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36-40,
anonymous
writes:i am seeing a boy whos two years older than me he has a girlfriend who he has been going out with for nearly 3 years he said he would spilt up with his girlfriend for me because thats how much he loves me the only problem is that this boy is my bestfriends older brother and she will hate us im getting really stressed out over this and i really want me and him to work but i dont want to loose my best friend what should i do ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2007): If you think your best friend may hate you for this, have you not asked yourself why? I bet you have. You are proposing to be her brother's back up honey, while he prepares to break up with his current gf. You state you are 'seeing him' so I have read that as 'dating him' behind this other female's back. That's pretty dirty, don't you agree? Maybe your best friend is rethinking just what sort of person would do this to another. What you and her brother are doing could be something your best friend is viewing as a crappy thing to do to another female, based on your own weaknesses and lapses of character. Best thing to do, distance yourself from this guy until he has split with the gf. I would also give your best friend some space until she works through her own feelings for what you two are doing. It may take her time to accept all this. Everyone in this complicated, painful situation needs to go back into their corners and do some thinking with clarity and maturity. Let this fellow end his relationship with this girl, without you hovering in the background. If you truely are the one for him, he will do the decent thing, break it off with her and then give you a call. Tell him that.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (9 September 2007):
 Well i kinda get whats shes saying, but ahte is a very strong word to use.
Sometimes people dont like their mates to date their siblings i would hate it as my family and friends are usually seperate.
So if she will trulely dislike you for dating her brother you would have to chose. Her or her brother.
Its harsh but the reality of this situation.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (9 September 2007):
 If she hates you for going out with her brother then i feel she is not that much of a good friend, why do you get this impression? has she previously said something to you before to make you think this?.
As long as nothing happens until he ends things with his current girlfriend i really can't see what the problem is.
Talk to her about it if and when he finishes with his girlfriend, she might not take it as bad as you think she will.
Take care.xx.
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