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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Is having sex with prostitutes a bad idea when you're a beginner like I am?
Q. is having sex with prostitutes a bad idea when your a beginner like me? ive only ever had sex with prostitutes because i cant get girls any other way. they have no interest in clubs, pubs or any where else, there always horrible to me and call me ...
A. 21 June 2008: Then it's self-confidence and attitude. You'll have to forgive me, but I'm American and don't know what a 'chav' is...... (read in full...)
Is having sex with prostitutes a bad idea when you're a beginner like I am?
Q. is having sex with prostitutes a bad idea when your a beginner like me? ive only ever had sex with prostitutes because i cant get girls any other way. they have no interest in clubs, pubs or any where else, there always horrible to me and call me ...
A. 21 June 2008: Q1605 is right on this - there is someone out there for you. The trick is to one, go to where she is and second, be ready to meet her.
So your confidence is crap right now. This is a problem because people in general are drawn to positive... (read in full...)
We were having a great time...but I have discovered that he was cheating and lying to me...he hurt me, but I just can't seem to stop caring about him...
Q. I've recently found out that the guy who I was seeing is actually married and has been seeing a whole host of other girls as well as myself. I'm finding it really hard to cope with. I haven't exactly told him I've found out, but have cut all ...
A. 20 June 2008: What a jerk, a liar and a cheater and a user! I'm sorry that you have to go through this pain while he gads on through life.
I'm not sure if this will help, but I want to suggest to you that your feelings are genuine and real and should be honor... (read in full...)
Is having sex with prostitutes a bad idea when you're a beginner like I am?
Q. is having sex with prostitutes a bad idea when your a beginner like me? ive only ever had sex with prostitutes because i cant get girls any other way. they have no interest in clubs, pubs or any where else, there always horrible to me and call me ...
A. 19 June 2008: I have to ask you a couple of questions before I can give you my reply. Please don't feel judged, I'm trying to understand a couple of things so I can give my best advice.
Please define what a 'regular girl' means to you, and I don't mean for you ... (read in full...)
Ladies, when is a good age to start to douche?
Q. Hi, okay so I'm just curious, this is a question that i want to ask the ladies. when is it a good age to start to douche?...
A. 19 June 2008: DiovanLestat is right, it's not really a recommended practice, even though it is common. Your interal pH and natural bacteria are in balance, and if you start douching, it may be difficult to get that natural balance right. Just wash the exterior ... (read in full...)
What can I do to make him treat me better?
Q. My bf is 11 years old than me i am 17 and he is 28 he gets very jelous but then he loves parading me in front of his friends. We were in a pub. I bent over to pick up a packet of crisps and he was saying to his mates "that is all mine when ever i ...
A. 19 June 2008: Re-reading the question, there are a few inconsistencies in your tale.
"wants me to move in with him my parents dont like him"
then you go on to say
"i have no1 else my mum is dead and my dad doesnt care i live with him i cant leave him"
... (read in full...)
What can I do to make him treat me better?
Q. My bf is 11 years old than me i am 17 and he is 28 he gets very jelous but then he loves parading me in front of his friends. We were in a pub. I bent over to pick up a packet of crisps and he was saying to his mates "that is all mine when ever i ...
A. 19 June 2008: Hi, looks like you posted this question a little while back and had some good advice then.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-older-bf-discusses-our-most-private-issues.html
Maybe you need to move in with a girlfriend or with your dad until y... (read in full...)
Am I infertile or is it just luck?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for the past six months and we have sex quite often. We've never once used protection and don't get me wrong I'm glad I'm not pregnant! But I just don't understand why that's the case. Does that mean I'm infertile or is i...
A. 19 June 2008: So you're wondering why you haven't gotten pregnant?
Two possibilities.
One. You haven't had the right timing yet. Wait a bit and keep trying and you might find out that you are indeed fertile.
Two. You or your partner are infertile. Y... (read in full...)
Question about how straight guys act...
Q. Hey, Got a question about how str8 guys act. i`m a gay man , i`ve written before about this guy, but theres more unsure things about him , or maybe i`m just confused about how the str8 mind works lol this guy makes it clear that his girlfrie...
A. 19 June 2008: This guy sounds a bit of a mess, actually. He's into playing head games with you and his girlfriend. Do you really want to get involved with him?
