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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I love my bf vry much but he disrespects me by calling me names like bit** and then expects me to do all the chores in the apt just because I don't have a job yet. i've just started to attend languages classes because the language is a barrrier from me working ad or studying. What can i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2007): Hi
There's a thing about certain men, that think that women STILL HAVE to to the house chores. XD Lmao, we're in the 00's not the 40's!
But let me tell you something, you are not his servant, even if you don't have a job, don't fell that you HAVE to do all the stuff at home; and don't do 'em if you don't really want to. Don't let him or anybody tell you what to do! You're the boss of yourself, remember that, no one can humilliate you and then expect you to work for them; because STAYING AT HOME IS ALSO A JOB, and a very difficult one I may add.
Oh and another thing, DON'T LET THAT CLOWN CALL YOU NAMES! What's wrong with you? He insults you?! That means he doesn't respect you! How can you live with a man like that? What keeps you from looking for someone better tha will give you the support and respect that you deserve?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2007): Why are you still with this pig?????? Life is too short and there is no need for putting up with this rubbish. Have a good chat with him and if he isnt going to change then just walk out and get a happy future for yourself.
take care
xxx
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female
reader, Cupcake  +, writes (4 September 2007):
 Leave, is this how you want to spend the rest of your life?? Because if it's this bad, it will never get better sweetie it will only get worse... Just get out and find someone who will love and respect you 100%.Take care and good luck.
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reader, duce00  +, writes (4 September 2007):
 There the answer I will give you and the answer I really want to give you
The answer I WILL give you: Leave him and pull on any resources you have such as friends, family etc. Get out of there and work on being as independant as possible.
The answer I really WANTED to give you: The next time he talks to you like that, give him a swift kick him in the nuts!!! Pack your stuff and step over his crumpled pathetic ass on your way out the door.
I would go with the first answer if I were you, but nobody will respect you less if you go for the second one either. Either way I do hope you get out soon!
Oh and PS: Make sure you dont get pregnant with this loser.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2007): Leave, unless you want to be known as a weak pathetic woman.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2007): Verbal abuse is still abuse and you deserve better. Move on and look for someone better.
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reader, Jamer70  +, writes (4 September 2007):
 find somewhere else to live. Move from him as he is trouble. Soon you will find your feet in your new country and then life should be easier.
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reader, Jessica-X +, writes (4 September 2007):
 It sounds to me like this man/boy isn't right for you because he is rude to you and expects you to do those jobs. A real boyfriend wouldn't call you those things and would respect you, not expect you to do the chores. To make him stop asking/expecting you to do all of the chores, i think you should find a job, pronto.
It is up to you if you dump him or not. But be careful in what you do.
[= Jessica =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2007): Move out.
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