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*taunton5410
writes:I need some advice on whether or not I should stay with my boyfriend. We have been together for 10 months but we happen to fight like every couple does. But the thing is he always blames it on me, I tell him not to be mean to me and he tells me to "not give him a reason to". Then today he said that I gave him more of a headache then he already had, so I said I was sorry and he said that I should be because it got worse because of me. He tells me when we are in bed that he loves me so much and he cant live without me but then it is like he has a split personality or something because when we fight he tells me that he isnt sure if he loves me or not. Now I don't fall out of love with him when we fight but he says he does with me. Now keep in mind I am his first love and he always expects so much from me, he wants me to be a certain way and I guess he thinks that we should never fight. He has also tried to break up with me but I end up crying really hard and then we talk and we stay together. Another thing that I found out: he knows about this place in Vietnam where you can marry some random woman for a lot of money. He told me that he was thinking of marrying a woman for 30 thousand dollars. Is he crazy or something? Or am I because I really dont want to lose him and I always end up apologizing just so he is not mad at me anymore, But I love him so much. I need help with this guys.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (20 July 2007):
 Flower girl has just said what you need to know.
You don't have to be what he wants you to be, just because you're his first love. And, you know, you don't fight like every couple does. Your situation is not that of every couple. It is unhealthy. You need the courage to leave him. Let him go to Vietnam. You'll find someone else.
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (19 July 2007):
 He is treating you like this because you let him, you argue he blames it on you, he has tried to split up with you and you cry and stay together.
Have you ever considered the possibility that he is being this way with you so that you will at some point want to end the relationship with him?
Your young and you really don't need to be with someone that treats you in this way, you will get over him we all do eventually.
Find yourself someone that will treat you with some respect.
Take care.xx.
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