood is far to short as it is without getting into this at your age, ... (read in full...)
I married him after 6 months only to feel secure - I feared that I wouldn't find anyone else. Now I'm so confused!
Q. Not Sure If I Should Stay With My Husband... My husband and I have been married for a little over 3 years now. We met at a stressful point in my life and he was a strong support for me. We only dated for about 6 months before getting married....
A. 26 June 2007: You are still young and should not stay in a marriage because you feel you have to, it's not fair on you or your husband and i'm sure your family would think better of you coming out and saying that it is not what you want rather than just trying to ... (read in full...)
My husband and his brother's wife had an affair. I feel his brother needs to know, but I don't want him to hurt as I do. Children are involved - what should I do??
Q. I found out my husband had an affair with his brother's wife. I am now going through a divorce. Learning about the affair has almost destroyed me. His brother knows nothing about the affair. I know my soon-to-be ex-husband and his broth...
A. 26 June 2007: I think he deserves to know the truth, but i think it should come from his wife as i think as painful as it will be it would be worse hearing it from someone else be it family or not.
Maybe if you still have a way of contacting his wife you coul... (read in full...)
I'm just about to turn 17 - is it possible that I'll have another growth spurt?
Q. Hi, I'm 16 turning 17 in august. I have a concern about my height. I'm just over 5ft 10 and wonder if I'll grow anymore, maybe to 6ft. The reason being is that there are some of my friends that are quite tall and I get a bit intimiated and e...
A. 26 June 2007: Your peak height is usually reached between the ages of 19 and 21 so there is a very good chance you still have some growing to do yet.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hates that I'm still affectionate with the father of my child--what can I do?
Q. I feel that my boyfriend of almost a year whom I love very much is trying to control me! I have a son from a previous BF and for the sake of my son he and I are friends. We are Hispanic and have a very close relationship so we kiss on the cheek and ...
A. 26 June 2007: No it's not at all inappropriate for you to act in this way with the father of your son, you feel that that is best for your son and he is the most important thing.
No matter how you feel about your boyfriend your son comes first and he needs to s... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hates that I'm still affectionate with the father of my child--what can I do?
Q. I feel that my boyfriend of almost a year whom I love very much is trying to control me! I have a son from a previous BF and for the sake of my son he and I are friends. We are Hispanic and have a very close relationship so we kiss on the cheek and ...
A. 26 June 2007: No it's not at all inappropriate for you to act in this way with the father of your son, you feel that that is best for your son and he is the most important thing.
No matter how you feel about your boyfriend your son comes first and he needs to s... (read in full...)
He will make my life hell if I break up with him!
Q. Hi Everyone, was wondering if someone could help me as i don't know what to do. Been with my bf for about 7 months, he became controlling and possessive to which we/he is/are getting help for. Over the weekend we had a really big argument which i...
A. 26 June 2007: He sounds like a bully when he is not getting his own way, what i think you should do is, if you have a good relationship with your family which by the way you are worried about their reaction to any thing he has to say sounds like you do.
Go and ... (read in full...)
I am jealous of how happy my ex and my friend are together!
Q. hiya. I recently decided to end it with my bf but now he is going out with a close friend of mine. I am finding it really hard to see them together. We are in the same group of friends which makes it even more difficult. Whenever i think about them ...
A. 26 June 2007: Just because you ended it does not mean you don't still care about him and yes i can see that with your friend being with him thats going to hurt even more.
These fellings will pass and the only thing i can suggest is maybe just for a bit you try ... (read in full...)
I havent seen him in a week and am feeling insecure
Q. okay, so i like a boy, he had a gf of like nine months, but she treated him horribly. We held hands cuddled you know the usual, but he still dated her. Sunday night he broke up with her, I know its gunna bother him, but i cant seem to understand why ...
A. 26 June 2007: Give him some time babe, like FoxyR said he probably needs abit of space and if his mother is ill he probably has alot on his mind at the moment if he likes you like he said he has i'm sure he will be in touch with you soon.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I'm 99.9% sure my brother's wife has a thing for one of our friends. Should I confront her while my brother is in basic training??
Q. My brother is in Basic Training for the Army. Before he left, his wife and him were joined together at the hip. Now I've been keeping an eye on her while hes gone. I'm like 99.9% sure shes got a thing for one of our friends, but I don't know what ...
A. 26 June 2007: I think maybe it would be a good idea to try and confront her about this after all he is your brother and although you may not be able to stop anything from happen if that is her intentions, she will at least know that you suspect something.
F... (read in full...)
I ended the relationship but it still hurts
Q. I am needing some words of support here. I just ended a relationship and have decided that no contact is the way to go. It is early days after the break up and I am still tempted to send an email or call. I have a challenging career and good friends ...
A. 26 June 2007: I have been through the same experience resently, and from my experience no contact is definately the best way forward it is much easier to get through it if you are not having any contact especially if you have a good support network of friends ... (read in full...)
