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I don't know where I stand and I'm not sure if I should ask?

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Question - (8 October 2017) 5 Answers - (Newest, 13 October 2017)
A female United States age 51-59, anonymous writes:

Why would he vacation a week with me separate rooms

Send flirting texts apologize when he is busy due to work military and then contact again repeated pattern... I don’t know where I stand and I’m unsure if I should ask?!! We haven had face to face in three months but on his behalf he’s been in and out of the country only communicate via cell text email? Is this a lost cause and I should move in we’re adults mid 50’s.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland + , writes (13 October 2017):

aunt honesty agony auntWhy have you not spoke to him and asked him where you stand? He is the only one with the answer to that question.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2017):

It’s a little difficult to see one another because he’s in the military...

we both live in different states and he’s deployed as of now

But that makes me wonder where I stand... doesn’t say a word...

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland + , writes (9 October 2017):

aunt honesty agony auntSurely if he was interested enough then he would make the time and effort to see you. Are you both dating or in a relationship? I think you need to give us more information on the history between you both so we can advice you better.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (8 October 2017):

Honeypie agony auntIf you don't feel like the relationship is fulfilling and you don't feel like he has enough TIME to spend with you, then yes you are wasting your time.

Are you sure he is even single?

If you two are dating and a couple then spending a weeks vacation is separate room can be because he wanted to behave like a gentleman OR he doesn't WANT to get intimate with you.

How long have you two "known" each other? And do you really think anything would change? Asking him where you stand won't change a thing. Telling him;"I wish you well but I am going to cut all contact and move on as I feel like this is not what I want." After that? You block him and cut ALL contact.

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A male reader, N91 United Kingdom + , writes (8 October 2017):

N91 agony auntIf you haven't seen each other in 3 months you don't sound very high up on his priorities. I think it's pretty clear where you stand.

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