I'd personally back off and let him say whatever he likes, while remaining as neutral as possible... (read in full...)
I think I was raped by the man I'm in love with... at 18.
Q. Hey everyone, I feel kinda scared and wierd asking this question but I'm so confused and I need help. Today after I got home from picking up my boyfriend from work, we ate breakfast and he was watching the highlights from the celtics vs lakers ...
A. 19 June 2008: Do you think you need help with this relationship? Your first post sounded quite desperate, hurt and sad. He's quite simply has EX-boyfriend written all over him from my standpoint.
Did you call the number I gave you or visit the website?... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a 22 y/o 6'3" gorgeous Italian boy to be interested in a 38 y/o cauc. guy?
Q. I am a bi-sexual guy. I am 38 y/o today. I met a 22 y/o guy several month's ago. He was a student of mine, he no longer is but he has kept in-touch with me. Even more recently, we seem to be spending a fair amount of time together and we are ...
A. 18 June 2008: Hi, sorry for being a bit harsh on this one, but, you're 38 years old and you're not 'out' yet? Bear with me. I have number of gay friends, they came out anywhere between 18 and late 20s. But 38? Not so good.
Is it that you're hiding your sexual p... (read in full...)
Did I blow it by texting his ex-wife? Advice needed!
Q. I have put this on another site but the replies were useless Apart from one and I thought id post it here to get some genuine replies! I met this guy online about 8 weeks ago... and everything was going fine... i have met his children and we ...
A. 18 June 2008: Maybe you did blow it with him, but I see nothing wrong in what you did. If he didn't want you to have contact with his ex and her new family, why would he have included you with them in the outing? And what, you can't be concerned about a child ... (read in full...)
What could this "bloating" in my lower left abdomen means?
Q. dear cupid i seem to have a problem, my lower right abdomen seems to have less fat and be in then my left lower abdomen, which looks kinda bloated. i would like to know what causes this? also its not hernia please help ...
A. 18 June 2008: Sorry, you need to see the doctor about this. No other sensible solution....
Take care!... (read in full...)
My future mother-in-law sent 60 invitations and made arrangements for a formal dinner for the wedding but we have no money!??
Q. I am eighteen, have no parents and share a flat with two other girls. I am getting married at the end of the year to an only son whose parents, naturally worship him. His mother thinks I am going to turn him against her, which is the last thing I ...
A. 18 June 2008: Contact the hotel right now and ask them what financial arrangements have been made, and find how much this this dinner will cost.
This is going to sound really awful but it may be that her 60 invitations may wind up giving you more money an... (read in full...)
I think I was raped by the man I'm in love with... at 18.
Q. Hey everyone, I feel kinda scared and wierd asking this question but I'm so confused and I need help. Today after I got home from picking up my boyfriend from work, we ate breakfast and he was watching the highlights from the celtics vs lakers ...
A. 18 June 2008: No does mean no. If he was my boyfriend, he'd now be the ex-boyfriend. No apologies, no do-overs, no accepting any apologies. He's finished, end of story. I'd never see him again, ever.
I'm sorry that you feel so hurt and broken by this experien... (read in full...)
I'm scared my boyfriend will hurt me if I tell him I cheated on him!
Q. I'm scared by bf will hurt me if I tell him I cheated on him. He knows something's wrong as he's pretty perceptive to my emotions and he keeps asking me what's wrong, I feel so guilty I have to tell him I slept with a guy from work. But he can get ...
A. 18 June 2008: Hi, this sounds very dangerous for you, to be honest. Your flag identifies you as being in the UK. Here's a website and freephone number for you.
Womens Aid-The premier resource for domestic violence and sexual abuse against women and children... (read in full...)
He cheated and lied for two and a half year, and yet I slept with him again last weekend. Is there any point?
Q. talking to a man who cheated and lied to me for two n half years, someone I made the mistake of sleeping with again last weekend when I knew it was just sex to him. I am going to be in his city again tomorrow and asked him if he wanted to meet for ...
A. 18 June 2008: Don't beat yourself up about last weekend's episode. I know it meant more to you than it did to him, but for heaven's sake do not give him any more power over you. You've given him enough of your time and energy and love. He's not good enough for ... (read in full...)