My bf and his parents know that I'm 9 weeks pregnant, but how do I tell MY parents??
Q. Hi I need help breaking the news..... adive and tips I'm 9 weeks pregnant and going through a very tough pregnancy i developed hypertension and this could be come critical for me and the baby.I have told my bf about everything and the only other p...
A. 26 June 2007: Hey i think we all worry about telling our parents but i think that is probably due to the fact that most of them drum it into us throughout our childhood, we would be so disappointed in you if you got pregnant at too young an age. You are an adult, ... (read in full...)
I always inititate sex with my husband and he never does. When I try to talk about it, he refuses! I feel so alone.
Q. I need some advice. I dont mention this to my friends because people think we have the perfect relationship and it is, well almost.... I have been with my partner for two years, he is my dream man, when we first met and still to this day there is ...
A. 26 June 2007: It might be a possibility that he is suffering with depression, as it sounds from what you have said you have been through an awful lot in a short space of time.
I would forget the sex life he had before you two met as that was in the past so leav... (read in full...)
We know there will be problems but we just fell in love
Q. Hi, I'm 17 years old, and I just started a relationship with a man who is 26. We both knew that we probably should not have, but we fell in love. I need help but I'm not even quite sure what I'm asking. What sort of problems does this relationship ...
A. 26 June 2007: You do what you want to do and what ever makes you happy, any relationship can bring problems weather you are the same age or there is a gap but what really counts is how you deal with these problems if you work together and always talk to each ... (read in full...)
I get angry just looking at him
Q. why am i so angry at him everyday? we've been together for a year and some change now. and we have our arguments and sometimes when i look at him i get mad. he has this thing even if i ask he will take off without me and leave me at his house for ...
A. 26 June 2007: What you have said does not sound like very good foundations for a relationship let alone moving in together, maybe you should take some time out and see how you both feel after some time apart sometimes this can make you see what you have.
S... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking about this other guy! How can I split with my husband?
Q. hi, recently i've been having feelings for an ex, we have spent a bit of time together, problem is he has a girlfriend and i am married. I have been unhappy with my husband for quite a while now, long before this other guy came on the scene again....
A. 26 June 2007: No matter how complicated thing are going to be if you are not happy with your husband anymore then maybe you should leave, as that would be the fairer thing for both of you.
If your ex feels that strongly about you he will end it with his curr... (read in full...)
He's worried about the age difference, should I just end it?
Q. i am 16 turning 17 and i met a guy at a party. he is 21 turning 22 in 4 months. we have gone out a few times and i am beggininng to like him alot but i know he is freaked out about the age difference. sometimes he says it doesnt matter but other ...
A. 26 June 2007: As long as you are careful i don't see the problem with the age gap if you like each other me and my husband were exactly the same ages as you two when we met and i am now twenty nine and still with him.
Go with what you feel is right for you.... (read in full...)
Things with my bf of 7 months are going downhill quickly. We're on break now, but I'm not sure what to do with it anymore!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for about 7 months and we've had our fair share of arguments but we're very much in love, up until recently. We'd been pretty much living together until a couple of weeks ago when I decided to move home because of probl...
A. 26 June 2007: I agree with YummyMummy the lack of communication is only going to cause more problems and heartache, so sit down and decide what you both want from life rather than waiting to see what is dealt to you.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I'm worried that the pill will cause me to gain weight - I have a knee injury and can't exercise!
Q. I've been having severe break-outs on my face (acne/pimples) for the last 6 months. They are also very painful. I never had any problems with acne before. I also noticed that my periods have not been regular in the last 6 months. And very scanty ...
A. 26 June 2007: Weight gain is one of the side effects associated with the drug dianette 35, but if you are carful what you eat during the short period you need to take it for any small amount that you gain should be easy enough to lose after you have finished with ... (read in full...)
Broke up with him because the sex was too painful... should I give him another chance?
Q. Hi, I broke it off with my boyfriend because sex with him was extremely painful. It was my first time and i felt he was not as gentle as i would have liked him to be. We never even kissed for he said he hates kissing and there was no fore play. wh...
A. 26 June 2007: i personally don't think you should give him another chance, yes things do improve but he did not even have the decency to cuddle or kiss you first, he had absolutely no respect for you at all and when you are with someone they should take into ... (read in full...)
He sleeps with me but doesn't end his relationship--what do I do?
Q. Well, I'm gay, 20, and have fallen for this amazing guy who's exactly like me. We went on holiday for a month with 6 others (including his boyfriend) and well, on holiday we got to know each other more. We kissed and got really close. Once we came ...
A. 25 June 2007: You have to tell him it's him or me as you are no longer prepared to be the other man, if he really loves you he will chose to be with you.
Take care.xxx.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend cheated on me--what do I do now?
Q. My girlfriend cheated on me--we have been together 5 yrs, lived together for 3 yrs and now living apart until we find a house. She went away working and came back and confessed that she slept with someone...it was a one off she said. What do I do?...
