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writes:Dear Aunt,I and 24 and have been dating this 27 year old guy for like 2 months. Our chemistry is too great. Of all the people I have know, have never come across so connected to anyone. We both came out of bad break ups. I know he really likes me cause it shows. But something bothered me. He told me that he does think we have a lot in common and all but that we still have to date longer and so he doesnt use the term "girlfriend"for me. I know it's slightly immature on perhaps my part. But you know we are commited currently and dating only each other. I do understand we both came out of major bad break ups. But this thing of his that he wants to know me more before he calls me his girlfriend seriously bothered me. You think he does not like me or he's just being too careful? Please do reply.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2007): How much free time does he have? Enough to date other girls? If so, calling you his girlfriend would make him a cheater. If you are not his girlfriend, seeing other girls is okay. This is if he has time to do it. If you're together pretty much all the time (other than work, school, or sleep) and he doesn't have time for another than I believe him and think he's just being overly cautious. But if he has the time to fool around, this is a good way out to not be a cheater. If so, you should borrow a friends car or have a friend spy on him for you. Do it for a week or two and you'll be able to ease your mind.
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reader, muffy  +, writes (23 November 2007):
 well like you said,you both came out of bad break ups.you have probably gotten over it before him.he does love you and thats why hes taking time to get to know you.he just doesnt want to get heartbroken again so hes making sure your not a liar or cheater.trust me just get to know him better and dont be soo worried about him not calling you his girlfriend because at least your dating him.so dont worry if he thinks your a good gf then hell call you it.
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reader, Frank B Kermit +, writes (23 November 2007):
 I think he is right to wait. 2 months is hardly enough time to earn the committment that comes with being called a girlfriend. My guess is that he learned from his break up that he wants to make sure that you earn it.
-Frank B Kermit
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