How do we get back at this guy? He lied to both of us about being separated!
Q. I'm in a really horrible situation, and really need advice as to how i can get back at this guy. I met a guy called Paul about a month ago and we ended up flirting. He was wearing a wedding ring and I brought it up and he said he was seperating ...
A. 18 June 2008: OOOOH, this one is too tempting not to comment on. I don't think that I can come up with a better revenge strategy, only to add that you could write in indelible marker on his back 'I cheat on my wife!' before locking him out of the hotel room.
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How the heck are you supposed to insert this thing?
Q. i tried to put in a tampon and i followeds the instructions i made sure i was relaxed but it wouldnt go in! i am 14 and i dont know, do i have to try it again or what?? any tips?? thx xxxooo...
A. 18 June 2008: It took me many tries when I first tried to use them too, so don't get too worried about it.
I could not figure out how to insert them when I was standing up. I finally had to lie down on my side, and use one of the tampons that use your finger a... (read in full...)
Long-distance confusion... I feel like I'm settling for being second-best, should I walk away?
Q. I met this woman almost a year ago thru work. We live in diff countries. She came to visit here in the US and stayed for a week. Amazing sex, conversation, etc, we got along fantastic. She came to visit for 2 more weeks and another amazing visit. ...
A. 18 June 2008: Tough situation to be in, second best is not good. Let me do a quick reality check. Let's say you do convince her to come around, move closer or even in together with you. What's going to keep her from having a cyberaffair or phone sex with another ... (read in full...)
What could he be thinking?
Q. I was kind of in a strange situation and don't really know what to think of it. While my husband was deployed, i went to go hang out with this friend of mine. I guess he was more like family of family. I have known him for a long time, but we were ...
A. 18 June 2008: Sorry, I'm not a man, so I can't peek into his brain. Maybe things got carried away between you two, and he was thinking with the little head initially, but then the big head took over and reminded him that you were married, and a friend of family? ... (read in full...)
How do I help my shy love feel comfortable with me (we met online)?
Q. Dear Cupid, I met my boyfriend online, WE LOVE EACH OTHER SO MuCH it was love at first talk, and we are going to meet each other finally, this friday. He said that he thinks he's going to be shy when we met. How do i help him to feel comfortable...
A. 18 June 2008: I really don't like the idea of you meeting a stranger you met on the internet without anyone knowing about it. Honestly, this is potentially dangerous for you. People on the internet can pretend to be whoever they choose to be, they can tell you ... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't enjoy sex - how can I make it better for her?
Q. I am married for one year. My wife is very sexy and loving.But the problem is she feels lot of pain during intercourse.I haven't done yet full insertion because she screams in pain when I try to go into her full.So far I have to content with oral ...
A. 18 June 2008: Thanks for the followup. It does help to have the full picture to be able to offer advice. Your wife may have vaginismus, painful involuntary spasms of the vagina which prevent insertion.
Here's a little more information from webmd.com.
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Vagi... (read in full...)
Mom is flirting with my bf! Should I be concerned or is this harmless fun?
Q. Help! My mother has been flirting with my boyfriend ever since she met him. I'm not sure if he's interested in her, he says she's too old for him even though she looks hot for her age. Sometimes when he comes over to visit she'll take him out to ...
A. 18 June 2008: PSSST! Hey, you new posters. This is a really old thread, look at the date on the original question.... don't get too worked up about it.... (read in full...)
Am I in the wrong even though I didn't know he had a girlfriend?
Q. I want peoples opinion on this please. A guy went down on me after we kissed. After this had happened I found out he had a girl friend. I had no clue before the act occured. I hold my hands up to acting "slutty" but other than being slutty, am...
A. 18 June 2008: If someone is trying to blame you, sounds like they are missing the real 'guilty' party. You didn't know he had a girlfriend. He did. Nuff said.... (read in full...)
Is it normal to bicker over our wedding plans?
Q. My fiance and I are getting married in september and were both stressing and bickering over plans and money,is this normal?...please help x...
A. 18 June 2008: Yes! It's normal! Don't panic. Planning a wedding is a hugely stressful operation and brings all kinds of things you have to decide on in a very short time period. There's what you want and have always dreamed of, there's what he wants and has spent ... (read in full...)
