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writes: ok, so we have been together 6yrs. married for two yrs. we have a two year old daughter. I am just wondering if i am paranoid or what. my husband works alot of weird hours. which is ok becauase i don't work. i noticed on when i look on the computer ive noticed some single websites, there have been a couple of weird and inappropriate txt messages on his phone, there was a wierd incident at the house. I guess i'm wondering what i conclusion i should come up with. Am I paranoid or what?" Reply to this Question
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reader, juliagulia  +, writes (2 March 2006):
 I agree with Shania on this one. You need to investigate fully before you come at him with accusations. You really need all the facts. And that may mean snooping. But so what?! You deserve to know the truth - you are married and have a kid, after all - and you have to do it somehow. So start being more observant to his behavior. Is your sex life still "normal" as far as your relationship goes or has he seemed less interested? Can you not see who is sending the texts and check them out? You could always hire a private eye to follow him for a few days and see if they come up with anything. If not, then you can feel relieved that maybe you were just imagining things. If you do find out something, at least you will have hardcore evidence to confront him with and make it easier for him to come clean about what is going on. If you ask him without definitive evidence, he will probably just deny everything and you will still be where you are now. Good luck!
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reader, shania +, writes (2 March 2006):
 If you are getting strange vibes then i would act on them...but with caution,you dont want to start accusing until you have total proof that your husband has been playing away.You dont say what the weird incident was at your house? If i was you i would ask him about the txt messages that he has on his phone...he will accuse you of snooping but thats the price you will have to pay to find out...after all,you are his wife.Are you happy together?...has he become distant with you?...you really need to have a heart to heart talk with him otherwise you will go off your head.If you feel that he is lying...then it will be up to you,whether you want to stay with this man.Always go with your gut feeling.....i do. Good luck.
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