A. 25 June 2007: Only you can decide what to do now.
Do you still want to be with her?
Can you still trust her?
Every body makes mistakes not that i am justifying what she has done to you, but sometimes we just get caught up in the moment.
In some ways at lea... (read in full...)
I'm still concerned about how to tell my teacher that I'm sorry for bullying them.
Q. Hello, I am writing again about the teacher I bullied and Im scared to say sorry because it has been so long. Im scared to get in trouble for talking to her though. She may freak out if I approach her. I have lost all my confidence, I onl...
A. 25 June 2007: Why don't you see if you can arrange with your head teacher a meeting with the three of you, it would make it a more comfortable environment there is no chance of the teacher freaking out then and there is no way of you getting into any sort of ... (read in full...)
Do all men play games?
Q. Do all men play games? I realize I've been out of the dating scene for most of my adult life due to a long term relationship that ended. I am seeing a new guy, and we've been together for about a year but I still get the feeling at times, that he ...
A. 25 June 2007: Well if you think he is playing games with you play him at his own game, if he says in the morning when he leaves i'll see you for lunch just say sounds great.
Then go to work and arrange lunch with one of the girls and if he forgets or was too busy... (read in full...)
She broke up with me because she didn't want a relationship, now she's coming out with signs that could be flirtacious! What am I to think?
Q. My girlfriend and I recently broke up as she felt she wasn't ready to be in a relationship. She still feels strongly about me, but says she's trying to force herself to get over me due to her not wanting a relationship at the moment. Howeve...
A. 25 June 2007: Some people are not ready for relationships and at her age that is not a bad thing but at the same time they just do not want to let go.
If she is not ready for a relationship then she should at least have the decency to let you get on with your... (read in full...)
He said to her that I like him more than he likes me.
Q. I just started recently dating this guy and its been about two weeks. My best friend is his best friend which I like because I get information. Just last week he told her that he feels that I like him a lot more then he likes me. Which is weird ...
A. 25 June 2007: I think you two really need to start talking to each other rather than relaying things through your best friend.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
We want to be together for the rest of our lives but we keep arguing due to jealousy.
Q. Hey, I have a problem with my gf, well ex gf. we have been broken up for a few months and recently started talking and trying to sort things out to try and get back together, we both love eachother very much but we dont know if the other can change ...
A. 25 June 2007: Both jealousy and trust are the two biggest hurdles in any relationship and if you have not got trust and you get jealous of everything then the way i see it there is no relationship as you can never truly be happy like that.
I would agree with Yumm... (read in full...)
I don't want to waken up in the morning and the guy I'm with thinks "oh my god" because I don't have my make up on! Help!
Q. I'm not braggin or anyfin but i do find myself quite attractive...dat is after a WHOLE HOUR in the morning doin my hair and make-up! The fing is, i'm obsessed wiv looking good, as most female teenagers are - in takin care wiv their appearan...
A. 25 June 2007: Hey the man will be just as concerned about himself in the morning like for instance have i got dog breath so i really would not worry about it, if you like each other then you don't worry about those sort of things.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I haven't had my period, but a pregnancy test was negative--help?
Q. I'm really really confused--my boyfriend and I had sex about a month and a half ago with no contraception. I still haven't had my period, so I did a pregnancy test and it said I wasn't. Can you help me? I don't know what it could be....
A. 25 June 2007: It could be a number of things like the fact you are probably worrying about it can delay your period, it may also be that you done the test too early maybe you should go to see your doctor and get tested there and seen as you had unprotected sex it ... (read in full...)
I'm about to have a baby and I can't get my man to get a job--do I leave?
Q. I am 8 and a half months pregnant. I am supporting my fiance because he will not get a job. I pay his child support for his 7 year old, his cigarettes, food, car, gas- everything! He drives my car and lives in my house. I'm running out of money fast ...
A. 25 June 2007: I would give up on him now.
You say you are paying the child support for his other child you will soon have your own child to look after.
All the time you let him get away with what he is doing he is going to carry it on, he's got a great life so ... (read in full...)
I want to cheat with a taken guy--can I justify it?
Q. Hi Hoping you guys can give me some advice, I have a crush on a guy who comes into my place of work (not a colleague) I really like him and I'm certain the feeling is mutual, but he has a girlfriend. I know we can't have a relationship, wh...
A. 25 June 2007: Oh my god no you can not justify a one night stand with this man you are both in relationships, so if you want to take it further you should end with your partners and if you don't want to do that then you should stay clear as people always end up ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if I've had an orgasm?
Q. When being fingered or being given oral in a particular way--which is good--I begin to shudder/shake which I cannot control. Am I orgasming or is it the build up to one? Or is it just the reaction to the stimulation? I can't say if I've orgasmed...
A. 25 June 2007: sounds like the build up to one babe, believe me when you have had one you will not need to ask if you have.
Have fun and take care.xx.... (read in full...)
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