We're trying to make it work after his affair, but he spends his days dreaming about little Miss Perfect!
Q. My husband of 20 years has been having an affair with a much younger woman he works with. He thinks that he is in love with the other woman and although he's apologised and said that he's sorry it is obvious that she continues to occupy his ...
A. 17 June 2008: Sorry to hear your situation. It can't be easy to try to make things work when he's not really committed to the process. Maybe it's time for a trial separation, where he moves out and you both go for marriage counseling? I hope you've already tried ... (read in full...)
He asked me to offer him oral after anal sex, what do you think?
Q. I let my sexpartner do anything he wants when it comes to SEX. I enjoy anal sex with him and he is my only sex partner out of 5 years. One day he wanted to pull out after anal and put it in my mouth. I told him NO WAY thats nasty. Really which one ...
A. 17 June 2008: Sounds like you two enjoy a very fun sex life. I'm with the other aunts on this one. Bacteria in the rectum should not be ingested, as this could lead to some nasty infections. There's a reason why people are told to wash their hands after they use ... (read in full...)
My mum grounded me after she found out I lied about my bf. I have an interview tomorrow and want him to come with me! What should I do?
Q. i posted a question about my mum findin out I lost my virginity and with her grounding me and not lettin me see him for a while cause she believes i should have wait and that i've throwin it away and that she cant trust me cause i lied to her. so ...
A. 17 June 2008: I'm not really sure that lying to your mother again is a good strategy for regaining her trust in you. I expect she may find out about it (mothers do have a sixth sense sometimes) and will be deeply hurt that you chose to disregard her rules. It ... (read in full...)
My sisters husband forced me to have sex
Q. i lost my virginity at age 12 with my sisters husband. i dident want to but he forced me. know i dont know if to tell my sister wat happend. wat should i do?...
A. 17 June 2008: Honey, you were 12 and scared and confused. It's completely normal and I think common not to be able to tell people when something so strange and awful happens. Did you happen to call any of the numbers I gave you? There are trained counselors who ... (read in full...)
My friend keeps pushing me over the edge and I don't know if she's worth having as a friend!
Q. I hate to be a backstabber and talk about my so called friend,but I need to.We've been friends since the 2nd grade, not the best of friends. We usually have arguments all the time. She makes fun of the way I talk. She says I talk and act like a ...
A. 17 June 2008: I had a back-stabbing friend in 6th grade too. I didn't know her as long as you've known this girl, but she was at first a really good friend. Then she started a 'Hate Society' against me, and to be honest, I never figured out why. She never told me ... (read in full...)
I am confused about where this relationship is heading. What do I do?
Q. Ive been seeing a guy for four months. Because of his job and the fact we live far away we have both decided that to go out properly would be a bad idea. Thing is that i am beginning to feel a bit used as we are not going out yet and ive really ...
A. 17 June 2008: I don't know, it feels like an 'all or nothing' attitude too early in a relationship could end up spoiling it. It's only been 4 months and you two don't see each other that often. It's a bit early to be asking for a commitment just yet, I think. You ... (read in full...)
'Mam I just started my periods'. I just can't bring myself to tell her!
Q. ok so i know most of you have heard about this situation before but i really do need help on this one. Getting to the point.....I started my periods a while back and i never told my mam coz i just cudnt get the words out, i managed fine as she had ...
A. 17 June 2008: Leave a thank you note on the supplies she bought for you. I expect she already knows about you having started, if you've been using them. Mention in the note, that you don't want to make a big deal out of this, but that you thought she should know ... (read in full...)
My friend is too much, but she needs me. I don't know what to do.
Q. I have a friend and I find her to be rather stressful. I am a very positive person but she is a very negative person and I find she is draining on me, my energies and my positive vibes. She calls me every day and every time she whines and moans ...
A. 17 June 2008: Excellent advice from Birdy.
You could also try this, though it sounds like you may done this already.
"Hi Sally, nice to hear from you. Before we talk too long, I just have to tell you that I cannot cope with hearing anything negative today. ... (read in full...)
I don't know if we're staying together, breaking up, working on it or what! Feedback, please!
