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*yRhonda
writes:I have been cheating on my fiance of 1 year with a man who is currently married to a friend of the family. They have been married for 10 years and have 2 kids. I had a baby on Jan. 10th and I don't really know who fathered my child. Is it my fiance or my secret lover? I'm 2 months pregnant now but I still dont know with the baby I am carrying is it my fiance or secret lovers? Lately, everyone found out about our affair, but still my secret lover confronts me everyday and still wants to be with me. I love my fiance. He gives me what no other man hasnt. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2007): you are a disgrace. should be ahsamed of yourself. you should not marry your fiancee because you do not deserve him. get a dna test and get some morals. close your legs too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007): i would say you are tough' you have so much courage to have done this.. this is totally mess.. c'mon let go this two man you already cheat them enough and stand by your self with this baby, talk to your parents or family ask for understanding and support emotionaly. gud luck
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (8 August 2007):
 What a mess to be in at such a young age,you say you love you're fiancee and he gives you what no one else does, so tell me why you are treating him this way.
You can't love him that much if you are having an affair.
Affairs hurt children in big ways so it really needs to stop and you owe it to everyone to find out the fathers, as your fiancee should know if he is raising someone else's child/children, also you need to know incase of medical complications at any time in your childs life.
Of course you're lover wants to be with you still as he has the best of both worlds a loving wife and a mistress.
Take care.xx.
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reader, penta +, writes (8 August 2007):
 Wow. I'm with Irish49; there are way too many issues here.
Cut off all contact with the married guy. Think of his kids and his wife. Don't do this to them.
Either be faithful to the fiance or cut him lose. He doesn't deserve a cheater for a spouse.
Now, about your children:
Get DNA tests for both children. An amnio test is usually done at 15 weeks, to test for downs syndrom etc., but you can also use it to test for paternity.
If you're very lucky, they will have the same father and it will be your fiance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2007): Wow! Sounds like a lot of people were hurt over this. Your fiancee? Your lover's wife-his kids? Curious how the rest of your family has reacted as you state this is a family friend you were cheating with. Mom? Dad? Siblings? No, you do not marry your finacee, dear. You couldn't possibly have loved your fiancee to do this to him. You have a 'fidelity' problem...it's lacking and your actions are continually leaving a wake of devastaion and badly pained people. Now you are tossing two innocent babies into the fray. How dismaying. Get DNA testing done on your baby and have another test done on the other baby, once that child is born. Find out who the real father(s) are and have them pay child support to you, accordingly. Then I suggest you get into some counseling...you have some deep, deep emotional problems that are simply too complicated for any of us to advise you on. Good luck, dear.
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reader, lisa kathleen gates +, writes (8 August 2007):
 i cant really answer this but i'd say... shut up. u dont wanna ruin 2marriages least of all your own, count our blessings n b happy u have a child, i know i would x x x when and if u have a break up with your husband at ne point tell him then, if u have a paternity test n the answers r all good it may bring you back together later at a bad point of your marriage. sellfish but may help you at a later date. just a thought.
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