Q. I'm a 28 year old female in a relationship with a 36 year old man for a little over a year now. He has 2 children, a daughter 3 and a son 14. He also had been previously married to his daughter's mother. I have no children and have never been ...
A. 17 June 2008: Sticky situation to be in, I see. Let's think about this from the standpoint of expectations. Your expectation of a boyfriend/girlfriend dating relationship is probably similar to mine. You meet a guy, you get to know him, you start dating, hang out ... (read in full...)
My paranoia about her male friends broke us up. Now I really want her back.
Q. About 5 weeks ago my girlfriend broke up with me, telling me that my paranoia about her male friends and my possesiveness were the reasons, we've only ever argued about that in a relationship of nearly 2 years and have otherwise been totally happy. ...
A. 17 June 2008: It's good to hear that you took steps to address your paranoia, I expect that you are still in therapy for that issue, right?
My advice would be to write her a letter and tell her what you've told us here. She should know that you are working ... (read in full...)
What's the main reason men cheat?
Q. Y do MOST men CHEAT? What gives them a reason to have more than 1 women? I no theres alot of reason but whats the MAIN reason? Does SEX plays a BIG role in a relationship?...
A. 17 June 2008: Having once watched a famous married movie actor spend about two hours trying to pick up a gorgeous waitress (he didn't succeed) I have another thought for this thread.
A sense of entitlement might be a reason to consider too. This man obviousl... (read in full...)
Can a muslim where a scarf to cover her hair?
Q. Hi,im really passionate about being a hairdresser and beautician but i was wondering if your a muslim and you want to wear a scarf to cover your hair,can you?thanks....
A. 17 June 2008: I don't see any reason why you couldn't be a hairdresser and beautician while wearing a scarf. Follow your passion, I say, and go get your training!
I once met a woman who had alopecia which meant that she was completely bald, and didn't have eye... (read in full...)
Sex or money??
Q. ok, would you rather have a person that has good money that can support you but suck in bed OR have a person that pleasure you so good in bed that you can't help but be with them but they ask you once in a while if they could help you with a bill or ...
A. 17 June 2008: Why couldn't you teach the one who 'sucks' in bed what it is that pleases you and turns you on? Sometimes it takes a little patience and a willingness to be shown what to do. If you head to bed with the idea that sex is going to be boring or awful, ... (read in full...)
My sisters husband forced me to have sex
Q. i lost my virginity at age 12 with my sisters husband. i dident want to but he forced me. know i dont know if to tell my sister wat happend. wat should i do?...
A. 17 June 2008: Here's a list of numbers for child abuse hotlines.
ChildHelp USA National Child Abuse Hotline: 800-4-A-CHILD (422.4453) or 800.2.A.CHILD (222.4453, TDD for hearing impaired)
Provides multilingual crisis intervention and professional counseling o... (read in full...)
My sisters husband forced me to have sex
Q. i lost my virginity at age 12 with my sisters husband. i dident want to but he forced me. know i dont know if to tell my sister wat happend. wat should i do?...
A. 17 June 2008: Hi, I read your post with great sadness. I'm sorry you had to go through this. In response to Wizard of Waz's question about a national hotline for children, I'm not aware of one at the moment, but I will see what I can find for you. There is a ... (read in full...)
My love for my wife has faded! And my size seems to be a problem for both women in my life!
Q. I am married and I love another woman but I can't make a decision as to what to do. I love my wife but I'm not in love with my wife but i love our life, family and most of all my son. I am going crazy as to what to do. I can't imagine breaking this ...
A. 16 June 2008: This is a very tricky question, with many people involved. One way to start to tackle this issue is to put your priorities in a list.
In no particular order I offer up some items for you to prioritize.
Son, girlfriend, wife, current standard... (read in full...)
caught my boyfriend of two years cruising for sex at an adult book store. Plese advise!!
Q. Last week I was coming home late from work, when I noticed my boyfriend's car parked outside an Adult Book Store- I knew immediately he was cruising for sex. I waited outside the store, and noticed him circling around the building looking for sex. ...
A. 16 June 2008: Am I the only one who noticed the gender of our question poster? He's male, as his boyfriend is....
I think that you are really better off without a man who will cruise others for random anonymous sex. It IS dangerous and it IS life-thr... (read in full...)
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